- May 27, 2019
- Mental disorders
- Tamila Gresko
The pathology being studied, according to experts, is considered quite common. According to statistics, symptoms of psychopathy are detected in 2% of people. Men are most susceptible to the disorder (80%). This psychological deviation requires mandatory correction. The fact is that the behavior of a healthy person is determined by social motives and norms that are unknown to a psychopath. As a result, a person with a personality disorder will live and act as he sees fit, without feeling guilty at all.
If the pathology reaches a severe form, the psychopath may exhibit bouts of aggression. Since such an individual is not at all afraid of criminal punishment, he can easily commit a number of serious crimes. What are the signs to recognize a psychopathic man? How should you behave with such a person? What factors can provoke the development of this pathology? You will learn more about this from this article.
Acquaintance
First of all, you need to find out what psychopathy is? This deviation is a pathological syndrome, which is characterized by a pronounced hypertrophy of certain personality traits, namely heartlessness, deceit and self-centeredness. Thus, in male psychopaths, the hallmarks are a lack of empathy, the manifestation of extremely superficial emotional reactions and the inability to genuinely empathize. Of course, they have emotions, but, according to experts, they cannot clearly identify them.
Bouts of rage
Any little thing can provoke an outbreak of aggression in a psychopath. It could be a poorly prepared breakfast, a dirty glass, or sometimes just a woman’s good mood. Outbursts of anger follow the same pattern.
At first, the man simply raises his voice, and then gradually works himself up to rage. And when his anger reaches its highest point, in addition to words, physical strength begins to come into play.
About behavior
There is a myth that psychopaths are mentally disabled people. However, according to experts, this is by no means the case. Mostly psychopaths at the average level. Often among them there are people who have extraordinary intellectual abilities.
There is an assumption that Hemingway and Gogol had signs of a psychopath. In men, as in women, the disease is the result of pathology of the central nervous system. Manifests itself in emotional imbalance and lability. According to experts, the behavior of men with signs of psychopathy is openly theatrical, demonstrative in nature and often contradicts socially established norms. It can manifest itself in different ways. It all depends on the form of the pathology. For example, with severe psychopathy, a person is characterized by attacks of aggression. A psychopath with a mild manifestation of pathology controls his actions. By creating the image of a friendly person, he will easily gain your trust. At the same time, in pursuit of his goal, he successfully uses cunning and sophisticated methods in relation to close people.
Prevalence of the disease
According to statistics, 1-2% of the world's population suffers from psychopathy. Moreover, 80% of such patients are representatives of the stronger half of humanity.
Quite successful people in leadership positions often suffer from psychopathy. Of the men in prison, pathology was detected in 1/3 of their total number.
Approximately 10% of the population exhibits psychopathic forms of behavior. They can also harm others. However, there are clearly insufficient grounds to make a clinical diagnosis in these cases.
About the characteristics of psychopaths
Regardless of the type of pathology, men with this disorder are characterized by deceit, high impulsiveness (often they cannot control themselves), and inability to sympathize and repent. Such a person is very resistant to social infection. This is due to a lack of reflection and empathy. Therefore, a psychopath cannot correctly assess the consequences of his actions. The instinct of self-preservation and deep emotions are also not characteristic of them. He feels more comfortable in the dark, and therefore is more active at night. Prefers strong drinks, as well as bitter and sour foods. If someone disagrees with him and goes against him, he will cause irritation and aggression in the psychopath. The presence of the above qualities helps such people achieve their goals. A psychopath, easily manipulating others, can quickly make a career for himself. Such a man can be a successful lawyer, police officer, bank employee, doctor and journalist.
How should your wife behave?
Psychopathy is not a death sentence. Men with abnormal personality traits may well be successful in business and in leadership positions, channeling their ability to manipulate people and their sensitivity to the feelings of others in a creative direction.
How to live with a psychopath? After all, this personality disorder harms loved ones, and often a woman who has become a victim of such a spouse does not even imagine how to build a relationship with him. The most dangerous situation is in which a tyrant husband, having found himself in a criminal environment, also drags his wife along with him. In this case, the woman needs to see a psychologist. The specialist will be able to either confirm or deny the presence of pathology, after which, if necessary, he will advise how to communicate with a psychopath. Such people like to play on the feelings of their partners, which makes it very difficult to break up with them.
For such women, experts recommend:
- in moments of psychological attacks from your spouse, distance yourself from him, demonstrating, for example, that you are very busy;
- when ending a relationship, report the breakup with caution, as such news will certainly provoke rage;
- notify close people who can provide support about your spouse’s problem;
- when breaking off a relationship, do not succumb to feelings of guilt, remembering that a psychopath poses a threat not only to his wife, but also to all other family members;
- if you feel a constant risk to your health and life, do not hesitate to end the relationship;
- do not believe your husband’s words, check the source of the information received from him and look at his behavior from a philosophical point of view.
Psychopaths have a constant need to control other people. They want to be in charge, for which they use their charm in parallel with pressure and intimidation. During violence, there is no need to interact with such people. Instead, they need to make it clear that such behavior will certainly entail certain consequences.
About the hysteroid type
Many people believe that hysteria is an exclusively female disease. In fact, men show signs of this type of psychopathy with a more pronounced character. A person who has been diagnosed with this pathology really needs the attention of those around him. He will achieve it by any means. In a crowd, such a person can be immediately recognized by his clothes. A hysterical psychopath always dresses very flashily. At the same time, he has absolutely no sense of style. In adolescence, such a person, thanks to his pathology, can achieve success in sports or in the artistic field.
However, according to psychologists, success means very little to a hysterical psychopath. He only needs attention and respect. If achievements in any activity do not provide this, then the psychopath easily gives up everything. It’s not easy with him in everyday life: he will constantly demand that his wife pay attention to him. If the psychopath does not have enough of him, he will resort to various sophisticated methods. Such a person with demonstrative suicidal tendencies. For a hysterical person, the topic of suicide is one of the rather effective ways of putting pressure on others. Due to the fact that the hysterical ego needs constant feeding, he can also seek attention outside the home. Therefore, a psychopath of this type can be mistaken for a womanizer who will flirt with others. It is not possible to resolve any serious issue with such a person. The fact is that such a man will not be able to refuse his point of view.
Breakup rules
If life has begun to resemble a minefield where every step is risky, there is no need to delay the breakup. This will not be easy to do, since the psychopathic husband will try to show all his charm. Manipulation will be used again: depictions of repentance, requests for forgiveness, romantic behavior. If the partner is unwilling to give in, he will begin to threaten, and may even put what he says into practice. Fear often keeps women close to such husbands.
If a woman nevertheless decides to break up, she must remember that she must act very carefully, otherwise there is a risk of running into his uncontrollable aggression. It is best to start a conversation in a public place or in the presence of loved ones. It is dangerous to be alone with him, and he will not show aggression in public.
If a man allowed himself to be assaulted, you should not talk to him about divorce in person at all. You need to secretly pack your things and leave the house, informing him of the breakup by phone or by letter. A personal meeting will certainly end in violence.
No matter how a relationship with a psychopathic man develops, a woman must decide for herself how appropriate it is. This diagnosis does not always imply aggression. You can learn to live with such a person and even benefit, but it all depends on how much the woman is ready to sacrifice herself. In addition, if a man himself is aware of his illness, then there is a chance to correct his behavior.
About schizoid disorder. Nuances
According to experts, a schizoid psychopath has serious difficulties in interpersonal communication. This parameter is the main sign by which pathology is determined. Such a person is not at all interested in the assessment of other people; outwardly he seems cold and distant. If such a man has started a family, he simply does not know what topic to talk about with his wife. In most cases, a person with schizoid disorder has a very limited social circle. He only needs two people. He communicates with others formally.
Despite his coldness and detachment, the schizoid’s relationship with people and various life phenomena is stable. Psychopaths of this type are necessarily addicted to something. They often choose a hobby in which they do not need to contact the outside world. For example, they are interested in collecting, reading, or some kind of solo sports. Of all the signs of a psychopath in men with schizoid disorder, their isolation comes first. Many people find them interesting eccentrics. It is worse if such a person, in pursuit of his goal, imitates emotional support and interest. In fact, other people's experiences are unknown and completely uninteresting to a schizoid.
Relationship building
How to resist a male psychopath and manipulator? Not every woman is able to find the right approach to a person suffering from this pathology. This is what causes the destruction of relationships.
It is necessary to understand that these people, despite their inability to understand higher emotions, have egocentrism, which is combined with a subtle sense of the state to which they bring others. This is the main condition for successful manipulation for a person with a personality disorder. They often show tenderness and sympathy. However, this is only an imitation of such feelings, through which one can clearly see indifference and detachment in understanding the state of mind of others.
In cases where people with a personality disorder were able to achieve a comfortable psychological atmosphere for themselves thanks to manipulation techniques, no aggression will arise on their part. Most of them enter into marriage relationships only in order not to stand out from the general background. Nevertheless, psychological pressure and violence, as a rule, reign in their family. That is why, in most cases, the life of psychopaths is a whole series of divorces and marriages. At the same time, not all women are able to resist the pressure of such a spouse and delete him from their lives in the future. This leads them to develop depression, deep disappointment and severe emotional distress.
Paranoid psychopath
The distinctive features of such a man are conflict, selfishness and aggressiveness. For a person with paranoid psychopathy, all his hobbies and interests are considered the most correct and important. Anyone who disagrees with him on anything becomes his worst enemy. Unlike a schizoid, a paranoid psychopath is not constant in his interests and assessments. The enemies of such a person can change very quickly. Family life with a paranoid psychopath is very difficult. The wife will have to be on alert all the time, carried away by all her husband’s ideas. Otherwise, the man will quickly classify her as an enemy. A paranoid person can have a lot of them even in his family.
With such a husband you will have to coordinate every little thing. He will tell his wife how to raise children, with whom she should communicate, and more. In addition, the paranoid person is very jealous. And to an extreme degree. If you connect your life with a man who has paranoid psychopathy, do not be surprised if he constantly looks for lovers and torments you with his suspicions. Very often these people resort to violence. In general, for a woman such a life is a serious test. The situation will not change for the better even after a divorce. Since paranoid psychopaths are very vindictive, they will begin to pursue their new enemy. Very often, such men resort to litigation and threats.
Phase 6: Awareness and Understanding
Over time, constant lies, inconsistencies, negative emotions and comments from friends and family will lead you to believe that you were a pawn in a psychopath's game. It will take a long time before you are convinced of the validity of your suspicions and accept this fact. Once this happens, everything will get better.
Once you realize what happened, you will feel like a simpleton. Many victims of psychopaths say to themselves: “How could you believe such a lie?!” This is a natural reaction, but it comes with a price.
People who feel fooled are reluctant to share this and, instead of trying to find confirmation or justification for their new opinion about the psychopath, begin to avoid others. Maybe those around you really didn’t notice, but in any case, it’s much better to trust your friends and family than to allow yourself to be tormented by your own stupidity.
Talking to someone about your experiences and writing about them in a journal is a good way to release negative feelings. You may want to write down everything that happened after your encounter with the psychopath.
And of course, you need to make sure that all your things are in place: bank account, credit card, documents, computer, phone. It is very important to distance yourself from the psychopath and take steps to protect yourself from retaliation from him. It might be worth posting your story (anonymously) on a website for support groups for victims of psychopaths.
About the asthenic psychopath
This pathology is also called dependent disorder. This name is due to the fact that a man is constantly dependent on a woman. In childhood it is the mother, and later it is the wife. A psychopathic asthenic man is very helpless: he is absolutely passive, indecisive, does not know how to make decisions (women do this task for him) and is very unsure of himself. At the same time, according to experts, people with asthenic psychopathy are perfectionists - they strive for perfection in everything. According to the conviction of such a psychopath, if something is not ideal, then it should not exist. This explains why an asthenic psychopath takes work very seriously.
Despite all his diligence, such a man gets tired very quickly and is practically exhausted. Due to very low stress resistance, it is not advisable to subject such a person to any physical and mental stress. If an asthenic psychopath decides to get married, he will give preference to the one who will become for him, first of all, a caring mother, and not a woman he loves and has equal rights with him. In a family, a man with a dependent disorder feels great in the role of a subordinate. To maintain this state of affairs, he will skillfully play along and portray sincere feelings.
Special attraction
It will not be difficult for a psychopathic man to charm a woman. In the process of communication, such a gentleman actively shows signs of attention and strives to be near his chosen one as often as possible. At the same time, he is always romantic and stands out for his originality. Also, a psychopathic man easily maintains conversations on a variety of topics. Such courtship leads to the fact that the victim of a person with a personality disorder is not able to notice dangerous signs of pathology. Let's consider what they are expressed in.
About dissocial psychopathy
People with this pathology are also called sociopaths. According to experts, this disorder of the higher nervous system is considered the most dangerous. The fact is that people who have been diagnosed with dissocial psychopathy do not follow generally accepted human principles at all. Any moral framework is not acceptable to them. This means that a sociopath does not disdain anything to achieve his goal and is not at all limited in his choice of means. According to psychologists, a man with dissocial psychopathy sets certain rules for himself, personally justifies them, and then follows them. The danger for others and society as a whole lies in the fact that the rules established by him often run counter to universal human ones. Therefore, sociopaths are mentally prepared to commit the most serious crimes.
Very often men are addicted to alcohol and drugs. This category of psychopaths is distinguished not just by aggressiveness, but by impulsiveness. Such a person is capable of taking unreasonable risks, committing cruelty and manipulating the lives of other people, and therefore many accidents, incidents and serious crimes occur due to the fault of sociopaths.
Fell, woke up...
Borderline disorders are not always an inherent personality trait. They can appear after suffering exogenous hazards: head injuries, neuroinfections (encephalitis, meningitis), intoxication, including alcohol surrogates, which adversely affect the brain. But most often these are injuries.
A person has an accident, gets hit on the head, a year and a half passes, and suddenly the one who was previously calm and balanced becomes hot-tempered, irritable, picky, and does not tolerate alcohol well. As a rule, such people react to changes in weather - their mood changes, irritability increases.
- What should be done in this case? - Professor Makushkina continues to explain. — If an injury or severe infection occurs, you need to get help from a neurologist: nootropics, vascular drugs that improve the functioning of the brain, must be used in courses and not just once, but for a long time. The reversibility of symptoms depends on the severity of the injury, the person’s ability to recover, age and treatment. In any case, this disorder will not go away on its own.
Professor Oksana Makushkina
Photo: Pavel Orlov / Lenta.ru
About correction
Symptoms of psychopathy appear at an early age. For example, a boy with a dissocial disorder may torture animals, bully peers and those who are weaker. Schizoids are often immersed in their inner world and are very closed. The hysterical type experiences frequent and inexplicable mood swings. These manifestations signal a problem. The psyche of a child with such symptoms should be corrected. Early adolescence is the optimal period for this purpose. To prevent the progression of pathology, it is necessary to begin treatment of psychopathy in a timely manner. According to psychologists, it is impossible to completely get rid of the syndrome. But after passing the psychopathy test, a person will know his diagnosis. The specialist will familiarize the patient with the characteristics of a particular type of disorder, and will also teach him how to control himself.
This is precisely the main treatment for psychopathy. Socialization of the patient is achieved by a psychotherapist or neurologist using the following basic methods:
- Group work.
- Family psychotherapy.
- Individual consultation. The specialist studies the conditions under which the patient’s personality and cognitive characteristics developed, and then makes a diagnosis and conducts a treatment course.
- Cognitive-behavioral method.
- Hypnosis.
It may be that by the time of diagnosis the pathology has acquired a severe form. In this case, the above methods for correction will not be enough. In this case, they are treated with special drugs, namely tranquilizers and antidepressants.
Their use is advisable only if the patient exhibits extreme aggressiveness, severe emotional disturbances in the form of depression and full-blown delusional patterns. For example, Haloperidol is used to suppress anger and aggression. In addition, the therapist may prescribe sedatives, antioxidants, immunomodulators and multivitamins.
Causes of disorders
Psychopathological syndrome can be congenital or acquired. Experts identify several factors that can trigger the development of one or another category of psychopathy. Most often, people with poor heredity and childhood psychological trauma are susceptible to this pathology. Causes include injuries during childbirth. If a child is not given due attention in due time, then most likely he will also become a psychopath. His parents and environment play a big role in the development of a person. According to experts, a poor environment, lack of attention from parents, or excessive care provoke the development of pathology. Of course, the above factors do not always lead to psychopathy, but can significantly affect its development and even aggravate it.
What do the experts advise?
If you find out that you have connected your life with a psychopath, first of all, visit a professional psychologist. The specialist will select a specific model of behavior for your case. You should also know that a psychopathic man is an excellent manipulator. Despite his coldness, he has a well-developed instinct. If he notices that your relationship is on the verge of collapse, he will begin to be a hypocrite and lie, choosing the right words, appealing to your best feelings. Therefore, it will not be possible to part with him right away. In order not to give a reason for a psychological attack, a woman should not show her true feelings during a quarrel. It is best to keep your distance at these moments, citing being busy. It may be that you still decided to leave such a man. In this case, we should not forget about the high impulsiveness of psychopaths. It is possible that the news will cause rage and aggression in your partner.
Deceit
Symptoms and signs of a personality disorder often include persistent deception from a partner. At first, the woman does not attach any importance to this, because the chosen one lies to her over trifles. However, after some time, the deception acquires impressive proportions.
Nevertheless, the woman cannot accuse him of being a psychopath. Whenever he tries to find out the truth, he immediately shows resentment or aggression. At the same time, thanks to his high intelligence, the man deliberately deceives his victim in such a way that she notices his lie. And this moment is quite joyful for the psychopath, allowing him to enjoy the helplessness of the victim and his impunity.
