What should a woman be like to make people lose their minds?

What qualities of a girl does a man value most? Perhaps this is a rhetorical question, because there is an opinion that it depends on the man. And some people really experience positive emotions when living with a bitch, while others like the fact that their wife doesn’t leave the house or leave the stove. But, in fact, all this is nothing more than exceptions to the rules, and when building relationships, you need to start not only from the man’s preferences. Certainly, it’s difficult to change the girl you like, and therefore when choosing a life partner you need to pay attention not only to the girl’s good qualities

. In general, there are several male stereotypes to which the male sex is loyal, but they are not a panacea for possible mistakes. And we managed to find out this only thanks to the sad experience of many men. In this article we will talk about what qualities in a girl you should pay close attention to, and what unpleasant surprises you can get with them. On this topic, it will be useful for you to read the article “How to choose the right girl for a relationship.” Here are some aspects of your specific type of girl, where to look for them, etc. Let's figure it out, what are the signs of a good girl?

She's not afraid to show you her love.

Modesty, of course, adorns a girl, but when there is too much of it, it can also become boring.

We like it when a girl is not afraid to show her feelings even in public. On the contrary, it warms us up even more. It is important for us to know that we are loved and appreciated. And small manifestations of this are direct proof of this.

It's great if your girlfriend understands this and doesn't look uptight when she does something like that.

The ideal girl will be happy to show feelings for you.

Strength of mind

Another quality that men highly value in their life partners is fortitude. Naturally, a woman can show defenselessness and weakness and allow her partner to solve some of her problems. But at the same time, he must know that in a difficult life situation, a fragile girlfriend will be a reliable support, support and reliable support.

Psychotherapist and writer Andrei Kurpatov in the book “5 Great Secrets of Men and Women” explains that strong men are actually vulnerable and fragile creatures who have a limited strength. Therefore, the phrase “Take care of men” is filled with deep meaning.

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She has sexuality.

It could be a special outfit that you really like, a hairstyle, or a style of communication.

Agree that there are girls who can smell sex a kilometer away. And from which it is very difficult to tear yourself away.

You will never be bored with her, because she always knows how to present herself. How to behave correctly and how to make sure that passion never disappears from your relationship.

There is no need to confuse vulgarity with sexuality; I’m not talking about short skirts and deep necklines.

Personal maturity

Men like to see a formed personality nearby. Psychologist Alexander Shakhov says that such a lady will appreciate the personal interests of her partner and provide him with personal space. This kind of partner:

• will not devalue men's hobbies;
• allows your loved one to experience their own emotions;
• will become keenly interested in his spiritual needs.

Such an attitude towards a man’s inner world gives rise to deep respect.

She supports you during difficult times.

Any normal man wants to have a female partner next to him.

Here it is necessary to clearly distinguish support from guardianship and education.

A man wants a girl to always be on his side, to defend his rightness in public. She can tell him about all her complaints at home, left alone.

The girl’s function is not to solve all problems, but to help find a solution.

Unfortunately, few people grasp this fine line. And instead of a partnership, you get a mother-son relationship that makes you want to hang yourself.

“A real woman should be soft, compliant, be behind her husband’s back and receive everything through him!” - supporters of “true femininity” are confident. "Rave! A modern woman should be independent, firm, self-confident and self-sufficient!” - feminists insist. And there’s nothing to argue about here at all...

A real woman is not a block of stone or a kneading bowl. She is a river, calmly and confidently carrying its waters in the direction it desires, gently bending around all obstacles.

What qualities should such a woman have? Often the exact opposite. And manifest them depending on the situation. A true woman, and especially a married woman (or dreaming of getting married), should be able to be different.

So, let's discuss the qualities that a woman really needs to be happy in her family. However, they are no less important for an unmarried woman...

• Femininity
• Patience
• Optimism
• Cheerfulness
• Energy
• Self confidence
• Sense of humor
• Compliance
• Perseverance
• Hardness/Durability
• Cunning (female!)
• Sociability
• Flexibility of mind
• The ability to forgive
• Responsibility
• Will
• Worldly wisdom
• Education
• Softness
• Kindness
• Sexuality
• Loyalty
• Education and intelligence
• Thrift
• Practicality
  Consultation with a psychologist.

  Femininity

No matter what anyone says, this is female quality No. 1. No real man wants to see his clone next to him - a masculine “alpha male” in a skirt with a clearly unfeminine style of behavior and manner of communication. A woman constantly trying to dominate, rigidly insisting on her own. Demonstrating that she is the boss of the house. And that, in principle, she doesn’t need anyone at all! Just in case. She's very cool...

Few of us were taught to be feminine. This is true. But it’s never too late to learn to be softer, gentler, more affectionate. So that the man next to us feels in his place...

1. Patience

Intolerance, especially in marriage, often leads to serious consequences: divorce of loving people (when the marriage could have been saved), serious complexes in children (which can come back to haunt them in adulthood), rash and even irreparable actions. And patience gives us many bonuses, the main one of which is women's happiness.

1. Optimism

Dejection has never brought anyone any benefit, much less a married woman. A family is a living organism, and something is constantly happening in it. In my opinion, the larger the family, the greater the happiness. But there are also more problems. And they need to be solved. And a positive outlook on life is simply necessary here. If you sit and whine: “How bad everything is with us!”, it will get even worse. And if the mother of the family looks at life with optimism, then it will be found in the rest of the household.

1. Cheerfulness

This quality is a continuation of the previous one. A woman should radiate light, warmth, joy. And warm the surrounding area. Try to smile more often. Even if cats scratch their souls... This is just as important for unmarried girls. No man needs a gloomy, dull, dissatisfied companion next to him.

1. Energy

A lethargic, lazy, uninitiative woman is a problem for the family.

The role of a wife and mother clearly presupposes activity - solving everyday problems, doing, helping, walking, traveling, finding out, communicating, being able to listen...

Happiness in the home often depends on the energy of a woman (directed in the right direction!) in the family.

1. Self confidence

Here in front of us is a very unconfident girl. And it is extremely difficult for her in life - to find a truly worthy companion, to achieve her goals in various areas. Even just talking to people. And if she gets married, then she takes her complexes into the family. And in a family without calm confidence in oneself and one’s strengths, it is especially difficult. In all aspects - in relationships (with a spouse, with children, with new relatives, etc.), in everyday life, in solving any tasks and problems that family life helpfully offers us with enviable regularity.

1. Sense of humor

In my opinion, it is simply a necessary quality to defuse the situation, reduce nervous tension, reduce the significance of the problem and simply improve the mood of yourself and your loved ones. This means improving the overall climate in the family. Tell me, not everyone has it by nature?

Yes, not every one of us is really witty. It's okay. Even a stupid joke is much better than shouting, panic and mutual accusations.

1. Compliance

An unyielding woman creates unnecessary problems for herself. We see that the husband is not in the mood, a scandal is brewing and now is clearly not the time to argue with him - and still we resist? For what? What will we achieve with this? You can simply pretend that you have come to terms with the decision of your stubborn spouse, and then, under better conditions, try again to get your way. It won't work - again. Come up with new arguments, new ways... Compliance does not mean giving up your goals and desires. This is just wise feminine behavior.

1. Perseverance

And at the same time, in certain situations we must be persistent. If the matter requires a prompt solution, if it is of utmost importance, if it is we who are responsible. At the same time, healthy persistence does not imply hysterics, ridiculing other people’s points of view, harsh pressure, and especially insults.

1. Hardness/Durability

“I’m a girl and I don’t want to decide anything... I’m a gentle and weak creature. Let my husband decide everything, and I’ll hide behind his broad back!” – very sweet feminine behavior that is pleasing to men. And it definitely needs to be practiced. But in life there are always situations when a woman needs to abruptly leave this mode: if she needs to fight back, protect herself and her loved ones, her interests. If collectors call you about someone else’s debt, you won’t chat nicely with them: “Oh, I’m a girl, I don’t decide anything, as you say...” Or when it is necessary to defend the interests of children. Or your husband needs your help. You say: “Well, it’s obvious! In such cases, any woman will change her behavior style!” But life shows that it is not... For some reason, some people stubbornly continue to pretend to be a little girl in such cases.

1. Cunning (female!)

Many will disagree with me here. Why be cunning? You must always be truthful and objective in everything. I don't encourage you to lie blatantly. In no case. But often a slight exaggeration or, conversely, understatement of the description of an event will reliably preserve nerve cells for you and your household. And excessive straightforwardness is generally an enemy in any relationship.

1. Sociability

“What if a woman is naturally silent?” This also happens. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But existing in society, it is the sociable person who always achieves much more for himself and his family. Exchange of information with the outside world is very important. And the ability to communicate correctly in the family helps to cope with any difficulties. We are by no means talking about talkativeness here, which has exactly the opposite property - it only adds problems.

1. Flexibility of mind

It is the ability to reconsider one's decisions and life patterns when conditions change. And even better - the absence of any rigid patterns (we're not talking about moral principles!). With a flexible mind, a woman will be able to confidently maneuver in the sea of ​​life, unobtrusively guiding the family ship in the right direction and helping its crew members cope with any challenges.

1. The ability to forgive

Pride and resentment are serious obstacles to a woman’s happiness. We have offended other people more than once in our lives. Of course, they also insulted us. Someone knows how to carry grievances within themselves for years... Is such a person happy? I highly doubt it. The ability to forgive and forget grievances is a wonderful quality that allows you to preserve human relationships.

1. Responsibility

Few people like to carry it. And sometimes you really want someone else to take responsibility for your family happiness. “I am a weak woman, let them take care of me, take care of me, let my husband decide everything...” - such a sweet motto of female infantilism. And sometimes it’s very useful to “turn it on.” But constantly existing in a mode of irresponsibility is not only unwise, but sometimes downright dangerous. Especially for an adult.

1. Will

Another traditionally masculine quality that a woman simply needs.

A weak-willed woman is a toy in the hands of fate, circumstances, men...

It is through volitional effort that we force ourselves to make and implement the necessary decisions, to insist on our own, and to achieve success in various areas of life. Including in the family.

1. Worldly wisdom

It is believed that it only comes with experience. Yes, of course, over the years a person develops it. But this experience is not always positive. And sometimes, even with age, we continue to go through the same situations incorrectly. At the same time, sometimes very young women intuitively act in worldly wisdom. And we need to learn from them. That is, what is important? As I understand it, constantly learn (both from your own and other people’s experience), draw the right conclusions and adjust your life attitudes.

1. Education

Not everyone believes that a woman needs to know a lot. That receiving additional education in areas of interest to her, engaging in self-education, expanding her horizons is not for a woman... I do not agree. In my opinion, the more knowledge the mother of the family has, the more interesting she is as a person to everyone - her husband, her children, and those around her. At the same time, education is not exactly measured by the number of certificates of completion of universities, courses, trainings, master classes. Only real knowledge and skills are important.

1. Softness

After will and tenacity, it probably seems like a contradiction to be on this list. But I warned you... I believe that a woman should not only be gentle in her relationships with loved ones, but also have gentle manners in her behavior. Watch how her voice sounds. Behind his timbre. Softness and tenderness give a woman a fabulous charm.

1. Kindness

“I’ll be kind, and everyone will sit on my neck...” No. They will sit you down if you are weak-willed. If you are unrequited. If you let someone sit down yourself. And showing kindness and warmth to loved ones and others is real feminine magic. Who else has this ability to do good in the family to such a strong extent? Reassure your husband, console your baby, caress your middle son, listen with understanding to your teenage daughter? Only a woman. There is no weapon against tenderness! As well as against kindness. And especially for pragmatists: most often it is this quality that helps a woman achieve success in any business. And not harsh pressure and demandingness.

1. Sexuality

A woman should look attractive to her own husband. And it doesn’t matter how old she is or how many decades she’s been married to him. Sexual attractiveness, of course, is not only manifested in how it looks. Her demeanor, her style of communication with him - everything should work to ensure that a woman remains desirable to her man. The intimate side of family life receives special attention. Again, no matter how many years you have been together.

1. Loyalty

This is not just about physical betrayal. Here, no woman’s violent temperament or the husband’s decline in interest in this side of married life serves as an excuse for her. Loyalty in thoughts is also very important. For several reasons. First, thoughts often turn into actions. Secondly, your husband may not even understand why you cause him dissatisfaction and irritation. And it’s simple - in your thoughts you are with another man, and your husband feels it. And thirdly, such a female state is very far from harmonious - it prevents the woman herself from enjoying her marriage.

1. Education and intelligence

In the early stages of a relationship, we try to look our best in the eyes of our loved one. Well, then, as usual, we relax. Both in terms of appearance and in their manners. Sometimes we completely forget that we are intelligent people. We do not show enough respect to our spouse. Sometimes we don’t choose expressions. In response, we get a mirror reaction. There is nothing good about this. Therefore, do not forget to take care of yourself in this regard too.

1. Thrift

“I’m not a cook or a cleaner!” - the young wife proudly declares, “Now is not the time when a woman should stand at the stove for hours or scrub the floor!” Maybe she doesn't know how. Maybe he's lazy. And perhaps she really is sure that her husband only needs an interesting person nearby. And he will prepare and clean everything himself. But life will quickly show who is mistaken and where.

1. Practicality

Impracticality is the most dangerous enemy of a family budget, even the most unlimited one.

A woman who is not serious about spending, who does not think through her actions in terms of expenses, is capable of ruining any husband. This does not mean that the whole family should go on starvation rations and darn socks for the fifth time, and put everything else aside for a rainy day. No. We just try to take a practical and reasonable approach to solving all family problems. This will be quite enough.

Of course, there are not twenty-five wonderful female qualities! There are much more of them. Here I have described only the most important ones for family life. In my (and not only!) opinion, possessing precisely these character traits will help a married (or dreaming of getting married) woman find her happiness. Isn't that why we got married?

© Natalia Lutsenko, consultant psychologist

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She inspires you.

Women are the main source of motivation. It is for them that we want to move mountains, achieve success, grow and develop.

If a woman does not notice and does not encourage your efforts, at one point you will think why you are doing all this.

She can also convince you that you can’t do anything, that you’re a loser and generally a fool. She should motivate you, support you, encourage your aspirations.

If you look at your girlfriend and you don’t have the desire to put the whole world on her feet, then she’s not right for you.

What are the most important qualities a girl should have?

In addition to the above, I will give a few more properties identified during a special survey of the male population:

• If you graduated from a prestigious university, speak several languages ​​fluently and have an excellent understanding of business, you should not demonstrate this at every opportunity. This will lower the husband's self-esteem. But his psychology is structured in such a way that he is the head of the family.
• Strong and independent ladies should show character in moderation. Sometimes you have to be weak so that the gentleman wants to shelter them from all adversity and protect them.
• The ideal woman is not completely dependent on her partner. She has her own circle of friends and interests, her own hobbies and affairs. Wisdom lies in the fact that throughout our lives we learn new things. There is no need to put off self-development until later and completely devote yourself to your chosen one.
• The atmosphere in the home and in relationships largely depends on the spouse. If your beloved returns from work every day, sees a dissatisfied face and listens to complaints, this will not lead to anything good. Fun, a sense of humor and a good mood are the keys to a happy marriage.
• Despite the fact that guys are considered representatives of the stronger sex, in reality this is not entirely true. They need the care and support that their chosen one can give them. Being a friend to your man means taking one more step towards his ideal.

She is financially independent.

No one is telling her to earn the same amount of money as you. But the girl must have her own personal money.

As soon as she begins to completely depend on a man, she turns into a kept woman.

Girls in such situations also begin to behave differently. She agrees with everything and won’t contradict you, because she understands that she is not suitable for life without you.

Basically, this is a pathetic sight that only destroys relationships.

Of course, you must bear most of the expenses yourself. But a girl must learn to earn money on her own to meet her friends for coffee or buy cosmetics.

Listening skills

For most men, an important quality of a woman is the ability to listen to him without judging his actions. Psychology professor and writer Viktor Sheinov in the book “Hidden Human Control (Psychology of Manipulation)” notes that men are especially delighted when their partner shows sincere interest in the story. In such a woman he finds support and in the future he will happily share his own thoughts with her.

Writer Vladimir Eremov in the book “With You is the Best of All...” advises women to be interested in how a man’s day went, listen carefully to his story and provide moral support.

She is feminine.

Femininity is the defining quality of any self-respecting girl.

But lately many of them have become overplayed and have lost their charm and charm.

A boy's haircut, trousers instead of skirts and dresses, a bottle of beer in the evening and choice swearing are not at all what we dream of.

When you look at her, you should have a desire to protect her, protect her, hide her from the whole world. But who wants to protect a boy in a skirt? What kind of tenderness can such a person evoke?

The art of being a woman

Being a woman is not easy - you notice more, the range of emotions is wider, and it’s not difficult to lose your temper over little things. Women notice dust and debris where men have perfect cleanliness. Women can cook spaghetti, talk on the phone, change a diaper and do squats all at the same time.

Women know how to become weak and defenseless in time, but at the right moment they unexpectedly demonstrate a steely character. They remember what the man said 3 months ago at 7 pm, but still forgive easily.

The history of women is incredible: they were oppressed, turned a blind eye to them, forbidden to express public opinion, locked in the kitchen with pots and unloved husbands... And although the modern world with feminism and equality dictates even harsher living conditions for women, they continue to bring beauty to the space around them yourself: insight, kindness and love.

She does not take on a man's responsibilities.

At least because it is unnatural. Nature took care of everything long ago.

The woman is the keeper of the home, and the man is the breadwinner and hunter. When a redistribution of roles occurs in a couple, the relationship is doomed.

Women who try to command and lead are only repulsive.

If you live together, a woman should not solve all problems, take responsibility for your financial situation and steer all processes. One morning you will wake up and realize that you have turned into a man without balls who does not solve anything.

Thrift

Professor Levada began his first research into valuable female qualities in 1993. The latest data published by his center shows that men's opinions have not changed significantly over the past 25 years. Every second modern man considers thriftiness to be the main quality of a woman.

What is meant by this concept? In the male understanding, a woman housewife should:

• keep the house clean and comfortable;
• cook delicious food;
• create an atmosphere of warmth.

Guys don’t expect complex dishes and pickles to be prepared. Tasty and satisfying home-cooked food that suits his preferences is highly valued by men of different status and age. To almost 50% of them, a housewife seems to be the embodiment of quiet domestic happiness and peace.

Appearance

It's no secret that the first impression of a person is based on their appearance. So, speaking about what a real woman should be, it is worth noting the following:

• when going out (even if it’s going to the nearest store for bread), a woman should look impeccable;
• It is better to have one beautiful dress and a pair of high-quality shoes than many low-quality things;
• even following fashion, you cannot go to extremes and remain true to your style;
• You shouldn’t overuse decorative cosmetics, but you shouldn’t give it up altogether either;
• if the slightest defects in appearance are identified, he will hurry to eliminate them;
• a real woman knows how to walk the line between sexuality and vulgarity;
• It’s better to have one bottle of original perfume (even the smallest one) than a lot of counterfeit scents.

Despite all the talk about the importance of the inner world, appearance is sometimes the determining factor. In order for a man to see and love your soul, he must first become interested in your face and figure.

conclusions

How many demands are placed on the fair sex in the modern world! Unfortunately, this is an objective reality. In order to win your place in the sun and get your prince, it is important to be a real woman. This refers to a combination of beauty, style, intelligence, wisdom, many skills and character traits. A woman should be different - weak, strong, a housewife, a breadwinner, a lover, and a good conversationalist. In fact, playing all these roles is not as difficult as it might seem at first glance. The main thing is to love yourself, believe in your strength, and then the world around you will reciprocate.

Laws of the ideal lady

A true lady always maintains her composure. She does not allow herself to panic, controls the situation and is ready for a lightning-fast reaction to changing circumstances. She acts wisely if:

• does not complain about fate;
• carefully monitors his appearance;
• indulges him in moderation with his attention;
• does not interfere in other people's affairs;
• uses tears only in exceptional cases;
• keeps his admirers in tense anticipation;
• demonstrates virtues in practice, refraining from self-promotion;
• boldly meets changes, finding positive aspects in them

Psychology for a real woman is a powerful weapon, and she does not expose the qualities that a girl should have in the opinion of men to public view, using them to achieve her goal. Unobtrusively and with a sweet smile on her lips, she will not only achieve her goal, but will also leave those around her with the feeling that they did everything of their own free will.

How a lady behaves and looks

Correct behavior is the result of a clear calculation of the situation and is equated to a strategy that brings the desired result. Knownly losing options:

• chat incessantly, especially if you have no idea about the subject of the conversation or the goal is not to prolong time without giving out vital information;
• ignore the general conversation, which will inevitably lead to isolation from part of society;
• use profanity and common expressions in conversation;
• raise the tone, demonstrate violent displeasure, start shouting and swearing.

The main virtues are restraint, friendliness, the ability to listen to your interlocutor, and skillfully maintain a dialogue.

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General requirements

Men are quite demanding of their partners. They have their own idea of ​​what a real woman should be. In their opinion, it must certainly have the following characteristics:

• to be feminine and gentle, which manifests itself not only in appearance, but also in behavior;
• be able to love your partner ardently and passionately;
• be able to love not only your partner, but the entire world around you;
• be wise and reasonable in all situations;
• have a certain zest that gives a unique personality;
• be flirty to attract attention, but not cheeky;
• be able to create a warm and cozy atmosphere around you;
• respect yourself and have self-esteem;
• have interesting hobbies and constantly expand your horizons.

This is far from a complete range of requirements that determine what a real woman should be like in the opinion of men. And there is no point in rebelling against them. These are not some male whims. Every woman who strives for the ideal must make these demands on herself and work on herself in this direction.