The wife is offended by her husband, what should the man do? Many people take the path of least resistance and do NOTHING, but is this the right tactic?
As you know, a woman is a creature with a subtle mental organization. It is very easy to offend her, and the reason can be a mere trifle: inattention to the words and actions of the spouse, a bad joke, criticism of the appearance and quality of housekeeping... You never know! I forgot the date of my first kiss, and now the wife is offended, and the husband does not understand the reason.
A hysterical wife constantly nags her husband: she is constantly dissatisfied and insults
Hello friends. Today I want to write an article for men. Stop giving advice only to women. Men need them no less. And it's all because of us. Sometimes you hear the cry of a man’s soul that his wife is hysterical, constantly dissatisfied, offended, grumbling, screaming, hysterical, and simply blowing her mind.
I'm always dissatisfied with something. Or rather, not something, but someone, i.e. husband. Life turns into a nightmare, you want to run away, or hide in a corner somewhere and not hear this constant hysteria. How I understand you guys, so I decided to help. Give some practical advice on how to stop this and start living a normal family life. And who else can do this except the woman herself. So delve into female psychology and do as I advise you.
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My hysterical wife freaks out about everything
First, I'll ask you a simple question. Have you ever wondered why girls like to make scandals, get offended, and pick their brains? And in general, for what purpose is all this being done? The answer is very simple - girls love to raise men. After all, these are all factors of education. This is exactly what we will talk about today. And also, I will share with you a trick on how to properly deal with this upbringing on the part of a girl and how not to become a weak man in her eyes.
The truth is that women, from childhood, try in every possible way to educate. First they play with dolls and educate them. Then they beg for a kitten, a dog and raise the animals. And so they grow up and begin to raise men out of habit.
Why are they doing that? Yes, very simple. Because they understand that this is a good way to punish a man for behavior, actions, actions that are not beneficial to her. Or, as an option, to punish a man for not wanting to fulfill one of her next whims, or not wanting to dance to her tune. And of course she begins to educate him for this. The wife is hysterical and is also constantly dissatisfied - this is hell for a man.
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Secondly. During this time, she could watch a film in which the ideal hero, some Patrick Dempsey with perfect curls and sideburns, gave his beloved diamonds and said that he was ready to spend his life to make her happy. Hm. Whoosh!
What did her boyfriend say to the woman when he asked her to marry her? He said: okay, yours took it, let's get married!
Or he didn't say anything at all, she said, and he nodded and sighed.
Or he said okay, but gave flowers. Or he didn’t give anything. And his curls haven’t been cut for a long time... He doesn’t try at all for his woman. He probably doesn't respect him. Or is it all about Dasha.
N-n-at you with a metallic voice.
Why is a hysterical wife always unhappy with her husband?
The point of all this education is to put psychological pressure on the guy in every possible way and, accordingly, force him to do what she wants. The sad thing here is that if a man is subjected to this kind of upbringing, she gradually begins to consider him weak. That is, she begins to understand, yeah dear, that means I can calmly influence you psychologically, i.e. I can raise you the way I want. That's it, you are no longer a man for me.
A woman will never respect the man she raises. So, man, don't ever let her raise you. And the best option in a situation when you realize that she is starting to take offense at you, starting scandals, and starting to blow your mind.
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Just don’t react to all this, don’t let her drag you into this so-called brain crusher. Because you won’t achieve anything in all this. If you try to prove something to her, convince her of something, persuade her, beg her. All this is definitely a dead option. Anyway, the hysterical wife is constantly unhappy.
Find out why your wife was offended
An intelligent woman, as a rule, is quick-witted and does not stir up conflict over an insignificant issue. But there are some ladies who accumulate negativity in their souls and build entire philosophies around quarrels. This corrodes the soul... There are also reasons for grievances that in no case should be forgiven. If your wife is offended and is silent, do not be silent yourself. Everything is discussed and everything can be decided - after all, you are alive, healthy, and your love has not gone anywhere. She is only wounded - seriously or not too much.
So, speak up. Start figuring out what you did or said wrong. When the wife is offended and does not speak, mutual silence can drag on and serve as a reason for the conflict to escalate. A smart husband will be able to overcome the woman’s resistance and reluctance to discuss the quarrel. She closed her petals like a rose and exposed her thorns - water your flower, it needs nourishment with gentle words, gentle touches, proof of attention and love.
Admit your mistake, even if deep down you think you are right. What is more important to you: your own ambitions or mutual understanding in your family? But my wife finally began to thaw. Try to look at the quarrel with a small (at first!) dose of humor. This is how, step by step, you will come to reconciliation, which can be so sweet after a thunderstorm.
Hysterical wife turns against mother
Trust the experience of other men. It’s best if you understand that your beloved is trying to somehow educate you, or is turning you against your mother, do not react to all this. And let yourself understand that now she will go crazy, then maybe she will try to sulk, take offense, put pressure on you. But if she sees that it doesn’t work for you, she will quickly calm down. And remember, she can say that you are not a man, a scumbag and a scoundrel, you are bad, where her eyes looked, she was completely disappointed in you. And similar provocative statements.
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Because women know what to say to simply blow and hook a man. And here is attention, the decisive moment. If you start making excuses to her, explaining yourself, trying to prove something, trying to have some kind of debate with her. Everyone, remember, you lost! And to all these screaming provocative remarks of hers, that you are a scoundrel and a scumbag. Your hysterical wife is constantly dissatisfied with you and will always be so if you do not follow my advice.
My advice to you is to react neutrally. Moreover, while agreeing with her. And you can even be slightly ironic, but not explicitly, this will only diffuse it even more. Here's an example.
- You bastard, how could I contact you! You scoundrel, I'm disappointed in you!
And you say.
- Darling, you are completely right. Nightmare! How could you contact me? Where the hell were your eyes looking? Yes, I am the most terrible person on the planet! In general, I’m the guy that your mother probably told you about when you were a child: do you see him? Don't ever try to mess with him!
How to work through marital grievances?
I have two useful pages on the site for you. One is about how to get rid of your resentment. The other is about how to work through your resentment. These materials do not replace, but complement each other, so I recommend reading both.
Marital grievances are no different from any other, so all the recommendations on how to work through “ordinary” grievances also work with marital grievances.
The key feature of the proposed approach to working through grievances is the use of all the processing power of the subconscious for this task. What does this mean?
First, working through the grievance will involve removing the emotional charge from it. The resentment will not be forgotten, will not be forgiven, will not be deposited deeper into the subconscious... The resentment will be discharged.
The result of such work on yourself will be that the offense will lose its power over your response, turning from one of your internal “manipulators” into a pile of boring mental garbage that you can very easily discard, which is what we need.
Secondly, since the processing will be carried out on a subconscious level, you will be able to work with resentment not just at the level of its emotional component, but also with its subconscious roots. Roughly speaking, in the subconscious there are certain unconscious attitudes that at the conscious level “give out” a feeling of resentment. I often write about these components on the site - these are emotional distress, the victim mentality, and limiting beliefs. …
all these roots of resentment operate on a subconscious level.
Working through the resentment using the subconscious powers of the psyche will also allow you to defuse the roots of the resentment. This means that you will not only stop resenting your spouse so much, but you will also achieve very tangible and powerful internal changes. For example, working through your emergency situations will greatly affect how you react to your spouse’s behavior. The degree of healthy indifference will increase, and how the spouse behaves will cease to be so important. This will inevitably have consequences...
Thirdly, subconscious processing of grievances opens up opportunities for you that, with conscious work on grievances (including the same work with psychologists) would be very difficult to achieve, if not completely impossible.
In particular, by pointing to the subconscious mind some episode in which an offense occurred (this is exactly what the episode was written for), you can order it to work through not only this episode, but in general ALL episodes of your past when such an offense was experienced by you or someone else something else. This approach allows you to very successfully work through even those grievances that you now do not remember or are not aware of, including your fat grievances from childhood.
This means that when working with the subconscious, you can scale up any kind of elaboration and transfer it to the contents of your entire subconscious in principle. This, by the way, is the essence of the technique, which you can read about on the page about how to get rid of resentment.
By the way, a bonus result of working through grievances in this mode is that those grievances that you have long forgotten (but which continue to influence you) can be unblocked and come to the surface, after which you can successfully work through them. That’s why I wrote above that even if you can’t remember all your grievances against your spouse now, then it’s okay. As you work with your subconscious, old grievances will rise to the surface and be worked through.
Finally, fourthly, with such work there is no need to relive painful episodes. There is no need to immerse yourself in memories and re-experience negative emotions. It is enough to point your subconscious to this episode, and it itself will work on it according to the given algorithms.
The combination of all these factors, coupled with my personal experience of working through, allows me to state quite unequivocally that if you want to get rid of your grievances and are ready for fundamental changes in your perception, thinking and reaction, then the approach I propose will be very effective. hundreds in 3-4 months
past grievances, ranging from grievances from the past to your most recent grievance against your spouse.
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Now that I have so laudably described the subconscious processing of grievances, the question arises - where is the catch? It can’t be that in three months you can defuse all your grievances, and without a catch, right?
Indeed, there is a catch. And this is what it is.
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And you will see how she will be simply in a stupor, she will be in shock. Because all women, when they start to take offense at a man, nag them, accuse them of something and other these situations. They expect that the man will explain, make excuses, prove that he is not like that. And then oops, the man agreed with her. He even began to slander himself even more. Is your wife hysterical and constantly unhappy? Okay, I agree that I don't deserve you.
Well, of course, it’s clear that when you agree with her and start talking about how you are the worst person. She begins to understand that you agreed with her. But even at the same time, you begin to exaggerate her statements to some ridiculous proportions. She understands that this is all simple irony. And in no case should this be confused to mean that girls love bad boys. No, that's not what I'm talking about.
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The truth here is rather that women do not like men who are easy to train, who are submissive, who try to explain themselves and justify themselves to her. And of course, who can be easily forced to do what she wants. Everything is extremely simple. And this is where I am leading this thought. Remember that women always test men whether he will be trainable or not.
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After all, for them, this is a way to test how strong a man is at one time or another in their relationship or communication. If he can be trained, that means everything, he becomes weak and uninteresting for her. She loses attraction to him and, accordingly, will most likely not continue the relationship. If the partner cannot be trained, she begins to feel that she is drawn to him. Her attraction to him intensifies. Well, she sees him as a strong, attractive, man. The wife is constantly unhappy only with a weak man.
Now let's take a closer look at why all this happens and how to avoid it.
IT'S LIKE A GIRAFFE
Fifthly. A person has two types of reactions to an attack. Run (or fight) and freeze. It's the same with conversations. Some people immediately react to offensive words - they answer, swear, shout, leave, slamming the door...
But there are women who freeze. Women who were told throughout their childhood that their feelings were stupid. “Are you scared? It’s nonsense, there’s nothing to be afraid of here, dive off the cliff like the good fellow Sashenka.” Or this: “Are you offended that Innokenty pulled your pigtail? Hurt? Nonsense! You came up with everything. It doesn’t hurt you, but he just fell in love.” Such a woman cannot immediately feel what happened. Like a giraffe, it takes a long time to get to her. She heard something offensive, something stirred inside her, something unpleasant. But doubt immediately appeared. Maybe nonsense? Anything offensive? Did I make it all up? Did he just fall in love?
She is, of course, already an adult. But it still takes time to decide whether to be offended or not.
Find out the reason for the tantrums
Hysteria is a way of getting what you want. Two types of women regularly throw tantrums:
- spoiled in childhood.
If the parents spent little time raising the girl in childhood, fulfilled her every whim, did not teach her to overcome difficulties and help around the house, then she begins to resort to hysterical fits already at the age of 3, if her parents do not buy her a toy or take her to kindergarten, and with age her selfish antics only intensify.
- patients with neurosis.
If in childhood a girl was calm and obedient, then the manifestation of hysterics with age may be one of the types of neuroses. Some psychologists call hysteria the first degree of insanity, especially if it is accompanied by streams of tears, simulation of fainting, headaches, heart attacks and threats to commit suicide. In this case, when the first symptoms of hysteria appear, you should call a doctor and give a calming injection.
The wife is hysterical. Is there a way out? Learn to ignore and remain silent
If you truly care about your wife and you have a child together, then you should try with all your might to save the marriage. To do this, you will have to be patient and persevering. As the saying goes, what a person “absorbed with his mother’s milk” cannot be changed by anyone.
Tantrums are theatrical performances by an “actress” who has no special education. Therefore, the hysterical person is afraid of publicity and throws tantrums only in the presence of the people closest to her. In order for her husband to fulfill her whim, a hysterical wife can bring him to a nervous breakdown, but she herself always controls her behavior and, despite her terrifying appearance, does not feel any shame. She easily calms down and can even ask for forgiveness if her husband gives in to her and she gets the desired result.
Even if you cannot completely ignore the hysteria and go to another room so as not to become a participant in the performance, do not succumb to provocations and do not allow yourself to be manipulated. Don’t let the hysterical person drain your energy, try not to be a participant in the theatrical performance, but remain only a spectator from the sidelines.
Let rude words and insults pass your ears, as if they were directed not at you, but at the theater hero, which fortunately you are not. If the screaming, crying and yelling suddenly turns into death threats or assault, call 911 immediately. This is already a nervous breakdown and your wife needs a sedative.
Don't listen to your friends' advice
Husband and wife are one Satan, so no matter how much your friends advise you: “Why are you suffering with her, don’t ruin your life, pick up your feet and run,” do not rush to file for divorce. There are very few modern women who are calm, balanced and hardworking.
Most of them are fixated on external beauty, luxury and wealth. Therefore, it is unknown what your next woman will be like, most likely, she will be the same. After all, only some men, after divorcing their first wife, draw the proper conclusions and work on themselves.
And if he remains with the same outlook on life and low self-esteem, then he will again attract hysterical people who are avoided by men who are confident and successful with women.
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Frequent quarrels are the reason for silence
Any psychologist will boldly name the first reason why the wife does not want to talk. And there will be endless quarrels and scandals. Especially if their spouse suits them in most cases. A woman is simply afraid to say an extra word that could lead to conflict. Of course, a man is not always characterized by strong emotionality, but many husbands lash out at their loved ones after a hard day at work. And the reason for this can be one careless word, thrown even with irony. You can’t take it out on your loved ones! They are waiting for their husband and father to come home, they are bored. And bitterness kills all that is bright and good in the soul.
Men's rudeness sometimes knows no bounds. Loud words, humiliating insults, etc. hurt the spouse’s self-esteem so much that it is better for her to withdraw into herself and remain silent. Often the husband makes fun of his beloved in the company of friends that she talks too much. This leads to the opposite effect - the girl becomes silent and aloof.
Who are these hysterical women?
They are called women with emotional swings. One moment she is calm, smiles at those around her and looks like a child, but literally a few minutes later she turns into a beast that rushes and rushes for no particular reason. Either a real princess, at whose feet you want to lay the whole world, or a fire-breathing dragon, from which you want to run.
These are real hysterics who have problems with self-esteem. When she is in a suspended emotional state and experiences elation, she should not be praised; when her confidence falls, she turns into a huge bundle of nerves. A woman throws hysterics and scandals with or without cause, but after a while she becomes calm.
There are several signs by which you can understand that your wife is hysterical:
Why even get involved and build a family with such women? It’s easier to get away from the shocks and find a balanced wife. But if a bitchy woman is a beautiful, smart, successful and interesting person, then the man will be very tempted and will not be able to resist the lady. In such cases, a man should know a few rules for taming bitches.
How should a man behave with his hysterical wife?
Rule #1.
A hysterical wife is karma for a man. Let's work it out. Distance in response to capricious behavior and reinforcement of the good If the wife begins to insult and provoke, there is no need to respond in kind, ignore her speeches or silently accept the blow. The response causes outbursts of anger. If you ignore or silently listen to attacks, she will feel powerful and will belittle her husband.
To avoid conflict, you need to keep your distance. As soon as another outburst of anger begins, you just need to get up and leave or end the telephone conversation without explaining anything about it. If you were sitting in a cafe together, then just pay the bills and leave. Of course, such behavior will make the woman even more angry. But she needs time to be with herself to think about what happened and understand her guilt.
In many cases, the lady calms down, the volcano calms down, and she realizes that she acted rudely. She will call and apologize herself. In this case, you should not give her lectures on correct behavior, but simply accept her apology, making it clear that you are not ready to tolerate such an unreasonable attitude towards yourself.
Rule #2.
Do not start arguments or criticize. When building a family with a hysterical wife, it is worth remembering one important rule:
Do not criticize family members and children with her, do not look for shortcomings in the chosen one and flaws in her appearance.
Even if you cannot come to a common opinion and have different points of view, there is no need to argue and furiously prove that you are right and impose your opinion.
You need to calmly speak out, saying that the decision or opinion will remain unchanged. Although the wife will be unhappy, this will cause much more respect than retaliatory attacks, shouting and waving her arms.
Rule #3.
Be able to stay within certain boundaries. As soon as your wife tries to hurt you or prick you, you cannot respond in kind. They are only angels in appearance, but inside they are very vindictive and vindictive. Therefore, once again it is better to refrain from insulting. In a relationship, the main one is the one who has stable self-esteem, who is not offended for any reason and knows how to forgive and not take revenge.
With such a man, she will behave more calmly, and all her attempts to provoke you into a quarrel and emotions will be in vain. A man should behave respectfully and, in case of any provocations, simply step away, and not be offended and take revenge in return. Any bad behavior of a woman is caused by the fact that she has a deeply hidden resentment, so you should not give an extra reason.
Hysterical behavior not only repels men, but also negatively affects women themselves. The psyche is disturbed, control over oneself, one’s thoughts and behavior is lost. With frequent emotional breakdowns, a woman can go beyond what is permitted, without completely understanding what she is doing.
Only balanced, restrained, strong men can get along with such women, who can stop the attacks of their beloved, take control of her, and not respond to her with the same inadequate reaction.
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With which men do women turn hysterical?
Psychologists identify 7 main types of men with whom women lose their minds and control of emotions.
Calm alcoholic
This is not yet the stage when a man goes on a rampage, takes things out of the house and beats his wife. This is an “amateur alcoholic” who drinks a certain amount almost every day, which increases over time. Many women are not ready to put up with this and begin to look for ways to fight. When all attempts have been used, but there is no result, the wife’s psyche is shaken and hysterics arise. In this case, a man should think about his lifestyle and eradicate a bad habit.
Creative personalities
Such people have a different way of thinking and perception of the world, including relationships in marriage. These geniuses are not always recognized by the people. In this case, they are not able to earn a decent income and help their wife with household issues. They are always in search of muse and inspiration. What kind of life tires a woman, and she becomes a bore, always nagging her husband.
Egotist
There are men who think only about themselves. As a rule, they marry calm and flexible girls. At first, wives put up with this behavior of a man and don’t pay much attention. But when a woman realizes that her husband doesn’t love her that much and is busy only with his own life, then her peace of mind begins to be undermined, which leads to quarrels and hysterics. The woman is trying with all her might to attract attention.
Tyrant and dictator
These are men with a cruel character, the behavior of a despot, for whom it costs nothing to hit a woman. If after the first such incident a woman does not leave the man, then she should be prepared for the situation to repeat itself periodically. Life will become real torture. The wife turns into a downtrodden, hysterical person. A similar situation is observed with a man who suppresses his chosen one morally.
Careerist.
It would seem that there is nothing wrong if a man tries to build his career and achieve great success. But such people also have a domineering character, which will manifest itself in relations with their wife. If she is his “blessed with berries,” then they will have a lot in common and fewer problematic situations. But if the wife is lower in status and does not look like the wife of rich people, then the man will not treat her with due respect. What kind of attitude will clearly make your husband nervous? Wives of careerists should look beautiful everywhere: at home, on a walk, in a restaurant and at a party, wear elegant clothes, and have appropriate manners and behavior. In addition, she must develop herself, be able to maintain a conversation on any topic.
Womanizer.
As a rule, a girl understands before marriage whether her future husband is prone to flirting and making advances toward other women. But she hopes that marriage will change him and he will be faithful to her all his life. But expectations are far from reality and self-deception leads to mental disorders. The wife constantly controls her husband, arranges checks, rummages through the phone and social networks, which makes her a jealous hysteric.
Good for all sex.
Men want to be good for everyone: parents, friends, colleagues, but not for their wife. What kind of husband would be happy to have money for friends, give them an expensive gift, shelter friends who have nowhere to stay, forgetting about the interests and well-being of the family. The wife's opinion is not taken into account. It’s surprising that with such behavior a woman turns into a vixen who does not accept her husband’s friends and hides money.
Hysteria in women: how to deal with it. What to do when hysterical and how to calm it down.
Hysteria is one of the most common phenomena that occurs in women. This behavior can cause serious mental disorders, so it should not be ignored. A hysterical wife jeopardizes not only her health, but also the psychological climate in the family. You can help her calm down at home, but it is better to consult a doctor.
Regardless of the reason for the development of hysteria, it is impossible to leave a woman alone with this problem.
The first thing a husband should do is bring his beloved to a conversation and understand the reason for this behavior. Any aggression and denial on the part of the spouse will only aggravate the situation. You should show maximum understanding, listen to your wife to the end, prove that you love her, and are always ready to support her. This approach will defuse the situation and calm the hysterical person a little.
If your wife is hysterical, redirect her attention to something else. Talk to her about the child and his behavior. You can jokingly point out smudged lipstick or mascara. This will distract her from the pressing problem and give her the opportunity to calm down.
If all of the above methods are useless, you can choose a more radical way to calm her down: splash a glass of water on her face. Your wife won’t like this action, but at least it will somehow make her calm down.
GIRLFRIENDS ARE SO devious
Third. She could talk to her friend. And this is even more dangerous than looking at Patrick Dempsey's perfect sideburns. With a friend, they could start from “he used to call three times a day, but now he writes every other day and doesn’t like photos” and through “last week at dinner he didn’t take my side, but supported his snake-mother” to “ he’s an alcoholic with uncontrollable aggression” and “let him go to his Dasha.” And then I won’t even strain my metallic voice to blacklist your contacts.
Types of hysterics
Hysterical attack.
The cause of such psychosis can be unpleasant words from a loved one or an unpleasant situation that has arisen at home or at work. Such hysteria is accompanied by tears, screams, stomping feet, sharp gestures, tearing of hair on the head, etc. During this period, the woman’s consciousness turns off and a few minutes after the seizure she may not even remember what happened to her.
There are two ways to stop this psychosis: with cold water or sharp pain. Hysterical attacks can occur regularly, so the woman should be shown to a psychotherapist.
Hysterical behavior.
This hysteria in women manifests itself in a different way. A representative of the fairer sex strives to become an object of admiration, envy and surprise. To achieve this, a woman dresses brightly, has her hair cut and made up, and constantly comes up with some unusual stories to attract the attention of the public. You can notice such a hysterical person by behavior in which there is excessive affectation and theatricality. Both young and old women suffer from such psychosis. Often their appearance and behavior do not correspond to their age and social status.
Take responsibility and apologize
No one is responsible for your behavior except yourself. It doesn’t matter how bad things are going at work, whether you had a headache, or who “provoked” you and for how long. You obviously shouldn't have done what you did and circumstances had nothing to do with it.
Try to say in your own words that you were very wrong and you repent of it. Say that you understand that apologies in themselves do not mean anything, but you will try not to be unfounded and back them up with actions.
The impact of tantrums on the family. How to live with a hysterical wife
Many men don’t know what to do if their wife is hysterical. Not every representative of the stronger sex is ready to tolerate such emotional outbursts in their family. Most men want a family in which there will be peace, mutual understanding and harmony. Living with a mentally unstable partner is simply unbearable for many. If a girl behaved adequately before marriage, and after marriage began to regularly show hysterics, sooner or later the same outcome awaits her:
The man will immediately leave her.
At first, the husband will try to understand the reason for the hysterics and try to calm his wife down. But even the most patient husband will not be able to withstand such regular shaking, so divorce is inevitable. Only some husbands can tolerate an unhealthy situation in the family and accept a woman for who she is.
A man who really wants to save his marriage should stock up on endurance and patience, since this problem cannot be eliminated quickly.
Signs of hysterics
The hysterical wife is extremely selfish, she is driven by increased pride, attention to her person, the desire to be in everyone's sight and the desire to dominate her partner, suppressing his personality.
A characteristic feature of hysterics is the simulation of various illnesses, for example, migraines, in order to attract attention to themselves in any way and force them to fulfill their whims. Often, women show others unusual manifestations of their illness - fainting, seizures and other inhuman suffering.
Such women often start a scandal for no apparent reason, the purpose of which is to get what they want through blackmail and hysterics.
Knowing her husband’s weaknesses, the woman begins to put pressure on what hurts most, trying to make her dream come true. A man should not rush to blame a woman, since in most cases she is a hostage to psychosis and frayed nerves.
An attack of hysteria begins acutely and is expressed in the following symptoms: raising the voice, redness of the skin of the face, crying, sobbing, slurred, chaotic speech. The girl begins to scream, stomp her feet, and theatrically wring her hands. However, these emotions are clearly exaggerated. At these moments, they are characterized by deceit, dramatic behavior, and posturing.
Many women claim that when they are hysterical, they experience clouding of consciousness and do not remember most of what they said.
How to stop a girl from throwing tantrums
If the wife is hysterical, this is somehow understandable, but the girl is hysterical... You need it in the future. We will still consider this issue. The best way to prevent hysteria is to nip its preconditions in the bud.
Try to talk, find out what is bothering your beloved, and whether you can help her with something. Perhaps earlier you showed tactlessness, uttered words that seemed offensive to her. Hug, kiss, just sit next to your woman, perhaps this is exactly what she needs most at the moment. Reassure the anxious girl, promise that everything will be fine with you, and you will make every effort to achieve this.
Sometimes acting as a vest can be very useful. Give your friend the opportunity to speak out, cry, and let off steam. Let her complain about the people who offended her (boss, girlfriend, neighbor). If she understands that you are her reliable support, protected, strong rear, a real man who can lift the clouds over her head with a confident hand, then she will stop being hysterical.
Let the girl be a little capricious, advise her to describe all her “troubles”, for example, in an online diary. When the bad mood passes and the problems are forgotten, you can laugh together at the far-fetched reasons for the hysteria.
If talking doesn’t help, you can film the girl during the hysterical period on a video camera, and then show the recording. Let him admire how she looks at this moment and draw the appropriate conclusions.
If a girl calls you and is hysterical, under no circumstances speak to her in a raised voice, do not adopt her behavior. Communicate softly, calmly, as much as your endurance allows. Tell her that such serious problems should not be solved over the phone. Advise you to wait until you arrive home, and so that the waiting time is not painful, let him take a bath and sleep. Perhaps this will work, and when you arrive home the lady will be calm and reasonable, and then you can talk.
Are you thinking about how to make peace with your wife after a strong quarrel?
Still from the film “Deep Sleep”
You don’t know how to choose words if you really feel strongly
offended her?
We will try to tell you in as much detail as possible about how best to do this, creating a kind of universal apology formula.
However, first you should familiarize yourself with the most important rule: you should ask for forgiveness only when you really consider yourself to be guilty, and this is sincere
.
If this is your case, then let's go.
