How can I make people respect me?

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Respect as a feeling and need
Self-esteem
How to gain the respect of others
Behavior that deserves respect

Respect is the attitude of one person towards another, which involves recognition of merits, merits, and unique personality traits.

To be respected is one of the human needs, which includes respect for the individual by people around him, respect for people, mutual respect, and self-respect.

Respect as a feeling and need

True respect is based on being genuinely respectful towards someone or something. This is the feeling that arises in relation to a worthy, admirable person. It is impossible to respect under duress or insincerely; this is not respect, but flattery and hypocrisy.

Respect is also the most important ethical requirement. Only an adult, educated, cultured person respects himself and other people. The need for respect is actualized at a time when a person needs to feel his worth, importance and need for the people around him.

Men have a greater need for respect. It is extremely important for them to be respected, as this is an indicator of status and authority, both at work and in the family. Men more often admit to themselves “I want respect!” and define this desire as a goal.

A woman less often sets herself the goal of becoming respected, although she demands respect for herself more often than a man. Women achieve respect through the realization of other goals and needs. They strive to be loved, and respect is defined as a derivative of love.

Due to their age, children do not understand what respect is; they learn to respect by looking at their parents. Some mothers and fathers do not consider it necessary to respect the child’s personality, equating parenting with manipulation and control. This is the wrong approach to educating the personality of a little person. If parents don't respect their child's developing personality, he won't respect them when he grows up. And his self-respect will be replaced by painful pride or self-dislike.

Respect for others and oneself includes:

humane attitude, non-infliction of harm (neither moral nor physical), justice, attention to interests and needs, freedom of beliefs and views, trust.

The relationship and meaning of these components of respect differ in different cultures and countries. But respect always presupposes treating another person as a subject, and not an object of relations.

Highly moral people respect not only their friends, but also their enemies. Two respectable people respect each other, even when in a conflict, stressful, unethical situation.

How can you overcome this fear?

Effective Ways to Make Others Respect You
Here are some practical steps:

You need to understand your past: The first step to overcome people's fear is to examine the past and find out what happened. If you can't do it yourself, don't hesitate to contact a professional.
Correct your beliefs: Let's assume that you discovered that your fear of people was being ignored when you were a child. At this point, you must get rid of limiting beliefs and replace them with healthy ones.
Building self-esteem by knowing something that happened to you was not your fault and the bad things that happened in the past does not mean that similar things will happen in the future will make you feel even better.

Self-esteem

If a person does not respect himself, he does not see or does not know how to see his merits and successes. The reasons for self-disrespect are usually hidden in the problems and difficulties of the period of growing up, when the self-concept of the individual is formed.

Without self-respect, it is difficult to respect others and earn their respect.

Why a person does not have self-respect is of great importance, but not as important as the ability to regain self-esteem and learn self-respect.

You can learn self-respect by:

notice and recognize your merits and successes, praise yourself for actions worthy of respect, learn to see in shortcomings and mistakes a reason for working on yourself, and not for self-deprecation, learn to ask for forgiveness for dishonest actions and eliminate their negative consequences, admit that you are wrong and admit mistakes, forgive yourself and others, keep your word given to yourself or to another.

Reasons to respect yourself can be found in the past and present, or you can set a goal for the future, the achievement of which will bring a feeling of self-respect.

Self-respect is based on adequate self-esteem, self-love, honesty and sincerity with oneself. You can achieve self-esteem by developing your personality for the better.

To be or not to be…

It is very easy to respect those who treat you with respect. But what about others who are objectively not worthy of respect? Why do you need to respect people?

The choice here is actually small: either reciprocate, falling to the level of “disrespect,” or start with yourself, more precisely with the ability to respect yourself, which gives rise to the ability to behave with dignity in any situation and respect for others.

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How to gain the respect of others

To earn respect from the people around you, you need to be a person worthy of respect. People are always respected for something, for some character traits, actions or thoughts, and not just like that. Respect presupposes the existence of conditions that allow this feeling to be experienced.

Simply declaring to others: “I want respect!” is unlikely to be achieved.

Respect arises when a person’s attitude towards others is:

correspondence of words to actions, the ability to bear responsibility for words and actions, goodwill, respect, the ability to listen and hear, interest in the needs of another person; desire to help.

Respect for a person encourages him to respect in return. Mutual respect begins with one person noticing and speaking about the other's strengths and behaving respectfully towards him.

Respect arises when a person commits an act in which the following traits of his personality are manifested:

courage, bravery, determination, willpower, commitment to morality and morality, altruism, love for people, hard work, efficiency, self-respect, self-esteem, other volitional and moral qualities of the individual.

You can learn how to gain the respect of others by observing people who have earned it. There is no need to create idols for yourself and blindly imitate them, but you can be inspired by the example of the life of a worthy person.

How to behave in society to be respected

To gain recognition and respect from others, build partnerships. Surround yourself with people who have qualities you admire.
Always be on time. This shows respect for others as you value their time.
Think ahead. Be considerate of others and help them find solutions and strategies that will benefit them.
Share your ideas. Strong opinions and many ideas command respect. Just don't bother others.
Don't be afraid to ask how you can help. Don't shy away from people who need help. Even if they reject your offer, they will remember it.
Play to your strengths. When you do what you are good at, you earn the respect of others.
Recognize the dignity of others. This simple attitude is worth a lot and is the answer to the question: “How can you be treated well?”
Don't be afraid to apologize. When you make a mistake, simply apologize.
Say what you mean and mean what you say. People learn to trust and believe what you say through your words and actions.
Trust your intuition. It's important to know when something doesn't feel right so you don't do it.
Don't sweat the small stuff. Remember that most work difficulties are just small things.
Learn to say no. Respect is cultivated when you can say no and back it up with good reasons.
Stick to moral values. Don't be afraid to show others that you have moral principles that you stand by. The courage to defend one's moral values commands respect even from one's opponents.
Never miss a deadline. The best form of respect is to do things well and on time.
Respect those who are difficult to respect. Behavior is not always worthy of respect, but a person is.
Keep a positive attitude. People respect positivity. (I advise you to read positive statuses to cheer yourself up).
Listen to different points of view. Be sensitive to other people's points of view and recognize the value of each opinion.

How to achieve respect in your team and from business partners

Be prepared to compromise. A person who can work with others to find a compromise solution and shows his flexibility is worthy of respect.
Don't waste other people's time. If you respect others' time, they will respect yours. This means not being late for meetings, and at the meetings themselves not discussing useless things, quickly getting to the point, immediately raising questions, and being concise.
Be a good employee. The more other people benefit from working with you, the more respect you will earn.
Remember your colleagues' significant dates. People appreciate the attention of others to their memorable dates. Try to remember the dates of important events in the lives of your colleagues and give them good wishes on these days.
Don't be afraid to trust others with some of your responsibilities. Delegate as much as possible. Let others show their abilities and respect them for it. In turn, they will respect you too.
Show respect to your colleagues. Respect others and colleagues, even if sometimes it seems that they do not deserve it.
Improve yourself professionally and personally. Respect comes from setting high standards for yourself and working hard every day to meet them.
Build trust in yourself. Conduct yourself in a way that inspires the trust of others and builds confidence. These qualities earn you the respect from your peers that you deserve.
Develop humility. True respect in a team comes from humility and the knowledge that every person you meet has something to teach you.
Try to be consistent in your expectations of people. Consistency is the key to success for strong, respected people. It builds trust and helps you earn the respect of your colleagues.
Don't play favorites. This is especially important if you are a manager. If employees see that you distribute tasks and benefits fairly among them, they will begin to trust and respect you. They will see that everyone is on an equal footing with their colleagues. (Read 145 statuses and quotes about business success).

What do you need to do to make people appreciate and respect you?

Be a peacemaker. Sometimes to keep the peace you have to do what you don't want to do. Maintain peaceful relationships with others and establish it wherever possible.
Hold yourself to high standards to earn the respect of others. Try to meet these standards every day.
Listen to others, not just yourself. When you listen to others, you show that you care about their opinions and take what they say seriously.
Have a decent appearance. People impress others within seconds. Pay attention to detail in your appearance to show respect for others in your clothing.
Focus on quality, not quantity. Make what you do meaningful by giving of yourself to the people or causes that matter most to you.
Don't kiss others with the kiss of Judas. Sometimes it's not what you say, but what you do afterwards that matters. Therefore, avoid meanness and deceit.
Smile. A confident, kind smile always evokes a positive response from others.
Be the connection. Bring together people who see each other as a valuable and useful team.
Make time for others to gain respect from others. We respect people who take time out of their busy schedule to pay attention to us and show us that they care about us.
Treat others the way you would like to be treated. No wonder this is called the golden rule, thanks to which you can rise in the eyes of people.
Do small acts of kindness. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, or a listening ear. A small act can change the life of both yours and others.
Never gossip. As they say, great people talk about ideas, ordinary people talk about things, and little people talk about other people. Gossiping and gossiping do not inspire true self-respect.
Avoid hypocrisy. Be who you are behind closed doors. The measure of who you are is revealed when no one can see you.

How to raise people's respect for you

Maintain equanimity in difficult situations. Keep it simple and stay true to yourself.
Remember that feelings matter. Be mindful of other people's feelings. It could mean everything to them.
Don't try to be everything to everyone. Sometimes we get caught up in pleasing everyone and end up pleasing no one. (Read statuses and quotes about self-love that boost your self-esteem).
Know your boundaries. Set clear boundaries for yourself and stick to them.
Keep it simple. Take what is complex and make it simple. Simplicity is the key to recognition and respect for others.
Use feedback. Don't be afraid to ask others to explain things you don't understand. Being able to explain these things to you motivates and inspires others.
When appropriate, share your knowledge generously. The benefits of such generosity will come back to you a hundredfold.
Always say "please" and "thank you." Gratitude and politeness calm and inspire people.
Stay active all the time. Don't always wait for instructions from others. Use your own skills and resources to get things done and solve problems. Make it a habit to figure things out on your own. Don't be afraid to challenge yourself from time to time.
Learn from others. Admit how much you don't know so you can learn from your colleagues' experiences.
Be a mentor. Find someone you can help and mentor them.
Don't curry favor with others and become a buffoon. Show yourself respect and be consistent in everything you say and do.
Be grateful when someone does you a favor. A simple note or small token of appreciation can mean a lot to others.
Avoid contradictions. Remember, whatever you say, you must also do.
Mind your manners. Good manners open many doors.

How to earn self-respect and rise in people's eyes

Know your triggers. Be mindful of what might irritate you so you don't let it get you down. (In the article on how to deal with anger and irritation, you can find useful tips for yourself)
Watch your body language. Make sure it matches the words you are saying.
Dedicate time to reading every day. The more you know, the more you can do.
Identify those in your life who tell you the truth and keep them close. Rely on people who believe in you and are not afraid to tell you the truth.
Meet others. Developing close relationships and wanting to learn more about others shows that you are worthy of respect.
Remember people's names. And give them a reason to remember yours.
Be curious. The more you study or become interested in something new, the more you will learn.
Choose who you spend time with carefully. Your environment either elevates you or challenges you.
Be stubborn when it matters. People respect those who stick to their point of view when it is necessary for the cause.
Speak clearly and firmly. If you can be expressive, concise and firm in what you say, it leaves no room for misunderstanding.
Show a sense of humor. Humor will come in handy in almost any situation. The ability to defuse a tense situation with an appropriate joke is worthy of respect.
Take action instead of waiting for the right time. Be your own teacher. If you wait until you are ready, you will have to wait for the rest of your life. Take risks and earn respect.
Don't be a martyr. Don't do anything you don't like. Remember, respect comes from authenticity.
Keep the naysayers away from you. You might even want to cut negative people out of your life completely.

Behavior that deserves respect

If a person does not commit actions that discredit and spoil his reputation, but for some reason those around him do not respect him, the reason lies in self-doubt and complexes.

Specific recommendations on how to improve your attitude and gain the respect of others:

Remove embarrassment; when standing and sitting, keep your back and head straight, boldly look into the eyes of your interlocutor, do not hide or shy away when communicating. Speak slowly and clearly; convey your thoughts calmly and restrainedly, speak neither loudly nor quietly, do not jabber, do not “eat” words, watch your breathing. Smile when appropriate, but generally do not neglect smiling; a smile is combined with a good-natured look and head nods during a conversation. Be emotionally restrained, calm, balanced. Restrain excessive facial expressions and gestures, maintain the accepted distance between yourself and the interlocutor, and do not touch the person if this is not allowed. Active listening; You need to listen to your interlocutor carefully, ask clarifying questions, try to feel his emotional state and make it clear that he is interesting.

Ability to say “no”; do not let yourself be offended, do not succumb to manipulation. A calm attitude towards criticism and the ability to criticize constructively. Sincerity and honesty; tell the truth, don’t try to seem like someone else, but be yourself. The ability to take responsibility, to be a reliable person you can rely on. Have life goals, clear guidelines and principles. Make only those promises that can be kept and keep them.

Respect for each other, both family members, relatives and friends, and work colleagues, guarantees comfort and harmony in relationships, making them stronger and more trusting.