How can you subtly hint to a guy about a relationship?

Very often, girls find themselves hostage to the stereotype about love relationships.

For some reason, it is generally accepted that the initiator of a romance must be a man.

In order not to break this rule, every girl should know little tricks that allow her to attract the attention of a boy without being too persistent.

After all, you can hint to a guy about a relationship in a variety of ways.

How to hint to a girl about a relationship? Find out about this from our article.

Should you tell your guy how you feel?

The most important question for a girl is whether she should even confess to a young man about her love or is it better to wait for the first step from him, as required by numerous traditions. There can be many reasons to tell a man about this yourself. A guy can be very timid, he can be too sensitive to a girl and is simply afraid of offending or rushing her with his confession. Also, some bets are morally afraid to reveal their soul and therefore hide their feelings. Or the young man may have doubts about whether he really likes you or whether this is just a passing infatuation. So don’t be afraid - a girl’s confession of tender feelings today is considered quite normal.

First of all, it is worth assessing the general situation and situation. Logically, a declaration of love should entail serious consequences, the main one of which is the creation and development of a couple and your love relationship. Therefore, first of all, you yourself must be sure that you want the possible development of a relationship with this man, you want to see and communicate with him more often. You also need to assess whether he is ready for a potential relationship, whether he currently has strong love with another girl, or whether he recently suffered a difficult breakup, after which he will definitely want to be alone for a long time.

Take the initiative if he is shy

You understand that this young man likes you, as indicated by some direct or indirect facts, but there is no declaration of sympathy on his part. If you see that a guy is shy or for some reason not confident in himself, then you can take the initiative into your own hands. His shyness can manifest itself in different ways: for example, you notice that he tries to stay longer in your company, but gets embarrassed if he accidentally touches you or when the conversation turns to personal topics. He may also become dim if he catches your eye or is alone with you. Of course, the lack of initiative can be explained by indifference, but most girls will probably be able to distinguish indifferent behavior from hesitant attempts to get closer.

Don't embarrass a guy if he has a girlfriend

If you know that the person you like is already in a relationship with another girl, and this romance at least outwardly seems prosperous, then you don’t need to put him in an awkward position with your confessions. It is unlikely that he will reciprocate under such circumstances. But even if this happens, it is unlikely that you will want to be in the status of a homewrecker. You can gently hint to a guy that you like him, but don't talk about your feelings directly.

Don't push yourself if he's not interested in you

When communicating with him, you see that he has no interest, and this is clearly not embarrassment or self-doubt - he is really burdened by this communication. The reasons may not be in you at all - he in general may not want a relationship now, or he may be looking for a girl exclusively according to a certain type, which you do not fall into. In addition, he may have liked someone else for a long time. There may be a lot of circumstances due to which he does not see you as a potential lover, and in this case, your confession may make him completely avoid meeting with you.

Vague hints

Dear girls, our hints can be so vague that guys simply can’t make them out. You have built a logical chain in your head, which in theory should help you achieve your goal. But men ignore your verbal hints, not understanding what you are trying to achieve.

Thus, representatives of the fair sex in many ways complicate both their lives and the life of the person to whom they send their signs, taking offense at him, or even breaking off the relationship altogether. Therefore, learn to hint correctly so that the man understands your message and does what you want from him.

How to show a person that you like him

Just telling a man about your love in plain text - you can always do this, but it is not very romantic and morally very difficult. It is much more beautiful to express your warm sympathy for the person you like with the help of gentle words spoken in a suitable environment and with the right emphasis on your hints for a man. At the same time, it is worth choosing the right words depending on how close you are with the young man you like - he may just be attractive to you, you may be in love with him and your feelings may well be mutual. The tips below will certainly help you find a way to express your feelings to a man without getting confused and without missing out on your opportunity to become happy with him.

When you just really like him

When you simply like a young man, you can express your tender feelings well with the help of hints. For example, appear in front of him in beautiful outfits and, in response to his compliments, say that you wanted to look good especially for him. Men generally love with their eyes, so your beautiful appearance will be very important for a young man to have a pleasant impression of you and this will incline him to communicate and get to know you more closely. You can also use not too obvious compliments to a young man, tell him live or in SMS, as if by chance, how strong he is, how he looks like a handsome actor, what interesting hobbies he has, etc. You can make friends with his friends or acquaintances, and through them you can find out about the guy’s tastes and interests, so that later in conversations with him you can use these topics as “clues”. And in one of these conversations, you can notice that you have a lot of similar interests and therefore you clearly sympathize with this guy.

When you love him, how to confess your feelings

If your feelings are already something more than just sympathy, you should act more confidently so as not to miss out on your happiness. First of all, avoid flirting with other young people in his presence, so as not to arouse the opinion of yourself as a promiscuous and fickle girl. Try to be positive and cheerful in order to attract attention - it will also be useful to appreciate the jokes of a guy you like, because he will certainly appreciate those who appreciate his sense of humor. You can also write to him about your feelings, without saying the word “love” itself, but quite clearly speaking about your feelings. In this case, if the guy is interested in you, he will answer you, and if not, you can pretend that this message did not exist and thereby get rid of unnecessary worries.

Declaration of love when the feelings are mutual

In the case when your feelings are mutual and this young man also likes you, it will be easier. It will be enough for you to take the first step to start a relationship. You can write a message in a message or on a social network saying that you like him and if his feelings are mutual, then let him write you a response message. You can also tell the guy that you have long wanted to go to some movie or play, but you have no one to go with. He will probably offer to keep you company - and this is a great reason to talk and get to know each other better. A good option is to give the guy a small present that would hint to him that your feelings are reciprocated. For example, paired mugs or keychains, one of your photos together in a frame, etc. Don’t be afraid to make contact, as young people are also often shy before the first conversation and may be embarrassed to admit their warm feelings.

I want him, how to hint in bed

If you are not yet in a relationship, then such hints may not work in your favor. The guy, of course, can respond to your “signals,” but there is a high probability that everything will be limited to bed - the chosen one will simply consider you a flighty person. However, if you have already started dating, but things don’t go beyond kissing, then, of course, you can take the initiative. Try to be alone with your lover more often, hug him and just touch him. Also, to take your relationship to a new level, you can invite him home for a romantic dinner - wine, candles and pleasant music will undoubtedly encourage you to get closer.

What questions should a girl ask herself first?

Before proposing a relationship to a guy, a girl must answer a number of the following questions:

• Does he like her and what does she think about it?
• Is she interested in being with him?
• Does she have common topics of conversation with him?
• Does she often quarrel with him or give reasons for this?
• Why exactly does she need this guy?
• Does the guy do anything nice or nice for her?
• If he does do something for her, is it with serious intentions or not?

In order not to make a mistake when choosing a guy for serious meetings, a girl should collect as much information about him as possible:

• from mutual acquaintances and friends;
• from social networks;
• from the young man’s colleagues or fellow students.

How to hint to a guy so that he invites him to go out or ask him out on a date

Interesting places

In personal communication or during correspondence, you can mention some new establishments or simply interesting places that you would like to visit. Note that you usually go for a walk with a friend, but in the coming days she has other things to do, so you don’t even know whether to wait for her or find another company. For a young man, this will be a clear hint that you are inclined to go for a walk together.

His tastes

Find out where your chosen one likes to spend time and show interest in his choice. For example, he likes skiing. Say that you have never done this or can’t learn, but you would really like to. Or he may state that he likes a certain genre of films that he periodically goes to see. You, in turn, can answer that you are also interested in such films, but your friends do not share these tastes, and you yourself do not want to go to the cinema.

Direct hints

Write or tell the young man that you are very interested in communicating with him, and it would be nice to take a walk together sometime. You can find a specific reason. For example, you told your interlocutor about some place he has never been to. Mention in passing that you will definitely show him this establishment “someday.” If he wants to meet, then your statement will be a good chance for him to take advantage of the situation and invite you for a walk or a date.

When is it appropriate?

Before hinting to a guy about dating, a girl needs to:

• make sure your feelings are reciprocated;
• show that she is free;
• watch your companion on a walk together or when visiting a cafe.

Dating proposals are different for different guys. Their appearance will also depend on what kind of young people the girls already have.

Successful circumstances for asking a guy to meet are:

• holidays;
• spending time together on vacation or on vacation;
• the moment of success of the chosen one;
• evening, after a walk together;
• after assistance provided;
• after the young man stands up for his companion.

But it’s worth remembering that under no circumstances should you ask a guy to date if he:

• severely overloaded with worries or work, since everything else will be of secondary importance to him;
• has recently suffered family grief or has been widowed, he needs to be given about 2-3 months to recover;
• just got divorced or broke off relations with a former flame; during the period while the chosen one moves away from this, he can be supported in every possible way, but no more than a girlfriend;
• is in a bad mood, otherwise a decision made in such a state risks changing as circumstances improve.

If a guy likes a girl, then he will constantly look for a reason to meet her. Also, a strong representative of humanity will try to reduce the distance between himself and his chosen passion. He will look for her all the time if they find themselves in the same company, and will also start a conversation with her on any topic at every opportunity.

If all this is not observed in the guy’s behavior, then this means that he sees the girl only as a friend and nothing more. And from such a category to move into the category of a favorite passion is not at all possible. Therefore, it is so important for a girl to know in advance, before the start of meetings, how the guy treats her.

Hinting a guy about a relationship correctly

Positive mood

In his presence, try to maintain a positive mood, showing the guy that you enjoy being in such company. It makes sense not only to show it, but also to voice it. Talk about how interesting and fun you are with him. You can also mention that he, like no one else, is able to cheer you up.

Skin contact

Touch the guy you like. Although, of course, you should also know when to stop here - there is no point in “hanging” on him, your touches should be as if by chance. You can take his hand while crossing the road or going up the steps. A light hug and a kiss on the cheek are also quite appropriate when meeting or saying goodbye. When telling someone something important or needing their support, you can briefly hold their hand.

Personal questions

Here, too, it is important not to “cross the line.” Ask the guy how long ago he was in his last relationship, what kind of girl he sees next to him. However, if the young man answers reluctantly, then it is better not to delve into such questions. True, detailed answers do not at all mean that you need to show excessive attention to this topic - it will be more appropriate to find out all the details of breakups with ex-girlfriends if you are in a closer relationship. For now, it’s enough to let him know that you care about his personal life.

Reducing the distance

How to shorten the distance:

1. Don't be afraid to touch. After joking, lightly push him on the shoulder. Invade his space slowly but surely. Stay within arm's length as often as possible.
2. Arm yourself with humor. Kind jokes will help defuse the atmosphere if there is an awkward pause in the conversation. Making fun of a guy's appearance will also make him more interested. “After all, if a girl notices a wrinkled T-shirt, it means she’s not indifferent to me.” The main thing is not to offend the guy with barbs.
3. Be weak. Ask a man for help, even if you can handle the problem yourself. Destroy Windows on the laptop and ask the young man to install the system again.
4. Hide behind the guy's courage. Cling to his hand while watching a horror movie or don't let go of his hand in a dark park.
   For a man, even a young one, there is nothing sweeter than a demonstration of his own strength.

Say “I love you” in other words or actions

It can be quite difficult to tell a man about your love in plain text. It’s much easier to veil your confession so that the man himself can guess about your tender feelings. This option eliminates many awkward feelings. Therefore, you can try other good options for declaring your love, given below. One of them will probably give a positive result and you and the young man you like will definitely become closer.

Beautiful words for a declaration of love

In order to confess your love to a young man, it is not necessary to use banal phrases. It is much better to speak from the heart and sincerely. If it’s difficult to collect your thoughts live, write a long confession in a message - this will help you choose beautiful phrases and think through your train of thought. Be sure to use more characteristics that emphasize the qualities of a young man you like (strong, caring, reliable, etc.). This will help him understand why you value him. You should not use too many diminutive forms like “bunny” or “cat”. A declaration of love is a rather serious thing, and such words will reduce the seriousness to a minimum. Words must be honest - say only what you are really sure of. You should not make abstract reviews of your common future and predict excellent development of relations. It’s better to talk more about the present tense, about your feelings and the positive qualities of this young man. Then the conversation will be more effective.

Confessions through communication on the Internet or via SMS

Modern communication allows you to make a confession on a social network or using SMS messages. This relieves your stress and worries, you can prepare properly. Choose the right words, think about what idea you want to convey to the guy with your message - and send it. In correspondence you don’t see the young man’s reaction and you don’t worry so much. In addition, if a guy refuses or ignores you, it will be much easier to bear it than if he refused you during a personal conversation. In addition, for that declaration of love in this way, it does not require too close communication and acquaintance between you - after all, it is enough to find the guy’s number or his page on a social network, bypassing the need to meet friends, etc.

Confessions in poetry, through gifts or selfless help

A beautiful and original way to hint to a guy about your feelings is to write him poetry. Just write, even if they are not very colorful, since almost every guy has already seen poems from the Internet and you are unlikely to please him with such bad taste. Find an opportunity to write poetry yourself, or ask your friends about it, and send it to a young man via SMS or on a social network - he will certainly appreciate your creativity.

Another option is a nice gift or an offer of selfless help to a young man. These gifts or help do not have to be large-scale; rather, it is just a small sign of attention that will let the man know that you care about him. The present could be something like a keychain, a photo frame, a book that the young man told you about - something pleasant that this man will then associate with you. You can also make a memorable engraving, which is not trivial, then in the future it can become a kind of motto of your relationship with this young man.

Confess your love in person

The most honest and open option for declaring love is a personal meeting and conversation face to face. In this way, you can immediately see a man’s real emotions in response to your words, clarify some individual phrases and supplement your confession with some comments and clarifications. Before a personal meeting, you will have to gather courage, but this method is truly the most reliable and time-tested. This option is also very good because if the conversation is successful, you will immediately feel a new closeness to each other, you will be able to hug or kiss each other for the first time. And this is a great start for the strong development of your relationship.

Dating and friendship

Only in movies and novels does love arise with lightning speed .

In life, a guy and a girl will need some time to get to know their partner better.

It's good if you've already met the guy. This will allow us to bypass perhaps the most difficult stage in the “rapprochement” . If the guy doesn’t yet suspect the existence of a beautiful lady, she will have to get a little clever and “rig” the cards.

How to meet a guy:

1. Set up a meeting .
   After observing the object of attention, the girl can easily determine where this very object most often happens. The best option is a supermarket. Candies unobtrusively scattered at the guy's feet will give him the opportunity to woo the confused girl. You should not choose “complicated” products for cleaning. It is unlikely that the boy will want to collect sugar from the floor. The ideal option would be an orange rolled under the counter.
2. Request for help. Option for brave girls. Having loaded your bag with heavy things, you can meet the guy on his way to the house. If a man has even a modicum of gentlemanly character, he will definitely agree to help with a heavy burden. The main thing is to ask him about it.
3. Phone searches . An old but effective method that has become a classic of the genre. You should hide your cell phone in the deepest pocket of your bag. Feigning genuine confusion, we ask the boy to dial his number, simultaneously assuming that the phone is lost. When the melody starts to sound, we thank the assistant and leave. With the guy's number on the missed calls list.

I’m afraid to confess my feelings to him, what to do - advice from psychologists

There are often situations when a girl is very afraid to tell a young man about her love (for example, she is one of the shy ones). This is a normal phenomenon, because subconsciously the girl fears possible refusal, rejection of her feelings. In such cases, you need to be able to overcome your fears and understand what goal you would like to achieve: just hint to the guy about your feelings, openly declare your love, achieve the beginning of your relationship, etc. And then it is important to actively act until the first impression you create did not dissipate. It will be useful, if you feel fear and anxiety, to learn about what psychologists recommend doing and what common female mistakes are best avoided when deciding to confess your feelings to a young man.

To relieve feelings of fear and anxiety before recognition, many practicing psychologists recommend thinking through your words in as much detail as possible and saying them out loud in front of the mirror, as if to evaluate yourself from the outside. Firstly, this will help relieve the worry that you may begin to get confused in your words and say too much or not exactly what you wanted. Secondly, it will be easier to relieve stress, since the body will feel that this is not the first time you have said such words, which means you should not worry too much.

Also, experts often suggest assessing the situation in advance - it would not be the best option to confess your love to a guy when he is heavily burdened with problems at work or school, or in the family. Both of you should be conducive to conversation, be in a good mood and have the opportunity after communication to think about everything that was said.

My ex suggested dating, should I give him a chance?

There is a saying that “you can’t step into the same river twice,” but many couples who once rekindled their romance are ready to argue with such words. So, is it worth dating a person with whom you already had to break up once?

Arguments against"

1.

You are simply lonely and bored, and have not yet found a more suitable candidate than your ex. The force of habit is also not excluded - you have a common circle of acquaintances, you know all the features of each other.

2.

If you believe that you can come to terms with your ex-boyfriend's shortcomings, then most likely you are deeply mistaken. You may hold back for a while and convince yourself that you are ready to tolerate unreasonable jealousy, detachment, greed, or something like that, but sooner or later your irritation will manifest itself with renewed vigor.

3.

If you previously had serious problems with the young man’s environment (friends or relatives), then they will not disappear anywhere. Yes, these people, at the request of the young man, can pretend for some time that the misunderstanding is a thing of the past, but in the end the true attitude will still make itself felt.

Arguments for"

1.

In this case, there can only be one weighty argument - your feelings for him have not passed. You still love this guy, and you realize that breaking up was a huge mistake.

How to behave with your ex-boyfriend

If you nevertheless decide to give a second chance to your ex-lover, then you have to take into account some nuances.

Don't blame the guy

in what he was doing during the period of your separation. Perhaps during this time he managed to meet other girls, often went out to clubs with friends, and spent a lot of money on some stupid things. Understand that then he was a completely free person, and he had no obligations to you. By reproaching a young man for such things, you will simply lose his trust. Fearing your reaction, he will prefer to hide some details of his life from you.

Don't remember the past.

We are talking specifically about negative aspects. All grievances must remain in those relationships that have already been ended once. Having agreed to date a guy again, you begin to write your love story from scratch, taking into account all previous mistakes.

Is it true that guys don't take hints?

Many men really do not react as subtly to the intonation of their interlocutor as women do, and do not always understand hints. For example, you can tell him that you would like to go to the cinema soon or you are interested in some event. Some guys react instantly, offering to go together to a place that intrigues you, but there are also those who sincerely think that you are just sharing information to keep the conversation going. In the second case, the interlocutor sincerely does not realize that they were hinting at something - he can understand what you need only if direct proposals are made.

When a couple already enters into a relationship, this problem does not disappear. For example, before your birthday, you can praise some new popular book, saying that your friends really liked it, and you would also really like to read it. Or you can say that your earrings are missing a ring in a similar style. It is likely that you are hoping to receive a bestseller or jewelry as a gift, but the chances are very high that the chosen one will not understand this and will give you, for example, perfume that you do not need. Coquetry will not work with such men: “I don’t even know what I want, choose according to your taste.” He needs to speak directly, and simply accept the fact that the hints are not clear to him - this way you will prevent resentment and misunderstandings in the future.

Phrases

To invite a guy to meet by correspondence or while walking, you can use phrases that encourage action and can hint at a relationship. Phrases like these will help take your communication to the next level. They don’t have to be said directly; they can be beautifully veiled. For example:

• “I enjoy spending time with you so much, I hope this is not the last evening when we will be alone?”
• “When you get home, call me so that I don’t worry”
• “Secretly, I’ve been looking for a reason to be alone with you for a long time, I hope everything will change in the near future, and I won’t have to wait so long.”

It happens that a guy needs to be told it like it is “to the point”, then phrases with direct wording are suitable. For example:

• “I have a serious conversation with you, how long can you tolerate this, let’s meet?”
• “You don’t really understand hints, I’ve been wanting to propose to you for a long time, how do you look at this?”
• “I like you, will you be my boyfriend?”
• “I think you guessed why I called you here, let’s save time and I’ll ask you just one question - will you date me?”

You can add diminutive words like: bunny, honey, sun.

How to understand that a man understood your hint

There are few options here. If you bring up a topic with enviable regularity, and a young man diligently avoids it, despite all the transparency of the hints, or constantly takes the conversation in a different direction, then most likely he understands what you are leading to. However, his reaction, unfortunately, indicates that he is not enthusiastic about your message.

There is also the opposite option, in which everything is more obvious. A man supports the topic you set with interest, asking clarifying questions, instead of simply ignoring your words. This means that he noticed that we are talking about something important, and does not lose sight of it. In this case, your hints will probably soon bring the desired result.

Who to recruit as assistants?

A girl who wants to encourage a guy to meet regularly can take as assistants people from her environment who communicate well with him. Such mutual acquaintances will inform the young lady’s chosen one about her desires and intentions, and will also contribute to their rapid rapprochement.

The assistants will provide the girl with information about the character and lifestyle of the guy she has chosen. This information, analyzed subsequently, will increase the chance of receiving a positive response from the prospective life partner to the proposal to date. To get a clearer picture, the girl can also chat with the guy’s friends.

It is necessary for the girl to invite the guy to date if he does not dare to take this step on his part. She must do this delicately and interestingly, using only hints. Questions are asked directly only to very slow-witted and timid guys.