Ivan Vdovin
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I understand your feelings now, you sit and suffer and think about how to forget the girl you love, but she doesn’t see you? The world has turned upside down, I lived for her and there are no goals in life, I want to get drunk and forget myself. And advice from friends, like you’ll find something even better, doesn’t help, is that how it happens? That's exactly what happened to me.
You will suffer another time.
Still from the film “In Flight”
We don't know what happened to you. Perhaps this is a bitter separation due to the fact that she left for someone else, or unrequited love that you have been experiencing for a long time, or incompatible characters that do not allow you to be together.
Whatever it was, you were prepared to suffer, tear out your hair and complain to everyone about your difficult fate. However, all you need is to forget everything that happened and continue to breathe deeply, enjoying life in all its manifestations.
In this material we will tell you how to forget the girl you love. Naturally, it will not be easy, but with a serious approach you will succeed.
Stop loving a woman through the body
You might think that I would advise you to fuck everything that moves. It won't work. Sex is not a back-and-forth movement, but an emotional frenzy. Now your sensual part is clogged with your former passion. Towards new ladies you will be as cold as a corpse. The body will not give you the necessary hormones, or maybe the main caliber will not come into combat position at all. Lack of response to women will drop your self-esteem below the basement and you will rush to sob into your ex’s skirt. Drive away bad advisers - don’t run after new asses, they don’t heal.
Crying over your ex isn't that bad. You can smear the tears of love suffering on your cheeks - that means your hands are still able to move. Use movement as a source of emotion: start training. Run to the gym and work out until you get tired. Fatigue is your friend, it releases endorphins - internal painkillers that help you fall asleep.
Aching biceps is better than a broken heart
When my girlfriend left me, I moved my workouts to the time before bed, because I couldn’t fall asleep otherwise. Then I started eating - my overloaded body required nutrition. A little later, anger at the pitiful self gave rise to the first joy - sports results. Aching muscles also helped. A person can experience a limited amount of pain: the body gets tired and no longer allows the brain to suffer.
Stop following her
So, let's start with the basics, without which all further actions will be absolutely useless. If you want to truly forget her, start with your social networks. Unfollow her on Instagram, unfriend her on VKontakte, block her on Facebook, stop following her on Twitter, and finally, forget about her other pages.
Otherwise, you will become fixated on all her online activities. Every post she makes will seem like a reference to your relationship, every new like from some guy will seem like the beginning of her new relationship with someone else.
Subsequently, your paranoia will go so far that you will not be able to do your usual things and will be stuck at the screen of your gadget for a long time in endless worries.
Just unfollow her and that's it.
Stop loving a girl using new emotions
Body dependence is not the basis, otherwise you would consider everyone you slept with as an ex. In such a situation, all men would do is take a taxi to different addresses with bouquets in their hands. Butterfly girls, fluttering around their partners like flowers in a meadow, would be delighted with such an amount of attention. Unfortunately for them and fortunately for us, a person falls in love with emotions, and not with specific parts of the body or their combinations. More often they remember not sex with their beloved, but moments of tenderness, common adventures and cozy evenings watching a TV series.
Sniffles again? Blow your nose, go to the gym and return to the article. If you’re too lazy to exercise, you can run and howl under her window. The girl will hear the love songs of the abandoned dog, remember why she abandoned you and treat you with a bucket of slop on your head. Streams of selected shit flowing down your cheeks will sober you up and help you perceive information more carefully.
Anger as a cure for love
Now is the time to remember Vasily: the emotion of anger towards your ex will give you the strength to switch to your own life. Don’t get carried away by fantasies about their horizontal games, otherwise you’ll have to run to the gym a second time. Concentrate on understanding that a woman is enjoying life while you are suffering. When you understand that suffering is your choice, find an opportunity to receive emotions from another source.
If you want to stop loving your ex, change your environment
It is not necessary to move to another city, change job, business and gender. Changing gender is a bad idea now: yes, you can whine like a girl, but to be a woman you need other qualities. Moving and sudden changes will help, but many are not ready for this.
Start with simpler things: go to a friend’s village, chop wood, help fix the roof. Talk to your friend and other loved ones about fishing, games, types of eggplants, but not about your ex. Avoid the topic of relationships, otherwise you will become a ninny and, in addition to the girl, you will also lose a friend. The next step is to go to the river, ride a boat, ATV or snowmobile - feel the drive.
If you don’t have a friend, but you have money, go on a trip. The brain remembers only bright emotions, and from the bright ones it selects the more recent ones. Take the process seriously: fill your life with positive emotions every day and every hour. An hour or even a minute without thinking about the past is a victory. When sadness comes, get angry: she allows herself to enjoy life with or without Vasily. Why are you worse?
You went on a trip around the world, but you continue to write messages to your girl every day that she ignores? There will be no result. Exhausting yourself with training and finding new emotions are two parts of the three puzzle. The third point is your thoughts. While your head is looking at the past, you will not see a happy future.
Start working
“I’m already working like that, geniuses”
, - you will think and you will be right. However, we mean real immersion in the work process, a sharp shift in your priorities towards your career.
Ask for more responsibilities at work (maybe you might even get promoted), try to acquire new career goals, achieve something you haven’t achieved before. In short, channel all your frustrated energy into your career. This way you will think about her much less, and maybe even forget about her.
Take off your rose-colored glasses
Many people, after breaking up with loved ones, have an irresistible urge to idealize and romanticize their past, believing that it was the best relationship of their lives. We have no doubt that you had some great times together, but be honest with yourself and admit that not everything was always smooth sailing.
So take your gadget or a piece of paper (if that's more convenient for you) and make a list of things that annoyed you about your ex. Also, do not forget to write down all the cases of your quarrels and disagreements.
Now you have a tool that will help you come down to earth whenever you want to remember how perfect your relationship was.
Just re-read it at such moments.
What is falling in love? What happens to us after a breakup?
Falling in love is directly related to body chemistry. When a person falls in love, his body releases “love hormones” in large quantities - endorphin, oxytocin, vasopressin, phenylethylamine and seratonin. These are chemical compounds that produce an analgesic effect, strengthen the immune system and, most importantly, give feelings of happiness and joy that we feel as love.
When parting with a loved one, a reverse chemical process occurs. The level of serotonin decreases - depression and apathy occur. Endorphin, which previously reduced any pain, is also not enough and acute mental pain occurs - the pain of separation .
Gradually, after some time, the body will return to normal . Remembering our affections ten years ago, we only smile. The same will happen with current attachments after some time. Over time, new sources of joy will appear.
As they say: “Time is the best medicine.”
To speed up your recovery from a failed relationship, you need to follow these tips.
No more random encounters (with her)
Just because you know where she works, where she goes on weekends, who she communicates with, and how she likes to spend time in the evenings, this does not mean that you need to use this information.
You shouldn’t think that if you allegedly accidentally walk near her place of work, she will notice you and understand how wrong she was, after which she will rush into her arms to ask for a reunion.
Most likely, you will meet, exchange some routine remarks, create a tense environment for each other, and after all this she will still think that you are desperate and will want to see you even less.
Keep busy2
And they are so busy that they have no energy left for anything. And even more so for a melancholic mood with sad melodies. Have you long dreamed of mastering a new profession? Great! Now is the time. Or maybe a new gym has opened near your home? Well, a great reason to get your body in order. Have you ever gotten around to renovating your apartment? Guess what you will do next. It doesn’t matter at all what you do - it will still only benefit you. In addition, it has long been proven that during physical work a huge amount of endorphins is released. And they can significantly reduce your heartache from breaking up.
Speak out
If you've been bottling up your feelings about your breakup for a long time, it's time to let them out. To do this, you can invite your best friends to a bar, tell them everything you think about your failed love, scream a little, drink a lot (just don't overdo it), and then wake up the next day feeling like a reborn person.
Naturally, in order to completely move away from bitter thoughts, a person needs time. Allow yourself to grieve a little, just don't fall into a depressed state and be able to throw out your emotions at the right time.
Is it possible to start a new relationship if you still have feelings for your ex?
There is nothing wrong with being alone for a while in order to digest the experience that you had and come to your senses a little. But the decision to start a new relationship in defiance of the old one is not an environmentally friendly position. It does not lead to a rethinking of what happened. Therefore, it is better to calmly evaluate everything that happened, weigh it all, and not immediately look for a new novel. Because in this case, the likelihood that you will find a person who will behave differently in a relationship is extremely small.
You need to realize why you need to enter into a relationship right away - is it the fear of loneliness, the fear that no one needs you? Analyze your feelings, try to understand where this fear comes from.
However, know when to stop.
Everything in this life should be in moderation, even grief over your unhappy relationships. Therefore, if you think too much and tell everyone about your problem, you can become seriously obsessed with it.
You can talk about it endlessly, but it won't change anything. At some point, it turns out that you are simply replaying negative memories in your head and sharing them with others. Again and again.
In this case, it is better to take positive action and finally let go of the past.
You do not feel LOVE when parting, but fear of loneliness or betrayal.
Many people confuse suffering with the feeling of love, but this is not so. You feel inner pain due to betrayal, disappointment or fear of rejection.
Then everything can develop into stress, depression, as well as loss of health. The worst thing is if you lose interest in the relationship altogether.
The only thing that can quickly bring back the taste of life is to neutralize negative emotions and let go of the situation.
In 30 minutes we will find all the negative emotions that prevent you from letting the girl go and solve them so that they no longer bother you.
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Stop biting yourself
Don't blame yourself for the fact that you still can't get rid of thoughts about your ex. Don't blame yourself for not following our advice, for checking her Instagram to see how she's doing. You shouldn’t blame yourself for the fact that you’ve already hung around her favorite cafe several times, hoping to meet her.
Being angry with yourself in such cases is not the most productive feeling. It prevents you from forgetting your ex-girlfriend and moving towards a new life in which many interesting events and people await you.
If at the moment you are having trouble coming to terms with the thought of a breakup, remember that time is the best healer of broken hearts. Therefore, continue to live your own life, reflect (but without fanaticism), mind your own business and at some point you will realize that you cannot remember the last time you thought about your ex.
- Author: Dmitry Petrosyants
How to forget the girl you love, advice from a pickup artist.
In our society, it is customary to have a negative attitude towards men, “ladiesmen” and other womanizers. Probably out of envy or something else. But, pick-up artists are not there to seduce you for the sake of stupid sex, perhaps this is the case at the very beginning, but by going through many girls you meet the one with whom you spend the rest of your life. I have many friends who are former pick-up artists and their relationships are very good, they have families and children.
Unlike men who don’t meet many girls, they are shy and feel insecure. They are precisely the ones who suffer because the girl does not accept their love.
Here the advice will be very simple, the more you communicate with girls, the more confident you become and the more self-confidence, the more girls want to communicate with you as a man. And there will be no self-pity about being abandoned or not being loved and other negativity. Everything will be fine.
In short, everything is simple, meet more girls on the street, and if you are shy, then sign up for pickup training.
