Perhaps, many guys one day face a rather unpleasant situation: girls begin to ignore them. Some young people are convinced that everything happened out of nowhere, “out of the blue.” Of course, this does not happen - there are always reasons, and now we will look at them and tell you what to do if a girl ignores you.
The girl does not want to communicate, ignores or freezes
Why does this happen - the most common situations
She was offended
Perhaps the reason for her silence is quite banal - the girl is simply offended by you. Analyze your last dialogues, remember if you could have offended her with some action or words. If you still don’t remember anything like that, then it is possible that her offense is far-fetched (if there really is one). To clarify the situation, of course, you should initiate a dialogue with the girl and ask directly if she is offended by something. If possible, it is better to call or initiate a personal meeting.
She's busy
Maybe the girl simply does not have the opportunity to answer you, even if she is online. It is possible that at the same time she is busy with some other activity, and she simply has no time for communication. Wait a little, if this is really the case, then the interlocutor will soon respond to your messages.
Women's ignorance as a means of manipulation
It must be admitted that some women use ignorance for their own purposes. Of course, they often do this because they had the opportunity to make sure that with the help of such behavior they can achieve certain “bonuses” for themselves. What does ignoring them give them?
Firstly, in this way they try to determine a man’s true attitude towards himself. If the chosen one did not notice anything, then the woman notes that he is not too attentive to her. If he begins to worry and tries to somehow clarify what is happening, then it is obvious that he is seriously interested in the relationship and reacts to the slightest changes in his beloved’s mood. Sometimes, it is really important for a woman to simply determine the attitude of a man, but often everything goes much further. Subconsciously, she, of course, is counting on the second option - that the man will be excited by her behavior. And after this, some people calculate how exactly their partner’s concern might benefit them. Someone on this “wave” is trying to get certain actions from the chosen one; more mercantile ladies can simply achieve gifts in this way.
What to do if you are ignored for no reason
What to write if a girl is offended, it’s not clear why
If you understand that it is really about resentment, then, of course, you can try to solve this problem. What to do first? Try writing to a girl. Note that you understand that she could not have changed her behavior out of nowhere, and it is not easy for you because you cannot fully understand the reason for her offense. Also mention that the last thing you want is for her to feel hurt or stressed about anything, so if it's within your power, you'd like to make things right. Explain that you are hoping for a hint from her, otherwise you are afraid that the conflict will not be resolved.
By the way, such a reaction is relevant if such behavior is not very typical for a girl. If such cases occur more and more often, write that you will be ready to discuss the problem with her when the girl herself wants it. Since such grievances are common for her, she will probably soon “move away” herself, and everything in your relationship will be as before, or she will express her complaints to you, having collected her thoughts.
The young lady avoids meetings and does not want communication
The girl is categorically determined and does not want to communicate with you at all - not only by correspondence, but also in person? Ask her to simply name the reason for this behavior. However, if you are very persistent, but still don’t find out why she decided to interrupt communication, then perhaps you should “let the situation go.” Probably, changes have occurred in the girl’s life that simply exclude the possibility of further communication with you. It is possible that she fell in love with another person and is afraid to admit it. It is also possible that she is very offended by you - think about why this could happen. If you have mutual friends or are friends with one of the girl’s relatives, then you can try to carefully clarify the situation with them.
When brains boil 2
The mere presence of a young man can cause a swarm of all kinds of thoughts, and it can be impossible to analyze all these countless thought processes. They pile up the girl’s consciousness so much that by ignoring the guy, she unconsciously tries to escape from all this chaos in her head.
“What is he up to?” “Can you say that?” “What if I do this?” “What was he thinking?” "I look good?" “Am I that predictable?” "What did he mean?" All these numerous questions result in inexorable dialogues in the female brain and deafen it, and the girl begins to slowly retreat.
The girl ignores her in contact, should she write to her?
We can talk about both a real lover and a person who is simply interesting and attractive to you at the moment.
If a girl answers messages, but not like before
In this case, it's likely that you don't really have any good reason to worry. Perhaps the decreased activity of the chosen one is connected with some events in her life that have nothing to do with you. What could we be talking about? She has a lot of work, she does her schoolwork, she has problems in her family, she is on vacation, she is busy with something, and so on. If the situation is really related to some kind of employment, then, most likely, everything will soon return to normal.
However, there may be another reason for such changes in behavior. Some girls get tired of communicating on the Internet if the situation is not moving forward. That is, it may be that you are stuck at the stage of courtship, which mainly takes place in VKontakte. She probably wants a real relationship and doesn't want to encourage this type of online romance. It may be that you are already together, but again - you practically don’t see each other, but only share information with each other through Contact - most likely, she is tired of this format of communication.
Some girls begin to answer more dryly than they did before, thereby demonstrating resentment. Think carefully about whether there were any actions in your words and actions that could cause negative emotions on the part of your chosen one.
If a girl suddenly stops communicating
For an abrupt termination of relations and correspondence, of course, there must be a compelling reason. The best way to find out is by making an appointment. If you haven’t had an acquaintance so close that you don’t even know how you can meet her and where you can look for her, then this means that it’s still difficult to call your relationship serious, which means that the girl and I didn’t take them seriously myself.
If a girl blocked me everywhere
If she simply stops answering you, but at the same time leaves the opportunity to write and explain something yourself, then, apparently, in this way you are given a chance to fix everything. However, when a girl not only ignores, but also blocks a guy on social networks or on the phone, this means that she absolutely does not care what he wants to tell her - she has made a firm decision to cut off contact. In this case, you have two options - wait until the situation changes and the girl still gives you access, for example, to her page. This will indicate that she is still ready to communicate with you. However, if your acquaintance is not superficial, it is better, of course, not to wait, but to find another way to talk to her - for example, to meet.
Why does a girl stop responding to messages?
- Problem with the phone. Perhaps her phone is broken or cannot receive or send messages;
- She doesn't like constant correspondence. Some women do not like to write often and spend time in the virtual world. Although this may seem strange in our time. But there are still people who stay away from their phones;
- She's testing you. As I said earlier, ladies test men by standing back and seeing how they will react. If you respond by sending a lot of messages, it will be a sign that you are too needy. Instead, give it some time and let her initiate contact again;
- A difficult period has come in her life. Perhaps she has problems at work or in school, she has taken on many tasks and does not have time to cope. Therefore, all her time is spent on work;
How can a man properly ignore a woman he likes?
It is important to understand that women usually use ignoring specifically for something; it has a specific goal that your interlocutor wants to achieve. So what are the options? Perhaps this is how a woman expresses resentment, wants revenge, or hopes to end your relationship. As soon as you fully understand why a woman behaves this way, something else will become clear to you - how to act in such a difficult matter.
However, do not rule out the possibility that this person is not only ignoring you. Some women get tired of problems or uncertainty in their personal lives, after which they decide to take some kind of break - that is, to distance themselves from any personal contacts with men. In this case, you should act delicately, show your chosen one that you are ready to wait and understand the reasons for her fears.
If we are talking about an adult woman, then it is possible that she is tired of any correspondence and “virtual love”. Try to transfer your courtship into real life, and act like that. The older a woman is, the less time she usually wants to spend on correspondence, which in many cases simply ends in nothing. Show your readiness for a real relationship.
Expert advice
When the task of finding out about her mood is completed, it is important not to complicate the situation. Psychologists recommend adhering to the basic rules:
- When speaking, use a guilty and serious tone. There should be no jokes, counterclaims or vulgar hints.
- If a girl does not make contact, you need to be patient and let her know about it. A guy who is willing to wait until his beloved calms down receives forgiveness faster.
- It is not advisable to give up right away. At the first failures, it is useful to wait a couple of days and try to meet again.
- You cannot respond to silence with silence, since counter-ignoring will lead to a final break.
Psychologists advise rectifying the situation - fulfilling an unfulfilled promise or showing more attention to the chosen one.
If you are constantly ignored and manipulated, you should think about continuing a toxic relationship. A girl for whom a romantic relationship is a reason to control a guy will never change. In the future, the man’s life will be seriously complicated due to constant nagging, whims and silence.
How to deliberately ignore a girl to interest her
Some young people, having once learned the full power of ignoring, continue to actively use the acquired technique in conquering the opposite sex. Of course, you may be afraid to take this step, believing that in this way you will only ruin all relations with your chosen one, but note that if you act competently and thoughtfully, then such behavior will only play into your hands.
Surely similar stories have happened to you: you managed to meet an interesting girl and took her phone number. However, this is where all the good news ended - subsequently you were unable to get through to the girl or you could not get a meeting with her. It is also possible that you generally failed to interest the girl you liked, or that your beloved, after some time of harmonious relationships, suddenly began to destroy them with her behavior.
Such incidents happened to many guys, and how did they most often behave? As a rule, when faced with a girl’s whims or inattention, young people try to win her favor by giving her gifts, trying in every possible way to please, solve some of her problems, get into position, and so on. The maximum that could be achieved after all this was the phrase: “You are a good guy, but I only have friendly feelings for you.” However, the outcome can be even worse - the girl simply asks to leave her alone.
How does “correct” ignoring work?
However, things could be different if you used a technique that pick-up artists call “close-far” - ignoring is part of this technique. Ignoring refers to the “further” part. Many may be surprised that someone can behave this way when seducing a girl, believing that in this circumstance, on the contrary, the emphasis should be on increased activity, and not let everything take its course. In general, this opinion is wrong, and over time, many guys realize that it is not always possible to achieve a positive result if you constantly “go on the offensive.”
It is important to realize that ignoring is a preliminary and often necessary step before other actions. He pursues a specific task - the establishment of incorrectly built or begun relationships. The point of ignoring to a large extent is to disappear from the field of view of your chosen one for a certain period, thereby allowing her to miss you and think about you. Also, by ignoring you can achieve another goal - to smooth out the opinion about yourself if it is not very good, because we all know that over time a person reacts less sharply to everything bad and forgets about some disappointments. For example, you behaved incorrectly and the relationship went in the wrong direction. This suggests that you need to take a break and get the girl to think differently. We all know that it is better to start again after a certain time-out.
We also note that ignoring someone helps many people to underestimate the importance of a girl. If you don't show interest in her for a while, the girl who liked you even a little will undoubtedly start to worry and think about what's wrong with her or why you're barely paying her attention. Subsequently, these experiences may turn out to be in your favor - you simply explain that you were busy with something very important (if explanations are needed) and invite her on a date. Surely, after such a buildup of emotions, the girl will not refuse you. If this does happen, then hide again for a while and try again.
Ignoring can also be used if a girl behaves strangely and provokes conflicts. Many guys at these moments try to improve everything with gifts, signs of attention, when they just need to disappear for a while. Then explain it as something you needed to think about. During the period of your ignoring, the girl will reconsider her behavior and understand that she has “overstepped” and there is no need to do so.
Is it worth doing the same?
What happens if you ignore a girl? Guys can also use ignore to exert influence . A partner’s reluctance to make contact will cause many emotions and questions.
She will begin to analyze recent events, worry about the reasons for this behavior, make assumptions, etc. As a result, unconsciously her interest in her partner’s personality will increase noticeably.
It makes sense to use such a technique in relationships when it is not possible to evoke an emotional response in other ways .
For example, if a girl is spoiled by the attention of the opposite sex and takes courtship for granted.
The appearance of a gentleman who does not fall under her charm will have a sobering effect and force her to reconsider her behavior .
If the relationship has been established for a long time, you should not ignore your soulmate.
Such disregard for your partner's feelings can lead to serious disagreements, retaliatory offenses, and even separation. It is advisable to strive to discuss problems openly and not hush up grievances.
Due to the characteristics of the female psyche, male ignorance usually leads to the following consequences :
- She's angry. A lack of understanding of the motives for such behavior, a reluctance to “play the silent game,” or confidence in one’s own rightness can lead a friend into a very negative state. Your partner’s behavior will only cause irritation and annoyance.
- She's getting cold. Every girl has a need for attention.
The absence of this attention for some time can become a reason for cooling off towards your partner. - She ignores in response. A similar situation occurs in couples where both parties are stubborn and excessively proud. Reluctance to compromise leads to constant clashes and mutual manipulation.
