The reaction to a situation where a guy slaps a girl on the butt can be radically different. Some ladies like this gesture, others perceive it as an insult towards them. And only experienced men know how to make touching a girl’s buttocks give her pleasure. In turn, experts name a number of reasons why girls love to be spanked on the butt.
And men themselves, for the most part, have a weakness for such games with their partners, regularly patting her buttocks even just like that, without sexual overtones. Psychologists are ready to name reasonable reasons for such a weakness of men for the buttocks and the ambiguous reaction of girls to this from the point of view of the subconscious and the nature of the human body.
About how to do it
Butt spanking is also called spanking. One of the best poses for him is over the knee. It is intimate and makes the person being spanked uncomfortable. This is where the game comes in.
Before spanking the butt, you need to make sure that all rings and bracelets are removed from your hand. Otherwise, there will be no talk of any pleasure - these parts can cause a lot of pain, scratch, and leave bruises on the body.
It is important to warm up your buttocks before starting spanking. If you start hitting them right away, the reaction will be negative. Instead, you need to massage the area that will be hit. A characteristic pink color should appear on the skin.
Preparation for spanking3
The introduction of spanking into the intimate life of a couple is preceded by proper preparation of the surrounding space for this process. The overall impression and mood depend on this.
First, you need to turn off your phone so as not to be distracted by calls or messages, which can cause irritation or negatively affect the degree of passions.
Secondly, remove all jewelry from your hands: rings, watches, bracelets. It is unlikely that anyone will be pleased to hit their delicate skin with them.
Third, prepare additional tools. Of course, you may mostly only be using your hands, but different objects give different sensations. Perhaps you will like something. Try whips, belts, canes or combs, rulers, wooden spoons.
Attention! The tougher you choose the object for spanking, the more careful your actions should be. Otherwise, you will not avoid injuries, bruises or scratches.
By the way, you can add blindfolds or a gag to your sex game to add a little variety. However, if you use a gag, verbal communication will become impossible. Then you will have to agree on a non-verbal form of the safe word.
About the reaction
For everything to go well, it is important to monitor your partner’s reaction. You need to see whether she likes what is happening or not. If you hear squeaking or giggling, you need to increase the pressure. If the “victim” dodges, this is the norm.
You need to hit the lower part of the buttocks, you can hit the thighs, but you shouldn’t hit higher, in the area of the kidneys. It would be too much.
Under no circumstances should you “stick” your hand. This is a fairly common mistake among men - when they hit the buttock, for some reason they hold their hand on it. The hand should bounce off it, as if it were being struck with a whip.
There is no need to spank all the time - you need to give the “victim” time to rest. It's important for her to take a breath. In addition, it provokes anticipation, which will make the process more enjoyable. But don’t delay – pauses should be short. It is best to give 5 spanks, and then stroke and massage the buttocks, you can penetrate between them with your fingers.
Nothing turns you on more at this moment than dirty talk. For example, the “top” can praise the “victim” for his patience, or even better, remind him why the “victim” gets it. It is best if this is not a real offense, but a game situation. Alternatively, you can say: “Did you understand everything?” It is important that the questions do not require detailed answers from the “victim”.
Smooth intro5
Before you start spanking, you need to first prepare your body. Massage it in circular motions to warm it up. Otherwise, spanking may be too painful and, as a result, very unpleasant. Do not forget to caress the buttocks, kiss them, smoothly moving on to more serious manipulations. Start with light spanking to increase circulation and relax muscles. This will allow you to get a pleasant feeling.
Try not to overdo it. Too fast movements and strong pressure can ruin all the pleasure from the process.
Now let's talk about which area should be flogged. The buttocks are considered the most convenient place for spanking. They have a fairly strong fat layer, while being highly sensitive due to numerous nerve endings. In addition, the butt is an erogenous zone for many people. Therefore, if you stick to the most “meaty” part of the butt when spanking, the likelihood of injury is extremely low, and experiencing pleasure is quite possible.
About aggression
There is a taboo on aggression in society. This is a condition for survival, but it also applies to games. Not everyone admits to the need to inflict or experience pain for sexual satisfaction. People are afraid of their partner’s reaction—condemnation. However, in the intimate sphere, social rules cease to apply. There, the partners come up with the rules themselves. Each couple has their own sexual script. What outsiders would condemn can bring true pleasure to both.
Many human fantasies need not only fulfillment, but also attention. By ruling or submitting, attacking, inflicting pain or receiving it, a person finds ways to experience real delight.
Why is this needed?2
Even the best at sex can fall into a stagnant routine. Nature loves variety. There are many ways that people engage in hobby activities for fun. We all have unique erotic preferences. It is only natural that adding spanking, biting, grabbing or tying will lead to a certain effect.
It increases intimacy. Sharing new experiences with your partner will organically bring you closer. Whether it's a new restaurant or getting a little kinky in the bedroom, you're creating new sexy memories together that you'll eventually bond over.
One study even found that couples who engage in BDSM had an actual hormonal response, resulting in feelings of increased levels of intimacy after the act. While we don't suggest going out and buying whips and chains at your local sex shop, light BDSM is worth a try.
Girls' reaction
When understanding what a slap on the butt means for a girl, you need to take into account many factors. Her reaction will depend on who does it, how and under what circumstances. Properly executed spankings can terribly excite a woman, or they can cause irritation and an irresistible desire to hit a man in the head in response.
We must remember that women do not like it when a man spanks them on the butt in front of strangers. This causes irritation and a desire to fall through the ground. This may provoke a negative reaction and certainly will not arouse one.
But if a spanking is used as a prelude to private caresses, it can be enjoyed. But even at the same time, you need to calculate the strength, doing it moderately softly. After all, excessive pain simply blocks arousal.
At the same time, we must remember that women's sexual preferences may be different. According to women's reviews, some do not like spanking on the butt as a prelude to sex: they perceive it as something humiliating. Before spanking a woman, it makes sense to familiarize yourself with her reactions to understand how sexually constrained she is. As a rule, the more complexes a person has, the less experiments and liberties he accepts in bed.
According to official research, women derive pleasure from the awareness of male power, and spanking in sex allows them to fill this need. Thanks to such actions, they feel the dominance of a man. Sometimes this is exactly what they lack in reality.
In addition, there is evidence that when spanked on the butt, women's internal muscles work in such a way that they enhance the pleasure of sex. But spankings performed incorrectly or at the wrong time will only cause ordinary pain, and nothing else.
Spanking: rules and tips2
If you have never practiced BDSM before or do not have enough experience in this matter, first familiarize yourself with some aspects of the practice before submitting your butt to “torture” or unexpectedly spanking your partner.
Discuss this topic with your partner Communication is fundamental to all BDSM practices. Before you start spanking, you need to find out if your sexual partner is ready to do it.
If he is inclined towards more tender and sensual sex, you will need twice as much time for preparation. Start a conversation with him about your sexual fantasies and tell him how you would like to try it with him.
If your partner likes to experiment in bed and is open to everything new, you can safely invite him to spank you.
The main rule: you can start spanking only after receiving consent and establishing the basic rules of the game.
- Security code word
“Is it necessary for spanking?” - you ask. "Necessarily!" - we will answer. A safe word signals the spanking person to stop playing.
A safety word can be funny and original, it doesn't have to be related to sex. Let’s say that upon hearing “Pineapple!”, your partner will immediately understand that he needs to stop.
Many couples choose the traffic light system:
- Green = I like it! Keep up the good work!
- Yellow = OK, but don't escalate the spanking. Or I'm approaching the limit, slow down.
- Red = Stop! Stop!
In this case, the dominant one must obey the words he hears and immediately respond to them.
Tip: If your partner does not respond to the safety word, you should not continue playing with him. In BDSM, first of all, there must be respect on both sides.
- When does it hurt?
Did you get a dominant role? Wonderful! The main thing is not to focus only on the fifth point of your partner, observe the reactions of his body. Is he squirming with pleasure or maybe he is in pain?
The perception of pain is very individual, so you will need some time to find out your partner's pain threshold and become familiar with his reactions. It is best to ask clarifying questions at first, when you are not yet sure:
- Everything is fine?
- Do you like it?
- Do you want it softer or harder?
Remember, communication is key in any relationship. You can completely freely discuss with your partner what you like and what you don't.
Erotic spanking act6
Are your buttocks warm and red? It's time to start tough manipulations.
- Hand position
Palms open, fingers together; palms open, fingers spread; fingers gathered into a fist - all this creates different sensations. Some of them may be nicer than others. Monitor your partner's reactions and act accordingly. If everything is fine, increase the speed; if he flinches and tries to dodge, slow down. The main thing is that you remember the security code word.
- Hard spanking
One of the common mistakes made by beginners during spanking is the “sticking” of the palm to the place where the blow was made. This is very unpleasant and painful. The hand should slap and immediately bounce off the surface of the skin, like a whip.
- Other sensations
Remember that you don't have to spank all the time. Take a break periodically to rest and catch your breath. During this time, you can stroke the buttocks, tickle them, pinch them, run a feather over them, or play with the anus. If you are using a spanking comb, turn it over with the bristles facing up and brush it over your skin. Vivid sensations are guaranteed.
- Rhythm
Imagine that you are playing the drum. Alternate fast and slow blows, this way you will keep your partner in suspense and prevent him from relaxing.
Attention! Constantly monitor your partner's reaction. Determine what he likes best and continue in that direction.
Is injury always
“Children are different,” says Kristina Odegova, “there are vulnerable ones for whom any physical impact will be perceived as a universal catastrophe. And there are those who are lively, prone to aggression, for whom a spanking will not be something very important, since they themselves can slap the offender in the sandbox or in the kindergarten.
I want to make a reservation right away: I am strictly against any corporal punishment. This is dishonest, always degrades personal dignity and, most importantly, never brings results. The child will begin to be afraid, become embittered, close himself off and, possibly, retain this trauma for the rest of his life. At the same time, the picture of the child’s behavior and his actions will not change. This is worth remembering. Yes, the parent will let off steam - but this is also ineffective, not to mention harmful to family relationships.
By the way, parental aggression is always passed on to children. Therefore, they get even more uncontrollable behavior from the child.”
The consequences of physical punishment in different children
The cumulative consequences depend on the complete innate set of vectors. For example:
Holders of the visual vector have a huge emotional range. Their moods are changeable, tears are close to them. If you physically punish such children, they suffer from fears and phobias, become hysterical and anxious.
Those with the sound vector are self-absorbed; they are natural introverts. Adults can get upset when such kids simply don’t hear them, and they have to repeat everything over and over again. When a sound artist loses his sense of security and safety, he withdraws even deeper into himself. Up to loss of contact with the outside world and mental illness (schizophrenia, autism). He is especially affected by the screaming that often accompanies punishment. It causes irreparable damage to the psyche due to the special sensitivity of the little sound player’s ears.
Slow, thorough carriers of the anal vector are by nature the most obedient and loyal daughters and sons. But when they grow up in a rhythm that is uncomfortable for themselves (they are rushed, interrupted, pushed on), then they can be stubborn, touchy, and argumentative. And for this reason they fall under the hot hand of adults. With physical punishment, they develop a very difficult life scenario: resentment towards their mother. And already an adult sees the whole world in black: he is offended by everyone, thinks that he has not been given enough, is not respected, is not appreciated.
Any child receives psychological trauma from beating. Modern children have a much larger psyche than the previous generation. And the susceptibility to any influence is much subtler. So is it okay for parents to hit their children? Just know that today beaten children are the killed future.
Why doesn't the baby listen?
Psychologists have identified several reasons for children's disobedience. These include:
struggle for self-affirmation; way to attract attention; desire to contradict; feeling of uncertainty; inconsistency in education; excessive demands on the baby.
The feeling of uniqueness is inherent in all people, however, over time it can disappear. By the age of one year, the baby recognizes himself as a person who has his own opinion and position. It’s the adults who perceive him as a baby, but not he himself! This is where many children's whims and misunderstandings take their roots.
If a toddler lacks attention, he finds a way to influence adults - disobedience. A very effective way! Doing the opposite is also one of the methods of influencing a child on his parents. The reasons for this behavior may be resentment or lack of parental attention.
A feeling of self-doubt arises due to the constant tugging of the baby and irritation of parents at the slightest provocation. The little man is simply trying to defend himself and stops perceiving the mother’s constant tugging and abstracts himself.
Unsystematic upbringing occurs when a child has a lot of educators - mothers and fathers, grandmothers and grandfathers, uncles and aunts. Each of the educators has his own ideas about proper upbringing, which may contradict the ideas of other family members. This style can be called “swan, crayfish and pike”. The kid simply doesn’t know what to do: some praise him, others punish him.
Some parents make simply impossible demands on the little person. This usually happens with authoritarian parents who elevate their word and power to absolutes. No one listens to the child, no one is interested in his condition - they just demand. If you do not comply with the requirement, punishment follows. Being in such an atmosphere is extremely difficult even for adults, not to mention children.
