Is teenage love dangerous and how to treat it? Some consider this feeling to be a real disaster in a child’s life, requiring immediate prevention or elimination. Others tend to consider teenage love an amazing period that leaves unforgettable pleasant emotions. How does it really happen, and is there any danger in such love?
Teenage love at 14
The feeling of falling in love is a mandatory stage that is associated with a person’s growing up. For some, these emotions remain warm and tender memories for the rest of their lives, while others are sad because the relationship did not work out. It also happens that teenage love develops into true love, which lasts for decades, or even a lifetime. They say about such people that they are real lucky ones.
Often, parents of teenagers begin to panic when they notice signs of falling in love in their child. This happens because people tend to forget about their past experiences. Of course, parents in such a situation can be perfectly understood. They tend to worry about the safety of their child. But we must try to understand him, since right now the teenager begins the process of gaining experience communicating with the opposite sex.
Exciting times
The Spectacular Now
- Drama, melodrama, comedy.
- USA, 2013.
- Duration: 99 minutes.
- IMDb: 7.1.
An impressive romantic story from the writers of “500 Days of Summer” starring Shailene Woodley (“Big Little Lies”), Brie Larson (“Room”), Mary Elizabeth Winstead (“Fargo”), Bob Odenkirk (“Better Call Saul”) and others .
High school seniors Sutter Keely and Aimee Fineck don't even know each other. And their first meeting takes place in the morning after a loud drinking session - a common thing for Sutter, who lives one day at a time. Amy is completely different. She is a good student and never participates in parties. Sutter decides to correct the latter and takes over her evening leisure for the remaining time before graduation.
You will definitely appreciate the bright acting and attention to detail, emphasizing the familiar inner portraits of the characters. If you enjoyed 500 Days of Summer, The Spectacular Now will not disappoint. The film wisely avoids the clichés of romantic melodramas and wins over the viewer with its emotional presentation.
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First love at 14 years old and its features
It is so arranged that the feeling of falling in love is built on instincts. The boy likes girls. And when he starts his first relationship, he is incredibly interested in it. The emotions received from communicating with the object of adoration resemble a state of mild euphoria. And I want to stay in it as long as possible.
Moreover, teenagers tend to love this state much more than the person who contributes to its development. This means that in order to prevent the loss of the feeling of “butterflies in the stomach,” a teenager tends to idealize his lover so that the relationship does not come to naught. This state of affairs is the absolute norm and almost everyone goes through it.
The Kissing Booth 2 (2020)
The latest release for 2021 is a continuation of the popular teenage melodrama in which high school student Elle Evans sorts things out with her childhood friend Lee Flynn and his older brother Noah. The couple in love spent a romantic summer, and in the fall Elle is forced to break up with Noah because of his departure to Harvard. The young people keep in touch online, and the schoolgirl is increasingly worried about the tangible presence of her beloved classmate Chloe in the life. But Elle herself has her eye on her new classmate Marco, dreaming of meeting him at the next charity “Kissing Booth.”
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Original title : The Kissing Booth 2 Actors : Joey King, Joel Courtney, Jacob Elordi... Country : UK, USA Rating : Kinopoisk - 6.5, IMDb - 5.9
Teenage love - hormonal changes
First love at the age of 14 often occurs due to the fault of biological processes in the body. During this period, teenagers tend to look closely at the opposite sex. Therefore, it is not surprising that it is at this age that the first love occurs.
Most schoolchildren are excited by the anticipation of this feeling. They don’t yet know when and where it awaits them, but they are really looking forward to it. Therefore, first love is very desirable and necessary for every person. Feeling teaches teenagers to worry, to experience passion.
Parents need to understand that if your child has not fallen in love or suffered from unrequited love, and also does not worry about the absence of this feeling, then this is not always good. After all, it is better to feel your first love at this age.
With love, Simon
Love, Simon
- USA.
- Drama, melodrama, comedy.
- Duration: 110 minutes.
- IMDb: 7.6.
Still from the movie "Love, Simon"
High school student Simon's life seems wonderful. He has a good family, school friends and authority in front of his classmates. But the hero does not dare to admit his homosexuality to anyone. One day, Simon starts chatting online with a stranger and falls in love. But soon their correspondence falls into the hands of a school bully.
This film was directed by famous screenwriter and producer Greg Berlanti. In it, he combined teenage drama with sweet, ironic moments. And later the serial spin-off “Love, Victor” was launched into production.
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Regarding boys
At the age of 14, girls already understand love as a feeling. And the boys, it would seem, behave absolutely illogically, and sometimes even very strangely. Initially, they tend to express their feelings rather rudely. The thing is that they do not yet know how to cope with these emotions and what happens to them. This is how love manifests itself at 13–14 years old.
Fear and inability to express their feelings can make them look quite stupid. They tend to pinch or push the girl they like or ask her a lot of stupid questions. Moreover, in front of his beloved, he can behave very defiantly, trying to attract attention or look like a real hero in her eyes. It’s also common for male teenagers to stare at the girl they like for a long time. Then approach her and “accidentally” touch her.
Chemical Hearts (2020)
17-year-old Henry Page is in a very romantic mood, having watched enough films about teenage love. However, the student devotes his own heart and his spiritual fervor to creating a school wall newspaper. When a new girl joins the editorial staff in his senior year, Henry decides that he has met the one and only one. But Grace is not pleased with the attention of her boyfriend, she is generally sad for the most part, avoids school parties and for some reason walks with a cane, limping. A young romantic will have to find out what tragedy of the past is gnawing at his beloved.
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Original title : Chemical Hearts Actors : Lili Reinhart, Austin Abrams, Sarah Jones... Country : USA Rating : Kinopoisk – 6.0, IMDb – 6.3 Age restrictions : 16+
What about girls?
While boys at the age of 14 may not yet understand love as a feeling, girls understand everything very well. Therefore, most people already know very well: if a boy pesters her, constantly looks at her and pesters her, then it is obvious that he has fallen in love. And girls, to whom boys do not pay attention, even if in a rather strange way, often get offended and feel deprived of attention. Often they themselves try to attract attention to themselves or provoke the guy they like to do this.
Sometimes it happens that a girl who is being actively courted by a guy responds by completely ignoring him. But at the same time, he does not give up, unconsciously leaving hope. But she continues to avoid communicating with him, because so far none of them understands how to behave in a state of love. There is also a lack of understanding of how to communicate about these feelings.
Often girls are very assertive in trying to please their lover. They laugh loudly in his presence and may call or tease the object of their adoration. Shy and modest girls tend to behave differently. They try to attract the attention of their lover with new clothes or hairstyle. They may also “accidentally” sit at the same desk with him during class.
With love, Rosie
Love, Rosie
- Melodrama, comedy.
- Germany, Great Britain, 2014.
- Duration: 102 minutes.
- IMDb: 7.2.
British romantic comedy starring Lily Collins (Okja) and Sam Claflin (The Hunger Games Catching Fire). Their characters, Rosie and Alex, are best friends from early childhood and one of the most touching and convincing couples on the big screen in recent years. However, the decision to pair up with others at the school prom forever ruins their joint plans.
After an accidental relationship with handsome young Greg, Rosie finds herself pregnant and not ready to accompany her lover on his move across the ocean. From now on, their lives move in completely different directions: Alex successfully enters a prestigious university, and Rosie is forced to overcome the difficulties of single motherhood.
Nevertheless, the separation does not break the connection between Rosie and Alex, and the story itself stretches for another decade. Love, Rosie is one of the most beautiful and heartfelt love stories with compelling acting and multi-faceted characters.
Even older
Love at the age of 14–15 takes on completely different forms. Teenagers are ready to speak openly among themselves. They already perfectly understand their feelings and are aware of emotions. At this age, stupid “tackles” in the form of pinching or loud laughter become inappropriate.
Girls and boys are seriously concerned about how to approach a person, as well as what topic to start a conversation on, so as not to seem boring or intrusive.
This is a very important stage in the development of a teenager, when he begins to realize that the person he likes may not be ideal. During this period, girls learn how to properly accept advances, and boys learn how to care.
The Perfect Date (2019)
A smart and ambitious American high school student could well count on entering Yale University, but Brooks has no money to study. Life itself suggested a way out of the situation. One day, a friend asks a teenager to accompany his sister to graduation, and Brooks copes with this mission with a bang. Having decided to put a paid service on stream, a young man, together with a programmer friend, creates an application for a smartphone, where rich girls can engage him to go to any event. Things are going brilliantly, but how can you not miss true love in a series of customers?
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Original title : The Perfect Date Actors : Noah Centineo, Laura Marano, Odiseas Georgiadis... Country : USA Rating : Kinopoisk – 6.1, IMDb – 5.8 Age restrictions : 16+
The benefits of teenage love
Some couples may last only a few weeks or months. But despite this, such relationships are already beneficial for both parties. In conditions of confidential contact, it is easier for people to recognize each other. They can share their fears, dreams and plans for life. In addition, there is a comparison with the experience of another person. And it is important to understand that without feelings such equivalent communication is simply impossible.
While in a relationship, a teenager learns:
- Talk not only about your hobbies and interests, but also listen to your interlocutor. And also give a huge amount of time to your partner so that he can speak out.
- They try not to overload each other with their problems and life troubles.
- Create a conversation in such a way that it becomes more confidential. To do this, questions are asked about possible problems and personal experiences.
- Learns to talk about feelings, and not just about current situations and events.
- And also smoothly move from conversation to hugs and kisses.
That is, a person in such a relationship tends to acquire many important skills that he will need throughout his life.
Submarine
Submarine
- Drama, melodrama, comedy.
- UK, USA, 2010.
- Duration: 97 minutes.
- IMDb: 7.3.
A stylish film adaptation of Joe Dunthorne's debut novel with very young actors in the lead roles. Unknown at the time, Craig Roberts and Yasmine Paige play a couple of classmates: Oliver and Jordan, who are going through many internal turmoil in the choppy waters of first love.
Oliver is a young intellectual who reads Nietzsche and is convinced of his own genius. And he faces two primary tasks: to save his parents’ marriage and to lose his virginity before his next birthday.
The visual appearance of rainy Wales in the 1980s and the thinking of the characters who are wise beyond their years invite direct comparison with the vibrant works of Wes Anderson.
State your feelings
How to confess your love to a girl at 14 years old? At this age, shyness takes over. This is often associated with the fear that the object of adoration may reject feelings. To overcome feelings of self-doubt, you need to think through the worst-case scenario.
Possible refusal options should be considered. And understand for yourself whether it will really be so scary to get rejected. Perhaps in your situation this will seem like a complete trifle, of which there can be many in life.
Of course, refusal is always painful and unpleasant to hear. Moreover, your feelings may end there. Sometimes teenagers tend to deceive themselves. It seems to them that they are afraid to confess their love. But in fact, behind this lies a reluctance to bother a person who most likely does not have mutual feelings.
It is important to understand the situation and understand that absolutely any reaction of this person does not depend solely on you. And accepting recognition or rejecting it is solely a choice of the individual based on her feelings and emotions. And it is unlikely that this decision will change radically after your confession. But until a teenager takes the first step to express his feelings, he will not know the answer to his question.
Now recognition can be done using instant messenger or social networks. In addition, you can do this anonymously. And then everything depends on the girl’s reaction.
To all the boys: PS I love you (2020)
The story from the first part about shy Lara Jean's love letters accidentally sent to recipients ended happily. School star Pete Kavinsky responded to the confession and began a whirlwind teenage romance with corresponding attributes like the first kiss and Valentine's Day. But Lara Jean is overtaken by another belated answer to the explanation, authored by 6th grade sweetheart John Ambrose McClaren. The girl realizes that she is still not indifferent to him, and in an interesting film about school love, the problem of choosing between two teenagers arises.
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Original title : To All the Boys: PS I Still Love You Actors : Lana Condor, Noah Centineo, Jordan Fisher... Country : USA Rating : Kinopoisk – 6.3, IMDb – 6.0
Can teenagers' love be called real?
You can often hear from psychologists that love at this age is only a rehearsal of a real feeling. Despite the fact that teenagers awaken the need to get closer and maintain relationships on a romantic note. In fact, for them their own interests and experiences always come first. Therefore, it is customary to say that schoolchildren are attracted not so much by a cute object of the opposite sex, but by the emotions received from the feelings that he experiences.
This stage of “love egoism” is a completely normal development process.
It should be noted that true love at 14 years old is quite rare. Most often, this age is typical for fleeting hobbies and short-term love. But this does not in any way affect the strength and quality of emotions that teenagers tend to experience.
Therefore, parents should not tell their children that this is all a temporary phenomenon that does not apply to true love. And also emphasize that such feelings do not arise at 14 years old and so on. In such a situation, you need to take your child's feelings seriously. But under no circumstances should you panic or sound the alarm, but try to support the teenager.
Casa Grande
Casa Grande
- Drama.
- Brazil, 2014.
- Duration: 115 minutes.
- IMDb: 6.9.
Brazilian drama about love, society and the difficulties of adolescence. The story is made up of many amazing, beautifully shot scenes depicting forbidden teenage love and the pain of falling down the social ladder.
The plot centers on young Jean, who is forced to adapt to new living conditions in a situation of almost complete ruin of his once wealthy parents. A new friend, Louise, whom he meets on public transport, helps him cope with this difficult period.
Parents' reaction
As you know, the feeling of falling in love affects almost all teenagers. And a rather difficult period begins for parents, because it is undesirable to interfere in this process. But despite this, it is necessary to remember that feelings can lead to sad consequences.
Trying to help, parents begin to actively ask the teenager about his personal life. The student, in turn, perceives this as an attack on his personal boundaries of freedom. Many conflicts arise on this basis, which are easier to prevent than to resolve later. Unable to withstand long resistance, parents begin to take extreme measures and forbid the child to communicate with the object of adoration. And in this situation, few people pay attention to the damaged relationship with their own child, believing that soon everything will get better on its own.
This is a rather difficult period for both the child and the parents. However, it is important to understand that parents must support their child. You can talk about your first love, share your opinion about the object of your child’s adoration, and it is also very important to let the teenager have his own experience. But all this should happen within reason, since the safety of your own child should be above all else.
Rock'n'rollers
Sing Street
- Musical, drama, comedy.
- Ireland, USA, UK, 2021.
- Duration: 106 minutes.
- IMDb: 7.9.
Conor Lawlor's parents from Dublin are on the verge of divorce. Due to financial difficulties, the teenager is transferred from a prestigious private school to a public school, where he encounters rudeness and ignorance. But soon Conor falls in love and, trying to conquer the girl, forms a rock band.
The film heavily references teen movie classics in the style of The Breakfast Club and other works by John Hughes. Fans of eighties pop culture will definitely like it.
Time Freak (2018)
A talented physics student was suddenly dumped by his girlfriend, breaking Stillman's heart. But the enterprising hero of the fantasy melodrama is not going to give up. With the help of his friend Evan, the physicist constructs a time machine to go back in time, correct his own mistakes in his relationship with Debbie, and bring her back. The idea is a success - the young inventors move back a year, but the adjustment of the past days leads to new trials that, instead of strengthening, can completely destroy both the romantic and friendly union.
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Original title : Time Freak Actors : Asa Butterfield, Sophie Turner, Skyler Gisondo... Country : USA Rating : Kinopoisk – 6.1, IMDb – 5.8 Age restrictions : 16+
Sierra Burgess: Loser (2018)
Sierra Burgess is on the list of the school's best students, but this circumstance does not add to her popularity. The excellent student does not have a bright appearance, as her spectacular classmate Veronica regularly reminds her of. Sierra tries not to react to ridicule, focusing on her main goal - getting into Stanford University.
Meanwhile, Veronica meets a charming student from a nearby school. Deciding to play a prank on her classmate, she gives Jamie Sierra's phone number. The guy starts communicating via SMS with Burgess, mistaking her for a bright beauty whom he recently met. Sierra understands the catch, but, having fallen in love by correspondence, she does not dare reveal the truth.
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Original title : Sierra Burgess Is a Loser Actors : Shannon Purser, Christine Froseth, RJ Cyler... Country : USA Rating : Kinopoisk – 6.4, IMDb – 5.8 Age restrictions : 12+
