In this article we will tell you:
- Psychological types and behavioral characteristics of men
- 6 types of behavior in men
- Types of behavior of men in relationships with women
There are different types of behavior of men, because the character of each is influenced by many factors: from the environment to the characteristics of upbringing and the environment in adulthood. In any case, each type of behavior is determined genetically.
To understand what kind of “fruit” is in front of you and how to react to its attacks, you need to clearly define the type. Let's try to figure this out. In the article you will find a description of the main types of behavior of men, including in relationships with women.
Secret one: mistakes
Everyone makes mistakes in life, but not everyone admits them. Most guys apologize if they feel guilty towards their loved one. In other cases, they are happy to find the culprit: a neighbor, a dog, or a casual acquaintance.
The main reason is to appear perfect, even in the presence of guilt. At such moments, you should not point out errors, otherwise the chosen one may live up to the worst expectations. The husband’s psychology is structured in such a way that he will not agree with his wrongness. Therefore, the wife can assess the situation from his point of view or insist on her own. In the first case, it will give strength to the spouse. He will begin to strive to realize his hopes and will certainly achieve success.
Formation of an effeminate character
Feminine character traits are manifested in people who were raised exclusively by grandmothers, mothers, aunts and sisters. There was no one to give them an example of masculine behavior. Mothers often do not allow their children to fight, climb trees, or get involved in fun mischief. If a boy is taught to sit quietly on the sidelines because the world is full of danger, there is a high probability that he will not crawl out of his cozy nest at 20, 30, or 40 years old.
It is sometimes useful for children to beat their knees on the asphalt or tear their sneakers while playing football. This is truly a small price to pay for the life experience gained. When your mother talks about everything, she acquires the status of an authority, and then it is extremely difficult to get rid of overprotection, start doing something yourself, get out from under her wing, and even more so take responsibility for your own family.
Parents sometimes protect us from everything except their own care. While building a protective wall around the child, the mother sometimes does not notice how the barricade turns into a cage.
As a result, the young man develops an effeminate character. Instead of solving difficult situations and coping with them, he avoids them, prefers to settle for worse living conditions rather than take risks and achieve the desired heights. Such people often don’t even make plans because they don’t believe in turning them into reality. For them, improvements always hover somewhere in the realm of fantasy, an impossible dream, too good to be true.
Aspects of the male psyche
You can draw conclusions from the man’s conversation. If “we” comes up more and more often instead of “I,” then this is a clear sign of falling in love. The amount of time devoted to a woman also matters. The longer it is, the deeper his feelings. When he prefers to stay late at a bar with friends, go fishing or do meaningless things, instead of paying attention to a girl, you should be wary. This shows disinterest.
In this case, most ladies make a big mistake: they try to remind themselves by calling and writing to their lover. This will push him away even more.
Stereotypes
There are a large number of stereotypes in society. Sometimes it is believed that an effeminate man is one who does not watch football with a bottle of beer in his hand and would rather go to the theater than go fishing. There was an opinion that the standard was James Bond in a smart suit with a pistol, or at least a bad guy with stubble and a motorcycle in a smoky leather jacket.
Subconsciously and instinctively, girls pay attention to self-confident and sometimes even arrogant men, and the “feminine guy” stamp is attached to any quiet person for whom the pleasure of testing muscles and fighting for territory seems dubious.
Sign language
The gesticulation of men says a lot about deep sympathy. In a conversation, they use much fewer movements, so it is easier for the weaker half to understand the guy’s psychology. It is not necessary to memorize them. The main thing is to perceive them comprehensively. The interlocutor often looks into the eyes of his chosen one, periodically glancing at her lips - this is a sign of his interest and affection.
When walking next to a woman, he places his hand on her shoulder or waist. This means that the partner values the beloved. If your partner allows you to use his adult “toys,” which he carefully protects: he allows you to drive a car or use an expensive computer, this means he has serious plans for you.
Quarrels are also a good sign. An uninterested person will not show emotions and feelings. He will swear only if he has a desire to connect his life with you. But if during a conversation he suddenly leaves, then a clear lack of interest is visible.
The transition from thoughts to action in everyday life indicates that the guy is thinking about creating your future. This applies even to small things: buying a vacuum cleaner or fixing a faucet.
Another important aspect is conducting daily affairs with your companion. Cleaning or cooking together is a serious step for the stronger sex. By signing up for my personal consultation, you learn to recognize these and other gestures. You will also understand how to interpret them correctly. Despite the fact that female and male psychology in relationships differ, a wise woman will take all the secrets she has learned into account in order to further win the heart of her chosen one and build a strong family.
Passion for your own body and physical fitness
Every man is required to be a leader, regardless of his desires or capabilities. He feels this burden as a duty. But for achievements and leadership, any person needs to have a “tangible crown on his head”, he needs to see a retinue around him who would believe in him. Women know very well that not only the gym, but also solariums, massage, proper nutrition, and any personal care in general support self-esteem and self-confidence, and these sensations are needed not only by ladies, but also by men.
So, before you make fun of his sexuality when he twirls in front of the mirror, think about whether he has a real chance of feeling like a lion next to you?
Behavior towards girls
If you know the basic features, you can significantly reduce the number of conflicts. One of them is silence when a quarrel is brewing. Many girls regard this as insult or anger. But at this time the partner is simply thinking about a plan of action.
But this applies not only to conflict situations. The difference between a man and a woman is that the former have the ability to act, while the latter have the ability to feel. Therefore, the stronger sex does not always perceive our feelings and emotions. In addition, they are distinguished by their straightforwardness, which is why they do not understand the most obvious hints. Therefore, you should not make an offended face or change the intonation in your voice in order to convey your indignation to your companion. It is better to express the insult in words. Another feature of male psychology is the “hunter” instinct. They need to conquer, go to the goal and achieve it.
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Sudden mood swings, excessive emotionality
There is such a disease - bipolar disorder, or manic-depressive psychosis. It manifests itself precisely as mood swings, but with this diagnosis we are not talking about the fact that it seems to you that a person is cheerful or depressed for no reason. In the case of this disease, the phases last up to several months. At the same time, the depressive phase can be severe, as if someone had died, but no one died. Next comes the manic phase, which is characterized by high spirits, disturbances of appetite and sleep, increased excitability and talkativeness, everything is as if a holiday has been going on for several weeks, only there is actually no holiday.
But I note that if you think that someone has “unreasonable” joy, perhaps you simply were not informed about its reasons, but psychosis is usually still far away.
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How a man chooses his beloved
Guys take their choice of life partner seriously. Popular signs are:
- attractiveness;
- well-groomed and radiant appearance;
- character averse to scandals;
- the ability to create home comfort and surround your beloved with care.
These are quite feminine traits that are appreciated by most gentlemen. Therefore, girls with the above characteristics will always enjoy the attention of others.
The male psyche: how feelings manifest themselves
It’s easy to understand that your chosen one really loves you. Observe his reaction in the following cases:
- Showdown. During a quarrel, the partner will not leave the conversation, but will remain to indicate the reasons. If he's interested in you.
- Getting to know his close circle – parents and friends. The guy values his friendships, so he won’t introduce everyone to the company, much less to his family.
- Everyday situations. If your gentleman helps with chores around the house, this indicates his plans for the future.
Among other things, joint shopping trips, purchases, gifts mean serious intentions.
Orgasm simulation and penile prosthesis
Since it is not customary in society to talk openly about men’s intimate problems, some of the guys resort to simulating bliss.
Professor of the Department of Psychology at the University of Kansas Charlene Muhlenhard conducted a study and found that 28% of 180 male students surveyed lied about their pleasure during penile-vaginal intercourse. And 25% pretended during oral sex, manual stimulation and phone sex. A survey of 2,000 people conducted by Men's Health and Women's Health magazines also revealed 17% of liars.
The reasons for lying in bed may be inexperience in these matters, poor choice of a partner, alcohol intoxication, unwanted sex. Some people want to improve the quality of the process in this way, while others are afraid of upsetting a loved one.
Lying is a quick and almost painless solution to the problem. In case of erectile dysfunction, which can be organic
(health problems) and
psychological
, men also most often want to deal with difficulties quickly.
They run for a pill, make injections, or, as a last resort, insert a hydraulic prosthesis. It consists of two cylinders - artificial cavernous bodies; they are filled with a special solution, which is stored in a tank and, before sexual intercourse, is pumped into the cylinders using a pump. And dealing with dysfunction in a sexologist’s office is too long and embarrassing.
Adviсe
There is an opinion that a man treats a woman as she allows him to do so. But when examining the details, it turns out that this is wrong. You can't change guys radically, but the little things are worth a try. This should be done in the initial stages, when the chosen one is at the stage of falling in love and is ready to please his companion in every possible way.
If the girl comes to her senses later, she will have to come to terms with her shortcomings and accept her lover as he is. However, in most cases, the actions of partners depend on upbringing and character. For example, if a wife asks her husband to take out the trash, he may answer that in his family the father did not do this.
Stinginess, accusations of unnecessary spending
In general, stinginess in itself is normal. If a person has this quality, then he lives with it all his life. But if a person suddenly begins to count every penny, if stinginess suddenly appears with age and if saving goes beyond the boundaries of what was previously accepted in the family, then this may have its reasons. Perhaps a person is trying to hold on to something, to preserve his own, to preserve the boundaries of his space. It is also possible that this is a craving for control, for accumulating resources, an attempt to completely manage one’s life. Often occurs with age against a background of impotence. In itself, the desire for power in men is normal and often does not bring anything dangerous until it reaches “overkill.” That's when you notice excesses and excesses in a man's behavior - this may well be a sign of psychopathological processes.
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Psychology of men's behavior in love
When you first meet, a guy is unlikely to think about serious connections. Otherwise, they are not a priority. Therefore, the stronger sex is quite happy with meetings that do not imply obligations. You can seize male territory smoothly and without harsh statements. Since your demonstration of rights to his heart can act as a stop signal for a gentleman.
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Boasting
Men's psychology in relationships with women is often determined by “spreading dust.” A source of pride is a new car, a successful career, the number of books read. The admiration of young ladies gives strength to the stronger sex, “inspires” and motivates them to new exploits. A simple guy feels like a superhero who has the ability to solve every problem.
This happens on a subconscious level, because everyone tries to surprise their companion and be the best in her eyes. In this sense, he is like a child. Therefore, you should not cut off your sense of greatness, but believe in its possibilities.
Straightforwardness
Women strive to get pleasure from communication, while guys want the necessary information. They take what they hear literally, but hints and veiled phrases are not for them.
To reach gentlemen, you need to speak directly. This is the path to mutual understanding in the family. Many people believe that their partner should read their thoughts and guess their desires on their own. They imagine how he will act in a specific situation, and when the companion does everything his own way, they are disappointed. This causes a response from the stronger sex - temper and indignation. Therefore, girls who express their requests as clearly as possible make the task easier for both their husband and themselves.
Masking emotions
The psychology of male behavior is built on restraining feelings. A real man should not take out his feelings on his loved ones. Difficulties at work or other obstacles will make him withdrawn.
Women at this moment act according to two scenarios. They may become self-absorbed, imagining worst-case scenarios. As a result, the chosen one has a new problem. The second option is that the girl arranges an interrogation, trying in every way to find out what the matter is. I advise you to wait out the storm that has washed over your husband and not allow the behavior described above.
Drunkenness and alcoholism
Everyone should remember that regularly drinking “a couple of cans of beer” is alcoholism. Intense drunkenness, not even regular, but with a large amount of alcohol and violent manifestations - too. When a person in adulthood does not know limits and drinks “with consequences”, he does not refuse to drink, but on the contrary, he strives - this is also alcoholism, it’s just a different stage. Alcohol addiction takes its place in the international psychiatric classifier, has its own number, that is, it is a psychopathology on a par with all other drug addictions. In general, a tendency towards addiction of this kind is already a reason to be wary. At the same time, a passion for alcohol, a desire to drink and relax can indicate both the presence of addiction and abuse. But here it is important to understand that the path from abuse to addiction is not long.
Situations are especially dangerous when the passion for alcohol develops slowly over a long time. At some point, alcohol enters all areas of life, it becomes normal to sometimes drink at work, a person no longer sees anything wrong with it, and is not aware of how much it affects the quality of his life and other people. When a man thinks that it is normal to drink where, in principle, there is no place for alcohol, then this is already a reason to think about compulsory treatment.
Alcohol addiction becomes more and more obvious with age and gains momentum, so it needs to be treated as early as possible, when it has not yet reached the pathological stage.
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Association by company
The herd instinct is determined at a subconscious level. Basic principles of group distribution:
- Age interests. They have a lot to talk about, given the temporal and cultural connections.
- General hobby. This includes fishing, cars, hunting and sports.
- Uniting against the enemy. Here there is intolerance towards a certain course of life with an increased sense of justice.
The girl may not be happy with the fact that her lover is away for a long time. You can come to terms with this by doing business in his absence. Or try to infiltrate the team.
Three types of orgasm
Sasha also identifies different types of orgasm that he observed in himself. These revelations came to him during masturbation. When he felt something new and unusual, he fixed his attention on this sensation and seemed to examine it from different angles.
Now Sasha’s classification includes a standard orgasm, which happens during frictions, when all the main erogenous zones of the penis are affected: the head, shaft, frenulum. This orgasm is wave-like, that is, each muscle spasm is accompanied by the release of ejaculate and a wave of pleasure. Also on his list is an orgasm from light stimulation of the most sexually responsive parts of the body - the nipples and frenulum. He is the same physiologically, but feels completely different.
“If you imagine that an ordinary orgasm is a tasty, filling burger, then the second one is a vanilla-banana milkshake. He's more gentle, or something. And to get it, you need to concentrate more than to achieve friction, which, in fact, can always be experienced,” describes Sasha.
The third type is a ruined orgasm. You need to walk to him for a long time, caressing the head of the penis and the frenulum. And in a pre-orgasm state, remove your hands and do nothing. Then the brain itself leads the person to the finish line.
“This once again proves that sex is first and foremost in our heads,” states the Kinky Party member.
There is also multi-orgasm. For this esoteric phenomenon to come into your life, you will have to train the pubococcygeus muscle. But first you need to find her.
This can be done while urinating - just try to interrupt it. What allows you to do this is the “sacred” muscle. Then every day you need to squeeze and unclench it. In a month, you will begin to feel it better, which means you will be able to prolong sexual intercourse by interrupting ejaculation.
And at the same time, you can get a male multiorgasm, or dry orgasm - this is a series of orgasms without ejaculation.
“If you cum the first time, the orgasm will be a C grade. And if from the fourth or fifth, then it’s a ten!” says sex blogger Mitya.
"The Dying Swan"
There are times when you need to treat a guy with special care. There is no more defenseless person than a sick person. All this goes towards his upbringing: the boy is taught that during illness the world revolves around him. But this is a great moment for the fair sex to show off their advantage. Making hot broth or raspberry tea, care and attention will do the trick. The satellite will quickly get to its feet.
Man's expressions of affection
Psychologists say that for an ordinary person, it is enough to look at the interlocutor for just 5 seconds to understand how he treats him. But a man in love behaves differently.
In the first case, the young man will try to show his best side. Becomes more relaxed and open. Will begin to take care of himself. He will be relaxed and friendly. When he sees his beloved, he will look at her without looking away, because she is the one. In the second case, the man’s hidden sympathy will manifest itself as something insecure. He will be withdrawn and confused. A meeting with the lady of his heart will instill fear in him.
To understand what his behavior means, you can use two methods of reading reactions:
- Verbal - by analyzing external signs (voice, intonation).
- Non-verbal - by “reading” images, facial expressions, gestures.
How to read the psychology of men
Their main goal is self-affirmation. In an effort to achieve this, they can push even their relationship with their beloved into the background. Difficulties on the way to the top of a career, problems at work can provoke a partner’s withdrawal. During this period, the lady's rational behavior will be an excellent motivation for achieving success.
Some tips on how to understand a guy's psyche:
- Do not interrogate or meddle in your companion’s affairs unless asked to do so.
- Do not criticize his actions, since a kind word is perceived positively, unlike reproaches.
- Provide support in difficult situations.
- You shouldn't show your superiority.
A penis is the whole universe
Even if you are convinced that you never had any erogenous zones except the “main” one, your brain will prove the opposite. You can develop body sensitivity at any age thanks to neuroplasticity.
Activist Sasha Avdejevic, who has lived with paraplegia for many years, told the podcast “Are You Already?” that after the injury he experiences arousal from touching his collarbone and chest, which is similar to the sensations from penile stimulation. The ability of men with spinal cord injury to experience sexual pleasure and even orgasm from exposure to alternative genital erogenous zones is associated with the ability of the brain to change under the influence of experience and restore lost connections after damage.
Neuroplasticity helps us develop various skills. The more often we practice something, be it playing a musical instrument or playing with a penis, the larger and more developed the parts of the brain responsible for these actions become. But this also works in the opposite direction: if you do not caress your legs, cheeks, stomach and other potentially erogenous zones, then their sensitivity and ability to cause sexual arousal disappear.
Mitya is sure that the penis is the same universe as the rest of the body, so its possibilities can be studied endlessly. The sensitivity of the penis can be developed, for example, by using sex toys: masturbators, erection rings with vibration, butt plugs and vibrators, various gels and lubricants.
You can also masturbate at different rhythms and speeds while watching porn or remembering the best night. During solo sex, you can slow down, stop before ejaculating, try not to cum quickly - in general, travel along the arousal scale. This will not only give you new sensations, but will also help prolong sexual intercourse with your partner, if you suddenly have such a goal.
Recommendations
Listen to my following rules:
- Listen carefully to your companion, share his interests.
- Smile more often, laugh at his jokes.
- Don't forget to give compliments.
- Don't be intrusive, control your emotions and try to be grateful.
- Love yourself, take care of your appearance and be diverse.
- Keep quarrels to a minimum, support your partner and do not focus on mistakes.
Feelings or sex
The psychology of men often comes down to the priority of intimate connection. Of course, love also occupies an important position, but not in the first stages of dating. This is due to instincts that even the most intelligent cannot cope with. At the same time, the spiritual part and physiology do not always represent a single whole. Serious intentions can be understood by the behavior of the companion. In this case, he shows concern and waits for a response, tries to achieve mutual understanding and appreciates the devotion of the chosen one.
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Despotism and the desire for constant control
In women, a tendency toward despotism manifests itself more often through children, whose fate they are “free to control,” so these processes are not so noticeable to us and seem normal. The expression “I am a mother - I can” speaks for itself.
The manifestation of despotism in a man usually extends to the whole world and to adults too, and often worsens with age. The adults around us, of course, don’t like feeling like children. A man wants to rule, possess, distribute, but only at his own discretion. It is the degree of pressure that has arisen that can indicate changes and pathologies, as well as an unexpected desire to make decisions on issues that were previously of no interest to a man, or, in other words, when he begins to meddle in his own business. Manifestation of tyranny can even manifest itself in a funny form, but it should be taken seriously. We are talking about violating personal boundaries, that is, violence.
A little about betrayal
Women themselves push men to be unfaithful. It so happened that they made intimacy a kind of bargaining chip. This is how they reward their partner and deprive her as a form of punishment. But such attempts at manipulation can end badly.
Another point is everyday life. The stronger sex also loves the attention of others. Living together forces spouses to get used to it, and interest slowly fades away. And a pinch of admiration from a stranger can rip off your companion’s head.
There is a category of young people who love risk. It is he who forces them to cheat, since this is accompanied by a feeling of danger and adrenaline. Moreover, intrigue with a large number of ladies increases self-confidence. There is also the psychology of male hunters, for whom a woman is prey, she must behave like an unsolved mystery and maintain the interest of her chosen one.
Features of male psychology
The psychology of a man contains animal instincts. And don’t be afraid of such a “crude” comparison. Thanks to society, we are able to restrain natural instincts, and even then this is very conditional (no one has canceled reproduction, the struggle for food and dominance).
Women sometimes think that men are primitive, their desires are simple, their actions are transparent, but this is not so. We will proceed from the average option, since both women and men may or may not have intelligence.
What do women need to know about the special psyche of men? Boys need to be first, and it doesn’t matter whether he is the best builder of sand cakes or the fastest fastener of shoes, wins the Mathematical Olympiad or spits the furthest in the yard. The main thing is to become a leader. The leadership component runs like a red thread through the entire life of a “right” man.
A man lives by the principle: if he is not the first at work, he will stake the territory of the house. A competent friend in life will find something to praise for: for the best brewed tea, for the fact that he irons his trousers more thoroughly than anyone else, or magically puts the children to bed. It is important for a man to know that he is succeeding in some area, that he has succeeded as a person, then he is satisfied with himself.
There is no need to run after a mammoth now, but striving to get a good salary is everyone’s dream. He needs a car as powerful as a beast; he always catches huge fish. Dear ladies, remember, for a man to become successful, you need to cherish and help him be or seem better.
There is no sadder sight than a weak-willed henpecked man. We won’t go into the broken childhood of such a child, but the wife had a chance to help the person feel like an individual, and not bury him deeper. In such a family there is no happiness for anyone, neither the aggressive woman, nor the passive man, nor the children who fall into the millstones of such upbringing.
A man is stubborn by nature, it is useless to argue with him. A wise woman, knowing that she is right, will not enter into a discussion; she will take a conciliatory position, but with calm and methodical actions she will get the result she needs.
The reaction of men is always harsher, the arguments are well-reasoned, and the behavior is spontaneous. For women who are not accustomed to specific concepts and actions, the behavior seems “unromantic.” A woman “loves with her ears” is not a metaphor, but a biological component. The organ of hearing in women is located near the reproductive center, so love for her is words, kisses, and a man is programmed for sex without foreplay.
What should the fair sex do?
Don't be selfish. Every person needs attention and care. And the partner, in turn, wants to be the best for his companion. Therefore, you should not suppress these aspirations, reproach and criticize your spouse. Support, a kind word or pleasant memories can often accomplish the impossible.
Manifestations of love depending on age
A person in love behaves differently at different ages.
Young people are more emotional in expressing their feelings. They strive to show the girl their strength, courage, and dexterity. This can lead to rash actions. Men over 35 years old try to demonstrate to a woman their care and attentiveness, they try to support her or help her in a difficult situation, to make her life easier.
The signs of a man in love after 45 years are restraint. Often this is due to his negative experience in the field of love relationships. They approach the object of their affection with caution and spend a long time testing their feelings. In such cases, the development of relationships largely depends on the woman’s initiative.
A young person's behavior can be influenced by many aspects, incl. the zodiac sign under which he was born.
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Often it is men who clearly understand what they need from a relationship. Whereas young ladies cannot determine their desires, simultaneously building suspicions about the intrigues and betrayals of their chosen one. Signing up for my consultation will help you get rid of obsessive thoughts. Together we will identify the root of your problem and find the right solution.
A few more recommendations for girls:
- get out of the habit of being sarcastic and touchy;
- look for common ground;
- know how to listen and understand your partner;
- don't try to dominate;
- make him feel like a hero.
The advice is aimed at preserving the guy’s important feelings: self-esteem and respect from others. This is what helps them be strong and successful.
