Should you be the first to tell a girl that you like her?
Of course, if a certain girl arouses your sympathy, and you hope for reciprocal feelings, then tell her about it, show her in some way or hint. It is so customary that men often take the first step in expressing their feelings. Not all girls are ready to take the initiative in this regard, so even if the person who attracts you likes you, you may not even know about it until you yourself indicate your position in relation to her.
It is worth understanding that many girls were raised from childhood in such a way that it is unacceptable for them to be the first to show their sympathy to a guy. Perhaps she believes that by this act she will not show herself in the best light, because “decent girls do not impose themselves.” It may also be that she had a negative experience during her school years - she showed her sympathy, but did not achieve it in return. In any case, if you want to know for sure whether you have a chance of building a relationship with this girl, you should let her know that you care about her. You can determine for yourself how best to do this. Of course, the character of the girl, the duration of the acquaintance and many other factors matter.
Moreover, it is important to remember that girls love decisive guys, so even if she initially did not consider you as a potential partner, your confession may make her look at you from a completely different perspective.
We hint to her through compliments and expressions of sympathy.
A compliment is the simplest and most profitable step on the way to a girl’s heart, so you can come up with a huge variety of them, and the girl will always be pleased. The main thing is not to overdo it and not turn a compliment into everyday flattery.
If you want to conquer your beloved, you should learn how to give compliments correctly. You shouldn’t memorize them, and in order to impress a girl, don’t say obvious things, for example: “There is no one more beautiful than you in the world,” this is quite boring and everyone is already tired of it. Get creative with compliments:
- “Having traveled half the world, I have never met such a treasure in the world as you”;
- “Before our meeting, I was thinking about what to say to you, but when I saw your charming smile, I forgot all the words.”
Most importantly, remember to be sincere. If she realizes that you truly admire her, she will appreciate your persistence. And if you try to memorize the text, she will immediately understand it and get angry. You should not repeat compliments very often, let them become unexpected.
If you suddenly go too far and your girlfriend gets upset, ask her for forgiveness and that you didn’t mean to offend her.
There is no need for long sentences, speak briefly, clearly and your intonation should not let you down.
How to tell a girl how you feel
When you're really afraid to admit it
If you are afraid to admit your feelings and can’t do anything about this fear yet, then, apparently, you are completely unsure of exactly how the girl treats you. In this case, you should get closer to her to learn more about her and understand what your chances are of being together. It is better not to delay the process of rapprochement, so as not to move into the friend zone.
What you need to do for this:
- Be attentive to her - listen to what she says, ask leading questions.
- Take an interest in what she does in her free time, what her mood is, whether everything is okay with her - be sympathetic.
- Try to cheer her up more often - with jokes, smiles, and so on.
- Show interest in her personality - what she likes and what she doesn’t, what films she can recommend for watching, etc.
When she's your friend
Remember that friendships often make loving couples - perhaps the same will happen in your case! Many girls are secretly in love with their friends, but often try to overcome this feeling, fearing that it will not be mutual and that they will end up losing each other. However, even if this is not the case, your chances are very high, because if a girl is friends with you, then at least she likes you. You can start to get to the point by simply starting a conversation about what she generally thinks about friendship between a man and a woman, how common she thinks it is, and how good couples are made as a result of bringing such friends together.
It is worth noting that in fact, such unions often turn out to be stronger than others. Many people start relationships without really knowing each other, and then break up due to “surprises” revealed to them. Friends, in turn, as a rule, are already well aware of each other’s bad sides, and enter into romantic relationships already consciously.
When she loves another guy
The situation is quite difficult and by taking too drastic actions you can only cause harm. First, try to understand what kind of relationship connects the girl and her lover. If they are not a couple or he doesn't treat her very well in the relationship and she is suffering because of it, then your chances are very high. Try to be near her as often as possible, showing your clear advantages over the object of her affection. Be attentive to her, take an interest in her affairs, make surprises without hinting at a serious relationship. Most likely, if she gets more attention from you than from the guy she was originally interested in, her interest will be redirected to you.
When she said she liked me
In this case, it’s easiest to act, because the girl has already given you the green light. If you didn’t immediately get your bearings and didn’t admit your reciprocal sympathy, then don’t put it off until later. Call her, write or offer to meet her, admitting that you really like her too.
What to write to a guy after a quarrel to make him understand that I need him
Quarrels happen even between those people who cannot live without each other for a minute. Therefore, we need to look for ways to reconcile.
You can honestly admit your own guilt: “Forgive me. Talk to me. I need this so much” or call for mutual reconciliation: “Are we really going to allow our huge world to be destroyed because of minor differences? Let's forget everything and start over." But you shouldn’t limit yourself to correspondence. It is important to consolidate the relationship with a personal meeting.
Hints of liking a girl
Compliments about her taste and figure
Every girl loves compliments, even if she won't admit it. Usually girls are attentive to the choice of their clothes and hairstyle, and you can draw her attention to the fact that you notice this and admire her taste. For example, you can say that she has a funny T-shirt, a very nice dress, shiny hair, cool jeans, and the like. As a rule, girls like such words. Many representatives of the fair sex believe that they have a special eye color, and even if you don’t bark, still give the girl a compliment on this score: “You have such a beautiful and interesting eye color.” Make some comparison. If the eyes are green, then say that they have an emerald shine, if they are blue, compare them with the endless sea, yellow ones with a cat’s gaze, gray ones with an anxious sky on the eve of rain (specify that you like rain).
It is also important to note that many girls doubt their figure. however, if your chosen one is happy with her, then confirmation of her thoughts will only please her. A very thin girl does not need to say: “Oh, you need to eat more, otherwise the wind will blow you away,” instead say: “You are as fragile as Thumbelina! I like!". If a girl is inclined to be overweight, then on occasion note that she has an ideal figure. If a girl often goes to the gym, say that it’s noticeable, adding: “Guys are probably freaking out.”
Flowers and banal amenities
Probably all girls love flowers, and if someone doesn’t like bouquets, it’s only because they prefer flowers in pots rather than cut ones. Although some people, on the contrary, love bouquets, not finding the time or much desire to look after house plants. However, you will most likely find out about this circumstance after you hand over the flowers, unless you casually ask about it in advance. Girls also love various goodies - casually find out about her tastes either in personal communication, or by studying a page on a social network (often you can determine from the profile what exactly a particular person likes).
Write poems with a hint about love
If you do not have confidence in your own poetic abilities, then it is better to find a work by some classic - Asadov, Yesenin, Pushkin, Rozhdestvensky and so on. Let there be no more explicit declarations of love, but the topic should be close to that. You can send her the work by personal message via SMS or social network, commenting that you caught your eye today and really liked it. At a minimum, the girl will think that you are not alien to romance.
Invitation to the cinema or a cup of coffee
This is already a very radical step, and if in previous cases the girl may still doubt your sympathy, then after such an invitation even the most slow-witted one will suspect that you like her. Choose a cozy coffee shop where you can talk calmly. If you are not yet sure that, due to the feelings that have gripped you, you will be able to have a free conversation, then it is better to choose an art cafe where some musical groups perform. You can also invite a girl to the cinema for an interesting premiere.
SMS recognition
If you cannot decide to confess to a girl, although you assume that the feelings may be mutual, then an SMS message may be a way out of the situation. For some girls, this option is even preferable because... with “live” recognition, they are often lost and do not know how to react. In the case of a message, the girl will have the opportunity to think about her answer and approach it carefully. True, subsequently all important conversations with this girl, if you develop a relationship, are better to be conducted in person, so that she does not get the impression that you are afraid of any serious topics.
Selfless help
Help the girl without hinting at anything in return. Do it casually, as you would do it for a close relative or friend. Help can be very different. Perhaps she is late for somewhere and you have the opportunity to give her a ride. It is possible that she has problems with her laptop, and you could repair it and so on.
Let her know that she is the best
This can be done by commenting, for example, on some star (it is better to avoid comparisons with real acquaintances if they are not obvious enemies of the girl). For example, she is delighted with some actress - note that you will not understand what she sees in her. if she herself is much more beautiful. Or especially note her merits: “I’ve never met a girl who cooks so deliciously,” “You have the perfect height,” “It’s crazy what color your eyes are,” “You’re so graceful, you probably did ballet?” etc.
You can say “I love you” in other words or actions
There are many ways to show your chosen one how you feel. If you have a meeting in the cold season, or you work together, grab her a glass of her favorite hot drink. If she is sick, offer to bring her medicine or give her some fruit (you can also do it through a friend or courier): “Eat your vitamins, get better.” You can also send a bouquet of flowers by courier on any occasion or “Just for the mood.” Rest assured, such actions will most likely be appreciated.
Advice from psychologists
For a girl to pay attention to a guy, he needs to take care of himself. We are talking not only about his behavior, but about cleanliness and neatness. Before a date, be sure to tidy up your nails, hair, clothes and shoes.
You need to work on your intelligence and self-esteem. Girls prefer self-confident and intellectually developed men. Pleasant appearance will only affect the first impression, and later your mental abilities will also come in handy. A strong man who protects his companion, helps her in solving difficulties, keeps his promises, and will not leave his chosen one indifferent. Girls love optimistic guys who don’t whine that everything is bad for them, as well as generous, attentive and proactive guys.
Thus, to show a girl your interest, you need to be sincere, confident, and not be afraid of rejection. Hints should be used depending on the situation.
To gently hint at a relationship, you need
Explain why she is special and you need her
Make it clear that you don't just want a relationship with some girl, but that you are interested in her. Tell us what you like most about her, why you think your couple has a chance for a happy relationship. Tell her about when you first realized that you liked him, what exactly you felt. Girls especially like such stories.
Show how much a woman cares for you
It happens that words are not always enough, and many women no longer take words seriously. Therefore, do not neglect actions that could show her your true attitude towards her. Many men have forgotten what it means to “court” a woman, thereby increasing the “value” of those who still do it.
Induce her to have her first kiss
Most women believe that the beginning of a serious relationship is the first date or declaration of love, and the first kiss. If you bring your meeting to the point that it ends with the first kiss (you can do this when parting, walking your chosen one home), then it means that you were completely able to win her over.
Voice your desire that you want to see her next to you
Some women do not understand hints or do not want to take them seriously for fear of getting into an awkward position. Usually we are talking about adults, busy or business women who do not have time to “catch” your signals. In this case, it is best to say your feelings directly.
What to do if a girl refuses
In this situation, of course, you need to behave like a man - without making a scene, without insulting the girl and without making fun of her later in the company of friends. If you behave with dignity in this situation, then perhaps the girl will look at you from a completely different perspective and will soon want to be with such a balanced guy. If she refused, then simply say: “Well, then the topic is closed.” If you were on friendly terms before, then there is no need to avoid her now, act as if nothing happened, and do not return to this topic even with hints until she herself initiates such a conversation. If you haven’t communicated before, then just periodically congratulate her on the social network on the New Year, Birthday and March 8th, for example. If she becomes interested in you, she will somehow let you know about it.
