Every first popular sexologist wrote an article or published a book on the topic: “How to please a woman and make her run after you with a mattress?” Men, unfortunately, rarely become the central figures of such essays, and the study of their psychological and sexual preferences ends with compiling a list of recommended gifts for February 23. But in vain...
A woman is the keeper of the home - this is an axiom. But few people think that the fire of passion must be maintained in a man. Your director, teacher, salesman, security guard - whatever he may be! - your man always remains a little boy who really needs female affection and love.
Before we popularly analyze what kind of caresses a man likes, let’s talk a little about male and female psychology.
A gentle woman is a satisfied man
Harmony in the home is a clear sign of happiness. Only happy people are able to experience love, and only they can give it. Women's caresses are a clear sign for a man that the lady is happy, which means he is great and does everything as it should! Drawing an analogy, we can say that caresses are a reward for the male for calmness and pleasure. It is important for every woman to know what kind of caresses a man likes in order to let her partner know: you are the best!
When talking about them, many people have lustful images from German short films pop up in their heads. However, for a man, unlike women, non-verbal bodily contact: hugging, kissing, stroking the wrist, etc. is already affection.
In this regard, it is quite logical to divide them into “daily”, which are appropriate to give to a partner in everyday life, and “intimate”, which stimulate a man to passionate sex.
How to properly excite a woman?
Correct foreplay technique is one of the main conditions for achieving orgasm in the fair sex. Common mistakes men make during foreplay are:
- Short duration of foreplay; · Haste (when the partner strives to quickly complete the “obligatory program” and go directly to coitus); · Sharpness and roughness of movements (too intense stimulation of the clitoris, careless handling of nipples, etc.); · Delaying preludes to sex (the other extreme, when a monotonous long foreplay, instead of increasing excitement, causes a gradual cooling of the partner).
Ideal foreplay is a different concept for everyone. However, even passionate, sensual women require preliminary stimulation for even greater arousal. The man’s movements should be gentle, smooth and light.
To properly prepare your partner for sexual intercourse, you should not rush. The effort expended will definitely pay off later.
Despite the fact that each woman’s preferences in the matter of caresses are individual, there are certain rules that will help to please your partner even before sexual intercourse begins.
Their implementation can begin from the moment when both partners are left in bed in their underwear.
Rule 1
You need to start foreplay with light stroking of your arms, shoulders, and neck. Many women find it very arousing to have their hair combed with their fingers. Stroking should accompany kisses on the lips and neck. Most of the fair sex will appreciate tickling your earlobe with your tongue. Then you should slowly lower yourself to your partner’s feet and do a light massage of the legs, combined with kissing the toes.
Rule 2
Having finished caressing your feet, you need to return to your face, décolleté and, slowly, remove your bra. Unbuttoning this item of clothing should be accompanied by stroking the back. Now that the breasts are exposed, you can begin to stimulate them. There is no need to rush and move straight to the nipples. A greater effect will be achieved by gradually moving your lips from the outside of the chest to the inside. After slightly delaying the process, you can move on to the nipples.
Rule 3
The next stage will be a smooth descent to the abdomen and kissing the inner thighs (without touching intimate places).
Rule 4
Now you can take off your panties. This should be done slowly: first lower them a little, caress the pubic area, then remove them completely.
Rule 5
When the woman is completely undressed, you can begin caressing the intimate areas. The main condition is to move from outside to inside. Next you need to look at your partner’s reaction. It is not recommended to stop foreplay before such strong arousal occurs that she makes it clear with all her appearance that she cannot stand it anymore (the reaction depends on the woman’s temperament).
What kind of caresses does a man like in everyday life?
A study conducted by Psychological Science showed that a man is more willing to show competitive qualities if his partner is present at the games. Encouraged by their chosen ones, they show outstanding results that they could not achieve before.
This fact clearly demonstrates: tactile contacts (hugs, kisses), as well as gentle words of support, are extremely important for men in everyday life. Do not belittle the importance of such simple caresses as:
- tying a tie (caring plus tactile contact);
- farewell hugs and kisses (tactile contact and competitive fervor for the entire working day);
- encouraging words that your man is the best, etc.
In order for the blood to rush to the head and he can take a responsible approach to work, these caresses are quite enough. Leave the most “delicious” for the evening, namely, the coveted intimate caresses.
Foreplay for a man
Despite the widespread belief that only women need foreplay, the use of caresses for the stronger sex also significantly improves the quality of intimacy. According to sexologists, every man secretly expects additional caresses from his partner.
It is not necessary to accompany every sexual intercourse with such stimulation if there are no problems with arousal and erection. However, periodic use of foreplay will pleasantly diversify sex and add passion to it.
Stage 1
Massage is a wonderful relaxing and stimulating procedure that allows you to open many previously unknown erogenous zones on the body of your beloved man and relieve fatigue after a working day. You should start with a back and shoulder massage. The palms and feet have great erogenous potential.
From the feet you can smoothly rise to the buttocks and inner thighs.
Stage 2
For a greater stimulating effect, lips should be added to the influence of the hands. Touching various parts of the body with your bare breasts will have a wonderful effect, especially if it is accompanied by kisses. After warming up, you can lower your tongue just below the navel. The lower abdomen is one of the most powerful erogenous zones on a man’s body.
What kind of caresses do men like in bed?
As John Gray narrates in his book “Man is from Mars, Woman is from Venus,” sometimes a man and a woman do not understand each other at all, as if they live on different planets. But, despite this, everyone likes intimate caresses the same. When trying to make a man feel good in bed, think about what you like.
Erogenous zones in men are located throughout the body:
- Face.
- Head.
- Neck.
- Breast.
- Hips.
- Legs.
- Hands.
- Fingers, etc.
This list can be continued endlessly... However, in order not to rack your brains about where your man’s “responsive” erogenous zone is, please your partner in accordance with the “recommendations” for his zodiac sign.
Why is foreplay needed?
According to statistics from sexologists, sexual intercourse lasts on average 2 minutes 20 seconds. The average duration of sex with foreplay is 4 minutes. These data show that foreplay takes just over one and a half minutes. For the strong half of humanity, 2-3 minutes of additional stimulation of erogenous zones is enough to not only get aroused, but also achieve a full erection before coitus.
The situation is different with the fair sex: in women, arousal does not grow as rapidly as in men, so most of them need more time to prepare for intimacy. During foreplay, physiological changes occur that make sexual intercourse more comfortable for both partners.
Foreplay promotes the production of the hormone dopamine, which tunes you to an intimate wave and relieves anxiety. Increasing arousal stimulates the release of natural lubrication in women and changes the shape of the vagina, making it narrower.
Thanks to this process, stimulation of the penis during coitus is more intense, which allows the man to get more pleasure.
There is an increase in blood flow to the erogenous zones, as a result of which the clitoris enlarges and the nipples harden. In the stronger sex, during foreplay the level of arousal increases significantly, which is felt not only in the genitals, but throughout the whole body. The scrotum contracts and the muscles relax.
Receptors become more sensitive to touch. The need for public relations should be assessed not only from the physiological side, but also from the emotional side. The desire to give each other pleasure brings partners together, makes their connection stronger and adds an element of romance to the usual sex.
Affectionate men of the element Water
Gentle and vulnerable Cancers love soft touches. Stroke Cancer in the solar plexus area - exciting energy will cover him. Kiss the nipples - your partner will instantly become turned on. This is the kind of caresses the Cancer man loves - a little strange, but extremely exciting.
Scorpios are the most impatient. Their favorite caresses are stimulation of the genitals. If your man was born under the sign of Scorpio, then, without hesitation, move on to dessert, namely, start oral sex. The perineal area, anus and penis - pay attention to each of its organs.
Pisces, surprisingly, have the most sensitive organ - their legs. Cold and slippery Pisces will fulfill your every desire, including your most secret fantasy, if you give them a foot massage. Your Fish will turn into gold if you add caress to your back and lower back to the massage.
Can foreplay harm a relationship?
Regardless of the time of day (morning or night caresses), circumstances (in bed, in the car, in any other place), age (for young girls or older guys), the stage of the relationship (recent or long), foreplay in intimate life is important and necessary for both partners. Its only disadvantage is the difference in how much caressing time a man needs and how much his lady needs.
If a man gets too carried away with satisfying and preparing his partner, his erection may simply subside during sex. Therefore, it is important for both to feel each other’s body reactions in order to get as excited as possible and begin the main action in a timely manner. Foreplay does not entail any other harm.
The most favorite caresses among men: opinions of partners
But it’s no secret what kind of caresses men love more. Whether your partner is a gentle Cancer, a pedantic Taurus or an eccentric Gemini, caresses of intimate organs will be the most desired of all! Reviews from girls and men confirm this truth.
As practice shows, not a single male refuses soft stroking of the penis, gentle touching it with hands or mouth. As for the “methodology” of caresses, opinions differ here - many people like fast movements, while others like to savor slow and languid touches. The main thing is that they are gentle, there are no jerks or rough movements.
Extremely beneficial for men’s health is caressing the “G” spot, which is located 5 cm from the sphincter. If your partner is relaxed and your relationship is at the proper level, massage his prostate and G-spot with your finger, penetrating the anus. For shy young people, “G” stimulation from the outside is suitable - massage, lightly pressing with your finger, the perineum between the scrotum and anus. As practice shows, the second method is more acceptable for the stronger sex.
But don’t get hung up on other people’s opinions and recommendations. Talk to your partner, be interested in his desires, try different caresses. And rest assured, a man is ready for anything for an attentive and affectionate woman, even for a new mink coat in the hot summer!
How to become the one and only for a man
In the age of the Internet, it is not difficult to find an object for dating. And so the man doesn’t go to the steam room with the men, but hurries to go on a date with the woman. It is important how the first meeting goes and whether it turns into a full-fledged date.
A popular proverb says: “You are greeted by your clothes, but you are seen off by your mind.” No matter what contemporaries say, but it works, the first impression depends on it, and whether further relationships will be built.
Important! Psychologists call this the “first impression effect.” Its duration is only a few minutes. In the first seven seconds, a quick superficial perception of a new person occurs; in subsequent minutes it is consolidated.
A man by nature is a male, a hunter and a conqueror. He himself chooses the object he likes for courtship and future relationships. This is one of the tasks facing a woman - to become an object of courtship. Depending on the goal that the lady pursues when attracting a man, she should look charming and behave appropriately at the first meeting.
Attention! Clothing should be appropriate for the time of day and meeting place. If the date takes place in a cafe, then the outfit can be without any special frills. For a restaurant, evening dress is preferred.
To seduce and drive a man crazy, a woman's clothing should:
- emphasize the advantages of the figure (tight clothes) and hide flaws (loose-fitting clothes);
- have mandatory cuts that, when moving, will expose areas of the body or reveal underwear (stockings, bra);
- stand out with colors that attract attention: red or black.
The lingerie that a man will see must have lace - it looks exciting.
By the way! The main task solved with the help of clothing is the creation of a sexual image that should be fixed in the mind of a man.
When choosing a hairstyle, girls can be guided by the following:
- hair length is selected according to the shape of the face and the size of the ears;
- Hair color can be in harmony with skin and eye color.
In any case, the hair should be styled and have a healthy shine. Chemically burned blue hair with split ends is unlikely to impress a man.
Makeup is the “war color” of a woman’s face, applied in such a way as to match the time of day and to highlight the shape of the face. The color of lipstick and eye shadow should not be chosen too bright - this adds vulgarity to the lady’s appearance.
It is advisable to remove excess hair from exposed areas of the body (neck, arms and legs) using hair removal. Nails can be either long or short. Whether they are painted or not does not matter, the main thing is that they are clean and well-groomed.
Girls should pay special attention to the smell of perfume. It should not be sharp and strong - this is more of a hindrance than an attraction. The subtle and persistent feminine scent will drive any man crazy, even without the use of special perfumes with pheromones.
The perfume industry adds various pheromones to its products to create “special” odors. However, it has been proven that a person produces his own pheromone. In women it is called copulin. Having no obvious odor, copulin has an exciting effect on the subconscious of a man through the olfactory organs.
Advice. Women should remember that the natural smell of a clean female body, supported by good perfume, is especially attractive to men.
TOP 6 myths about sex that men like
Everyone remembers the common phrase for our post-Soviet space “we don’t have sex!” Yes, the topic was forbidden. This has given rise to a lot of all kinds of fiction, myths and prejudices regarding intimate relationships. Let's figure out which of them is true and which is really just a fictitious fairy tale.
- A partner will lose interest in his girlfriend if he does not fight for intimacy with her. This is not a myth.
This is how it really is. What kind of sex do grown men like? Yes, exactly the kind of sex for which he had the opportunity to fight, to show his strength and masculine charisma. The ancient instinct of a hunter is alive in every man, which he must certainly satisfy. Otherwise, having ceased to feel like a victorious warrior, the partner may actually lose interest in the woman. And if you agreed to an intimate relationship too quickly, then, most likely, you will no longer be taken seriously. Well, a male cannot attach great importance to what he got too easily, without a fight, without adrenaline and without a fight.
This topic has always been of concern and has been the subject of research by psychoanalysts. American Zoe Strimpel, for example, in the process of studying this issue, came to the conclusion that yes, the partner would not think about the lady seriously, much less offer her his hand and heart, if rapprochement did not cost him any effort. - If you treat a guy as indifferently as possible, this can inflame his interest in yourself.
It is a myth. Always remember that complete ignorance can simply scare a man and make him stop making any gestures towards you. Yes, he is a hunter. Yes, he needs to fight for you, that’s his nature. But be careful not to go too far with coldness and inaccessibility. Don't act completely indifferent, especially if you don't really feel it. Take a closer look at your partner, study him a little and try to find the right line of behavior so that he pursues you, but at the same time does not fear absolute refusal. Maybe do not immediately answer the phone call. Let him worry a little, as if you are not particularly interested in him. Here, by the way, you can see how much he likes you. If he really is attracted to you, he will find a way to call or meet. And if not, then everything is not serious, and they will easily find a replacement for you. All people are different, with different views on the world and relationships, so an individual approach is undoubtedly important here. - Childbirth puts an end to female attractiveness. It is not true.
Even if disruptions in sexual life arise with the birth of a child, it is only because the usual rhythm of life, the very way of life of the partners, changes. Often, these are problems related to housing. It turns out that not only will you not remember what kind of sex a man likes, but in general, you will forget what it is. There are two, or even three families under one roof. It becomes more difficult for people to get along and find time (and space) to enjoy each other. This is undoubtedly a stressful situation and often there is no time for intimacy. Don’t forget also that your partner himself is actually a big child, that’s his essence. And when a baby appears in the family, the young father may be slightly unsettled, and he needs time to get used to the new balance of power.
Judge for yourself: a woman, naturally, has all her attention on the baby. And the partner is forgotten, abandoned, or at least it seems so to him. So it's not far from depression. And in the modern world, the main outlet is, as you know, the computer, which completely and completely sucks you in and does not in any way contribute to peace of mind. Rather, on the contrary, it will lead to a depressive and apathetic state, in which there is certainly no time for sex. - The nature of the male is polygamous.
Yes. However... The desire for the maximum number of matings among representatives of the stronger sex is recorded in the subcortex of the brain. Women may not like it, but, as they say, you can’t go against nature. Don’t forget about the impact life episodes from childhood could have on a man’s behavior (this, by the way, also applies to women). For example, if a guy is in childhood lacked maternal attention, he will involuntarily try to compensate for this in adulthood by marrying an older woman. And, thus, he will see in his chosen one not only a wife, but also a slightly caring woman-mother. Life moments like these can greatly influence the kind of sex men like. Everything is very individual and requires attentiveness, sensitivity and understanding in relationships (especially intimate ones) between partners. - Women's inaccessibility is a guy's dream. It is a myth.
What kind of women do men like in sex? Stone-hard impenetrability and inaccessibility will turn any macho away from you. Of course, the male must hunt for his prey, but not in vain! It is pleasant for a partner to feel not absolute coldness, but light flirting, exciting and exciting play (but not promiscuity). A woman who is too prim and unapproachable is more likely to make your chosen one think about serious responsibility, which not everyone is ready for.
Try to find the right line of behavior. It’s good when a woman knows how not to be vulgar, but at the same time not too cold. Psychologists study the behavioral aspects of women during the period of courtship, and even came, for example, to the conclusion that a girl should not laugh too loudly. Guys at the subconscious level take this for promiscuity and bad manners. And with such qualities it is unlikely that it will be possible to attract a worthy man. Representatives of the stronger sex expect ease of communication from a woman, but at the same time they do not at all welcome swagger in behavior. Yes, they are gambling, a woman’s unpredictability turns them on, but it is important to exercise moderation... When you first meet, try to listen to your partner more than talk about yourself. Remain an unread book, intrigue, remain mysteriously silent if you are asked too personal questions. Don’t set up another date yourself; let it be the man’s initiative. And he will definitely want to meet you again if you still remain a mystery to him. Boys want to play - well, it's not difficult, play with them. - There is a reason to be jealous - the passion boils even stronger.
It is so indeed. When a partner sees the attention of other men to his woman, it really turns him on. That is, the male feels that his chosen one is beautiful and desirable, and not only for him, and he wants only one thing - to possess her. Well, that’s all a woman needs, what can you say. It will especially inflame the partner if his lady does not pay attention to these extraneous admirers. The main thing is not to overdo it. It’s one thing to play on jealousy a little in order to cheer up your chosen one a little. And it’s quite another thing to respond with all the fervor to the advances of other men. So it won’t take long to lose yours.
Where to start with foreplay on a girl?
Slowness is important in foreplay. You will attack it later, when it is already all flowing. And now just enjoy the way the girl opens up in your arms.
Start not with hands in panties, but with kisses. They should convey all your desire and energy. Girls feel when you just want to fuck them, and when you enjoy the intimacy of the process.
Slowly involve your hands in the process. Remember, there are a lot of nerve endings in the body, especially in the head and neck area. Touch her cheeks with your fingertips, move slowly along her neck. You can run your hands through your hair.
Don't forget to change the pace. Here you are a gentle boy from romantic novels, and a second later you are a brutal man who brutally pulls a woman towards him. I, as the main inspirer of AKLONI, assure you: any girl will burst into Niagara Falls from such a change of pace.
Your actions must be confident and persistent so that the girl doesn’t even think that she can stop you. Kiss her on the lips, lick her earlobes, gently go down to her neck.
