Women... Girls... What lovely creatures. No wonder they are called the “fair sex”. But sometimes it happens that these fragile people break our hearts to smithereens. They are going away. And when they leave, they pretend that they never knew us at all. And the question immediately arises: how to return your beloved girl if she does not want to communicate? No matter how strong and brutal a man is, no one can resist his beloved. Or is it really possible to resist their charms? What to do if a girl doesn’t want to communicate and how to get her back? Let's figure it out together. In this article we will answer such a burning question, consider the reasons for the occurrence of such situations, ways to solve them, and formulate an approximate plan of action.
Why force yourself on someone who doesn’t want to communicate with you?! Realizing this is bitter, painful and offensive. But it is necessary! Oleg Roy. Seven Signs of Happiness
Is it worth worrying right away?
Psychologists name three options when a girl no longer wants to communicate. You need to act depending on the specific case:
- The ignoring began immediately after meeting. The lady gave her phone number, but doesn't pick up.
- Silence followed after the first date, which the guy might have thought was successful. Women make judgments based on a different rating scale, so opinions about a romantic encounter can differ dramatically.
- The couple had a long relationship, but after a quarrel or difficult situation, the beloved does not want to talk.
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The first two options speak of the girl’s indifference. You can try to fix something, but the lady has probably already made her decision. Psychologists advise stopping in time and not pursuing her. It is likely that she does not know how to gently and correctly refuse, so she chose silence as the only way to get rid of an unsuitable candidate. If ignored during a long-term relationship, the guy himself will be able to understand at what point the communication stopped.
What if there are no results?
Often, in attempts to restore relationships, men make even more mistakes, which further push away the already offended girl. Psychologists strongly advise against doing the following:
- cause pity on her part;
- fall into depression and abuse bad habits;
- obsessively shower her with gifts and flowers;
- tend to manipulate through her friends and relatives;
- blame her, removing the burden of responsibility;
- call and pester her on social networks;
- give up feelings for her due to weakness and unpreparedness for action.
A person needs to first understand all his mistakes and understand his own behavior. After this, you need to act urgently, look for meetings to establish communication. To begin with, you can use neutral topics, then give her the opportunity to express all grievances. After this, you need to agree that the man was wrong, promising not to repeat such situations in the future.
Have you ever had to get a girl back?
Not really
It is especially important to avoid putting pressure on a girl, since some sensitive people need more time to suppress unpleasant emotions. It is imperative to clarify whether she still has feelings, since in their absence, the struggle for a relationship is often futile. A man’s actions and actions for the purpose of forgiveness should be repeated time after time; it is better to give your beloved a rose with an apology every day than to give a huge bouquet once and do nothing in the future.
It must be remembered that even in the case of strong offenses and insults, a girl’s feelings cannot immediately disappear. Therefore, it is extremely important to act on time and not give up. If a man gives her an understanding that she is needed and important to him, that he has changed and is ready to work on himself, even the most callous and offended person will give a second chance. If a girl uses grievances as manipulation, you can disappear for a while just to arouse her interest.
Possible reasons for women's silence
Someone else's soul is in the dark, but the inner world of a beloved is generally difficult to comprehend. If she categorically does not want to talk, asking directly about the motives for her behavior will not work. You will have to analyze your own words and actions over the last days of communication. Women tend to exaggerate what is happening, passing everything through the prism of emotions. Sometimes their hopes or dreams don't come true, so they decide to play the silent game. Psychologists have listed the main reasons for ignoring, and the guys just have to compare the proposed options with their situation.
Bad mood
We all have moments when a carelessly spoken word can cause a major scandal. Your beloved does not want to communicate with you at this particular time, so as not to quarrel. Changes in mood are caused by hormonal fluctuations during the menstrual cycle - on such days, a woman can get anything into her head. It’s better to just wait out a difficult period of time so as not to aggravate the situation.
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Life problems
In a trusting relationship, the girl talks about difficulties in studying or conflicts in the family. She can stop communicating if the chosen one did not show attention to the problem - and now her beloved is busy solving it on her own. There is no need to make hasty conclusions, since there are troubles that are difficult to voice even to a loved one. If, in the opinion of a woman, a man cannot help, she will not overload him with unnecessary information.
She was offended
To begin with, psychologists recommend analyzing your own behavior. It is advisable to remember the specific moment when silence occurred. The list of reasons for resentment is impressive, but psychologists have identified the most common ones:
- The guy forgot to fulfill his promise or ignored the request of his beloved.
- The chosen one pays less attention to the woman.
- The man missed an important date in the relationship.
Girls mistakenly think that guys understand hints, so they expect specific actions from them. The gentleman could listen all evening to what earrings the lady saw in the store, but still not understand that she was dreaming of a jewelry gift.
The inability to read veiled information can lead to the woman being offended and no longer wanting to talk.
Jealous
The reason for suspicion is a man's slight flirting or a compliment to another girl. It is useful to remember whether there was a similar situation the day before. Women do not need to receive proof of infidelity - just one word or look from their chosen one is enough. Sometimes jealousy is exaggerated without any real basis. The guy wonders why she is ignoring me if I haven't done anything wrong. And the reason lies in a harmless dialogue with an acquaintance he met in a supermarket.
Lost interest
Communication helps the couple get to know each other better - and at some stage the lady may draw conclusions that are not in favor of the guy. If a man at the beginning of acquaintance tried to try on other people's masks or pretended to be another person, over time the true qualities and character will certainly appear. Women know how to read information on a non-verbal and emotional level, so they quickly recognize a lie - and put the deceiver on the ignore list.
I decided to check
Silence is often used to test a chosen one. The woman pretends that she does not want to communicate - and monitors the man’s behavior. She looks at how exactly the gentleman will seek her favor and how much he strives to be with her. The tactic speaks of the passion’s narcissism and selfishness, since this is not the best and most delicate behavior towards the guy. Either the qualities were instilled in the girl in the family - and they cannot be changed, or one of her friends advised the chosen one to conduct a test in silence.
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Manipulates
Girls live by hints. Instead of voicing a request, they resort to a lot of tricks. If you come across a dull gentleman, the young lady pouts and maintains a vow of silence. To get what you want, ignoring is the most proven and effective tactic, according to women. A man is ready to do anything just to communicate with his beloved girl again. He will agree to the demands, give in so that the chosen one will talk to him again.
My tongue is my enemy
I always advise being sociable, but in moderation. Of course, I have met men in my life who could be too talkative on the first date, but still left with the young lady. Such craftsmen have their own special style of communication. How they manage to do this, I don’t fully understand.
But I have not yet seriously begun to study this issue, so all my discoveries are yet to come. I promise, as soon as I find out all the secrets of these men, I will definitely tell you about them in my new articles.
If you are not one of these wonderful talkers, then I see no point in taking the risk of trying to seduce a woman with a continuous monologue.
Why invent problems for yourself if there are usual effective ways? I talked about all of them in my previous articles. Of course, you can try to talk a girl right before sex for fun, but be prepared for the young lady to run away. Luck in such situations is the exception rather than the rule.
Being a talker is bad when it comes to seducing a woman. And in life, I advise you to listen more and talk less. This rule has saved me from trouble more than once.
How to find out the reason for a girl's dissatisfaction
The surest way to find out why your chosen one is playing silent is to ask a direct question. If you can't talk in person or over the phone, you need to send a message or email. In it, psychologists advise expressing your concerns and asking for a meeting. What is important is how exactly to do this. Thoughts are presented in the following order:
- observations;
- feelings;
- needs;
- desires.
For example: “After our last meeting, you don’t talk to me, don’t make contact. Your silence hurts me. Perhaps I was wrong about something - tell me exactly where I was wrong. I’m very worried about you and our relationship, I want to meet in person and talk.”
You can talk with her friends or mutual friends - the closest circle is usually aware of what is happening. If you remember at what point the ignoring began, it is easy to determine the starting point in the form of a problem. Psychologists advise analyzing the last 2 weeks, since the chosen one could have accumulated negativity - and some event became the last straw.
Expert advice
When the task of finding out about her mood is completed, it is important not to complicate the situation. Psychologists recommend adhering to the basic rules:
- When speaking, use a guilty and serious tone. There should be no jokes, counterclaims or vulgar hints.
- If a girl does not make contact, you need to be patient and let her know about it. A guy who is willing to wait until his beloved calms down receives forgiveness faster.
- It is not advisable to give up right away. At the first failures, it is useful to wait a couple of days and try to meet again.
- You cannot respond to silence with silence, since counter-ignoring will lead to a final break.
Psychologists advise rectifying the situation - fulfilling an unfulfilled promise or showing more attention to the chosen one.
If you are constantly ignored and manipulated, you should think about continuing a toxic relationship. A girl for whom a romantic relationship is a reason to control a guy will never change. In the future, the man’s life will be seriously complicated due to constant nagging, whims and silence.
Changing thinking and behavior patterns
The main thing to understand from the very beginning: under no circumstances should you humiliate yourself in front of a girl.
This is an axiom. But this does not mean that you need to behave cynically or selfishly, no. It is necessary to behave with dignity, restraint and nobility, in a word - courageously. By reacting calmly to a girl leaving, you are already laying the foundation for her return. If nervous breakdowns did occur, then you will have to change your behavior to an extremely adequate one. Even if the girl doesn’t communicate with you, her friends or mutual friends can tell her about your changes. Destroy your standard behavior patterns! This will puzzle her. Without doing stupid and reckless things, you grow in the eyes of a girl, because she sees fortitude and equanimity of character, which is one of the main criteria of masculinity. Understand that you need to increase your value, not the girls. If you run after her all the time, pester her with eternal apologies, begging her to come back, then you are only adding gasoline to the fire! THIS DOES NOT WORK
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On the contrary, if you show her your importance, this will give her a reason to become interested in you again. Spend less time apologizing and start working on your mistakes. Taking into account the above, analyze your miscalculations in relationships and make every effort to eliminate them. After painstaking work on your own shortcomings, feel free to go on the offensive.
