From a psychological point of view, man is the most developed and most complex creature. And the most controversial. Each of us, to one degree or another, contains traits and qualities that characterize our shortcomings and advantages. And everyone has them. So how do you understand who is a strong person and who is weak?
Strong people are not those who are completely devoid of shortcomings and weaknesses. Not at all. A strong person is not flawless, but he knows how to take control of his life. Including those aspects of character that are weaknesses and obstacles on the path to success and self-realization in life. Unlike them, a weak person is inclined to indulge them, which is why he gets stuck for many years in the whirlwind of a life that is completely alien to him. And qualities, in turn, form habits, which become hooks that keep a person in the comfort zone. What are these habits?
Suffer in inaction
Worrying about what might happen under certain circumstances breeds inaction. But a strong person can curb his anxiety and begin to act according to the plan. While the weak continue to suffer endlessly, without changing anything in life.
Portrait of a weak man
A weak person is the same as a strong person, but with a minus sign. That is, everything is the other way around for him. Yes and no. There are signs by which a psychologically weak person can be easily identified in his environment. To do this, analyze the behavior of your friends. Or perhaps something from this list is about you?
- A weak person complains more and more often than other people. Life is like a roller coaster, there are ups and downs. But even being at the top, a weak person complains about his existence, finding a reason for this. And instead of trying to get out of a difficult situation and solve problems, he talks about difficulties to others, regardless of their opinions and desire to listen or lack thereof. This turns people away from the weak person and introduces another reason for complaint.
- A weak person does not strive to leave his comfort zone. He is afraid of life changes, even if they promise only the best. Vegetating in routine, he builds a life. He thinks that it is safer this way, he feels protected, even if in fact this is not the case.
- A weak person does not take other people's opinions into account. Yes, you need to live your life the way you want. But being able to find a reasonable grain in the opinions and statements of other people is very important. To a certain extent, it pays to listen to others. This gives impetus to the development and improvement of one’s own personality.
- A weak person gives up without a fight. This is perhaps the most obvious sign of a psychologically weak personality. This is expressed not only in the inability to finish what has been started, but also in the lack of perseverance. A strong person forgets that success does not come to those who have done nothing to achieve the result.
- A weak person is jealous of other people. He does not achieve what he wants on his own and is openly jealous of those who have succeeded. But each person has his own recipe for success, and the circumstances for achieving it are not the same. Instead of biting your nails with envy, you should find your own path.
- A weak person gets angry. Of course, no person can live without manifestations of anger. But what is the object towards which this anger is directed? If this is anger at yourself for your inability to achieve something, it will most likely direct you on the right path to self-improvement. But if this is anger at circumstances, at other people who have succeeded, where will it lead? It is absolutely impossible to never be angry. But unjustified destructive feelings break a person from the inside.
- A weak person tends to dramatize. He talks about how hard it is for him to cope with life’s troubles and characterizes his life in a negative way. They say about such people that they are pessimists, because they do not see the light ahead. But negative mental projections are imposed on life, leave an imprint on a person’s present and future, and there is no escape from this.
You can understand the difference between a strong person and a weak one without resorting to an in-depth analysis of the personality. There is an ordinary, everyday understanding of “strength” and “weakness”. But at the same time, it can vary from person to person, and the definition of category occurs on an intuitive level.
Sacrifice your interests for the interests of other people
Sacrifice is by no means a positive quality, as it might seem at first glance. Just the opposite. If we do not know how to defend our interests, love and respect ourselves, which, again, indicates weakness, we will never be able to give something good to those we love. We simply will not have the internal (and often material) resource for this.
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How can a weak person become stronger?
There are no hopeless people. Anyone can become stronger if they want. You should get rid of your shortcomings gradually. To do this, follow the advice of psychologists.
- Play sports. The key to mental strength is body strength. Make yourself a rule: go to the gym in any weather, regardless of laziness. Morning jogging can also train endurance and willpower. Develop a healthy lifestyle habit and it will make you stronger.
- Set goals for yourself. A goal is a clearly formulated dream. But this alone is not enough. You need to go to achieve your goal.
- Say what you think. When expressing your opinion, do not be afraid to defend it. This is one of the skills of a strong person.
- Don't be afraid of failure. Think of a roller coaster: the fall is followed by a rapid rise. Failures are also experiences, albeit negative ones. By avoiding it, you will not learn to overcome obstacles.
- Don't blame others for your own failures. If something doesn’t work out, it’s not the circumstances or other people who are to blame. Learn to take responsibility for actions, analyze thoughts, feelings and intentions.
- Love yourself. Low self-esteem will not help you achieve what you want. You will have to get rid of negativity towards yourself gradually, but it is achievable.
- Find something you like. It can be related to your main life goal, or it can become a hobby that helps you relax after a hard day. When you devote yourself to what you love, immerse yourself in it headlong, and this will help you achieve results in your chosen field.
- Read books. How does what we call “general development” happen? By plunging into a fictional story, the reader projects it onto himself. The algorithm of actions is postponed on a subconscious level, so in a situation close to the one in which the literary hero was, you will know what to do.
- Fantasize. Dream, play out “what if?..” situations and don’t bury your own creative abilities. And even approach ordinary tasks with a dose of imagination. This way it will be easier to deal with them, and the world will open up to you with new interesting facets.
- Let go of the negativity. No, you don't need to wear rose-colored glasses. But the world is not a minefield. There is a place for good people and good intentions.
- Say no. Don't force yourself and don't do something to the detriment of your own interests. Fulfilling the desires and whims of strangers will not lead you to success.
- Get rid of unnecessary people. Let them go from your life and surround yourself with those individuals with whom you are interested and from whom you have something to learn.
- Help others. You can become a volunteer or simply feed a homeless kitten. Such actions change a personality, make it stronger and kinder.
Remember that there are no exceptionally strong or weak people. We are all strong in our own way, but sometimes we need support and understanding. Therefore, a strong person is not alone. He helps loved ones and is not afraid to ask for reciprocity if he needs it.
Inability to face difficulties with dignity
A weak person prefers to hide from difficulties or pretend that nothing particularly interesting or important is happening. Even small troubles can knock them out of the saddle for a long time - and the strong in spirit boldly look to the future, even if they are well aware that not the easiest times await them.
Sincerity
In 2004, Frank Warren printed out 3,000 blank postcards and distributed them to passersby, asking them to share any secret they had. He didn’t have much hope for success, but within a week he received more than a hundred completed postcards. Today their number has exceeded a million, and Frank himself became the founder of the Postal Secret project, where people continue to send postcards with secret confessions.
People strive to be sincere. They want to share their experiences and fears, but don't know how. And when they find a suitable way, they gain a little peace of mind. After all, this is how they understand what needs to be fought. For example, here is the text of one of the postcards that came to Warren:
“I am a firefighter by profession, and I am afraid that the day will come when I will not be as brave as I should be.”
You don't have to shout your secrets out loud. First, admit to yourself the reason for your worries, and only then look for someone to share with.
You will be surprised to learn how many problems can be avoided if you decide to be sincere in time.
Atazagoraphobia - what is it?
Atazagoraphobia is the fear of being forgotten or abandoned or ignored.
It is customary to distinguish several types of phobia:
- fear of forgetting oneself, one's personality, memories (in patients with dementia and other mental illnesses);
- fear of being ignored, being lonely, abandoned (more common among older people);
- fear of living a meaningless life, not leaving a trace, a reminder of oneself.
Atazagoraphobia is more common and worsens in childhood, middle age (period of crisis) and old age.
It is important! Atazagoraphobia has two forms: fear of being forgotten and fear of not remembering.
Inability to stand your ground
Sometimes in a dispute it is indeed easier to agree than to prove that you are right - this is how one of the principles of diplomacy works. But in some cases, the inability to defend one’s point of view shows a weakness of character: the boundaries of this person are easy to break, and he himself often does not notice that he has violated others.
Self-obsession
A constant thirst for attention, egocentrism, the need for veneration and the inability to perceive any criticism adequately - these traits reveal a person with a hysterical and demonstrative personality type. It’s very difficult to be with him - and it’s usually not easy for him to be with himself. They can be manipulated with the most primitive flattery.
