How to marry a man or a guy, push a man to take decisive action, and divorce a married man.

Usually, when entering into a romantic relationship, most women assume that their chosen one may later turn out to be their husband. However, some men do not at all believe that a romance should necessarily lead to an official marriage, or simply do not want to rush into a proposal. How can I change this?

We're dating, but he's not asking for marriage

Possible reasons

He was already married and had negative impressions from this experience. Perhaps his ex-wife was unfaithful or in some other way did not correspond to his ideas about an ideal life partner. Be that as it may, the man concluded that starting a family is not always good and can lead to serious disappointments.
He likes the feeling of freedom. In his view, marriage seriously limits a person and does not allow him to live a full life. Your chosen one probably has hobbies that, in his opinion, are not comparable to family life. For example, now he can go on a trip with friends for a few days or start flirting with the girl he likes. He may not do any of this, but he has this opportunity, and in marriage he will probably lose it.
He's too young. These days, many guys don't think about starting a family until they're 25. They prefer to devote this time to studying, finding “their place” in life, and only then getting ready to take responsibility for someone else.
He believes that he will not be able to create a full-fledged family. Perhaps he has problems with his financial situation, living conditions and the like. It is also possible that he is now actively building a career and believes that marriage cannot fit into his immediate plans.
You do not seem to him a worthy contender for the role of a wife. Perhaps your business skills are far from exemplary, but for your chosen one this is an important aspect. It is also possible that there are too many conflicts and dissatisfaction with each other in your relationship, and the guy believes that under such circumstances getting married is stupid. It is also possible that the young man considers you too flighty and for some reason not ready for marriage, even if this is not the case.

What the statistics say

As a rule, long-term relationships, one way or another, lead to marriage. Living with his beloved under the same roof, a man is ready for her to become his wife. However, many women are not ready to live in uncertainty for a long time, and it is important for them that the relationship be legalized. If you don’t care about the stamp in your passport, then probably, sooner or later, you will wait for the day when your chosen one decides to get married.

Advice from a family psychologist

Psychologists advise not to “put pressure” on a man by giving him ultimatums and throwing tantrums about his unpreparedness for an official relationship. Realizing that you are trying to force him to do something, he will begin to resist out of a sense of contradiction. Your job is to show him all the advantages of family life, and he will have to decide whether he wants to propose to you or not.

What makes men propose?

Attractiveness

“It’s rags and love notes that make a woman attractive” - I read this saying in some book. The essence of this phrase is as follows: a woman should look good, dress with taste, take care of herself and arouse the interest of many men.

Clothing should highlight your femininity. Femininity is not when all the charms are visible at first sight, but when, when looking at you, men have a desire to lift the veil of secrecy - what is hidden under clothes. Too revealing, sexy clothes may make you want to have sex, but it is unlikely to propose marriage.

The most feminine outfit is a good dress. Whatever your figure, you can definitely highlight your strengths in it. If you want to get married, then of all the things in your wardrobe there should be dresses! Beautiful - hair and makeup in pastel colors will add soft confidence to your appearance. All men like well-groomed women. Love your appearance, devote time to it, and men will pay attention to you.

Let's move on to the "love notes." Your chosen one must understand that you are interesting not only to him. Every man is a conqueror. If he sees that the girl he wants to conquer is no longer interesting to anyone, the man will have a question: is this girl worth his efforts? On the contrary, if several gentlemen are fighting for the heart of a lady, then the object is truly worthy. Such a girl should not think about how to marry a man. If a man emerges victorious in this battle, this emphasizes his “toughness.” You need to approach this game wisely. You should not demonstrate that you may be interested in several men at the same time. The task is to show that you are interesting to many, but at the same time you are a very constant and loyal girl. If you have chosen a man for yourself, then only he will be the subject of your attention. In this case, the man will take you seriously, and at the same time he will understand that if he loses you, you will not suffer alone.

Self-esteem

For some women, this quality is passed on through genes, or it is instilled in them by their parents from childhood. If you do not have self-esteem, you definitely need to develop it. Men, one way or another, subconsciously or consciously, will check whether you have it or not. Remember the wise phrase “We are treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated.” Under no circumstances should you show a man that you are concerned about the question - how to marry a man)))

One of my friends, a very pretty girl, is not having a serious relationship with the opposite sex. She falls in love, suffers, and then gets abandoned. Once at a New Year's party, my friend and I saw this picture. An acquaintance was waiting for a call from her boyfriend. They agreed that after the party, a friend would pick her up. Without waiting for the call, she called him herself and heard the following phrase: “Baby, I’m so tired, take a taxi and come to me.” And she went, despite our assurances that this should not be done under any circumstances. Of course, not even a month had passed since she was abandoned.

Never let men humiliate you, even if you don’t consider the relationship serious. If your behavior depends only on the desire or reluctance of the young man, then this relationship is doomed to failure. If a man doesn’t keep his promises, doesn’t listen to your opinion, endlessly emphasizes his freedom, and flirts with other girls in your presence, it means he doesn’t respect you. If you allow him to continue to behave this way, he will soon become bored with you, with all the ensuing consequences. Don't be afraid to set conditions and highlight your interests. In this case, the likelihood that the man will change his attitude towards you is significantly high. But if the situation does not change, feel free to leave this young man. Don't waste your precious time. Perhaps he is a pathological boor and an ill-mannered person. Nothing good will come of this in family relationships.

One day, my boyfriend (who later became my husband) and I were invited to a wedding by friends. In the waiting room for the bride and groom, my friend approached a girl and they struck up a conversation. They talked for a long time and laughed. And I stood in the company of friends and was simply indignant! And it wasn't that I was jealous. I knew for sure that I was loved, and this girl was not the subject of my boyfriend’s interests. But I was outraged by the fact that I was being treated with extreme disrespect. In front of everyone, my friend left me aside and devoted a very long time to another girl. I wasn't against him interacting with the opposite sex, but this wasn't how it should have happened. He had to introduce us to each other, and give me the opportunity to leave their conversation if it seemed uninteresting to me. Of course, I didn’t make a scene of jealousy in front of everyone. But when their communication ended, and my friend decided to return to my company, I did not give him the opportunity to do this. I didn’t notice him all evening, I talked with his friends and my girlfriends. My friend couldn't wait until the party was over so he could be alone with me to talk. He guessed the reason for my coldness. Of course, a friend told me that this was his former classmate, etc. I explained to my chosen one how I felt in this situation. He asked for forgiveness, and such insinuations were not repeated among us. There were other moments when I felt uncomfortable because of some of his actions. The friend did not do them intentionally. Perhaps other girls had previously allowed him to do similar things, and for this reason he considered them the norm. Perhaps the fact that I constantly emphasized that I demanded respect, and not just love, made a man want to propose to me.

Remember, a man can introduce you as his wife only if he respects you.

Independence

Under no circumstances show your chosen one that you depend on his decision to make you happy. One of my friends met the man of her dreams, and of course she really wanted to marry him. But until the last moment she kept her mark. Soon the young man invited her to move in with him. After his divorce from his first wife, he did not offer cohabitation to any girl. By this act, he wanted to emphasize that their relationship had entered a serious phase, but this was not yet a marriage proposal. Of course she wanted to live together. But my friend took time to think. She made it clear to the young man that she was used to living alone and this had its advantages, and that the question of how to marry a man definitely did not arise for her. The friend demonstrated to her man that it was not he who made her happy with his invitation, but she, by agreeing to live with him, compromised her habits and thereby demonstrated her trust in him. She constantly made it clear that if they separated, she would not disappear. She is a completely independent person. The man proposed to her, because otherwise he could lose her.

Your independence should also manifest itself in the presence of personal interests and hobbies. A man must understand that your life is filled not only with him.

I have a cousin, a very successful and quite wealthy man. After his first unsuccessful marriage, he just can’t meet the woman he would like to propose to. Moreover, he purposefully searches, meets girls, and does not find them. Once I asked him “Who are you looking for? There are so many free, beautiful, smart girls around, is there really no worthy one?”

“I want her to be smart, beautiful, understanding, caring and definitely strive for something. I tried to realize myself. It doesn’t matter who she will be - a businesswoman or a teacher, the main thing is that she is captivated by something other than me. Only with such a person will I be interested.”

Feminine weakness

It would seem, how can you be an independent and at the same time a weak wife? This is possible. You need to emphasize your weakness in the little things. Ask a man to help you sort out a difficult situation, fix a shelf for you in your apartment, or bring medicine when you are sick. Give a man the opportunity to take care of you, realize his masculine significance, and use his strength and intelligence. Just don't do it too often.

Compliments

Who among us doesn't like compliments? Praise your chosen one. Highlight his best qualities. Appreciate achievements. Do it sincerely. If a man next to you feels like the “king of the world,” he will want this feeling to last as long as possible.

Optimism

Which of us likes sad people? A woman who is always complaining about her fate cannot arouse the interest of a man for a long time. Be cheerful, exude optimism and then the man will be comfortable in your company. He will want the celebration of life to always be nearby. During my student years, when there was no Internet yet, young people very often met on the street. I remember when my friends and I were walking, cheerfully discussing something, crumpled, and they were sure to try to get to know us.

Attention to the hobbies of the chosen one

People who have something to talk about are interested in being together. Find out as much as possible about how your man lives, what interests him, what he is interested in, what books he reads, what films he watches. It is not at all necessary to agree with his opinion on all points. You can argue or agree - the main thing is not to be indifferent. Be an interesting conversationalist, and then he will not want to look for communication on the side. Tell him about your hobbies, maybe they will interest him too. Look for as many points of contact between your interests as possible.

Behavior rules

The man is a hunter. And no matter how much you want to force things, you cannot forget about the nature of male behavior. At the stage of the candy-bouquet period, the most active actions you can take is the process of getting to know each other. A girl can take the first step to attract a man's attention. This strategic moment must be used to the maximum.

Once, even before marriage, I was in a club, and one man caught my attention. He was the center of attention as he was the organizer of the party. And I was sitting in a circle of friends and didn’t really stand out from the general background. I invited him to a slow dance myself. During the dance we met, I expressed my admiration for the organization of the event, and complimented him. He sensed my interest. After the dance, I no longer paid attention to his person. We were chatting happily with our friends, and I didn’t even look in his direction. Of course, the man was intrigued, and he himself began to take active steps.

Do not impose yourself on a man under any circumstances. Especially at the first stage of your meetings. Let him plan the process of winning your attention. Let the man be the initiator of calls and dates. And if he is very interested, try to spend time with him as often as possible.

Simply put, it’s not you who should think about how to marry a man, but the man who should think about how to make you want to marry him! Let him get used to your presence. But a break is still needed. The moment when it is needed must be felt. When you realize that a man is already very passionate, disappear from his sight for a while. Don't warn him about your absence. Let him be tormented by doubts and feel how much he misses you. And when you return, be sure to provide an important reason for your absence. A man should not think that you are frivolous.

Attitude towards money and gifts

Your behavior when a man pays and gives you gifts is also a very important and subtle nuance. If you emphasize that a man is obliged to give expensive gifts and take him to prestigious restaurants, you will become like a prostitute. But they don’t marry prostitutes, they are kept. I am always surprised by the behavior of some girls, for whom it is important that an acquaintance takes them to restaurants, treats them to expensive dishes and rare drinks. Telling their friends about the coolness of the restaurant, they will not be able to hide their attitude towards this fact and the man. It turns out that in a relationship with a man, what is important to them is not his attention, not his personality, but free food, even in an expensive restaurant. And this will be worse than prostitution. It turns out that they sell themselves for food. A man will definitely feel it. His attitude will be appropriate. Of course, you don’t need to be like feminists and offer to pay yourself on every occasion. If you are invited to a restaurant, let the man know that the most important thing this evening is him. You enjoy being with him. Do not order the most expensive and rare dishes; in some cases it will be better to let the man choose.

Housework

"The way to a man's heart is through his stomach." Really, who doesn't like to eat delicious food? Your ability to cook, most likely, will not be the decisive factor, but if you are at your best in this matter, the young man simply will have no choice. What can bring you together the most is cooking dinner together. Firstly, there will be an opportunity to find out your boyfriend’s culinary preferences, and secondly, this ritual is very reminiscent of a family idyll. 11. Gaining the authority of loved ones

There will come a time when a man wants to introduce you to his friends, people close to him, and possibly his parents. This is your chance to strengthen your position. Your task is to charm them. Positive reviews about you will give an additional incentive to a man to decide to connect his life with you. Under no circumstances should you flirt with your chosen one's friends. You will be perceived as a girl of easy virtue. The best way to get them to praise you is to behave naturally, joke, tell interesting stories, listen carefully to other storytellers, ask relevant questions, etc. You need to behave with more restraint with your parents and demonstrate your respect for them as much as possible. When meeting with your parents, choose more modest clothing. Older people are critical of frivolity in clothing.

How to push a guy to take decisive action

I want him to propose

Try not to live in a civil marriage with a man, preferring meetings in neutral territories. Explain to your lover that you have always been opposed to cohabitation, and, despite your feelings for him, you are not ready to give up your beliefs. However, periodically spend a long time together so that he can see what a wonderful wife he can lose in you. For example, you can go on a trip for a couple of days, living together for this period, or go with friends for an overnight stay in nature - such situations will be a chance for you to demonstrate your skills in everyday life, show your best side and make the guy bored after the “departure” "

Also, the boyfriend should see that you are an excellent candidate for starting a family. Try not to show him the negative sides of your character and work to eradicate them - a good wife should not be grumpy, touchy, uncompromising, flighty or lacking initiative. Many guys from their youth dream about what their ideal wife will be like, and in these dreams, most often, she is well-groomed, beautiful, caring, passionate, thrifty, charming, passionate about interesting hobbies and attentive. Try to get closer to this ideal, and then not only your chosen one will want to see you in the status of his wife.

For a man to want a family

Many men live by prejudices or are based on their negative experiences - it seems to them that marriage does not promise any changes for the better, but only worsens the relationship. If in your close circle there is a happy married couple whose family you can call exemplary, then your companion should get to know these people. Meet in couples, invite them to visit - let the example of this successful family periodically flash before the eyes of your chosen one.

And, of course, a man should strive to spend as much time as possible with you personally. You can become an integral and most enjoyable part of his life, and the decision to subsequently marry will become completely natural and logical for him. To achieve this, take care of your chosen one, do not limit him in sex, do not provoke him into conflicts, do not throw hysterics, become his best friend and main support.

Become indispensable to him

No, the point is not to make a man depend on you - and not because you will feed him, wash him and take care of him in every possible way.
You need to become a part of his life in a good way. Share his hobbies, be it computer games or fishing, become a faithful partner and companion in all adventures and travels. Let as many happy memories as possible be associated with you. When a woman occupies such a large and significant place in life, you don’t want to let her go, and the man will propose. Share:

Is it worth forcing him to marry if he doesn’t want to?

Of course, you don't need to do this! A man himself must decide to marry, and a woman has the right only to push him to this. You can easily determine that your boyfriend does not see you as his future wife. So, what are the signs that he's not in the mood for marriage?

1. “The stamp in the passport means nothing!”

Perhaps this is a universal phrase used by men who do not want to get married. In fact, if the stamp in the passport did not mean anything, then your boyfriend would easily agree to it, and especially if you think differently, and the signature is important to you personally. Moreover, it is obvious that the young man is disingenuous, because the stamp in the passport still means something! Firstly, this speaks of a man’s willingness to take responsibility for his chosen one, his desire to give her a feeling of security and much more!

2. “We need to wait for a better time”

If you are ready to get married without much pomp and expense, and the chosen one declares that he wants to wait for “better times,” then, apparently, he is disingenuous. Of course, if you yourself demand a magnificent wedding, for which you both do not yet have the funds, then the “pause” that has arisen is justified. But if you say that an ordinary painting and a cozy evening with your closest loved ones is enough for you, and the man plans to “get ready for the wedding,” then most likely he hopes to somehow delay the moment of marriage.

3. “We need to solve all problems”

Unfortunately, problems tend to appear again and again, but at the same time loving people manage to create families, give birth and raise children. If a guy suggests to you “wait until your mother gets better”, then “until the repairs are finished”, “until he finds a new job”, “until they raise the salary” and the like, then he simply does not want to marry you. If it were otherwise, he would look for compromises with you, because perhaps you would be quite willing to get married during the period when he is “solving problems.”

Don't try to re-educate

Firstly, because this is a lost cause from the very beginning. The grave will correct the hunchback, and all that. Look at the situation from your side - would you allow yourself to be re-educated? Hardly.

People most often come to marriage as adults and fully developed individuals, and therefore it would be foolish to expect that after registering a relationship a person will suddenly change. And even more so, you shouldn’t openly declare your intentions with phrases like: “When we get married, I’ll stop you from throwing your socks all over the apartment!”

Secondly, re-education is always an unpleasant process for both you and the man. It is much better to accept each other as you are, and believe me, this causes endless gratitude to your partner and warm affection.

Read also: Signs that it’s time for you to break up

Is it possible to get married after a civil marriage?

There is no clear opinion on this matter, so civil marriage has both its fans and its opponents. So, what are the pros and cons of cohabitation?

Minuses

Living in a civil marriage, a woman subconsciously understands that the final choice has not been made, and it was not made by the person from their couple who delays the signature or declares that the stamp in the passport will not change anything.
Most men are quite easy about such marriages, and it is much easier for them to leave their common-law wife than to leave their official one.
Being a common-law wife, a woman may feel insecure about her life partner. In addition, in the company of married friends, she most often feels a little deprived, although she may not even admit it to herself.
It is also better for the couple's common children to be brought up in an official marriage rather than in a civil one - in the event of a separation of the spouses, they will be legally protected.
Society, most often, does not take civil marriages seriously, and even after several years of your life together, many mutual friends and relatives will not consider you a real family.
Separation in such marriages is also quite easy. A common-law husband can break off the relationship without going into unnecessary explanations. With an official marriage, this would not happen - the court divorces the spouses, and it also deals with the division of property.

pros

Having not lived together before marriage, many people are subsequently forced to face unpleasant discoveries about their other half. It may turn out that the wife is completely unable to cope with basic household issues, and the man is accustomed to the woman taking on the main responsibilities of running the household. Of course, most often before marriage, couples try to discuss the main nuances of their future life together, but theory often diverges from practice. This is the main advantage of cohabitation. If you do not want such a development of the situation, but are against civil marriages, then try living together for a couple of weeks after the engagement.
Perhaps you yourself want to end the relationship abruptly - the absence of a stamp in your passport will help you avoid various legal vicissitudes.
If you have not lived with a man before, then in a civil marriage you gain experience of living together, which, even in the event of separation, will be useful to you in the future.

Types of divorced men

First type. A man misses his ex-wife and family life with her. He goes from one extreme to another - either he withdraws to himself and does not allow representatives of the opposite sex to approach him, or he rushes into the arms of the first woman he meets so that she can comfort him. Only the young lady will have to be a support and faithful friend for him. The potential future wife will need to try to outdo her ex-spouse.

Second type. Enjoys life. Such a potential husband does not intend to limit himself in anything. When entering into a relationship with a woman, he is not serious. Bachelors can enjoy freedom for many years and change girlfriends like gloves. You will need to be patient here. Although the risk that patience will not be justified is very high.

Third type. He doesn’t want to step on the same rake a second time, so he decided to never tie the knot again. You can’t count on living with a divorced man of this type. They run away from women like fire and refuse long-term relationships.

Fourth type. It is the least common. He devotes all his free time to children from his previous marriage. If a divorced young man has children, then even if he has a new family, he will devote the lion's share of his time to his former family. The most typical and gross mistake of new wives is jealousy and disrespect for the family in which his children grow up.

Fifth type. Lost my life's path. The divorce was a real blow for him, and the man lost meaning and direction in life. Often, without a woman, they become alcoholics. With such a chosen one you need to be careful and attentive. And he will certainly appreciate it.

Sixth type. Disappointed in women. A vengeful man, offended by his ex-wife, may begin to take revenge on new passions. He tries to extract as much money as possible from his mistress, while treating her with contempt and over time can turn into a tyrant.

How to divorce a married man and marry him

Before you divorce a married man, you have to become his mistress. It is perhaps difficult to find a story in which a man would decide to leave his family simply by talking to another woman. If this status does not bother you, you are convinced that this is the person you need and are ready to move towards the desired goal, then some recommendations may help you.

Don't throw tantrums. If your lover’s wife suspects that he is having an affair, then most likely he has enough conflicts at home. It is unlikely that a man will want to exchange one dissatisfied woman for another - divorce is accompanied by certain difficulties and changes in life, and the chosen one is unlikely to agree to all this if he considers you hysterical.

Well-groomed appearance. Many wives, some time after marriage, begin to pay less attention to their appearance. Some people don’t have time for this due to everyday worries and household chores, others are simply lazy and sincerely believe that they no longer need it, because they are already married. However, a man always notices whether his companion is well-groomed or not. You need to always look great on dates with your lover. Clean hair, neat manicure, regular hair removal, skin care, light makeup - all this should be on the list of rules without exceptions. Also, never forget about seductive underwear and clothes that will highlight your assets as much as possible.

Intimate life. Most men commit adultery because they are dissatisfied with the intimate side of life with their spouse. Of course, there should not be such problems in your relationship. Show your lover that he is a desirable man for you and you always want intimacy with him. Many women tie their lovers to themselves through sex, understanding how important it is for most males. Naturally, there can be no question of refusing intimacy to a lover, being dissatisfied with something or trying to manipulate him in this way. This behavior will not bind you to him, but will only push you away.

The image of a possible wife. Well, of course, you should show that you are good not only as a mistress, but also as a possible wife. When dating a man, show him your skills in everyday life, mention some household chores that you recently did. A man should not get the impression that you are beautiful, well-groomed and always in a good mood because you are not overloaded with housework. On the contrary, let him know that all of the listed positive qualities are adjacent to another of your advantages - thriftiness. But at the same time, show your chosen one that cooking and taking care of the house are easy and relaxed for you, and that they do not interfere with your development in other directions. Such a discovery will give you a significant advantage over his wife.

How to build a relationship with a divorced man

How should women who have their eye on a divorced man or have already started a relationship with him behave? In order for your connection to be strong in the long term, psychologists advise you to follow simple recommendations.

Don't force things. You probably want to get married as soon as possible, but you shouldn’t. If a man has recently ended a marital relationship, he is unlikely to think about how to allow himself to be ringed again. He needs time, and a woman needs patience. You cannot force your chosen one to walk down the aisle.
Treat your lover calmly. Often, young ladies who dream of a serious relationship are overly happy about the appearance of a man in their lives. If he has just recently divorced and suddenly paid attention to you, you should not show him your emotions and try to please him in everything. Otherwise, the gentleman may decide that you are tying him to you. Sometimes the intense joy of a new passion can cause longing for your ex.
Let the chosen one decide for himself whether to talk about past relationships or not. Often women make a typical mistake - they try to find out more about their ex-wife. Interest in his past relationships will only cause irritation. Especially if feelings for your spouse have not yet faded. If he wants to tell himself, let him tell, and if he doesn’t want to, then there’s no need.
The ex-wife should remain in the past. Sometimes men, even after separation, feel responsible for their wife. They try to provide help, meet, etc. This should not be encouraged. There can be no friendship between ex-spouses. It is likely that with such an attitude the family can be reunited. Don't be afraid to talk about it to your lover and show your dissatisfaction.
A special point is children. You may be against meeting with your ex-wife, but you have no right to interfere with meeting your children. In addition, you cannot be against the children living together with their dad. A normal man will choose children over a woman.
Remind your beloved that you and your last wife have nothing in common. This means that he cannot project resentments, suspicions, fears and jealousies from past relationships onto you. Don’t be afraid to talk about his mistakes, seeing you as his ex-wife.
Don't be jealous. When you started a relationship with a divorced person, you knew that he had a family. Therefore, there is no need to be jealous, otherwise this feeling will ruin everything. If you cannot be calm about your gentleman's past, it is better to find a man with a less rich past.
Don’t let your loved one speak badly about your previous spouse. There are many men who believe that they have the right to humiliate and speak unflatteringly about their ex-wife. Only scoundrels behave this way. It won't take much time for him to start talking about you the same way.

Pregnancy is a reason for marriage

If we are not talking about a married lover, but about your common-law husband or boyfriend, then pregnancy significantly increases the chances of marriage. Of course, if your future child is conceived outside of an official marriage, then be prepared for the fact that the situation may not turn out in the most favorable way for you personally. If a man was previously not at all inclined to register in the registry office, then the prospect of becoming a father may completely alienate him.

More often than not, it happens differently. A man cannot decide for a long time what he wants, but the message that his beloved is expecting a baby from him can push him to take active action. He can come to this decision himself, the public in the person of relatives can put pressure on him, or for the couple this will be a logical outcome, which was discussed earlier.

In addition, if previously a man preferred to live in some kind of incomplete certainty, then after the news that the woman he loves will soon give birth to a child, he will most likely change his mind. If you want to give birth to a baby and know that your chosen one would also like to become a father, then, most likely, pregnancy will bring only positive changes to your life together. Most often, a man needs some kind of “push” in order to propose to his chosen one, and the news that his beloved will soon give birth to a baby from him is a sufficient reason for this.

How to marry your common-law husband

Cohabitation can be successful, but often it is just an option for people who are indecisive and doubtful about their feelings. For a woman, cohabitation is always a burden, since she devotes all her strength to serving a man and receives nothing in return. An accidental pregnancy can completely alienate her from a man. Let's look at different situations that have their own solutions.

When cohabitation lasts less than 4 years

This is a very good situation, because the feelings are still fresh and the love has not passed. On the other hand, you have already gotten to know each other and have no doubt about your intentions. A woman needs to gently and persistently convince a man that marriage will bring many advantages and the man will only benefit from the stamp in his passport.

You have been living for more than 5 years, but without children

This is a dangerous time when love and passion have subsided and the habit of living together remains. Here psychologists advise not to rush and offer a man something new in a relationship, of course, within the framework of marriage. You need to change your life and drag a man there. If love is preserved, then he will follow you on your terms.

If the cohabitation lasts more than 5 years and there is a child

In this case, the woman does not really need marriage, because she already gave birth to a child in conditions of uncertainty. Although, if a man wants more children, then you can try to convince him to legalize the relationship for the sake of the baby.

How to get a man to marry

Here everything will depend mainly on the character of your boyfriend. The more amenable to your influence he is, the sooner he will end up with you in the registry office.

Romantics and gentle intellectuals can be pushed through with tears and fervent pleas for the shared happiness that marriage promises.
If the guy is a rationalist and logician, then you can reasonably explain to him what marriage gives him point by point. If you can convey to him all the tasty benefits, then the deal is in the bag!
When a man pays attention to the opinions of his family, colleagues, boss and friends, then he can act through them. He will listen to their opinion and will definitely make you an offer.
Touch his ego and pride - tell him that you dream of having a child with him, about how smart and wonderful he is. That you see him in the role of father and head of the family.
If the baby has already been born, then tell the man how stupid he will look during the procedure of adopting his own child and how his relatives will look at him. What will the child say when he grows up?
If a guy is influenced by his mother, then make friends with her, she will certainly do her best to persuade him to take you as his wife.
Think about whether you really need this man? Suddenly his reluctance to marry you is a sign from above and somewhere around the turn of fate true love awaits you.

Magic spells for a quick wedding

Some girls eventually despair of getting a marriage proposal from their lover, so they decide to turn to magical rituals. If you sincerely believe that rituals can provide you with a long-awaited marriage, then you can resort to this magical advice: after someone else’s wedding that you attend, try to immediately after the celebration get the shoes that the bride was wearing.

When washing these shoes on the street at night, say:

“Tread on your shoes, work for me so that I can get married as soon as possible. Keep your mouth shut, keep quiet about everything. Amen".

It is possible that this particular ritual will help you achieve your goal.