This article is part of the Auto-da-Fé project. In it we declare war on everything that prevents people from living and becoming better: breaking laws, believing in nonsense, deception and fraud. If you have encountered something similar, share your stories in the comments.
The rights of one person end where the rights of another begin - this is what they say in school in social studies, but it would be worth learning this even earlier. It's not just about following the law. It's a matter of commonplace politeness and upbringing, which can make social interactions much more pleasant.
However, there are always people who don’t care if they interfere with others. These people only care about their own convenience and are quite annoying.
Loud people
Loud sounds irritate, interfere with concentration, and make you feel uncomfortable. People around you are not annoying out of spite. The areas of the brain responsible for processing sound control The cognitive determinants of behavioral distraction by deviant auditory stimuli: a review mental and physiological processes necessary for concentration and creativity. Accordingly, it is impossible to be distracted. All that remains for listeners, involuntarily, is to hate people who mock other people’s ears. By the way, here they are.
Loud music lovers
Some seem to listen to music on headphones, but turn up the volume to such a level that the sound waves blow away those around them. Others are not at all embarrassed to watch videos and enjoy songs in a crowded place directly from their phone or tablet, or even from a portable speaker. It is noteworthy that usually the ears of others are raped with very specific music. Apparently, tastes and upbringing are more closely connected than it seems.
Neighbors who are music lovers
They could well fall into the category of loud music lovers, but it would be more correct to single out a separate item for them. Because your music-loving neighbors don’t catch you in line at the doctor’s office or on the trolleybus. They penetrate your apartment - a place intended for relaxation. Moreover, often these same people completely ignore the so-called law on silence, which regulates when you can’t make noise.
A special greeting should be conveyed to the owners of subwoofers in high-rise buildings, especially panel and monolithic ones. Vibrations from bass can easily travel through structures. As a result, half the house is shaking - and this is in the best case.
Phone maniacs
Many people are annoyed by bloggers who broadcast their every move on social networks, but at least you can unsubscribe from them. It’s much worse when you find yourself in a queue or on a trolleybus with a person who decides right now to tell your telephone interlocutor where you went, what you did, what you ate. On the one hand, the sound is annoying, on the other hand, listeners feel uncomfortable because they don’t want to know the details of a stranger’s personal life.
However, there is a good chance that your torment will not end when the telephone maniac ends the call and starts typing something on the device. Some people do not turn off the keyboard sound when they first unpack the phone, but prefer to cheer up those around them with squeaks and beeps.
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What does sexologist and psychotherapist Alexander Poleev say?
The famous psychotherapist, sexologist and professor at the Institute of Psychoanalysis, Alexander Moiseevich Poleev, has his own opinion on this matter.
He talks about romantic love as a complex and very important phenomenon that can really happen no more than three times in life. When a person loves, he experiences not only emotional uplift and euphoria, but also feelings such as melancholy, jealousy, irritation, etc. Therefore, love is not only a beautiful, but also an exhausting phenomenon. It is based on a double thinking error:
- The first mistake is idealization. This is when the object of adoration seems ideal in everything, although in principle such people do not exist.
- The second mistake is singleness, when it seems that only he alone will make you happy.
That is why, when we meet a person who seems ideal to us, the one and only, we experience a feeling of love. It’s easier for men in this regard, because their idea of the uniqueness of their partner (by the will of nature) is much less expressed.
So, some people do not idealize anyone, not because they are smarter or more cunning than others, but because of the fear of dependence or excessive criticism of themselves and others. Therefore, a priori they cannot fall in love, since love without idealization is impossible. Such people live in society, see examples of friends, read books, watch films and understand that they are deprived of something important. They often ask the question: “why does everyone know how to love, but I can’t?” One day they resign themselves and start a relationship for the sake of relationships or family and procreation. Such marriages, as a rule, do not last long, but there are exceptions.
Alexander Moiseevich considers the inability to fall in love to be a curable disease. He says the treatment process is long, complex and labor-intensive. After all, first you will have to deal with the huge “tail” of psychological problems - excessive self-criticism, inability to overcome neurotic complexes, lack of sexuality and others.
Ill-mannered smokers
People with nicotine addiction often complain of discrimination and general dislike. They owe their bad reputation to their smoking brethren, who grab a cigarette anywhere, not caring about the interests of others.
It's not just that passive smoking is harmful to health. It’s just unpleasant when it’s smoky in the elevator or entrance, when someone walks in the crowd ahead and tars a cigarette, including burning through the clothes of passers-by. Finally, it is not uncommon for a smoker to take his last puff at a stop, throw the cigarette butt away (always not into the trash can), and exhale the smoke in the minibus or bus. Public transport in Russia has little to do with comfort, but passengers certainly didn’t order a gas chamber.
Smoking often leads to fires, if the bull was thrown into the garbage chute. The Ulyanovsk hotel "Sovetskaya" near Lenin Square was evacuated or from the window onto the balcony. In Rybinsk, the sixteen-story house of the neighbors below caught fire.
So, on ill-mannered smokers, as well as on cigarette packs, you can place an inscription about their dangers.
Desperate pedestrians
Lifehacker dedicated a separate article to auto-hammers. But there are also complaints about other road users. They also often create dangerous situations.
They cross the road right in front of the car
For pedestrians, the Russian Federation Traffic Regulations are provided, 4. Responsibilities of pedestrians: There are many ways to safely cross the road. Running out onto the roadway in front of a car is not one of them. Wedging into traffic 50 meters from a traffic light is the same. This endangers not only the life and health of the offender. Firstly, the driver can suddenly brake to save the life of a pedestrian, which will lead to an accident involving several cars. Secondly, the car may not have time to stop. And even if the driver is found not guilty, a fatal accident is a very traumatic experience.
Walking along the side of the road at night without reflective elements
A car is a source of increased danger, and therefore the driver must be careful. But supernatural vision is not given along with a license, so irresponsible walks can end sadly.
Abuse the power given to them by traffic rules
A car must allow a person to cross a zebra crossing at an unregulated crossing. But this does not mean that he should slow down to a minimum and cross the road at a snail’s pace. Mutual respect is the key to good relations on the road.
Moving along a strange trajectory
Let's move from the road to the sidewalk. A good pedestrian is a predictable pedestrian. Anyone who constantly rushes from side to side and suddenly stops creates a lot of problems for others.
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People who don't protect themselves
Incredible, but true: sexually transmitted diseases are named so for a reason. They are spread through genital contact. And their presence is not always obvious, especially to a non-specialist and in a fit of passion. Spreading harmful bacteria and viruses is very bad. When a person knows about his illness and still does not protect himself, it is terrible, and in some cases even criminal, of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation Article 122. Infection with HIV infection, if we are talking about, for example, HIV. Thanks to opponents of protection, a disease that is not obvious to the eye will be transmitted further and further.
It is naive to believe that anyone is safe. For example, it is still believed that HIV is a disease of homosexuals (sexual transmission) and drug addicts (injection transmission). In Russia and not only this is a completely heterosexual story, and now young married women are at risk of becoming victims of infidelity. They get the virus from spouses who cheat in marriage or who got the disease before.
Unwanted pregnancy, although not a disease, is also not the most pleasant consequence of sex, as the name suggests. So a separate cauldron in hell (boomerang, karma - depending on what you believe) is reserved for myth-makers who convince that it is impossible to get pregnant after interrupted sexual intercourse, during menstruation, or if a woman has not experienced an orgasm.
Flu-prone workaholics
Colds, unlike STDs, are easily transmitted through airborne droplets. So one sneezing person, who believes that they can’t get by at work without him, can put the whole office to bed - but not for pleasant pleasures. Of course, along the way, he risks infecting passengers on public transport and other people who had the misfortune of being close to him.
Going to work sick is not a labor feat, but pure selfishness.
Autocoresexuals
They prefer to watch other people having sex and, when aroused, satisfy their sexual needs on their own.
An autocorysexual may be turned on by fantasies, watching classic or other types of porn, but he himself refuses to enter into sexual contact with anyone, engaging exclusively in masturbation.
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Inadequate dog owners
Let’s agree right away: dogs are nice and are not to blame for anything. Although they are smart animals, they are not smart enough to participate in human agreements. This is the law of the Civil Code of the Russian Federation, Article 137. Animals recognize: its owner is responsible for the behavior of a pet. But some owners are truly real pests.
Do not put a leash on your dog when walking
Dog lovers have all kinds of excuses for bitten victims, and they all boil down to the fact that the victim himself is to blame: there was no need to be afraid, and in general, animals sense bad people and do not bite good people. But it’s much easier to pacify a dog than a feeling of panic. If someone is able to control the surge of adrenaline 100% in any situation, let him share this knowledge with everyone.
The problem is solved with a leash. By the way, appearing with a dog without it in places not intended for walking is, in principle, illegal.
Walking on playgrounds
If you can find the least suitable place for walking, this is it. A sandbox is a bad choice for a dog's pee.
They do not remove excrement
There seems to be no need for long introductions here. Few people like to see feces, step in them with clean new shoes, or wash their children off dog poop.
Feeding stray dogs
You don't have to have a dog at home to harm others. You can do this in another way. Among animal lovers, there are those who help them and those who “help”. The first ones take dogs from the streets, sterilize them, give them to foster care and place them in good hands. They also organize or support animal shelters with rubles, work there as volunteers in their free time and generally do a great job.
The latter calm their conscience by taking scraps or cheap food into the yard. As a result, a pack of stray dogs gathers in the yard, unpredictable in their behavior and multiplying uncontrollably. It’s only worse when animals are fed not in their own, but in someone else’s yard.
Ancient law
But there is an infallible law - hatred begets hatred.
And our bad attitude towards people is reflected by a bad attitude towards ourselves. And our dislike and hatred comes back to us from those around us and, in fact, through other people we hurt and punish ourselves.
So, this is very important to understand and remember - through hating other people, we punish and hate ourselves.
Is it possible to rebuild? Is it possible to start living differently? Yes, you can. But first of all, you need to learn to love yourself, and then love for others will follow.
