- October 21, 2019
- Psychology of Personality
- Anna Mallaalieva
It is believed that arrogance is a negative character trait. We are raised to be modest and sympathetic people. They say that we must give in, even if it goes against our own interests. However, judging by social issues, many believe that arrogance helps in solving many issues. There is a position that people can achieve success in work and personal life precisely because of this negative trait. Therefore, many have thought about how to be arrogant and self-confident. Do you think these personality traits are compatible? Let's look at this issue.
What do we call arrogance?
Before discussing how to achieve this trait in your character, you need to understand what arrogance is, in principle. Perhaps, during the process of description, you will understand that you do not need this.
Psychological research makes us understand that arrogant people do not feel shame, are constantly rude and do not support the values of the society in which they find themselves. Now we will answer the question of whether confidence and arrogance can coexist together. Again, research confirms that it does not. Psychologists note that arrogance hides a person’s helplessness. It is through rudeness and other rude behavior that he tries to hide his fear.
Knowing that arrogance is a mask, you need to think about whether this trait really helps achieve the desired results? Or is it better to become responsible, purposeful and diplomatic? Of course, each person decides for himself what tactics to choose. Perhaps you can combine a little arrogance and positive traits. And if you are still interested in how to become an arrogant person, then continue reading the publication.
Ability to assert personal boundaries
You should not allow any kind of aggression or disrespect to be shown towards you. You should immediately stop attempts to cross the boundaries beyond which there is personal space.
There is no need to be rude in response to rudeness; you should calmly explain that you will not tolerate such an attitude towards yourself and why.
A self-confident person knows how to refuse, to say “no” if a request contradicts his interests or basic life principles. There is no need to be afraid of seeming like a “bad” girl, only you can decide what actions you are ready to take.
Protection
Before developing this quality in yourself, you need to separate arrogance from rudeness. The first character trait can really be useful when you are trying to defend your interests. But if you get impudent and run faster to the checkout in the store, pushing everyone, then you need to understand: this will never help you in your life. This situation only shows a lack of manners.
But it is foolish to deny that arrogance sometimes becomes a defensive reaction. It can be a response to any stimulus. If you need to become just such a person, then below are tips on how to become bolder and bolder.
This quality (in the form of a defensive reaction) can really help solve some problem or conflict. An example of such a situation could be, for example, a vacant director's position in a company. Here you need to include confidence, arrogance, and cunning. After all, what are leaders looking at? To work: how active it is and how a person expresses himself. At the same time, you cannot be called a bad person, because you are not rude to people and do not insult them. But such behavior is also impudence.
Why is it so important to be brave?
Many of us have a stereotype associated with courage and courage that these qualities are needed only in extreme situations, for example, when it is necessary to save someone’s life. That is, the manifestation of courage is equal to a feat. But, you see, we don’t find ourselves in such circumstances every day. Why then is courage needed? Let's figure it out:
- Self-development and self-realization are important for every person. But this process is inevitably associated with the fact that we have to take on more responsibility, make difficult decisions, express ourselves in unconventional ways, learn new things and use the acquired skills in practice. And, of course, making mistakes in the process—you can’t live without them. All this requires remarkable courage. After all, remember yourself at university, when you first had to write a large scientific paper. To make even an introduction, I had to overcome the “fear of a blank sheet”, the fear of the dissatisfaction of the supervisor and many other fears. It's normal when you do something for the first time, especially something that depends entirely on yourself. And this really takes courage. You also need courage to honestly look your own shortcomings in the eye - without this, true personal development is impossible.
- Courage helps a lot in communication. Meeting a person you like on the street or in a cafe, calling a new client at work for the first time, and sometimes even just asking for a fare on a minibus - for some these tasks are not difficult, but for some people, for example, introverts, they can be practically impossible. Often this deprives us of many opportunities: to improve our personal lives, get a promotion, make new friends. And without this, life can lose its charm.
- A lot of courage is especially needed for close relationships. Because true intimacy involves vulnerability. In order to be yourself next to a person, to reveal your “dark” side to him, in order to accept the “shadow” of a loved one, you often really need to be able to cope with many fears - the fear of being rejected, misunderstood, the fear of loss, conflicts.
- Sometimes you need courage to solve basic life problems. We have already mentioned the notorious fare in transport, but there are enough such small tasks that require courage every day in our lives. Making an appointment with a doctor, going through an interview, filling out the necessary documents, asking directions from a passerby on the street - these methods of communication may require overcoming your fears. But without it, we simply cannot live normally in the modern world, where communication plays a vital role.
- It takes enormous courage to be 100% yourself, to express yourself freely. Coming up with a new idea at work, being creative in solving a problem, or even just getting a bold haircut can be very difficult if you are afraid of the opinions of others or “extra” responsibility. But if a person does not overcome these fears, he lives with the feeling that he is not living his life, is not fully realized, and is relegating himself to the background.
- A bright and rich life, new experiences also require courage. After all, a person who cannot push aside his fears will never go on a trip, ride a roller coaster, climb a mountain or deep-sea dive - in general, he will deprive himself of the opportunity to fulfill his dreams. And the result will be a boring, gray life and, of course, dissatisfaction with it and with yourself.
Courage does not mean not being afraid of anything, but it is always about the internal readiness to overcome one’s own fears, the ability to act in spite of them. [1] And fear is one of the main “brakes” of human development. Fear paralyzes, deprives you of achievements, new knowledge, new impressions, and pleasure from life.
When we make the decision to put aside our fears and become bolder, life begins to change as if by magic. In fact, this change in your behavior allows you to achieve career and creative success, create close and fulfilling relationships, meet new people and get vivid impressions. She becomes truly complete. It’s as if the picture of life was gray before, but now it’s finally painted with all the colors of the rainbow. Having become accustomed to showing courage and courage, in a few months you will not recognize yourself and your life.
In addition, courage gives an incomparable feeling of pride in oneself, self-esteem, and high self-esteem. And these feelings are very motivating for further achievements.
“All my life I seemed to be floating with the flow: school, college, boring office work. An unloved person who was “wooed” by his parents - they say, he’s a good guy, you shouldn’t miss this. I was even getting ready to get married. And on the day when they took the documents to the registry office, it was as if something clicked inside: I want to become brave! I thought: where is my life going? All my life I was a good girl, I was afraid to make decisions, I didn’t dare to express my opinion - my parents always decided everything for me. I was seriously afraid that I would never meet anyone better than my fiancé, that I would be alone forever - and I was only 23 years old, the very beginning of my life! I was afraid to be left without education, without work, without housing - who needs me, where will I go with my meager skills. Dreams of travel and creativity were pushed into the farthest box, and I had already forgotten that I once had them.
That day, I literally stopped my boyfriend in the middle of the road and said that I would not go anywhere with him any further - in every sense. The next week I resolutely quit my job. I bought paints with my vacation pay and painted excitedly for the next two weeks. And then she overcame her modesty, posted her work on social networks and the next day received her first order for illustration.
My story is not like a fairy tale: I still haven’t met my “prince,” but only because I approach relationships much more responsibly, I’m not afraid of growing old alone and I don’t grab the first person I come across. I still don’t earn millions and haven’t traveled the whole world, but I’m finally doing what I love, I feel like I’m developing every day and that I have prospects. Life has found meaning. All you had to do was cast aside your fears and doubts and take the first step. It’s good that I did it on time!”
— Anna, 25 years old
Is it possible for girls to be impudent?
Girls, admit it, how often have you thought about how to become arrogant and self-confident? You thought that this could help win a guy away from a competitor or become a team leader. Well, according to research, it is worth noting that guys really pay attention to arrogant girls. But other studies have already shown that men like to get married and, in principle, start serious relationships with calm ladies, with whom they are always comfortable.
Therefore, if you want to become arrogant and confident, then go for it. But assess all situations sensibly and use these character traits only in the right cases.
How to defend your interests
A person with an anal vector, by nature calm, thorough, conscientious, straightforward and truthful, the properties of the skin vector often cause irritation, unless, of course, he has undergone training in system-vector psychology by Yuri Burlan. For a principled and honest person with an anal vector, the flexibility of the skinner’s position is perceived as unprincipledness, and his ability to establish useful contacts as arrogance.
It is easier for the owner of the anal vector to do it himself than to ask. He is not a natural commander. His life purpose is to protect women and children, as well as transfer knowledge to the younger generation. He is decent - he won’t take an extra penny. For him, quality is more important than price. For him, an old friend is always better than two new ones. And always measure seven times and cut once.
If a person with an anal vector also has a visual vector, then to the above properties are added impressionability, emotional sensitivity, softness, vulnerability, excessive delicacy, even timidity. If in childhood there were emotional traumas in the visual vector, and grievances in the anal vector, then in adulthood contacts with people will, at best, cause caution.
It is contraindicated for a person with an anal-optic ligament to work as a boss if he does not have a cutaneous or urethral vector. He will not be able to refuse anyone, and he himself will worry that he is being used. He will take the work and personal problems of his employees too seriously, will try to do everything himself and in the end will either fail all the work or will not be able to stand it.
Setting goals
So, how to become cunning and arrogant, self-confident? First, set yourself goals. Why do you need these character traits? If we are talking about career growth, then think about: where can you apply these “skills”? Where exactly should you be arrogant, where should you cheat, when is it better to remain silent?
Considering that arrogance is not a very pleasant character trait, its spontaneous manifestation can have a bad effect on you. At a minimum, the relationship with your boss will deteriorate and the level of trust will decrease.
Confidence
We have already found out why people become arrogant. Why do they need self-confidence? We think this is already clear. By the way, achieving this trait is quite difficult, especially on your own. Unfortunately, uncertainty, lack of self-love—these factors take a long time to form. And if you have doubted your skills all your life, then in a click you will not believe in yourself.
We advise you to consult a psychologist. It will help you find the causes of uncertainty and subsequently develop the desired quality. If you don’t want or can’t go to see a specialist, then take advantage of trainings or webinars. They can also help, but this method is still less effective.
Confidence will help boost the sport. The support of loved ones will also be useful.
So, how to be bold and confident? What to do? You need to constantly train your endurance, perseverance and determination. Monitor your behavior and correct it.
Wit
It is important to be arrogant, but to be able to avoid conflict situations. Let's say you decide to achieve a managerial position at work. You behave arrogantly and cunningly. Other colleagues will probably pester you with negative phrases. If you are witty and can answer correctly, your relationship with other employees will not deteriorate. It is important not to offend others, but at the same time continue to move towards your goals.
To develop your wit, start reading, traveling, making more friends, find yourself a hobby.
Wardrobe
Believe it or not, when psychologists are always asked about how to be arrogant and self-confident, they suggest changing your wardrobe and clothing style. If you are dressed poorly, you don’t like the outfit yourself, then those around you will perceive you poorly. At the same time, if you start to become impudent and rude in this manner, then other people will most likely begin to feel sorry for you, because you radiate self-doubt.
Clothing must be clean and neat. You should choose what makes you feel better. If you dress like a “cool” girl, you will feel like one. You won't have to spend 15 minutes thinking about how to answer a question or what to do if you are rude. You will become confident and know how to behave in any situation. Yes, it's a mask. A mask that you will try on yourself. As a result, now you will feel comfortable in any form. Because you will know that it is not your clothes that make you bolder and more confident, but that you are just such a person. Try to do this, maybe you will be able to love yourself.
Is it possible to cultivate anger for your own benefit?
Excessive anger is the presence of negative emotions. Therefore, when trying to change your character, you need to do it in such a way that you begin to feel better.
How to become angry and cruel ? If you want to dramatically change your character, pay attention to the following tips:
- Understand the main rule - you don’t owe anyone anything , just like other people don’t owe you anything.
- Do what you want . Forget about the opinions of others.
- Stop answering yes . This fact will be very surprising to those around you, because before you have always helped them. Perhaps someone will be offended. But you take this with cold indifference - you have your own affairs and problems, and you must take care of them first.
- Develop self -confidence .
- You are a unique, inimitable person , no one has the right to influence your opinion.
- Learn to defend your opinion . Speech must be confident, with clear pronunciation of words. Say what you think, don’t be afraid to express your opinion, arguing that the person will be offended. You are not responsible for other people's emotions, and you can say what you think. Please note that sometimes this leads to conflicts; be prepared for such a turn of events.
How to become angry and aggressive ? For a man, anger is more necessary than for the fair sex.
