Feeling jealous in friendships and how to deal with it

• What are the reasons
• What are the signs of jealousy?
• How to deal with feelings
• Practice self-esteem
• Chat with friends
• Fill your life with hobbies
• Talk
• Draw conclusions

Women's jealousy of a guy's friends is an unpleasant feeling that interferes with life. Sizzling jealousy fills the brain and prevents you from minding your own business. This leads to moral instability, loss of strength and the development of chronic depression. You can be saved if you take time to work on yourself. But before that, you need to understand the reasons why the painful feeling appears.

What are the reasons

Psychologists say that jealousy is inherent in almost every person. It is considered a normal feeling if it manifests itself in moderation and does not affect the overall quality of life. If an unpleasant sensation fills the mind and contributes to the emergence of anxiety and suspicion, this indicates an unhealthy pathology.

Jealousy can be constant and acquired. In the first option, the woman has a special character and is jealous of her partner throughout the entire history of the relationship. In the second, the feeling appears spontaneously, even if there are no visible reasons for it.

There are plenty of reasons why a girl becomes pathologically jealous of her boyfriend’s friends. Jealousy of a guy's friends and girlfriends can be caused by real or fictitious problems.

1. Flirting. The young man has already been seen in controversial situations. Trust is a fragile thing. If you misfire once, the woman will no longer be able to feel calm. Regular obsessive jealousy can be a reaction to a young man's flirting. It doesn't have to be direct contact with another girl. This may include awkward exchanges of glances with a friend, ambiguous correspondence on the phone, suspicious activity on social networks, and old information that has surfaced. Feeling threatened, the girl cannot get the situation out of her head and becomes jealous.
2. Mistrust. Jealousy against a background of mistrust occurs in cases where partners do not know each other well or simply could not accept each other with all the advantages and disadvantages.
3. Problems in intimate life. The absence of sex or a change in its quality for the worse instills mistrust and suspicion in a girl. Especially if the initiative has disappeared from the male side. Any visits of the partner to friends push her to the idea that a new passion is waiting for him there.
4. Single friends. Unmarried male friends are a potential danger to relationships, according to the girl. If a young man often disappears in the company of bachelors, especially if his best friend is among them, then this suggests betrayal. The girl begins to doubt that the guy needs a family, and he is ready to remain faithful to her.
5. Complexes. Women's complexes are the cause of critical jealousy and self-doubt. Moreover, such ladies are jealous not only of their friends, but also of the young man’s parents, his work, and hobbies. Such fears come from childhood. The girl considers herself unworthy of true love and a good attitude, so she is constantly jealous and suspicious of her partner, even if there are no apparent reasons for this.

The last reason is the most significant and dangerous. It can lead to a breakdown in relationships and the appearance of various psychological disorders in both partners.

Often, insecure and capricious ladies parasitize their men, causing them to develop mental and nervous disorders.

Lack of self-confidence is a problem that can be corrected by a specialist. It is difficult to cope with complexes on your own. Especially if a woman lives with them all her life and does not even suspect that there is something wrong with her self-esteem.

Aries, Taurus

As you know, the horoscope sets certain patterns for all of us, according to which we subconsciously perform daily rituals this way and not otherwise. Astrologers claim that the zodiac sign has a fundamental influence on a person’s character. It is believed that depending on the zodiac sign, the manifestation of jealousy in men will be different.

For example, Aries is characterized by a rather violent expression of their feelings, including jealousy. In a fit of anger, they are capable of terrible actions, which they later, in most cases, regret.

Signs of jealousy are least pronounced in Taurus men. They are characterized by a lack of imagination in this regard. They prefer not to think about what does not exist and live for today. However, if Taurus reliably learns about the infidelity of his chosen one, then not only she, but also everyone around her will be in trouble.

What are the signs of jealousy?

An unhealthy feeling of jealousy pushes a woman to desperate actions, which sometimes go as far as visiting various magicians and fortune-tellers.

You can understand that the situation has reached a dead end by obvious signs:

1. The girl begins to follow her chosen one, monitors his social networks, rummages through his pockets, sniffs things, i.e. violates his personal boundaries.
2. The woman begins to speak negatively about her partner’s friends, publicly insults them and tries to spread slanderous information. She prevents the chosen one from meeting with friends, each time the situation ends in loud scandals.
3. The woman begins to make unfounded accusations, claims, and reproaches. Increasingly, she is trying to arrange a showdown at home in order to lure male attention to herself. Any methods are used.
4. The girl becomes demanding and violates her partner’s personal space. To the point that he has to report on every step he takes.
5. The lady forgets about her hobbies and ceases to be interested in anything other than her relationship. Her every day is spying on her chosen one and trying to convict him of something.
6. The woman develops an envious feeling. It is connected with the fact that the partner’s comrades receive more attention from him than she does.

All these passions only heat up the relationship and alienate the partners from each other.

If your friend is jealous of you

For the reasons described above, jealousy may appear in your direction. In this case, you also need to talk to your friend. It is worth asking about the situation, finding out what worries her. It is necessary to explain that she is an important person in your life and always will be. You need to make it clear that no one can replace this person, because finding a real girlfriend is not so easy. Psychologists also advise:

• spend more time together - invite a friend to go for a walk, watch a movie together, or just chat;
• support her in any difficult situation;
• analyze why jealousy manifests itself - it happens that a friend is too lonely and in this way attracts attention to herself or wants to communicate something, but does not dare;
• introduce her to new friends - maybe her friend will find like-minded people in a new circle, which will distract her from unnecessary thoughts.

An intelligent person will understand everything after a frank conversation. If your girlfriend still won’t calm down, you should think about whether you need to continue the relationship. Often the connection exhausts itself at a certain stage of development.

How to deal with feelings

No matter how jealous a woman is, prohibits or demands attention to herself, this has little effect on the behavior of her partner. You can even say that the more a lady worries and fusses, the more a man is drawn “to freedom” to his colleagues and friends. Exposing her complexes, the woman strangles her chosen one. And he, feeling himself in a locked cage, begins to look for any way to break free.

Psychologists believe: in order to get rid of jealousy towards your husband’s or boyfriend’s friends, you need to give him a reason to miss you and show your detachment in this situation.

Don’t blame yourself for regularly going to see your colleagues every day. On the contrary, pretend that this did not happen. The more a girl talks about a potential threat, the more she reminds her partner about it. It turns out to be a vicious circle. How to get rid of all this? Detailed instructions are provided below.

Practice self-esteem

The first thing you need to do is work on your self-esteem. Self-doubt is the scourge of modern ladies. Even under the mask of a beautiful and luxurious woman, sometimes there hides a capricious, complex girl who received little love in childhood.

You need to understand that a partner is a free person who belongs to himself. And it’s normal that he has his own friends, interests and some separate plans. Every person is free. Even if he is in a relationship, this does not mean that his opportunities should be limited. He may also enjoy traveling, snowboarding, or fishing, just as he did before entering the relationship.

Therefore, it is important to accept the fact that prohibitions and restrictions will only harm the relationship and scare away the man. Especially if he has stable self-esteem. After this realization, you can consider that half the work is already done.

Chat with friends

Chatting with friends is an opportunity to get distracted, hear good advice and forget about problems. To avoid drowning in your jealousy, you need to fill your day more with communication with other people.

Instead of sitting all evening and waiting for your loved one from the next party, you need to go to an interesting meeting yourself. But, it is important to note that it is worth going not for the sake of revenge, but for the sake of a good time.

When a girl does something intentionally, a man's heart feels it. And then he feels warm and pleased that his partner is trying to twist herself in order to hurt and take revenge. Will the guy then stop frequently going to see his friends? No. On the contrary, he will go there with a special feeling that will warm his self-esteem, because... At home, his beloved woman will worry and suffer for him.

Therefore, it is worth breaking the usual train of thought and doing something differently. For example, in the evening go with a friend to a cafe, go to a meeting with former classmates at karaoke, or attend a concert of your favorite band with colleagues. A man will be interested in such an act. He will want to know where and with whom his beloved is and whether she really went where she said.

Fill your life with hobbies

Constant surveillance of your loved one, jealousy and scandals are a sign of a lot of time. A girl who is fixated on relationships and is in a state of internal tension all day long will eventually scare away a man. He gets bored with her and ceases to be an interesting object of attention.

A woman’s task is to fill her life with interesting moments so that she does not have time to be jealous of a guy and keep an eye on his friends.

It is necessary to make sure that the situation turns around, and the partner himself begins to try to find out where his beloved is and with whom. What you can do: sign up for courses, go to the gym, start running, find an interesting part-time job and much more.

Over time, the man will see that his lady love is often not at home. He will understand that meetings have become less frequent, and his beloved with eternally shining eyes is running somewhere on business. This will cause him longing, a desire to get closer and start over. So, meetings with his friends will be kept to a minimum.

Talk

If there are serious disagreements in a relationship, then there is no way to get by without talking. The main thing is without hysterics, tears and complaints. The best option is to calmly explain the essence of the problem, express your feelings and thoughts. You can suggest your own ways to solve the problem.

If the family is faced with a crisis situation, then you can suggest that your partner go to a family psychologist. Perhaps his visits to his comrades are an attempt to escape from problems at home.

During the conversation, there is no need to put pressure and try to extract the truth. There is no need to express your assumptions and suspicions of cheating. The more polite the tone, the more likely it is that the young man will open up and talk about his internal problems.

Draw conclusions

If nothing changes for a long time, and the chosen one does not react in any way to attempts to get closer, then it is better to interrupt such relationships. Visiting friends is not critical. They become a problem when spending a lot of time with friends.

This must be stopped, even if the measures are radical. If your partner does not accept any requests, then most likely his feelings have faded. It’s difficult for some men to say they want to break up, so they hide behind work, friends, or new hobbies.

If it comes to breaking up, then you shouldn’t blame yourself and look for flaws in yourself. Whatever one may say, love is not always eternal and, sooner or later, even the happiest unions can cease to exist. After breaking up, there is no need to insult your ex-boyfriend, take revenge on him and keep watch at the entrance in search of any evidence. Decent behavior is to forgive and let go of your partner without reproach.