How to understand that a man is in love, but hides his feelings?

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The easiest thing for most men is to stay out of the relationship, play little games and fool around.

However, it is not so easy to admit to yourself and others that you have real feelings for someone.

Whether they admit it or not, the thought of talking about their feelings and starting a relationship that could end in heartbreak can be scary at times.

For this reason, many men begin to struggle with their feelings. First of all, it is a struggle with oneself, because for many, falling in love makes them vulnerable.

They take their time in getting into a relationship and evaluate the situation before doing anything.

If you think a man is falling in love with you, but something is holding him back, pay attention to these 15 signs that he is struggling with his feelings for you.

This will certainly allow you to see the picture more clearly.

Reasons to hide falling in love and stages of development of feelings

At the beginning of the emergence of feelings, a man does not yet consciously hide his sympathy, but also does not show it, trying to decide whether he is really attracted to this woman more than immediately.
You can talk about concealing feelings and look for the reasons for this phenomenon from the moment the period of passion begins.

Reasons to lurk

It is not always obvious why a man hides his feelings.
In most cases, a man is driven to such behavior by the following reasons:

• fear of being rejected
  - observed in young, shy men suffering from low self-esteem. The problem is caused by a child's complex, when the child believed that he was much worse than others or constantly compared himself with peers who seemed to him to be much more successful and confident than him;
• The psychology of a bachelor
  is a phenomenon typical of men over 30. They are accustomed to independence and are afraid of any intrusion into their own life and way of life. They are not ready to easily accept the idea of ​​​​the possibility of any significant changes, when they will have to adapt to someone, take into account someone’s opinion and change their habits;
• failure in a previous case of love
  - after a painful breakup, regardless of age, he can withdraw into himself for a long period, fearing a new relationship, confident of a bad outcome;
• a strong belief in the need to hide emotions
  - a belief that is characteristic mainly of teenagers who believe that it is important for a man to remain indifferent to others, as this makes him more attractive. This phenomenon goes away with age;
• lack of exact confidence in feelings for a woman
  - usually occurs after a previous unsuccessful romance that ended in disappointment in the partner. As a result, the confidence is formed that finding a person with whom you want to share your life is extremely difficult. Therefore, you should try to do this only if there is not the slightest doubt about your feelings;
• a woman’s fear
  – can develop due to a man’s fear that falling in love will turn him into a henpecked man who will lose his rights and interests, and as a result will become not only dependent on his partner, but also an object of ridicule for friends and acquaintances. Fear makes you block your feelings;
• fear of loss of freedom
  - the reason to hide feelings is typical of men who are not accustomed to stability. They need a constant change of partners because of their lack of trust in everyone. Usually the phenomenon is caused by a complex from childhood that prevents building permanent relationships due to fear of being betrayed, offended or rejected;
• married man
  - having a family does not mean that a man cannot show feelings and fall in love. Not wanting problems and the loss of his family, he hides and suppresses his love. At the same time, on a subconscious hidden level, feelings can manifest themselves through gestures and be noticeable to the object of love.

Regardless of the reason that served as a reason to hide feelings and manifestations of love, a man will not be able to completely hide his condition.
By the way! There is a disease in which a man loses the ability to love.

Stages of feelings

The development of love in a man of any age goes through several stages. The manifestation of feelings occurs from the second.

1. Sympathy.
   Men first evaluate a woman, determine how much she fits their ideals of beauty, and find a way to fit her into this established opinion. There are no outward manifestations of love yet, although feelings for the woman are already beginning to develop.
2. Passion.
   A condition that manifests itself both a few days after the first stage and after a considerable period, which depends on the individual characteristics of the person. At this moment, the man makes every effort to attract the attention of the chosen woman and show himself in her eyes in the best possible way.
3. Attraction.
   Feelings become much deeper. A man is driven by the desire for a serious relationship. The representative of the stronger sex directs all efforts to not just have a short-term romance with a woman, but to conquer her for a long time. Breaking up a relationship is extremely painful.
4. Beliefs.
   The stage occurs if the relationship has reached a serious level. During this period, the man makes every effort to make his partner absolutely fall in love with him and cannot imagine life with someone else.
5. Exam.
   The man already sees for sure that the woman is in love, and suddenly begins to doubt how much he needs this serious relationship and whether he is ready to continue it. During this period, he is allowed to disappear from his partner’s life for several days, during which violent emotional experiences and internal disputes occur.
6. Readiness for family and love.
   After the exam, the man returns to a state close to the period of conviction. He is completely ready for a serious relationship, wants a family and sharing responsibility for life with the chosen woman. His subconscious accepts the need for changes in his life, the need to reckon with his partner and the desire to have children together.

In the case of short-term romances or meetings for one evening, the feeling of love does not develop and, as a rule, there are no manifestations of love. A man shows only sympathy for his partner without offering further.

How to tell if a guy likes you in school or college

Girls, all men are the same. And they drool at us the same way, even in the office at work, even at school or college.

Although no, teenagers at this moment look even more sad and funny. God, if only someone told them about this... Most often it looks like rudeness. Flat jokes, gags.

BUT, don’t allow yourself to make fun of him and his behavior, no matter how weird it may look from the outside. The guy approaches you as best he can and as best he can. We should at least appreciate such gestures of attention.

Manifestation of hidden feelings in young people

Falling in love at a young age can often manifest itself in an unusual way, when a guy is afraid of being funny because he chose a girl who does not meet the beauty standards accepted in his company.
This is due to internal immaturity, which does not allow individuality to be shown. The result is complete ignoring of the object or outright ridicule of it, similar to that of children, when boys, if they like a girl, try to attract her attention by unpleasant actions or by teasing her.

At the same time, the guy involuntarily tries to glance at the girl he likes. Often he tries to establish friendships with the girlfriends of the one he likes, in order to get information about her through them, find out her habits and what she likes.

A sign of a lover at this age is that he will willingly communicate with an object that he likes, but only if he is completely sure that his company will not find out anything.

Statistics and educational facts

• At the first meeting, a guy pays attention to the girl’s face, and not to the subtleties of her figure. And if it seems cute, that’s enough to trigger feelings, even when the silhouette is far from the model’s.
• Any coincidence can become the basis of falling in love. Similar facial features, hobbies, field of activity.
• A person in love is indecisive and absent-minded.

Another interesting sign that you have fallen in love with a guy is the internal sensations you feel when you are around him. They are similar to strong intoxication.

How to spot love in adults

During this period, a man already loses the teenage characteristics of hiding feelings, and his indifference to a woman can be determined through other manifestations.

In adulthood

During this period, even being afraid to show feelings for a woman, a man begins to change.
He strives to look as presentable as possible. New things appear in the wardrobe. Often a male colleague in love chooses them in color similar to those worn by the woman he likes. Behavior also changes. A man who gestured weakly when talking to the woman he is in love with begins to accompany his speech with a large number of gestures. If he speaks while moving his hands, he, on the contrary, becomes more restrained. The timbre of the voice often changes, decreasing and becoming softer.

In older people

Retirement age does not mean absence of feelings.
An older man often hides his love because of the stereotype that love is only for young people. You can understand his concern by quite noticeable signs:

A man can fall in love at any age, but not everyone dares to openly show feelings.
In a state of senile dementia (dementia), the ability to fall in love lasts longer than many skills.

Nonverbal signs: gaze, facial expressions and gestures

These signs include:

• always strives to be as close as possible;
• often examines the girl from head to toe;
• puts his hands on his hips, while tucking his fingers into the belt.

A guy in love often writes messages and gives flowers. Listens carefully while looking into the eyes.

Plus, he is interested in the hobbies of his chosen one, can share them, and shows a willingness to introduce them to his parents. Or he often invites you to his company.

The desire to present the achieved beloved girl to loved ones is one of the manifestations of the conqueror’s instinct

Increased attention

Another obvious symptom of falling in love, by which you can accurately identify the man who is interested in you. He is constantly looking for a reason to call, he “accidentally” meets you in the most unexpected places, including those that he hates.

Ready to wander around the shops with you and listen to you chat for hours about the office “serpentarium”? He's definitely in love.

A man who is not sure of a reciprocal feeling can show love in completely different forms. For example, regularly criticize, make sarcastic jokes, openly mock, etc.

How to tell if a colleague has fallen in love with you

A colleague who is in love usually:

• looks for the employee he likes with his eyes;
• strives to be close, to touch;
• looks in her direction searchingly and tenderly.

During a conversation, pauses appear in the conversation as the man is worried. He often shows assertiveness: he calls you to a cafe, offers help, and treats you to coffee.

Official intrigues rarely go unnoticed by outsiders

The most important indicator of emotions

Have you ever noticed how some people actively gesture with their hands when telling a story? It is this part of the body that so often helps determine what a person is really thinking about.

• Hands crossed in front of you - the man is defending himself from you, this is a defensive position.
• Constantly touching his face - such gestures mean that the person is very sincere towards the interlocutor, or, in any case, is trying to show it.
• Touching a lady is another cunning trick of men. In this way they show that they are vying for the lady. Interestingly, most often they do this completely by accident.
• A man who straightens his clothes definitely wants to please his lady. He is a little worried that he is not worthy of her, and, nervous, constantly pulls himself together.
• Active gestures indicate that the man treats his interlocutor well. He trusts her and is completely open to her.

Eyes are the mirror of the soul

As you know, the look reveals a person first of all. And so the first thing you should pay attention to is his eyes. Men who hide their feelings usually cannot stand a girl's gaze for a long time. Try to look him straight in the eyes and at the same time mentally ask him: “Do you like me?” You will see the answer for yourself. If he becomes embarrassed and looks away, most likely, yes, but if he holds his gaze and looks in bewilderment, most likely he has a different interest in you.

It is also important how a man looks at a woman. If he feels sympathy for her, then when he looks at her his pupils dilate. Men love with their eyes, and therefore they can look at the object of their desire for a long time. If you accidentally notice that a man is constantly watching you from the side, he undoubtedly likes you.

Bouts of humor

A man in love, when in company, makes jokes left and right, without skimping. And the very first glance after a general burst of laughter will be directed exclusively at the woman who is interesting to him.

However, in a company, a man can behave in a completely opposite way - demonstratively withdraw himself from the general fun in order to silently (and, of course, mysteriously) watch his beloved woman from the side.

Stages of the birth of love