What is a pickup truck? Pickup artist tricks: how to recognize them and not get caught?

There are men who meet women not spontaneously and naturally. They use a specific technique to help achieve a specific goal. Communication templates are used - the so-called “openers” (openers). They force the girl to look carefully at the man and continue communicating with him. The goal of such a guy is to seduce a girl, “divorce” her into sex without obligation. Often a girl does not suspect that she has encountered a pick-up artist - and when she realizes that she was simply used, “conned” like a fool - disappointment and tears are inevitable.

Who is a pick-up artist and how to recognize him at the beginning of communication?

What is a pickup truck and who are pickup artists?

Pickup is a seduction technique. Thanks to the most arrogant and obsessive representatives of the pick-up artist tribe, a stereotype has already developed that a pick-up artist is a narcissistic male who collects random relationships and is immensely proud of the number of seduced women. But this, like any stereotypical opinion, is not entirely true. Often, pick-up artists are not cold-blooded scoundrels who dream of manipulating girls and invariably getting what they want, and not narcissistic peacocks trying to impress their company.

Among those who study and practice pickup techniques, there are adequate individuals who do not know how to communicate with the opposite sex in the usual ways. Pick-up artistry helps them overcome embarrassment and fears.

Do you think the purpose of pickup is intimate relationships?

Hardly. Who would sleep with a man who exhibits such stupid behavior?

33.33%

I don’t think so, but some are literally led by the manners and styles of behavior in question.

16.67%

Yes, I think that only people who want intimate intimacy behave in the manner described.

50%

Voted: 6

Common myths about pickup artists

It’s a rare pretty girl who wants a serious relationship in this age of network communication and quick online dating who hasn’t encountered pick-up artists and hasn’t been disappointed. Often, because of a couple of meetings, many women develop an erroneous opinion about pick-up artistry, which supports the existence of persistent myths about this phenomenon and the men involved in it.

The most persistent and widespread myths on the topic of what constitutes an average pickup artist:

This is a “mamsik” living with his parents, or a student. The guy doesn’t have enough finances, but he wants sex, so he goes out of his way, charming naive fools for sex for one night.

In reality, there are such examples, but the pick-up artist may not be a young dunce, but a fully established man of 30-40 years old. He just doesn’t want serious connections and obligations—and, accordingly, doesn’t want to spend a lot on them. Or does he ask the “most important” question: is he still able to please girls without money?

The goal of a pick-up artist is only and exclusively sex. Having achieved what he wanted, he loses interest in the victim and abandons her.

Not entirely true. Usually a pick-up artist gets a sea of emotions in the process of meeting and winning a girl. He likes to feel like a master of seduction - to some extent this is a creative process. The pick-up artist invents spectacular tricks, unusual compliments, unique ways (as it seems to him) to keep the girl’s attention.

Pick-up artists are men who are preoccupied with sex. The lack of sex naturally drives them crazy, so they scour in search of new victims; it would be better to go to a sex therapist.

In reality, pick-up artists are really interested in sex - they are convinced that any relationship should start with it. If sex doesn’t work out, what kind of subsequent contacts with this woman can we talk about? The pick-up artist acts as if in “economy” mode: he does not want to waste days and months on unpromising communication with the opposite sex. Or he just wants to have an interesting time, but is simply not ready for a long-term relationship.

The pick-up artist is a complete loser; no one wants to mess with him. This is a man with wounded pride, trying to prove to the whole world (both women and his company) that in reality he is irresistible. So he invents various ways to somehow interest girls and achieve sex: he needs to prove that he is not a loser.

Among the pick-up artists there are really a lot of creatures hung with complexes to their very ears. But often successful, established, attractive men who do not suffer from a lack of education, upbringing and finances also engage in pickup trucks.

Have you ever fallen for pickup tricks?

Yes, it happened. I didn’t know what it was then. Otherwise I wouldn't have gotten caught.

25%

Yes, but purely out of interest. It wasn’t even that she got caught, she just deliberately followed the lead.

50%

No, do I look like I'm crazy?

No, I was just lucky not to meet people using technology.

25%

Voted: 4

Signs of a pick-up artist

If you are not satisfied with “one-time” relationships and you do not want to become a victim of manipulation, your goal is to understand in time who the pick-up artist is and to monitor some aspects of your communication:

Male pick-up artists show increased attention to a woman, talk little about themselves, but are extremely “interested” in you, provoking you to be frank.

In a normal dating situation, a man and a woman share information about themselves on a mutual basis. “I work in... What about you?”, “I don’t like rap. What kind of music do you like?” The pick-up artist does not give truthful information about himself - in order to persuade you to have sex, he says what you want to hear.

When communicating with a pick-up artist, it seems to you that he naturally “reads” your desires and thoughts, “perfectly understands” you. This is extremely captivating and you lose your head.

In reality, this is an illusion, he simply portrays it, he doesn’t care about your ideas, desires and dreams.

The pickup artist is trying to psychologically influence you.

Pay attention to the pose (open), gaze (admiring), attempts at physical rapprochement (touching) - the pick-up artist strives for physical contact already at the first meeting, portraying admiration and tenderness.

Meeting a pickup artist is usually non-standard from a verbal point of view (remember about “openers”)? The pick-up artist will not say the banal: “Girl, can I meet you?” He will give out something more unusual: “Girl, do you know how best to spend my salary?”, “Girl, tell me, does my T-shirt match my jacket?”, “You don’t draw? You have the face of a real artist!”
He cares about appearance - clothes, perfume, image in general.
There are no signs of uncertainty or embarrassment in his manners and behavior - “I see the goal, I see no obstacles.”
If he didn’t achieve sex on the first date, then he will appoint the location of the second one himself. Probably some unusual place, but, please note, one where the man will not require significant financial expenses (the defining feature of a pick-up artist is that he does not want to pay for just communication, without sex). He may start convincing you that a date on a rooftop or on a half-sunken barge is extremely romantic. A normal guy will calmly go with a girl to a cafe, restaurant, exhibition, movie, without coming up with any excuses and without making up dates on top of a tower crane.
He is touchy, like a capricious princess. He himself can use caustic jokes, but he freaks out if they “tell him back.” Don’t be surprised: many pick-up artists are truly complex individuals, devoid of self-irony. But why do you need such a FIFA in your pants?

Do you think the signs presented are objective or still subjective?

I think that the signs presented can be “attached” to any person.

25%

I think they are quite objective.

25%

I don't think they are objective. Some of it is fair. But only part.

50%

I consider them to completely and completely describe the essence of the pickup truck and its “associates”.

Voted: 4

Let's go deeper into history

The pickup truck, like most strange ideas, originates from the West. Back in 1992, a book on pickup, “How to Get the Girl of Your Dreams into Bed,” authored by Ross Jeffries, was published. As can be seen from the name itself, adherents of this ideology believe that a woman is no more valuable than an ordinary thing, which simply needs to be found in the right way, used and finally disposed of.

And since this is simply an object to satisfy sexual desires and needs, you can use any means to seduce her. The author of the book was not against the use of various manipulative and often immoral tactics, while openly admitting their dishonesty.

In his opinion, absolutely any man can achieve success with the opposite sex if he knows which sore spots to press.

Further, in 2005, a new book on pickup trucks, “The Mystery Method,” authored by Eric Von Markowicz, was published in America. This book has become more humane and morally acceptable in comparison with Jeffreys' book. Markovik takes a more moral position in relations with women. His books contain neither manipulative techniques nor calls to achieve a goal by any means.

Essentially, his method boils down to the fact that a man needs to be more confident in himself and strive for self-improvement. Moreover, according to Markovik, getting a girl into bed and leaving her immediately after that is, at the very least, unethical. To a greater extent, pickup according to this method serves to find your soul mate, and not just to sleep in order to assert yourself.

How to communicate with a pickup artist?

How to drive away a pick-up artist if you have no desire to communicate with him? It's not difficult, there are correct ways:

Ignoring all his attempts and antics, complete lack of emotions. Remember: he is following a script and is convinced that his technique works. If you react to him like furniture, without reacting to the flow of compliments and spectacular antics, he is lost.
A sudden snarky comment helps destroy his confidence. “You’re too pushy—have you never had a girlfriend?” “Are you sure that all girls love dead flowers? I’m actually for nature conservation!”
Ask a bunch of questions - be interested in his biography, work, hobbies, “ex”, mom, dad... They don’t like to talk about themselves!
Offer to go to a pretentious cafe, buy you that branded handbag as a gift, or help pay for the apartment. It will merge - 100%! All the pick-up artist’s actions are aimed at preserving his finances.
Do not respond to calls and messages on social networks, reschedule dates for any fictitious reasons, preferably ridiculous ones: “I promised to help my friend dye her hair,” “Sorry, but at this time I’m walking with my grandmother’s pug,” “I’m allergic to the street architecture of our city.” "...
Avoid tactile contact. Coldness, indifference and even slight aversion to his touch - and it will dawn on him: he made a mistake, choosing the wrong victim.

The best mind blowers for a man or how to impress a girl

So, here are some examples of effective and unusual mind-blowing tricks:

Hire a special service that will help deliver the bouquet to the girl. The peculiarity is that the flowers will be delivered directly to her balcony, and not through a courier. After that, call the girl and tell her that a surprise awaits her on the balcony.
Have a romantic dinner on the roof of some house without warning the girl about it. If possible, place a table and chairs; if not, then lay out a blanket. Buy a bottle of wine, fruit, a set of sushi, or something that your companion will definitely like. ask a friend to look after this goodness while you take your companion to the meeting place. Seeing you with a girl (you can signal by phone), your friend just needs to light candles and quickly leave. While walking around the area with a girl, tell her that you want to show her an interesting place, then take her to the roof.
Unexpected meeting. Here, too, it’s worth using flowers or the girl’s favorite fruit (for example, mango). For example, you know that she must get off at one of the metro stations at a certain time after work. Before doing this, make sure that this will be the case by calling her, but without warning her that you will be waiting for her. When she gets off at the bus stop, approach her with a flower or fruit in a cute bag, saying: “I just really wanted to see you.” Preferably, she did not have any serious plans for the coming hours - then the evening can continue in your favor.
If you know that a girl is prone to extreme sports, then simply organize a parachute jump or paragliding flight, of course, without warning her first. After this, celebrate this event in a secluded place.
Make an inscription on the asphalt in front of her window. It seems corny, but girls love it! You don't have to confess your love. You can write “Olya! Smile!". Late in the evening, you can make an “inscription” on the asphalt using candles and ask them to look out the window. The message may be more romantic: “Nastya! Waiting for you!". At the same time, you should know that the girl has the opportunity to go out, and she is determined to meet. Then offer to continue the date in a more private place - you can invite her to dinner at your home, promising to treat her to a delicious dish.

FAQ

What is a pickup artist afraid of?

The answer is simple and comprehensive: any responsibility for your actions. Judge for yourself. Here are the main pick-up artist fears:

Catch PPP disease from another partner. Visiting a veterinary clinic is unpleasant. It is humiliating to realize that you slept with a girl of the “last analysis” and was the 1001st with her.
Partner's pregnancy. Suddenly he starts demanding alimony or stuffs his belly into the registry office!
Rape charges. A pick-up artist with brains will not agree to intimacy with a girl who is in a darkened state of consciousness: drunk, on drugs. Or sleeping. And he does the right thing: sexual contact in all these cases is violence, the girl did not express consent to it. Or she expressed it while not being herself - and then has the right to accuse her partner of rape.
Jealous spouses and boyfriends. A competent pick-up artist, provoking you to be frank, tries in advance to prevent a situation with a scene of jealousy. Especially if he is physically much weaker than your regular partner - or is simply a coward.

Summary:
the pickup artist dreams of having sex, but not having to pay anything for it!

What is fast food in a pickup truck?

The English word "fast" means "quickly". Fast is the fastest possible seduction. If you managed to sleep with a girl immediately after the first date (more precisely, the date ended in sex) - this is fast. If there were several meetings before sexual contact, this is not fast.

What is a women's pickup truck?

The male pickup is aimed at overcoming the embarrassment, complexes and fears of a man that prevent him from making acquaintance with the woman he likes. Women's pickup also does not do without working on complexes, fears and embarrassment - and is aimed at ensuring that a woman can attract the attention of men. And the attention is active: a female pickup artist tries to look and behave in such a way that men will not just stare at her, but also try to get to know her. However, the most liberated pick-up girls themselves take the initiative in dating. It’s just that in our country this has long been considered indecent. And one more thing - male collectors are relatively rare; usually girls still strive to establish long-term relationships.

How to pick up a guy?

Many girls intuitively know how to do this or learn quickly - such advice will only do harm. But if you really don't know:

Study the object (if you do not strive for completely spontaneous acquaintances and connections). Knowing a person’s name, it’s not difficult to find his social networks and find out at least a minimum of information about him. This will help him talk about what interests him.
Learn to listen. Not only men - you also don’t like it when your interlocutor bursts into an endless monologue about himself and his beloved.
Prepare for your first date. It is not at all necessary to appear overdressed to the point of impossibility of sitting down and eating, but an unkempt appearance, a dirty head, smudged makeup and a sloppy manicure turn off many.
If a situation for dating does not arise, create it yourself: ask a man for help or advice. They love to feel strong—and authoritative. “Listen, there’s really no one else to turn to—can you help me get that little thing off the shelf? You’re so tall, I can’t reach you,” “What to do with a friend - I fell in love with Zuckerberg! Crazy, he's married! And he doesn’t live in Russia! Oh, are you an IT guy too? Tell me, how do they get to know you?”
Did the date take place? Don’t be embarrassed by mistakes and incidents, no one is immune from them. If trouble happens, try to turn it into a joke. One nice girl was sitting with a guy in a cafe and... suddenly she farted quite loudly. The guy stared at her curiously. And she asked: “Why does he hate me?!” The guy was surprised: who? "Pea soup! He’s trying to ruin my best date in my life!” The guy replied that the soup would not work. They have been married for 5 years already.

And be careful with tactile contacts! A girl who constantly reaches out her hands to a man and literally “hangs herself” on him looks like a pitiful creature without self-esteem
. Watch the idiotic show “Let's Get Married” and pay attention to how other “brides” behave, especially the middle-aged ones. That's it - don't!

How to show a man's interest in you?

The advice here is meaningless. If a man is really interested in you, he will show this interest. It is important to capture these points:

He takes the initiative, but at the same time listens to your opinion. If he suggests going to a restaurant, suggest going to the movies. To a melodrama or other clearly “not a man’s” film. He will go and try to watch with interest - you are important to him.
He is sincerely interested in you as a person, even if you excitedly talk about a hobby that is of little interest to men.
He does not hesitate to show signs of attention and care.
He gives gifts - and not formal and banal ones, such as flowers and sweets. He is interested in what gift you dream of.
He is looking for meetings with you, without citing being busy and tired, so as not to go on a date.

But the main sign of a man’s real, genuine interest in you is his prioritization. Does he prefer to drink with friends and have stupid conversations? And not spend time with you? He needs you for status or to wash his socks. But they are not important and not close as a person.

How to attract a guy using gestures?

There are 8 feminine gestures that invariably attract the attention of guys. It starts up when she:

shakes her hair - this movement is mesmerizing, especially if the hair is long and voluminous. However, it also looks impressive with short haircuts - if the hair is not 1 cm long;
shows off his wrists. They are considered - and for many they are - an erogenous zone. Women's wrists are thin, fragile, graceful compared to men's, and showing them is a sure way to draw men's attention to beautiful, well-groomed hands;
spreads his legs wider than usual - no matter standing or sitting. But the defensive pose is crossed, tightly clenched legs; love does not shine with such a lady;
sways his hips while walking or even standing - this is an openly inviting, erotic micro-movement, a non-verbal request “Rate my figure”;
plays with hair - twirls a curl or strand of hair around a finger;
slightly opens his mouth - this, frankly speaking, is a symbolic allusion to the female genital organs and the state of sexual arousal;
strokes an object in the shape of a cylinder - the stem of a glass, a cigarette, a bottle neck. A woman may not even realize that she is making this gesture - this is the work of the subconscious, a veiled signal about the sexual attraction she is experiencing;
looks sideways over his raised shoulder. Psychologists believe that a rounded and slightly raised shoulder is an imitation of a chest.

What do they teach in pickup truck courses?

Pick-up coaches like to claim that they help guys overcome their insecurities, learn how to meet people and make long-term connections. But this is a public lie. In reality, they teach: sexual relations are just a game. But its rules are determined exclusively by the pick-up artist, and not by the victim.

Removal methods

Psychologist Natalya Tolstaya noted that male and female approaches to dating are fundamentally different. In a certain sense, this is the development of a social model of behavior in the game.

— A man relies on self-confidence, coolness, and infallibility. He will only talk about what the woman wants to hear. One awkward step for him is tantamount to failure, and this is his weakness, ” the psychologist explained. — For women it’s the other way around: the fair sex loves to play down the weak. For example, she buys a bottle of soda, pretends that she cannot open it, approaches him, and asks for help. He shrugs and opens it. She can also spill a drink on him by accident, then apologize - contact is established. Another option is to “accidentally” collide and drop some item of clothing.