How to interest a girl? TOP - 20 tips for guys

So, you've finally found the girl of your dreams. Everything is fine, except for one little thing: she is not aware of the fact of your existence. And what’s worse, it seems to you that she is far beyond your capabilities - a kind of representative of the upper caste. She's popular, and you're a nerd, an unrecognized computer genius; She's a sporty babe, and you're a fat slob. Or, perhaps, your lady lives in her own house, while you eke out an existence in a small closet in your father’s house.

The question is, is there any hope for the future in such cases? The answer is yes. After all, it is quite possible that both you and she while away boring Friday evenings watching porn and playing computer games. And to achieve understanding and agreement, overcoming loneliness, you need just a little bit - to make a little effort for your goal.

So, let's talk about how you can interest the girl you like.

3. Smile3

Girls regard smiling as an evolutionary advantage. A smiling man for them is potential support and support. Since he himself, apparently, copes well with life’s storms and is generally capable of stopping even a hurricane or an airliner in its tracks. And also a smile allows you to cope with self-doubt - both your own and your lady's. You will be surprised, but girls are people too. They worry and get emotional quite a lot about how the stronger sex perceives them, whether what they say will seem stupid to someone, and so on.

Ability to give compliments

Any woman is pleased to hear a compliment addressed to her. It is important to be able to give compliments correctly, avoiding rudeness, vulgarity, and ambiguity. When meeting a girl for the first time, the easiest way is to praise her appearance, because nothing is known about her personality yet. It is acceptable to give compliments about appearance as long as they are polite and unobtrusive.

The problem with praising one's appearance is an unpredictable risk: girls attach great importance to appearance and a man's praise may be inappropriate. For example, a brunette who dreams of blonde curls will probably get angry when someone compliments her natural hair color. A short girl who wants to appear taller will be offended by words that emphasize her diminutiveness. Therefore, compliments of appearance should deviate as much as possible from unchangeable physical data. It is better to praise the general image, dress sense or makeup.

Giving a compliment to a girl you know is much easier. Knowing about her hobbies, interests, and aspirations, you should build on her achievements: praise specific skills, celebrate successes. One can note taste in literature, cinema, music. Such types of praise simultaneously make it clear that the man is interested in the individual and has similar tastes. But most of all, a woman is attracted by sincerity; when a man is in love, he behaves honestly, openly, and such attention cannot be indifferent.

Discuss things that interest her7

Catching a girl's attention is the best way to make her more open to communication and your personality in general. For example, if she is passionate about protecting the environment, you can safely bring up the topic of Greta Thunberg and all her achievements in the conversation. Moreover, mind you, this should be done only in the most positive light. God forbid you say something stupid about Greta while talking with an environmental activist - the result will be the opposite of what was expected.

If you demonstrate sincere interest in what is dear to a girl’s heart, rest assured, she will not leave you unattended.

What young people should not do

If you managed to win a woman’s attention, then it’s time to remember some points that should be avoided in order to save the relationship:

Don't be intrusive;
Do not put the girl you like in an uncomfortable position by showing affection in public places;
To earn favor with expensive gifts;
Humiliate others by demonstrating your strength;
Violate personal space and conduct surveillance;
Collect information about the girl you like;
Get drunk to be braver when dating.

Girls like guys who are leaders and role models. Strong, confident and smart guys can easily attract the attention of not just one girl, but many of the fairer sex from his environment.

Be a real gentleman8

Yes, feminists can brandish their right not to shave their armpits as much as they want and thereby turn into prehistoric women. But we’re not talking about them, are we? Most healthy girls with an adequate set of preferences still like it when they are treated like a gentleman - and just like a human being. Open a heavy door for her, because she is physically weaker. Put your hand on your waist while walking: it pleases her, as does you. Give your hand when she crosses the curb.

Important rules for maintaining a long-term relationship

Using the methods described above, you can attract a girl’s attention, but this is only the initial stage of a relationship. In order to maintain and strengthen your connection with your chosen one, never forget about such important points as:

Pleasant compliments will help a girl feel more confident when in your company;
Understanding – will give ease in subsequent communication;
Respect for your partner's feelings;
Showing consideration and kindness;
Respect for the interlocutor during a conversation (do not play on the phone, do not look at passers-by, etc.). Your attention should belong only to the interlocutor;
A good sense of humor is always a highly valued quality, but don't take it too far. Humor should not devolve into teasing or mockery. Also pay attention to how your chosen one relates to humor in general. Some people like it when the conversation is humorous, others don’t. Do not allow offensive and cruel jokes towards yourself;
Make an effort to make her smile;
Respect the opinions and views of your interlocutor.

Be presentable9

This concept includes a whole set of qualities - starting from appearance and ending with the general impression that you create. How does an unpresentable guy behave? A disheveled hairstyle, worthless clothes, a habit of calling five times at two in the morning - all this makes you look like a rural drunkard, and not a worthy gentleman. If you look good, you smell of pleasant perfume, and in communication you do not put pressure on your interlocutor - cards in hand, you have almost fulfilled the required minimum.

Appearance

Cloth

Rules: I’ll say a banal thing, but many men forget about it. Your shoes and clothes should always look neat. Normally washed and ironed, matched to size and in the same style. And most importantly, it is appropriate for the occasion. An alcoholic T-shirt and sweatpants in a restaurant, for example, will look strange. And another cool feature is high-quality accessories. They don’t always have to be expensive or exclusive, but they do have to fit the image.

What to do: Organize your wardrobe. Make it a rule: you can safely throw away things that you haven’t worn for a year. Think about your style. By the way, don’t hesitate to contact a stylist if you’re not sure of your taste. If you think that this is an expensive and unnecessary service, then this is not true at all. It will be much more expensive to waste money on clothes that look lame or don't go together.

Body

Rules: One of the main secrets of how to attract a girl is quite simple. You need to take care of yourself. Tell me, do you like pretty, well-groomed girls? And why should there be some shabby asshole next to them? Get a normal haircut, don’t forget about the manicure, take at least a little care of your face. And don't ignore the gym. Pumped-up guys are much more popular than weaklings.

What you need to do: Everything here is short and clear - take care of yourself. Buy a gym membership and go there regularly, not just once a year. Get a stylish haircut at a barbershop - it's not that expensive. Book a manicure with a professional. Watch the condition of your skin. Don't think this is for fagots. 21st century, a man is obliged to take care of himself.

Be as funny and amusing as possible11

Most women can't resist the charm of guys with a sense of humor. Therefore, start working on this quality now. This is especially useful if you have a so-called logical mind. By the way, sarcasm will serve you well here. No matter how attractive your queen is, most women still have an old, nasty, envious witch in their souls. Therefore, do not hesitate to mercilessly shower any women with streams of sarcasm. The fact is that girls perceive 99% of other female representatives as potential rivals. With the exception, of course, of closest friends, relatives and idols. So if you “take her side,” you will have no value in her eyes.

How to behave and look to arouse interest?

Let’s reveal the trump card right away: there is not a single minimum set of things in the whole world that will make any person attractive, and not a single list of stock phrases and habits that will ensure you the sympathy of any girl. Without universal answers and magic pills, life is more difficult, but more interesting - find something that will be about you. Uniqueness and specialness are something that will never cease to be valued in people.

Each of us has a personality - with its strengths and weaknesses, interests, and behavior. Reveal yourself and win: confident difference from others is always attractive.

Having ten similar options for anything, a person pays attention to the eleventh - because it is different. The listed qualities, which are valued by girls and help to be an interesting person, are enough for competitiveness. To win a winning position you need to be brighter.

You can look however you like: dress in sweaters and jeans, business suits or unique items with your own character. The main thing is that your style matches you.

You can be a passionate fisherman, live for racing, or be mainly interested in marketing or coding because you work in it - it doesn't matter. Of course, atypical hobbies make a person more interesting, but passion, as usual, decides everything.

Being passionate about what you do is what’s important. It is the passion and energy invested in him that makes people take a closer look at both him and you. And it works great with girls.

But there are four traits that will make you more attractive in any case - grooming, communication skills, a sense of humor and reliability. What they are and why they are so important is written above.

Become a challenge for her12

If she is sure that you are in her hands, your chick’s interest may cool down significantly. Women love a challenge just as much as men. If it seems to her that you are already completely rolled into a ram’s horn and ready to be packed into her little handbag, you will be in trouble. She will be disappointed very quickly and will direct the vector of her attention to some stronger and more independent macho.

How to interest a girl on a dating site

Many people don’t understand how to attract a woman’s attention on a dating site and how to properly correspond with a girl in order to pick her up. In this case, we make a list with a dozen phrases to start dating.

Hello! In the photo you look like such a heartbreaker. Is this true in reality?
Are you selling drugs? Because you look amazing, but I want to immediately eliminate the qualities that I would not want to see in my girlfriend
Hello! I'm Anton. I bet that within 10 messages you'll like me enough to have coffee with me next Saturday?
Hello, the most charming girl in our city! I see you skateboarding. Would you like to go for a ride together sometime?
Hello. You look a lot like Ariel. If you give me a chance, I will prove that I have a lot in common with both Apollo and Prince Eric
Hello! You are a charming girl and you have a cool dog. I own a shepherd dog myself, I couldn’t help but write. Let's talk!
Hello! We don't know each other, but I think you can help me with some research. I'm Anton, can you answer a few questions?
Hello. I really liked you based on your profile alone, and I want to get to know you. Tell me right away: what kind of coffee do you like?
Hello! Do you want to meet the best expert in our city? Because he - that is, I - definitely wants to meet you
Hello. I no longer hoped to find an interesting person in my life, but EmilyDates convinced me and I came across your profile. Now I definitely want to get to know each other better. Tell us how you live!

Use the “Investment Principle”15

It means that your contribution to communication is approximately equal to her contribution to communication or conversation. For example, if she tells a lot about herself, then you also post as much information as possible about yourself; she is silent - and you, too, remain silent, like a fish. Just don’t think that this principle will force her to open up under pressure. If you bombard her with your messages day and night, believe me, nothing good will come of it. She may want to make an equal contribution to the relationship along the lines mentioned above. But this will completely kill all the spontaneity of your relationship.

So the best option is to give her as much information as she gives about herself. Or a little less.

Is it possible to return your ex's feelings?

How to make a girl with whom you already had a relationship fall in love with you? In fact, getting back into a relationship again is very possible, because you are quite familiar with the girl’s character and preferences, which means you have some advantages. Use this knowledge to your advantage and the girl will come back to you. In addition, when conquering a woman you already know, it will be easier to choose a pickup technique from the ones given above. What do we have to do:

Analyze the breakup. You need to understand exactly why your relationship didn't work out. Based on this, you will have to think through a strategy for returning your chosen one.
Correct the mistakes of the past. If the breakup happened in your vein, then you will have to prove that you have changed and will not commit any more offenses.
Make friendly contact. To show her your positive changes and transformation, you first need to establish friendly relations with her. Any young lady after a failed relationship will treat you with caution, so you shouldn’t immediately go on the offensive and force her to come back. Give her some time and let things take their course.
Use the past. Any pleasant memories of your past will make her think about the future. Unobtrusively remind her how good you had it together, send photos together, invite her on a date to some memorable place, use the perfume that you wore during your relationship with her. This technique is incredibly effective, because all people strive to return to where they felt good.

Don't try to please her16

You've probably already noticed that as soon as you start talking to girls, many of them start complaining about you or just grumbling. No, this is not early female aging. It's just that the female sex sometimes reacts to the guys they like - well, you know, it's a kind of unconscious training before the start of marriage. The girl tests your strength: will you withstand her whining, hysterics and grumbling if you suddenly manage to get her into your network.

So, if she starts complaining to you about your own haircut, don’t be fooled! If you react and try to please her in any way, you will hammer the last nail into the coffin of your hope. Deliberately straighten your bangs and tell her in a confident tone: “This is my image, baby. Whether you like it or not, I look like this, so don’t judge me.”

In general, the important thing here is that you do not try to please her and remain consistent with your opinion.

How to interest a VK girl? (10 examples)

This and the next paragraph will focus on the impression you make through correspondence. This is an important point that helps maintain live communication, because correspondence in instant messengers has become an integral part of life. We give practical advice on what to write to a girl on the Internet to attract her attention, and how to communicate with a girl on social networks to attract her.

Don’t forget about two important rules: get your page in decent shape before meeting someone, and write to several at once, since communication with some girls may simply not work out from the very beginning.

So, a list of what to write in VK to a girl to attract her:

Hello! You look great in your avatar, let’s get acquainted. I’m Anton, I’m 24. I’m a lawyer, I work by profession. I love surfing and snowboarding, and I dream of traveling at least three months a year. What do you dream about? In my opinion, dreams can say a lot about a person.
Hello! We don't know each other, but I think we've met somewhere. Maybe at the club last Saturday? I'm Alex and I'm in the mood to meet you
Hello, Julia. Do you want to brighten up this evening with a pleasant conversation?
Hello. I am the one who will make your today brighter. Ready to get started?
Hello. I found you as a friend of Sasha Ogulev and couldn’t resist writing. Let's get acquainted! I'm Anton, I'm 24, and you look like an interesting conversationalist

Here are options for what to do to show a girl that you are interested in her if you already know each other:

You won't get bored! And I have prepared a surprise that you will definitely like. Ready for something big?
I thought a lot today about how girls treat guys who dress unusually. And now I need your expert opinion: tell me, what do you think about these?
I am a passionate cycling fan. If you haven’t already, then this Friday I’m ready to open a new world to you.
I wanted to invite you for coffee, but it’s too banal. How about a picnic in the forest or in the park? I know a couple of great places
How would you react to a man who claims he can make the best pasta of your life?

Engage her emotions18

Let her feel like a real Queen - and then you can deprive her of this feeling for a while to consolidate the result. Moreover, the more compliments and strategies you use to instill this feeling in her, the better. Let us explain: the fact is that a woman seeks to attract a man with the help of her appearance. And they know well what we need. This is one of the reasons why porn has exploded in popularity. If things were the other way around, then millions of women would be online, looking at naked male bodies.

So, what is much more important for girls is not their appearance (although, as you understand, it plays a role), but how they feel with men. That is why your communication style should always make her feel emotionally involved.

How to interest a girl in order to attract her attention?

In this block we talk about the qualities that need to be improved in order to attract attention and interest. First, understand one simple thing: if you can’t get girls interested now, then you’ll have to change something. These changes may not be easy - the result depends on your persistence and level of self-knowledge. We will provide a complete list, but you are free to choose the appropriate items yourself.

Another important point: remember that women are people too. Accordingly, in order to become more attractive to them, you will need to become, in principle, a more interesting and communicative person. This does not mean that lines of gays will follow you. This means that first of all, universal personal qualities and communication skills are improved, and only then behavioral strategies regarding girls appear.

So, here's what you need to take care of:

Appearance. They always greet you by their clothes - remember? The first opinion about a person is formed in 7 seconds. You may not even have time to speak, and during this time the person is already deciding whether he is interested in at least saying hello to you. Appearance should be neat, well-groomed and attractive. To achieve this, take care of three aspects:

Cloth. It should be clean and ironed, modern and stylish. Being confident in casual wear is often enough, but you are free to experiment with your look if you are confident in your sense of style.
Body type. It is not necessary to have the figure of a seasoned athlete or bodybuilder. But the absence of excess weight, a muscular corset and posture will make absolutely any person more attractive.
Skin and hair. A couple of decades ago you didn’t have to worry about this at all, but now more and more men are trying to take care of themselves. To withstand the competition, get a stylish haircut, tidy up your beard, if you have one, and choose facial products that suit your skin type. This is not as difficult as it might seem, and the requirements for the appearance of men are still much less than for the body of girls. Remember hygiene, take care of your hair, facial skin, hands and feet.

Mind. Intelligence and outlook are important things for communication. Looking good but not joining the growing ranks of smart people won't give you much of a chance to have long, enjoyable interactions. In the era of Google, not studying is at least suspicious. It doesn't matter what exactly you are passionate about. It's important to be passionate about what you do and be curious about current social trends.
Confidence. Another important parameter, without which communication is not impossible, but difficult. You can choose a lively girl who will be touched by shyness. But everyone loves healthy self-confidence.
Communication skills. Active listening, the ability to remain silent at the right time, speak at the right time, flirt masterfully, ask at the right time or tell a story will make you more attractive, even if you missed the first points. But manners and communication skills most often go hand in hand with intelligence. Develop them together: it will be easier and more effective.
Respect. To yourself and the people around you. Without respect for yourself, you will not begin to like yourself - you don’t have to think about girls here for now. To feel your value to others, you must first believe in it yourself. Respect for others protects you from rudeness and meanness, which is also an undoubted and very big plus.
Determination. This is a little more than self-confidence: you not only realize your right to different actions, but also successfully implement it. Not a critical parameter, but determined people usually achieve more.
The desire for self-development. It is not enough to read ten or twenty books and scour the last months of news from scientific sources. You should always be interested and strive for more. Try it and start with an interesting area. You will like it yourself

Don't ignore your own animal nature19

Do you want to look at her sweet buns with an appraising look? Please. But if you are embarrassed, you will not be forgiven. If you try to hide your desires, you will expose yourself as a loser in the girl’s eyes. And in principle, why are you approaching her? To eventually enter into a physical relationship with her. So express your intentions with looks, movements, gestures - and even with words. We don’t care - the main thing is that you don’t get embarrassed and don’t follow social stereotypes. After all, only those who were brainwashed at a young age by social norms of behavior deny their animal nature. A confident man is aware of his nature; his priority is personal interests.

What is it about guys that attracts girls?

We talked about the main necessary qualities and skills in the previous paragraph, but if curiosity has not yet been exhausted, read on about how a guy can interest a girl.

Girls love surprises. Intrigue will be an excellent tool in promoting acquaintance and will play into your hands. In this case, you first need to arouse at least purely human sympathy in the girl, and only then create mystery, which you will solemnly and gracefully reveal at the right moment.

Unpredictable actions and decisions are also an excellent remedy. Of course, we are talking about pleasant unpredictability, and not about canceling a date half an hour before the appointed time. Absolutely monotonous and monotonous communication generates not so much confidence in your constant well-being and stability, but mortal boredom, capable of terrible things. And unexpected turns, surprises, unpredictable ideas and their development are a wonderful way to prevent this boredom, surprise her!

Another pleasant quality is the opposite of the previous one, although they do not conflict with each other. It's about reliability. Girls are captivated by the opportunity to rely on you, trust, and relax. It's nice to deal with a person who won't let you down and takes care of everything. Who will not have to be rescued and who will come to the rescue if anything happens. If, despite all this, a person also knows how to pleasantly surprise, he becomes close to perfection.

Sexuality. Not everyone is lucky enough to be born a playboy, but everyone can find their own attractive personality traits, a good haircut and a clothing style that emphasizes their assets. In combination with intelligence, grooming and confidence, this often ensures sexuality.

The ability to stand out in a crowd of similar people. Clothes, hairstyle or manners are not so important. But it is the appearance that attracts the first attention. Remember an important rule: be able to catch your eye, not your neck

Sense of humor. People with whom you can have a good laugh are always nicer than others. Know how to laugh and know how to make people laugh - it wins hearts.

Next, we will talk about how to intrigue a girl by correspondence so that she gets carried away, and what to ask a girl to attract her to you. But first you need to prepare.

Watch your physical condition20

If you're a fat man with vague forms, you won't see women like your ears. Forget not only about the lady who interested you, but also about everyone else. Including the last ugly Betty in your circle. You might find a beer belly really cute yourself (and maybe your mom, too). But women look at fatty charms a little differently. Kamon, stop lying on the couch - the gym is already missing you!