How to understand that a man likes you, but he hides his feelings: secrets of male psychology

Author: Anton Potashev

Modest girls find it difficult to establish relationships with their peers, and even more so with the opposite sex. They spend more time with close friends and parents, but this does not prevent them from falling in love and hoping for reciprocity. Shy girls are more likely than their brave friends to ask themselves: “How can you tell if a boy likes you without asking?” – because they are usually unsure of themselves. Our article is for them.

Eyes are the mirror of the soul

In most cases, you can determine a guy’s attitude towards himself by his gaze.
A guy is not indifferent if he looks at a girl and tries to maintain visual contact for a long period of time. He will constantly watch the object of his affection, meeting and following her with his gaze.

Therefore, if your views constantly intersect or he openly admires you, this indicates serious intentions. Another good sign will be the dilation of the pupils while watching you.

However, you need to take into account that many guys, especially at school, are shy and may try to hide their crushes.

There are several ways to find out how he feels:

1. From the outside it is better to see who is staring at whom, so you can ask your friends to objectively assess the situation.
2. Use the following trick - stand so that you can see the guy with your peripheral vision. When you feel his gaze, start peering somewhere into the distance, and then turn around sharply and look at him.
3. When during a conversation his gaze does not focus only on the face of the interlocutor, this always indicates interest.
4. If a shy boy likes you, when your eyes meet he will most likely blush and look away.

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In a married suitor, these same signs will be much less pronounced. Behind him is a wedding, years of marriage, children. He understands how much trouble infidelity will bring to the family. It is quite possible that he liked the girl, but this does not mean that he is ready to cheat. He will hide his eyes, feel insecure and tense, will not be able to joke cheerfully and will have difficulty maintaining a conversation.

Much depends on the degree of love and the situation in the family, but a strong man, feeling responsible to his wife and children, will try to stop communication, hide affection and get away from temptation. When there is no way to move away, he will stop noticing the woman.

Important! If a man is cold and avoids communication, perhaps the girl is simply unpleasant to him, or he is trying not to advertise the relationship.

The weak will go with the flow following his feelings and decide to cheat. In this case, he will behave exactly the same as unmarried people. He will only make dates where he is less likely to meet people he knows. Most likely, he will update his wardrobe to please the new woman.

What do gestures say?

Body language reveals a person's thoughts, emotional state, feelings and ideas.

You can lie during a conversation and learn to control your facial expressions, but you won’t be able to completely control your gestures. When psychology is involved, how do you know if a guy likes you? The following signs will be indicative:

• tends to stand nearby and almost never turns his back;
• frequently adjusts clothes or hair;
• during a conversation, leans slightly in your direction and listens, trying not to miss a single word;
• the guy unconsciously repeats some of your gestures, and when he changes his body position, he also changes his position (to catch such signs of sympathy, you can, for example, rub your earlobe, lean on the back of a chair, or change the position of your legs);
• next to the girl he likes, he will always try to look more respectable and tall, so he will straighten his shoulders and straighten his back;
• an insecure young man needs support, which can be a leg put forward, and it will be directed precisely at the object of interest;
• if a guy sits with one leg crossed over the other, the toe of the shoe will also unconsciously point to the girl he likes;
• when a shy guy likes you, during a conversation, out of excitement, he can constantly finger something, for example, a key or a mobile phone (however, sometimes such behavior shows that you are delaying a guy who is rushing somewhere);
• he takes an open pose (this could be turning his body in your direction, showing his wrists, tilting his head).

Tactile contact

Another way to understand that a guy likes you is to pay attention to his behavior.
Representatives of the stronger half of humanity value touch. Being next to the girl he likes, the young man will certainly want (perhaps even unconsciously) to touch her. When the opportunity arises, he will try to touch your hand, hug you around the waist, passing you forward, press shoulder to shoulder, or pat your knee. If there are no such touches, and during a conversation he crosses his arms and legs, it means that the guy likes someone else, but he is not interested in you.

In addition, you need to pay attention to whether the object of interest touches your things. To do this, “accidentally” place a phone, key or pen near it. If a guy starts touching, adjusting or twisting an object, this is a manifestation of romantic feelings.

However, if you are trying to figure out how to understand that a guy doesn’t like you, and you notice that he doesn’t react to your things in any way, don’t rush to draw conclusions about the lack of sympathy. After all, other indicators need to be taken into account.

Sympathy for a colleague

We spend most of our time at work. Therefore, romances with employees are rather a natural manifestation of frequent communication. However, family ties, reputation, and company charter force many to keep their emotions to themselves and carefully hide their feelings. How can you tell if the man you're working with is interested in you?

• When left alone with you, a young man will flirt, try to touch you, and ask awkward questions.
• A colleague in love wants to see you more often, comes up with questions, gifts, invitations, finds any excuse to be near your workplace.
• An interested interlocutor will support you at meetings and planning sessions, defend you in front of your superiors, try to help you cope with your tasks, encourage and inspire.

Ask a question

How to understand that a guy in your classmate likes you?

Sympathy during school years
When you feel deep sympathy for someone, it is very difficult to determine whether the feelings are mutual. In the case of school love, it’s even more complicated: you are always in the same room, but how do you understand that a classmate likes you?

You see each other every day, have mutual acquaintances/friends, similar interests, but the guy hasn’t made the first step. Don’t worry, we will then help you correctly draw the conclusion about the presence of sympathy on his part.

Features of boys

It has long been known and scientifically proven in psychology that the character and behavioral characteristics of guys are significantly different from the usual “troubles” of girls.
Note!

It doesn’t matter whether a classmate is 15 years old or an adult, accomplished man - it’s as if they are from another planet!
During our school years, for the first time we are faced with obvious gender differences and inconsistency of expectations.
When most girls establish friendships, discuss movies and teachers, boys throw nuts, throw briefcases out of windows, and actively fight. The issue of reciprocity of feelings has always been controversial. Some guys can calmly come up and talk about their sympathy, others will quietly look and remain silent about their feelings, others can get really bored with their “love”, throwing paper airplanes at the girl they like and painfully pulling her braids. It all depends on the particular boy and his character.

If a classmate is quite brave, he will come up and offer to take a walk after school or go to the cinema on the weekend. It is much more difficult to determine the sympathy of a shy guy. Or a classmate who bullies you in every possible way. Is this boy “screaming” about tender feelings or does he simply have a complex, conflictual character?

Guess and facts

Previously, to find out about the feelings of the guy they liked, girls used improvised means: fortune telling with daisies, card solitaire, anonymous notes.
Now, in the era of the popularity of digital technologies, many Internet tests, online fortune telling and forms have appeared for calculating compatibility by age, zodiac sign or hair color of second cousins.

Important!

You should not believe such things - they cannot give true information!
However, the Internet and popular social networks can be of great help: a boy in your classmate likes you if:

• the guy tries to start a conversation by correspondence on any topic (at school he stubbornly remains silent when he sees you);
• he uses a lot of friendly and cute emoticons, winks in messages/comments;
• the boy silently likes any, even unsuccessful, photos with you (on your page or in a friend’s album);

Signs of sympathy from a classmate

Pay attention to how often the guy looks at you furtively - it’s better to ask a close friend to assess the situation objectively.
If you yourself want to follow a classmate’s gaze, do not look in his direction too closely and continuously - this can cause embarrassment and misunderstanding. The same applies to smiles: the more often a boy smiles (no matter whether you are alone or in company), the more he likes you. Smiling is an unconscious sign of a positive attitude that is difficult to control.

If a guy often sits down or just happens to be nearby, this is a sure sign of interest on his part. With a classmate, this point is especially easy to observe, since you study together.

When a boy tries to touch you: accidentally touch your arm, touch your shoulder, pinch you, pull your clothes/hair - this behavior shows that it is important for the guy to be closer to the object of his affection. This is how sympathy manifests itself in action.

Being in a company with you, the guy speaks louder than usual, tries to outshout the others - this is how the boy tries to draw attention, to present himself favorably.

Take a close look at the guy’s gestures and facial expressions:

• raised eyebrows during a conversation indicate that he is sincerely interested in your words, worried or sympathetic;
• twists buttons or touches his belt - the boy is trying in every possible way to please, gain sympathy and approval;
• The fact that a classmate begins to slightly tug at his clothes and straighten them will tell you about excitement and embarrassment in your presence.

First step

You can carefully study all the signs of sympathy, watch his actions and preferences from the side, walk for a long time, worry about curiosity and ignorance.
Or you can do it differently: do you know how to understand whether a classmate likes you as quickly and accurately as possible? Take the first step yourself and see if there is reciprocity. There is no need to come up with complex schemes and behavior options, just smile, be the first to write on social networks, offer to go home together (if you live in the same area), etc. Boys can also be insecure and closed, embarrassed by their feelings, emotions and afraid of seeming funny, doubting reciprocal sympathy - sometimes it is important for them to see mutual interest, this liberates and instills confidence in any guy. There are many stories when the first step on the part of a girl encouraged the guy, and everything turned out as happy and romantic as possible for both.

Write about your love story in the comments: where did it all begin? How did you notice that a boy in your classmate liked you? And how do you show your feelings if you are passionate about someone?

What to focus on when communicating with a guy?

First of all, the manner of speaking is important. If a guy is rude next to friends and other girls, but talks to you in a kind, soft voice, this clearly indicates sympathy. However, if he communicates with everyone in a calm, sweet tone, then this is not a manifestation of sympathy, but a feature of his character.

It is also worth analyzing what the guy is talking about. If your classmate cares about your concerns and affairs or if he often talks about himself, this is a good sign. Some young men may also talk about other girls to demonstrate their popularity and provoke jealousy. On the other hand, stories about love affairs may be associated with a simple desire to show off to a friend. Therefore, it is very important to grasp this fine line.

Another manifestation of sympathy and interest is sincere compliments. For example, he will notice a new hairstyle and appreciate the slightest changes in makeup or clothing. However, similar behavior is typical of a good friend.

Therefore, before drawing conclusions, you should pay attention to the guy’s behavior towards other girls. Perhaps he is simply accustomed to charming everyone with whom he communicates with compliments.

Representatives of the stronger half of humanity also give simple compliments because of politeness and good upbringing. In addition, you need to take into account that it is very difficult for a shy guy to show his feelings, so he may notice changes, but does not always talk about it.

Types of features

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Signs that can express a man’s sympathy are divided into two types:

• Verbal;
• Non-verbal.

Verbal are so-called actions. What a man does and clearly demonstrates. And non-verbal ones are those that can only be noticed if you start observing.

Verbal ones include:

• Verbal or written declaration of sympathy;

• Compliments and praise;
• Stories about your personality: hobbies, tastes, interests;
• Gifts and surprises;
• Interest and curiosity about your personality;
• Providing assistance or services;
• Meeting relatives or friends.

Nonverbal include:

Signs that someone is in love with you

• Sight;
• Facial expressions;
• Body position;
• Voice timbre;
• Gesticulation.

Peculiarities of guys' behavior

1. If a guy has sympathy or love for a girl, he will always take care of her. For example, open and hold the door in front of her, help take off or put on outerwear.
2. The young man is trying to expand the scope of communication. For example, he invites you to celebrate a birthday with one of your friends, or calls you when you are going to celebrate an important event.
3. You can also find out the truth by a promise and its fulfillment. When a young man is attracted to a girl, he will be happy to carry out small tasks and help in solving problems.
4. At the same time, to make sure that he can rely on you in the future, the guy may ask you to help or explain something.
5. He looks for a reason to see you and goes to places that are completely unusual for him.
6. If you pay more attention to another guy than him, he may get angry and behave aggressively. Shy representatives of the stronger half of humanity behave more balanced. In such situations, they experience everything inside, but sadness appears on their faces.

If a guy really likes a girl, he will also try to attract her attention. This is especially noticeable when a shy young man in the presence of a particular girl turns into a joker, a favorite of the public and the life of the party.

The simplest test

All you have to do is answer only “yes” or “no”. At the end of the “Does a boy like you?” test you need to count the total number of positive answers, and then find the finished result below:

• Question 1. Does he smile a lot and look at you often?
• Question 2: Imitates you, imitates what you do and how you do it?
• Question 3: Does he play with you? Does it happen that he suddenly pinches your hand or cheek?
• Question 4: Does he always try to talk to you about common interests?
• Question 5: Does he get jealous and angry when you stand near other boys, boys or men?
• Question 6: Does it protect you? Does he try to justify his actions to others, does he help to challenge someone’s opinion for the sake of yours?
• Question 7: Does he do things that make you laugh?
• Question 8. Does he try to dress in such a way that you will notice his new look?
• Question 9: Does he care about you? Does he ask about your health, and does he treat you to something tasty?
• Question 10. Does he give you compliments, even unexpected ones?

Test results. If you answered “yes” more than 7-8 times, then the guy definitely likes you. If there are 4-5 positive answers, then the boy or guy is interested in you, but not in love. If there are no more than 3 “yes” answers, then he is interested in you as a friend or just an educated acquaintance, but no more.

Love on the Internet

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Today, the Internet is not only a source of knowledge, but also a way to find friends and your soulmate. When you don’t need to be close to a person to talk, it’s easier to express your thoughts and easier to have a conversation. Therefore, this type of communication is most often chosen by shy and loving people.

Of course, it is impossible to catch intonation or see gestures from online correspondence. However, there is still a chance to reveal the presence of sympathy. The following manifestations will be indicative:

• periodically arriving messages with wishes of good morning, good night or pictures that will cheer you up;
• you correspond frequently, for a long time and actively (if there is no sympathy, then the guy simply will not sacrifice sleep or free time);
• You are attractive to a pen pal if he is happy to write first and waits for your appearance and response;
• when communicating, he uses emoticons, stickers, and often sends cute or funny pictures;
• he happily explains “truths” and also talks about topics that are not interesting to him.

If you're wondering how to tell if a guy likes you, also focus on whether he likes or writes comments on posts or photos. But consider what exactly he is commenting on. After all, perhaps he didn’t like you, but his best friend, who is present in half of your photos.

Signs and fortune telling

There are alternative ways to tell if a boy likes you. Fortune telling, folk omens, or even dreams are the most popular methods used by girls of all ages:

• “My chamomile, my chamomile.” The most popular method of fortune telling. Take one bud of a field plant, and then tear off a petal, saying “loves” or “dislikes” for each one. Whichever word falls on the last one is waiting for you. Some girls use more complex fortune-telling, saying “loves”, “dislikes”, “will deceive”, “hugs”, “spits”, “kisses”, “takes a liking”, “laughs”, “holds to the heart”, “sends to hell” " It is important to pronounce the words in a circle until one petal remains.
• Fortune telling by dreams. If you dreamed of a boy, be sure to remember the day of the week of this event. It is important to take into account not the evening when you went to bed, but the night, for example from Monday to Tuesday. So, if you had a dream from Wednesday to Thursday - the boy will write a letter, from Thursday to Friday - he will fall madly in love, from Friday to Saturday - you will not meet for a while, from Saturday to Sunday - something will separate you, from Sunday to Monday - he will love only you, from Monday to Tuesday - he will understand that he really likes you, and from Tuesday to Wednesday - he will see his soulmate in you.

How to figure out his likes if you haven’t met yet?

You can meet your ideal in different places: on public transport, while walking in the park or at a party.
However, how can you understand that this is not a random exchange of views? Is it possible to find out that a stranger likes you? If you are extremely careful, this is quite possible.

The first manifestation of sympathy is most often an interested look. Depending on the character of the young person, this can range from long observations to short, eloquent glances.

If a girl notices that a guy is looking at her, but is in no hurry to get to know her, don’t be upset. Not all guys quickly decide to take bold actions. So if a guy is unsure of himself, then he is unlikely to decide to come up and start a conversation. So give this strange guy a sign back. For example, smile when your eyes meet.

In addition to eye contact, young people can also show interest by smiling or winking. Plus, when they are truly fascinated by a girl, they will look for an opportunity to meet her again.

It may seem that in big cities there are practically no chances. However, if a guy really wants this, he can, for example, regularly come to the cafe where he saw the girl for the first time, or try to find her through social networks.

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There are also situations when representatives of the fair half of humanity are interested in how to understand whether a guy likes a girl if they do not know each other, but study at the same educational institution. If the suspicions are well founded, then the young man will begin to perform a number of actions related to the environment of the object of his sympathy.

In this case, his interest will have the following manifestations:

1. will try to get to know her friends better (this means that he is simply afraid to approach the girl he likes and hear a refusal);
2. will join her company;
3. through acquaintances he will begin to learn about his personal life and attitude towards him;
4. will try to find the girl on social networks or get her phone number.

If you notice that a teenage guy really likes you, but he doesn’t dare come up to meet you, perhaps you should take the first steps yourself.
For example, you shouldn’t go out with your girlfriend all the time. When he is nearby, ask your friend to leave for a while. Then it is likely that he will pluck up courage and approach.

By the way, a great way to meet someone is to ask a guy to help you. As a last resort, you can pretend that you need help. Let him offer his strength and intelligence, and also feel like a real hero.

Stars to the rescue

Not only the character, but also the zodiac sign leaves a certain imprint on the development of relationships.
How to understand what kind of girls a guy of a certain sign likes, and whether you are really the object of his interest? To understand this, you should pay attention to certain nuances.

Aries

Representatives of this sign are straightforward and open-minded.
When a guy likes a girl, he will try to spend his free time with her and spend a lot of money on buying gifts. As a rule, Aries shower their chosen ones with compliments, fulfill all their whims and try to be ideal guys.

Taurus

It’s not always easy to understand that a Taurus guy you know likes you.
They are laconic and not prone to active courtship. As a rule, at the initial stages of a relationship, these young people simply try to accompany the girl everywhere, controlling her every step.

Twins

They can hardly be called romantic and sentimental.
Talking about plans for the future will help reveal Gemini's interest. The guy will also begin to consult with you, share hobbies and demonstrate impeccable manners.

Cancer

It is incredibly difficult to find out about such a guy’s feelings through conversation, since he tries in every way to hide them.
But his behavior will definitely give him away. Cancers in love become very romantic and are ready to shower girls with gifts. However, at the same time, they are incredibly jealous and want to be around constantly so much that they often violate the boundaries of their personal space.

a lion

A young man born under this sign can be compared to a volcano of emotions.
His mood can change dramatically in a matter of seconds. When Leo likes a girl, he always introduces her to his surroundings. In addition, this man is ready to go to great lengths to make her feel like a real queen. But Leos are possessive, so they can easily become jealous, even if the girl simply addressed her ex-boyfriend with an innocent phrase.

Virgo

He is a shy and sentimental young man.
He will speak frankly only with that representative of the fair half of humanity whom he really really likes. This guy strives to demonstrate his best qualities to his chosen one and often talks about successes and courageous actions, asking for praise. Another feature of a Virgo guy is that he can spend most of his free time with you, but at the same time keep you away from your personal space.

Scales

How do you know for sure that a guy of this sign likes you?
He pays a lot of attention to his appearance. In behavior, Libra is indecisive, but in communication, they are funny and charming. These traits, as a rule, hide vulnerability and subtle mental organization. Ideal dates, according to this guy, take place in a calm home environment. In addition, girls need to be prepared for the fact that most Libras do not consider it necessary to give gifts to their chosen one.

Scorpion

This guy is insightful and inquisitive, but also secretive.
He may be hesitant to admit his feelings due to pride or fear of rejection. The main signs that a Scorpio guy likes a girl are his gaze and desire to spend as much time with her as possible. In addition, he is characterized by generosity and determination, attentiveness to the girl’s requests.

Sagittarius

If a guy of this sign likes a girl, he will easily find a reason to meet her, will not forget to leave his phone number and invite her to dinner.
Sagittarius is always sincere in his feelings and actions. He surrounds you with care and strives to remain alone with his chosen one as often as possible. However, one should not lose sight of the fact that representatives of this sign are very jealous.

Capricorn

Most representatives of this sign prefer to first learn as much as possible about the girl, weigh all the pros and cons, and only then enter into a relationship.
He's trying to keep everything under control. In addition, work activity is of great importance in the life of a Capricorn guy, so he will definitely share work news, plans and projects with the girl he likes.

Aquarius

This is a real gentleman who never spares either time or effort to please his chosen one.
When this modest guy likes a girl, he tries to protect her from all troubles, gives her gifts and surrounds her with care. But at the same time, Aquarius is very jealous. Therefore, if he sees an opponent, he can become hot-tempered and aggressive.

Fish

The behavior of Pisces lovers is based on romance.
The guy of this sign will be very caring and attentive towards the girl. He shares his experiences with her, and in conflict situations tries to find a compromise. Pisces also show their feelings with original romantic gifts.