What to do if the object of your sympathy is driving you crazy, but his foggy, vague and indefinite attitude towards you is confusing? After all, you want specifics, but you’re also afraid to seem intrusive. Then the girl gathers her courage and is determined to let the man she likes know about her feelings. But how exactly to do this? How to hint to a guy that you like him without scaring him off, and is it necessary to do this at all? What mistakes should you avoid when doing this?
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You like this particular guy. Not the sweet image that you painted in your imagination and with which you managed to live your whole life in your head.
You are ready to accept any outcome of events, because you are not fixated on this guy.
You don’t build castles in the air and you won’t be angry with him because he didn’t read your thoughts and didn’t behave the way you fantasized to the soundtrack from “The Notebook.”
A common girl mistake is to fall in love not with the guy himself, but with a fictitious image. Think it through, fantasize it, complete it. Fall in love and start suffering.
You're a grown girl and you'll protect yourself from this, right?
I’m afraid to confess my feelings to him, what to do - advice from psychologists
There are often situations when a girl is very afraid to tell a young man about her love (for example, she is one of the shy ones). This is a normal phenomenon, because subconsciously the girl fears possible refusal, rejection of her feelings. In such cases, you need to be able to overcome your fears and understand what goal you would like to achieve: just hint to the guy about your feelings, openly declare your love, achieve the beginning of your relationship, etc. And then it is important to actively act until the first impression you create did not dissipate. It will be useful, if you feel fear and anxiety, to learn about what psychologists recommend doing and what common female mistakes are best avoided when deciding to confess your feelings to a young man.
To relieve feelings of fear and anxiety before recognition, many practicing psychologists recommend thinking through your words in as much detail as possible and saying them out loud in front of the mirror, as if to evaluate yourself from the outside. Firstly, this will help relieve the worry that you may begin to get confused in your words and say too much or not exactly what you wanted. Secondly, it will be easier to relieve stress, since the body will feel that this is not the first time you have said such words, which means you should not worry too much.
Also, experts often suggest assessing the situation in advance - it would not be the best option to confess your love to a guy when he is heavily burdened with problems at work or school, or in the family. Both of you should be conducive to conversation, be in a good mood and have the opportunity after communication to think about everything that was said.
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You understand perfectly well that he can refuse you. This will upset you and throw you off balance for a while. But you're ready to deal with it. You just want to tell him about your feelings and find out if they are mutual.
There is no need to set yourself up for negativity in advance. But it is necessary to accept the fact that reality may be very far from fantasy.
Just start a conversation
- Under no circumstances should you hide and “play the silent game.” Put all your fears aside and just talk to the young man.
- If the guy happily continued your conversation, then don’t stop the conversation. Talk about any topic except family and religion, ask him about hobbies, studies or work.
- Don't bring up the topic of ex-boyfriends. Try to show him your openness. Let him know that you are a sociable and free lady.
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Start with friendly communication. If you have mutual friends, take advantage of this - go somewhere with the company more often. Talk to him, joke. Basically, use your charm.
If you decide to ask his friends about how he feels about you, be prepared for him to find out about your investigations. By his reaction you will understand whether he likes you as a girl or whether he is satisfied with everything and does not want to lose your friendship.
How to hint to a guy that you have feelings for him
