How to attract a long-awaited call or meeting, even if your man hasn’t called for a whole week? Today I will tell you how my friend and I tested in practice 4 recommendations of Lisa Volkova for attracting men. Whether our experiment worked or not - read on...
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And I’ll start a little from afar...
My ideal man doesn't call or text
Happiness, joy and elation - this is what a girl should experience after a successful date. But in practice this is often not the case. Nervousness, confusion, awkwardness—it happens that this is exactly what is left after a date.
And all because the man does not call after the meeting. Not immediately, not the next day, not later. The man disappeared, disappeared! I am familiar with this situation and these feelings.
A little personal...
He seemed like my destiny. Tall, curly, smart, sexy, with humor - my ideal. We had beautiful dates, hot kisses, long intimate conversations. And then... he disappeared.
I looked at the phone with hope, then with anger, then with irritation at myself, then fell into depression - I went through all the phases of accepting the situation in a day. Every time the phone rang, time stopped and the countdown started again.
My girlfriend's secret
My friend Katya didn’t understand my whining. They always called her back. And even when the man made himself known late, she said: “My boyfriend is the best! Doesn’t write, doesn’t call, doesn’t invite me for a walk, doesn’t bother me - my sunshine.” I didn’t understand this attitude, but I had to admit that Katyusha was much luckier with the guys...
I unraveled my friend’s secret only a few years later, when I was already married. It was simple: if it happened that a man disappeared, Katya intuitively acted according to certain rules. And so he returned to her quite quickly.
I accidentally came across these very rules while watching a video on Lisa Volkova’s YouTube channel “POWER IN THOUGHT”. It talked about the behavior of a girl who is waiting for the first step from a man. It turned out that Katya did everything right, which, alas, I cannot say about myself.
By the way, how would you behave in such a situation?
What not to do
When you are blocked, your friends can happily give you advice. Because you are overwhelmed with emotions, you may not think critically enough and make a not entirely conscious decision yourself.
To prevent this from happening, here are a few things you should never do:
- try to take revenge on him;
- call him from someone else's number;
- convey through mutual friends that everything is fine with you and you are already communicating with someone else;
- “watch for” him and try to sort things out in person;
- tell mutual friends about his action so that he “feels ashamed”;
- start apologizing and making excuses when he nevertheless unblocked you;
- When unlocking, immediately bombard it with messages or calls.
All this not only does not help, but makes the situation even worse. The main thing you must do is understand the reasons for his actions. Understand how this can be changed without compromising your needs and desires. And is this even possible? Moreover, it is important to decide for yourself whether you are ready to continue this relationship if he gets in touch.
What will you do in a situation where your man has disappeared? Choose your answer
So, you have 3 options. Choose what to do.
- Call or write first : yes - yes, no - no, why bother in vain?
- Be offended and proudly remain silent, sending him to ignore. And then we'll see...
- Accept that if a man doesn’t call , it means I didn’t hook him, it’s not fate.
Which option do you think is correct?
Answer: neither one, nor the other, nor the third!
If you really want your chosen one to finally call you and invite you on the date of your dreams, you need to act completely differently!
What does it mean if a guy doesn't respond to messages: 5 reasons
Reading a message and sending a response takes a couple of minutes; you can find them even in the super busy schedule of a hero saving the world:
- Lack of time. The banal truth. A working man does not always have the opportunity to speak or immediately respond to a letter received, especially if the message implies a lengthy, detailed answer. His thinking is of a tunnel type; at the moment when his head is busy with the task of raising indicators to the level required by his superiors, thoughts about the upcoming weekend are firmly blocked. The lover of a dedicated workaholic will have to come to terms with the fact that loving moments during work hours lose priority.
- Manipulation. Gaming is no longer a woman's preserve; narcissists, abusers and other nasty types you should stay away from are deliberately creating a pendulum effect. At first there is normal communication, then the guy stops writing or answering messages, the girl gets angry, nervous, starts calling, again she is ignored or has a weak, inarticulate reaction. Then everything suddenly becomes good, it’s clear, communication improves. By allowing herself to be drawn into such a game, the lady automatically loses, taking the position of a subordinate. Gradually, cat and mouse become more interesting for the manipulator and sadder for the “victim”. Having noticed such a swing, it is right to say goodbye on the stratum, preserving your personal mental health. Loving a manipulator is the shortest path to neurosis, the murder of self-esteem.
- Indifference . Lack of interest in a woman is a good reason for a man to remain silent in response. The lady is simply not the focus of attention. Perhaps a man will take the initiative (write, call) when He needs it, boredom sets in.
- What exactly did you mean? Without understanding the meaning of the message, the person “freezes”, thinking about the message or response options that allow him not to look stupid, revealing a lack of ingenuity. Relevant for complex topics when you need to comprehend an answer expressing a position on a “slippery” issue.
- Secret love. A man who hides his married status periodically disappears from communication. During working hours, communication occurs without a hitch, but in the evenings and on weekends it becomes problematic to quickly respond to messages; you can’t run to the toilet for half an hour at the first signal in the messenger. The wife will quickly figure out the reasons for the “diarrhea” against the backdrop of changes in the family and the behavior of the husband. The gentleman will clearly explain the delays, but by putting the value “married” instead of the X, it will become clear that these are excuses.
How to behave if a man doesn’t call: 4 recommendations from Lisa Volkova
If you think about a man day and night, if you are sad that your phone is not ringing off the hook with his calls, if your hands are itching to write to him, you are not in a resourceful state. You are in a state of need and desire for him to pay attention to you. This is what scares him away.
To attract a man, you just need to change your inner state. Yes, it's that simple! And Lisa Volkova’s recommendations help to do this.
Lisa's recommendation #1. Don’t write, don’t call, and don’t “accidentally” catch your eye
So, under no circumstances write or call him with the questions “Where did you go?”, “What happened?”, “When will we meet?” etc. Take a time out and give yourself time to change a little.
Learn to enjoy life by excluding from it worries like “Why did the man disappear when everything was going so well?” Live every moment with pleasure, be passionate about your business and yourself. Then the man himself will be attracted to you almost instantly. He will be attracted to your state of sincere joy and happiness.
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Lisa's recommendation #2. Create a state of joy, love and pleasure
Firstly,
stop seeing the problem that the man disappeared. On the contrary, find benefits in it - for example, a lot of free time. Enjoy it and focus all your attention on yourself.
Secondly,
do what you like! It doesn't matter what exactly brings you pleasure. The main thing is the sensations that you experience. The more you do things for yourself, the more happiness you will have in your life.
Remember - what do you love and what fills you? For myself, I made a list of 50 favorite activities. Here are a few of them besides the standard shopping and spa.
- Go to the cinema with a bucket of popcorn, immerse yourself in the plot of the film, forgetting about everything in the world.
- Meet with friends and gossip a lot.
- Throw away old things (clothes, dishes) and get rid of junk in the house.
- Meet the dawn when everyone is still sleeping, enjoying the silence and solitude.
- Choose and give gifts to your loved ones for no reason.
- Take a course or marathon on self-development, professional development, etc.
- Review old family photos and videos.
- Swim in the pool.
- Go for a run in the park in the morning.
- Try something completely new - a cooking class, oil painting, vocal lesson, etc.
Do something that inspires you every day. Regularly devote at least half an hour to this, and you will notice how the world around you will change.
But know this: in reality, the world will remain the same. Only the perception will change - you will simply tune your strings to the desired wave.
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Lisa's recommendation #3. Create an intention and breathe life into it
But now we can remember about the man. You are in a resourceful state, satisfied with yourself and life, you have your own interests and affairs. It's time to create an intention - that your man thinks about you and longs to meet you.
Write this intention on a piece of paper in a positive way with the name of your chosen one. For example: “ Andrey
thinks about me every second . He really wants to call me, he really wants to see me . He is happy to invite me on a date .
” Imagine this call and your meeting in great detail: how his voice sounds, how his gaze feels. You should feel this thought with your whole body - goosebumps, butterflies in your stomach, a feeling of flight and boundless joy.
Cast aside all doubts and be completely confident that the man is about to write or call you and will definitely make an appointment.
Lisa's recommendation #4. Think correctly for a man
There is such a joke: while
the man does not call or write, the woman manages to draw the worst thing - conclusions.
If a man has disappeared, you involuntarily begin to think: “ He probably won’t call me... He probably didn’t like me... He probably has someone... ”
It turns out that you are, as it were, thinking out thoughts for a man that he may not have.
Instead, create your own reason why he will definitely call you and soon confess his love: for example, because you are beautiful, smart and cheerful, because he remembers you every minute, misses you very much, etc.
And when he appears, don’t sort things out. No phrases from the series “Where have you been?”, “Why didn’t you call?” or “You can’t do that with me”! Act as if you didn't notice he was missing.
Why is communication difficult?
What to do and how to behave if a man suddenly stops communicating? Psychologists are increasingly inclined to believe that new technologies are to blame for everything, which have replaced the romance of relationships. Modern young people are less and less likely to show care, dare. And they rarely remember romance at all. Many people prefer to spend time at home with their phone than going out with friends or their girlfriend. And if a guy still has a gaming addiction, then he can completely forget about communicating with real people.
Therefore, in our time, relationships between a man and a woman develop according to a completely different scenario, which is very different from how the relationship developed with our parents. If previously people met, for example, while walking, now they most often meet on social networks. Such communication does not lead to anything good. Young people are getting used to the fact that they do not bear any responsibility for what and how they write in messages. If you don’t like the interlocutor, he is simply sent to the blacklist. That's all! All communication stopped without any explanation or clarification of the reasons.
I don’t want to say that all modern men are like this. They're just the majority. But there are still those for whom live communication is much more valuable than virtual communication. And they continue to provide attention and care to their chosen ones, just like in the good old days.
An experiment codenamed “The Man Doesn’t Call.” How we checked Lisa Volkova's recommendations
I'm a skeptic and love proven techniques. Therefore, I decided to try these rules of Lisa in practice. My husband glanced disapprovingly in my direction: the thought of an experimental date did not inspire him, of course. And then I turned to my other friend, Elena.
Lena just recently met Kirill, a new colleague from another office. A spark ran between them, and now a date was set. I suggested that Lena conduct an experiment if Kirill suddenly didn’t call back after the date. And she agreed.
The first experience turned out to be successful - for me. Not so good for Lena, because Kirill didn’t call her either the evening after the date or the next day.
And then we started with Lisa’s first two recommendations: put down the phone and take care of yourself.
We went for a pedicure together, then walked and chatted all day (not about Kirill). My friend's mood definitely lifted. And by evening she even stopped looking at her phone.
The next day Lena went to visit her grandmother. She loved to go there, but rarely got the chance. I returned inspired, and in the evening I went to a jazz concert.
In the morning we called each other - Lena was in a great mood. She said that she didn’t even think about Kirill all evening.
Then we moved on to recommendations 3 and 4 - creating intention and right thoughts.
Lena wrote in her diary: “Kirill is bored and calls me with joy and pleasure.” She said that when she wrote this, she thought: “How could it be otherwise? Let’s miss a girl like that!” Then I imagined his call and felt a trembling inside. She realized that everything would be as she dreams.
And calmly went to the gym.
The man blocked - what is the reason
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Don't think that this means the end of the relationship. It all depends on the reason that the man blocked you. In order to understand it, you need to cope with your emotions and analyze the situation in a calm state.
The reasons will depend on the stage your relationship is at, the situation before the lockdown, your behavior and his behavior.
If your relationship was just beginning, you had only a few meetings, then a man could block you only for three reasons:
- he realized that you are not suitable for him, and decided to avoid “unpleasant” conversations - this is the position of a person who does not like to take responsibility and act like an adult. The fact that he might not like you is quite normal. People don't have to be liked by everyone, and that's impossible. But to say this honestly and explain yourself is something that not everyone is capable of;
- his wife returned from a business trip or from her parents - in order not to give himself away with your calls and messages, he quickly decided to stop communicating;
- he manipulates you - he arranges an emotional swing so that you suffer, wonder what is wrong, try to be “good”, and he would “forgive” you and arrange a wonderful date. Such manipulators are very clever at controlling girls, making them dependent.
In all these cases, the fact that he has stopped communicating is a good opportunity for you to let your feelings “cool down” a little and look at this person from an objective point of view.
But what to do if you already know him well, you were in a relationship and it seemed to you that everything was serious and you enjoyed communicating, but he suddenly blocked you? What is the reason then? Think about whether there was a quarrel or a scene of jealousy the day before what happened? Perhaps this is just his reaction to a certain situation. You might not attach much importance to it; it may not seem obvious. Try to look at this situation through his eyes. What feelings did he have? What experiences did he have?
If there was a conflict, put yourself in the man’s place. Are his claims fair? Analyze your behavior. Were you right? There is no need to apologize to a man if you are sure that you did the right thing. It is important to be honest in relationships.
What to do if your loved one doesn’t want to communicate and has blocked him everywhere?
After a quarrel, he usually “cools down” and returns to your life. It's important to talk about what happened. Don’t bombard him with complaints and don’t try to “make amends,” but speak honestly about your feelings and thoughts. Try to hear his point of view and understand it. Solve the problem together so that it no longer affects your relationship.
But it happens that there was no quarrel at all. You thought everything was fine. Then you need to analyze the relationship as a whole. Think about it, have you restricted his freedom too much? Have you been jealous a lot for no reason? Didn’t she bombard you with constant messages asking where he was and with whom? The reason is clear, you love him and are afraid of losing him. You want to show him your feelings. But each person has a different need for intimacy.
It might seem to a man that you are too intrusive, and your love made him afraid of losing freedom and independence. This is fine. He doesn’t have to be in merging with you, he can have his own life and his own needs. It’s just that your degree of affection for each other did not match. But that doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
If this is the reason for the blocking, then give him time to rest and comprehend everything, to miss you. It is important to consider whether it is worth continuing to express your love in this way. After all, when he returns, if the relationship does not change, the problem will not be resolved.
Experiment result
The next day, Kirill went into the office where Lena worked. The first thing I did was look at her and ask if she wanted to go for a walk at lunchtime. Viva Victoria! It turned out even better than Lena expected: instead of a call, there was a meeting right away.
So, our experiment lasted only 3 days and ended successfully. I am sure that any girl can apply these simple recommendations if her man does not call. And instead of despairing that the man has disappeared, continue to go on dates with him, receive gifts and declarations of love.
But what about those whose relationships are seriously falling apart at the seams? What to do if your loved one has lost interest or even packed up and left?
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What to do if a guy doesn't respond to messages
A young man interested in a girl will be able to find a way to warn his chosen one about the lack of communication, clearly, honestly, understandably explain the reason for the inability to answer messages, calls, and will announce the time frame for resuming communication. The worst thing a young lady can do in case of silence is to start firing machine-gun bursts of messages, expressing resentment, threatening heavenly punishments, and starting a one-sided scandal over correspondence.
You shouldn’t sit cuddling with your cell phone, waiting for news. It’s better to remember how many interesting, important things, meetings, events you can organize in your free time. This will allow you to be distracted and dispel gloomy thoughts. When a subscriber appears on the line, it is advisable to refrain from immediately expressing grievances, claims, or indignations.
His reaction and explanations can tell an attentive, self-possessed girl a lot. Perhaps the guy really experienced force majeure. Or does he not consider it necessary to comment on the action? Throws accusations onto her side, accusing the lady that she herself provoked him to go to the bottom? Time to draw conclusions.
