What to write to a man after a long silence or how to interrupt an awkward pause

You know, there are situations in which your hands hit your knees because they have really sunk.

And when YOU (and not he) ignore, lead the situation and keep it under control, then this calms you down, since YOU influence the situation. Influence is everything to us.

In the article “How to Ignore a Man Correctly,” I wrote in detail how to do this and I believe in you, baby. That you have everything under control and make fewer and fewer mistakes.

But it's a completely different matter if they ignore you. This is a way out of the control zone.

You don't know what he thinks, why he does this. You panic that he has scored on you. And you start making a lot of unnecessary mistakes. Which should be avoided.

Let's figure it out.

The man ignores. Why the hell is he doing this?

11 reasons why a man might ignore you. Myths and reality:

Manipulation.
Revenge.
He just doesn't give a fuck.
You fucked him up.
You seriously screwed up.
Does he ignore you?
He is afraid of.
He's not sure about you.
You cheated on him and he found out.
He was just taking advantage of you.
He got another one.

1. Manipulation.

What the hell is this? Maybe this scoundrel is just playing with you and wants to make you fall in love more?

I probably suspect that you would like to believe this because it is the most delicious option out of all of them, because in this case he ignores you for your sake. He still thinks about you, dreams, wants only you and keeps himself in the iron shackles of his will so as not to call his girl.

What is this - myth or reality?

Myth. The probability that a man will manipulate you is 0.01. Men don’t tend to do this; they manipulate in general.

A woman can ignore this on purpose and this is her game. Men manipulate differently.

So the reason is different. You can bypass this and move on. Although I would really like him to manipulate. Oh damn blog. Breaks pink reality into fragments...

2. Revenge.

Revenge is the dirty connotation of anger and evil natures. And in a fit of anger a person is capable of much, but is he able to ignore?

Myth or reality?

If a man ignores you for a couple of days after a wild quarrel, then perhaps this is reality. If ignoring continues for more than a week, then this is a myth.

Because emotion cannot dominate for so long, and any person cools down during this time.

The meaning of ignoring in revenge comes down to a petty offense. The pouty lips of a stern man do not allow him to answer your message. Do you believe this yourself?

I'm somehow not very good.

3. He just doesn't give a fuck.

Indifference kills any person in a barbaric way. It's like throwing a stone at an open heart. It's painful and damn unpleasant. Indifference tears your soul into pieces and it seems that you are driven into a cold and unnecessary corner. In which you really want to sit down and cry.

What do you think - is this a myth or reality?

Well, of course it’s reality. And the most probable one in our case. Most often, a man ignores you because he no longer cares about you. At some point, he simply realized that you were no longer needed.

And he decided to simply press the shiny button on the drain barrel. Alas, this is true.

But there is no need to invite despondency as a guest now. Gord came to visit you.

4. You got him.

People are damn good at causing problems for other people. Have you ever thought that you are also the kind of person who just can get you? For some reason I really don’t want to believe this.

After all, many people annoyed you, but you couldn’t even think that you also annoyed many.

Myth? Reality?

This is reality. The female brain is unique and distorted to the point of unreality.

It is the woman who can say that she was calm during the quarrel, although she was screaming like crazy. It is a woman who can really think that she does not demand anything from a man and at the same time fuck him with various demands.

This is the feminine paradox. And a man may simply not withstand this pressure. And go ignored. You've given yourself a bad reputation.

5. You seriously messed up.

A man has his own values and rules. Some things can be violated, some things are permissible, and some things should not be violated. And there is a possibility that you did something unacceptable to him. Shook his world in a less than effective direction.

Is this reality or is it still a myth?

Reality. Very often a girl simply behaves terribly, does some inappropriate actions or says inappropriate words.

And the man understands - to hell with her. He puts a cross in his cemetery with your name. And he never returns to him.

A very common mistake of yours. You don’t just mess up, you continue to do it, push around with your ineffective character traits and it kills love. Once and for all.

6. Does he ignore you?

But a man may not ignore you at all. And being busy, tired, wildly depressed, focused on something. He can just communicate with everyone like that. Just sometimes getting lost in my creativity of communication. This is his way of communicating.

Mythological reality or real myth?

But whether this is a myth or not, only time will tell. You will understand this yourself.

7. He is afraid of something.

Fear of relationships, losing freedom, the influence of past love and the fear that he will lose his head. Do you think this is real or still a myth?

This is a myth, my dear. Love, and even sympathy, is stronger than all fears. If he really is afraid, then we can certainly return to point number 3. Namely, he doesn’t give a fuck.

When a girl is terrible and I don’t care about her, then I will also be afraid of a relationship with her.

Therefore, do not hope that he is afraid of something. He's not afraid of anything. Love and fear are incompatible.

8. I'm not sure about you.

A man doesn’t just see a girl as a picture, he predicts her in a relationship and wants to know if you will be with him all the time. Lack of confidence in you can cause a crack in him. But he doesn’t want to suffer.

Perhaps you have many suitors and there is a danger that you will simply be taken away or you will become addicted to someone else. And he understands - it seems that I’m not very confident in this girl.

It is a myth? This is reality? What is this?

It is a myth. If he is not sure about you, then he will rather hold on to you more than try to ignore you. This is a paradox, but men generate more thoughts, emotions and ideas with those girls in whom they are not sure. And these are the ones they get hooked on.

But if a man, on the contrary, is confident in a girl, this is no longer effective. Cracks need to be made. Then the man will love you more closely.

9. You cheated on him and he found out about it.

And men are less likely than women to forgive infidelity. More precisely, they do not forgive them. I don’t take into account those rare cases.

Because instinct reads this as impregnation by another man. And it’s gone.

And this is reality. And this is the most difficult case. If he doesn’t care and even found someone else, this situation is easier to resolve than your revealed betrayal.

How idiotic do you have to be to get burned?

10. He was just taking advantage of you.

Well, this is what User is like. Damn user. He got what he wanted and moved on over the sheep's heads. You were temporarily convenient, it was just time to disappear.

You wish it were a myth, right?

Reality. Because as soon as you were no longer profitable for use, he immediately sent you to his ignore mode.

And here it is very important to be an individual in order to avoid such situations. You must slow down users, they must turn into obedient dolls next to you. If this doesn’t happen, then you just need to work hard on yourself.

11. He got another one.

I’ll say right away that this is also reality. Only maybe the other one didn’t show up. And she always was, and he just led you by the nose.

And this is also completely solvable.

And what's the result? What have we come to?

As you can see, all the more or less real reasons that you are being ignored are rather of a very sad nature and there is no room for hope.

So you just screwed up. But don't worry. Gord didn’t even get him out of such troubles!

This was dealt with in great detail. Great! But now the most important thing. Now for the nectar. The most important and useful. Bring the screen closer.

Why does a guy ignore: let's look at the reasons

It's just great if you know the reason for ignoring. One less problem: you won’t torment yourself with doubts and will easily move in the right direction. But the reason for silence is not always clear in full view. Let's look at the main reasons why a man doesn't respond to messages:

He's really busy. Perhaps he did not have time to warn you about the future emergency, and now there is no time. Hard workdays do not leave a minute for idle pastime. If you know that this is possible and there have been no recent conflicts, calm down and wait a little longer.
He is afraid of a serious relationship. Seeing that your romance is going too far, a fearful guy may retreat in an attempt to avoid legal marriage. If this is confirmed, just forget about it. Why do you need some infantile subject, presumably male, who cannot even say his opinion to his face?
He met someone else. Cowardice does not allow a man to admit what he has done. He hopes that you will understand everything and leave him alone. Ask your mutual friends, maybe they know something?
He abandoned you like that. The relationship reached a dead end, and thus the guy cut off all the threads that connected you. It’s unpleasant when they don’t even bother to communicate their decision. Therefore, if the ignore continues, just spit on such an ill-mannered man.
He was very offended. If you had a hand in the current state of affairs and feel that you are largely to blame, try to understand the guy. Let it cool down, and in the meantime, look for ways to atone for your sins.
He forgot his account password or there is no money on his phone. And such technical reasons take place when the ignore does not last long. Wait a little, a decent guy will definitely show up and explain the reason for the sudden disappearance.

A real man will not leave a girl in the dark and leave messages unanswered, even if he wanted to break up with her. The only exceptions can be those cases in which the girl really does not understand differently. Let situations in your life occur as rarely as possible where a young man will ignore your messages.

Final Thoughts

To be fair, we must say that we have all been ignored by someone. But we are not perfect either, so it may well be that we have ignored other people over the years of our lives. So, with that said, I believe that when a person tries to ignore, it becomes a problem that needs to be addressed. Otherwise, everything may end in even bigger problems or an ordinary separation. Therefore, do not be afraid to solve problems and meet difficulties halfway. As a result, you will only become stronger and wiser.

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How to remind a man about yourself: good methods

Long gone are the days when it was considered indecent for a girl to be the first to start a conversation with a young man. In the modern world, the situation has changed, because today we have emancipation, which means everyone has equal rights. Any man will be pleased if a girl pays attention to him. But some girls, losing their heads from feelings, are ready to do anything and behave too intrusively; this is not very good, since moderation is needed in everything. If you wrote a message or called and he did not answer, you should not do this many times in a row. Perhaps your boyfriend is busy at the moment or simply forgot his phone at home. And in principle, many calls or text messages in a row suggests that something has happened.

What can be done in this situation:

Call once. If a girl has never called first, but wants to talk to a guy, you should deviate from this rule once.
Write on social networks. Start a conversation by starting with a question, for example, how was your day? As the conversation progresses, you can understand how interested he is in you.
Write SMS. The main thing here is to make the right message; the message should have a positive message. You can write about a shared memory, give a compliment, or simply send a beautiful picture.
Provoke. Write an SMS or a message on social networks about something, and when he answers, say: “Sorry, I got the wrong address.”
Share news. The news should be of a nature that relates to his hobbies or hobbies. And, in general, this method - being interested in the same thing as the guy and the discussion, works 100%, in any case, you will always be on the same wavelength.
Show weakness. There is no need to be shy about talking about your feminine weaknesses. You can call and say how scared you were when there was a thunderstorm. Or – another series moved me to tears.
Use a random encounter. To do this, you need to know where the guy goes, what time he returns home and pretend as if you were there by accident.
Use your date wisely. Forget something from him or ask him to read a book. This will be a surefire way for the next meeting.

How to unobtrusively remind a man about yourself

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Write a comment on his photo.
Like his post.
Write a comment on his post.
Ask a neutral question, for example - How are you feeling?
Go to his page and remain silent (he will see who was visiting him).
Share the news.
You can also ask him for help in what he is competent in, for example, setting up a smartphone or laptop.

Puppeteers, trainers, healers, outgoing characters

Ignore works, tested. Everyone will remember their experience as a puppeteer or puppet. Failed or successful. Voluntarily or unwittingly, people resort to an effective technique. They often get dubious results. Who and why blacklists partners or demonstrates indifference?

Manipulators

Fans of manipulation use ignoring consciously as a working scheme. The “closer - further” method is a favorite among pick-up artists and trainers. The internet is full of articles and videos from slipper experts. The recipes for how to prepare a victim are approximately the same: surround with heat for 3-5 days, bring it closer, then move away, pour over it with cold. And repeat - once, twice.

How to competently interrupt an awkward pause

There is nothing criminal on your part in being the first to write after a long silence. This needs to be done elegantly, using the right techniques and tactics:

“If you don’t answer me, you will never know the continuation of that interesting story.”

“Even though you don’t answer, remember that you are the best thing in my life.”

“You are angry and silent for a long time, but I can imagine how beautiful you are when you are angry.”

“We haven’t communicated for a long time, but we still can’t forget you.”

“How is your mother doing there? Does she still make the same delicious cookies?”

Relevance

Ignoring cannot be clearly called a negative behavioral feature. This is a kind of protective reaction to irritating factors. To better understand this formulation, it is worth considering a life example.

If a son asks his father a question and receives a rude answer, he can ignore the rudeness, which will be better than developing a conflict with an aggressive reaction to his father's behavior. This tactic will only work if rude responses occur frequently and are the norm for one person’s behavior. If such answers have not been heard before, you need to find out the reason for the change in behavior. Problems cannot be ignored. This will lead to their accumulation, development, and dramatic consequences.

How to start a conversation after a quarrel

All people make mistakes. If you realize that it is you who are to blame for the quarrel, then you too will have to resume communication. First, analyze the situation, realize your guilt, if any. Secondly, give yourself and your partner time to cool down.

You can make peace with a guy by correspondence using the following phrases:

“We love each other, but we constantly quarrel. This is ridiculous. Let's forget old grievances and start all over again."

“I really feel bad without you.”

“Let’s make peace, otherwise we’ll soon forget what we quarreled about.”

"I'm sorry! They say that love works miracles. Let a miracle happen and we will make peace.”

Attention! Don't look for heartfelt poems or aphorisms on the Internet. Write to him sincerely that you regret what happened and ask for forgiveness.

If you haven't seen each other for a long time

Separation is a difficult time for lovers and those who simply like each other. Warm words and gentle messages significantly shorten the distance and help brighten up a difficult time:

“Surprisingly, time passes very quickly when you are around, and it drags on very painfully in your absence.”

“The breakup made me realize how strong my feelings for you are.”

“I never thought I’d miss those dirty mugs you regularly leave in the sink.”

“Today on my way to work I met several couples in love. I sincerely envy them."

If you want to ask for forgiveness

There are situations when you should ask for forgiveness from someone you offended.

Example phrases:

“Don’t be angry, life is too short to waste it on grudges. I'm sorry".

“I’m very sorry that this happened. Our relationship is important to me. Right now, more than anything else, I want to make peace with you.”

“The reason for our quarrel is insignificant compared to my feelings for you. “I will try to improve and not allow such situations to happen again.”

“Let’s forget the ridiculous grievances and leave our quarrel in the past.”

“I had a lot of time to understand my mistake and admit my guilt. I'm very worried about what happened. Please forgive me".

Is it worth ignoring a loved one?

As already mentioned, ignoring is an effective way to stop communication or, at best, ruin it.

And some believe that with its help you can achieve better disposition towards yourself. After all, it often happens that, without receiving an answer to his request or proper attention, a person begins to call more and more, send messages and try by any means to achieve the desired result.

However, you should think sensibly and understand that ignoring means, first of all, a reluctance to communicate or meet in life. Therefore, if you have a desire to continue a neutral or positive relationship with a person, then it is better not to try to attract his attention by deliberately ignoring him.

What should you write to a young man if he himself does not take the initiative?

If you don’t see anything criminal in the fact that you have to be the first to write to a man after a long silence, at least use the right tactics. There are many ways to get a guy to talk, we have selected the best of them:

Intrigue

When you watch TV, you are probably annoyed by advertisements that cut off a movie or talk show at the most interesting point. But I really want to know how this episode ends. No fools came up with this effect that makes you wait for the show to continue without looking up from your favorite chair. A similar method can be used in correspondence with an ignoring guy. Examples of what to write to a man after a long silence:

“If you don’t answer me, you will never know the answer to your most exciting question,”
“And I found out something about you and I’m still in shock,”
“How could you do this, I didn’t suspect that you were like that...”

Just don't resort to blackmail and suicide threats. Such attempts will not lead to anything good, and you will be known as the local crazy person.

Compliment

Men are susceptible to flattery, that's for sure. They, like happy cats, will read messages with compliments, and your chances of starting long-awaited negotiations will increase. What to write to a guy so that he responds:

“Even though you don’t answer, know that you are the best thing in my life. I hope it will be."
“You are still silent, and I imagine how beautiful you are when you are angry,”
“We don’t communicate, but it’s absolutely impossible to forget you: you’re just space.”

Request for help

What to write to a guy who ignores you? Ask for his help with a serious problem. No matter how angry a man is, he will not refuse a girl in need. Come up with some sob story, for example, that you can’t wash yourself because the faucet in the bathroom is broken. Ask the guy to come, while praising his masculine skills. If all is not lost, the man must come to the rescue, and first, finally answer the SMS. Follow your intuition, come up with a situation to which the young man simply cannot help but react.

Common interests

You both loved football, and soon there will be a match involving your favorite team? Buy two tickets and send a photo of them in a message with the caption: “You can continue to ignore me, but we simply must go to the football.” Expect an immediate reaction; the man must appreciate your surprise.

Or a simpler option. Let's say that a guy is interested in computers, and you learned about the imminent appearance of a new store with equipment of this kind. Of course, in honor of the opening there will be a win-win lottery, plus crazy discounts. Why not notify your silent boyfriend about this? He should appreciate the concern and take a step forward, at least by answering the message.

An exciting question

What to write to a guy if he doesn't write? It is better to provoke him to answer with an intriguing question. You can demand that the guy give you a personal item or ask some romantic question like: “Do you remember our cozy evenings together?” Or you can also ask about something personal. This way you will emphasize how close you were: “How is your grandmother? Does she bake equally delicious pies?”

Support in difficult times

What should you write to a guy if he is silent, and you know that he is currently experiencing life difficulties? Tell him words of encouragement that will certainly touch the strings of his soul. What to write to a guy if he doesn’t answer and gets into trouble:

“Know that I still worry about you, and if you need my help, please contact me,”
“Even though you are not answering me now, I still sympathize with your grief and hope that you get out of it quickly,”
“Despite your ignorance, I wish you happiness and I know that everything will be fine for you, it can’t be any other way!”

With such messages you will show yourself as a kind and positive person. Most likely, the guy will answer you feeling supported.

Is flirting appropriate when ignored?

Girls often mistakenly believe that if they write something playful to a guy after a long silence, he will definitely rush to bombard them with promising SMS messages in response.
This is not entirely the right tactic. Each specific situation requires a special approach. It all depends on the depth of the quarrel and your temperaments. For some, ignoring means breaking up, and some guys perceive it as a kind of game and a way to take a break from each other for a while. Light flirting is possible after a minor, frivolous quarrel. If a couple of days have passed and the young man is still offended, then you can send him a couple of romantically silly SMSs. What flirty thing to write to a guy if he ignores:

“Are you bored yet? Or are you still sulking? But I want to see your pretty face,”
“Darling, stop playing the silent game. I have so much to tell you that I'm about to burst. You don’t want my death like this, do you?”
“Is my cat still offended by his guilty cat? Maybe my magic mur will fix the situation?”,
“Darling, did you accidentally break your finger? If not, then answer. If so, just call me, I miss you."

Prolonged ignorance and serious conflict do not imply such frivolous communication. If you start flirting with a man in this case, he will only become more convinced of the correctness of his decision. Try to be more thoughtful to improve your relationship. If you decide to fight for your happiness, do not lose your chances of success with the help of inappropriate messages.

Men's opinions about being ignored

What do men think about the fact that a guy has stopped writing to you and is ignoring your messages? Let's find out from them themselves!

“If a guy allows himself to be ignored, disappear and not respond to messages, then this is not normal. Girls, stop communicating with such people, and don’t worry.”

“Sometimes I disappear from a lady’s sight to stir up interest.”

“I can’t stand it when a girl starts messaging me right after a fight. I haven’t had time to get over my emotions yet, but it’s already annoying. If a girl is not indifferent to me, I will definitely get in touch with her.”

“When a guy ignores a girl, there is only one explanation for this - he is indifferent to her. The rest is excuses.”

Advice from psychologists

There are two points of view on manipulation in relationships:

Ignoring a man is the worst way to start a conversation. The couple will not be able to exist together, since the connection is built artificially. Love is a chemical reaction that cannot be created out of nothing. If the partner is cold from the beginning, then nothing will change. It is better not to try to win the heart of an indifferent person. There are a lot of people in the world who will give you much more positive emotions in the future. A woman shouldn't get hung up on a guy who doesn't show interest in return. Such people need to be avoided.
Relationships start with shenanigans. The person lies and embellishes. This behavior is encouraged by society, so people lie to make themselves look good. At the beginning of a relationship, a guy flaunts only positive traits. He, like a turkey, tries to dance a mating dance for the female. A girl can ignore a guy and use other manipulations. There is nothing immoral about this.

Both theories are correct, because they have a common link - the factor of falling in love. It doesn't matter where the feeling comes from. If people are made for each other, then they will be together both with and without ignorance. There are no limits or frames for love. She will be able to get into a hard heart and soften it.

What to write to a man to remind him of himself: ready-made phrases

What other great phrases are there to write to a man and remind him of himself? We have prepared a list of ready-made phrases for you, choose and write to your lover. He will definitely answer!

I wish you a happy holiday (birthday)....
I've run out of gas, please help.
You talked about the fitness club you go to, give me the address, I want to take care of myself.
I'm going on vacation, can you look after my cat?
I can’t open the door to my apartment, maybe the lock is broken?
Are you good at mathematics (physics, chemistry, etc.) can you help?
We bought movie tickets with a friend, but she can’t go, do you want to go with me?
I want to choose a new phone, I’m counting on your help, otherwise I don’t understand them.
Dad's birthday is coming soon, can you tell me what to give him?
I saw your friend today and talked to him a little about you.
A friend called and asked me to come urgently, can you give me a ride?
I’m sitting in a cafe and remembering our last meeting, I can’t forget how you and I laughed at......
The girls and I decided to have a bachelorette party, can you help us carry the groceries?
I saw you yesterday, you didn’t notice me, the shirt suits you very well.
There is an important conversation, we need to meet.
My friend was dumped by her boyfriend, you said you have a good friend, let’s help her?
I can’t choose a dress, I need your male gaze.
Can you log into my computer remotely, I can’t figure out the program...
There is an offer for a party, will you come?
How was your weekend?
A friend invited me to a wedding (birthday), I don’t want to go alone, will you come with me?
How is your mother, you said she was sick?
Today scammers called and introduced themselves as a bank, I want to warn you.
I read an interesting book, I want to know your opinion, I’ll let you read it.
The movie (such and such) broke all records in cinemas, haven’t you seen it? Is it worth going?
Tell me what to do in this situation, I’m at my wit’s end, no one can give normal advice.
Give me the phone number of the car service center, you said that you always repair your car there.
I have an exam today, cheer for me!
I'm sick, can you buy me some medicine?
The neighbors say that I flood them, but everything is fine with me, can you come and have a look?
I’m on my way from the store with heavy bags, help me carry them from the bus.
I want to go on an interesting excursion, come with me, you love everything interesting.
Please advise where is the best place to get my phone repaired, otherwise it often freezes on me.
The weather is good outside, I don’t want to sit at home, let’s go for a walk?
Did you take the dogs to the playground today?

By writing such messages, you will show your best side. With a high probability, the man will answer, and, perhaps, make an appointment with you.