Women's and men's views on ideals often do not coincide. This is especially true for the advantages of the other half. But if you don’t want to spend your whole life alone, your soul is drawn to a strong shoulder, then it’s worth finding out what a real and ideal woman should be like in the eyes of a modern man. In different eras, the ideals of appearance changed, it came to oddities when the Dutch ladies of the Middle Ages, according to the requirements of beauty, were obliged to be flat, with a shaved forehead and eyebrows, not to show even signs of emotion, keeping themselves cold and distant. Or the inexplicable fashion for anemic young ladies on the verge of the last stage of consumption. But common sense wins without taking things to extremes. Health, neatness, kindness and a positive outlook on the world are valued.
The image of a real lady
Behind the apparent simplicity of the definition lies years of work on oneself. When a person is asked about what is included in the concept of beauty, they recall not only external data, but also the ability to present oneself, standards of behavior, life principles, a sense of style in clothing and more nebulous areas, such as the notorious mystery of the female soul.
Nature has taken care of a clear boundary when you become a woman. But this is a physiological aspect. You need to be mentally prepared for this, having transformed from a gentle girl into a luxurious lady by all standards.
Appearance
Sloppy dishevelment evokes a condescending smile and pity. And this happens not only in humans. I recommend taking a closer look at animals more often, learning grace and self-esteem from them.
Pay attention to the cat. She will never leave the house without thoroughly licking her face and styling her fur. Accuracy is considered a sign of sound mind and physical health. A true girl should be well-groomed.
Important: the stronger sex has a very well developed sense of smell, which is dictated by physiological reasons. They consider the best scent to be the aroma of clean skin without excess perfume. Let there be a drop of spirits, but inviting and intoxicating.
Spiritual qualities
If you thoroughly understand how to become a worthy and real woman in the eyes of a man, it is worth considering that dummies without a single thought in their head, having only a catchy appearance, no longer seduce anyone. This is a toy for home use, but it will not go out into the world.
Another category doomed to constant disappointment are hunters for male attention. Under the influence of public opinion, they are sure that they should be married. They are so obsessed with the idea that the male part of the population perceives them as a danger and instinctively avoids them.
Emancipation seriously shook the foundations of femininity, making many representatives of the fair sex masculine in their ways of solving problems and striving to ensure their own well-being. But a true lady is not only independent, but also wise. She will never show her full strength by leaving the role of protector to a man. It’s not for nothing that they say that behind all great husbands there are real wives who support and provide a reliable rear in the form of a family hearth.
At all times, the priority is women's kindness, tenderness, fidelity, and love for a partner. Bitch is good in moderation. Yes, sometimes it’s worth shaking up the faithful, reminding him that behind the velvet gloves hide the sharp blades of pride and unconditional protection of the family. You can be capricious, but not for long, adding spice to the relationship. Acuity in everyday life will destroy the feeling of comfort, and this is unacceptable for a strong, loving family.
Worldview
When wondering what it means to be a real woman, you need to remember that nature gave her a special purpose - to decorate the world and bring something new, material or spiritual, into it. The subconscious sometimes plays against a person, giving non-verbal signs about his intentions. People intuitively avoid someone who has been in melancholy for a long time, harboring evil and resentment. I never tire of repeating to my charming interlocutors that negative emotions are destructive, they cannot be accumulated in oneself or be under their influence for a long time. Complexion and digestion deteriorate, the perky sparkle of the eyes disappears, the image fades and becomes unattractive.
You should look at everything with wide open eyes with a small amount of childish spontaneity, then those around you will themselves begin to look for a reason to communicate with such a lady. Long live positivity.
False women's trainings: how we are led by the nose
Without knowing ourselves, we easily follow false guidelines. For example:
- Nature has endowed a woman with a cutaneous-visual bundle of vectors. Her natural values do not include children or loyalty to one man. Career is her priority; becoming a rich and independent woman is quite possible for her. Along the way, she is able to run in 13-centimeter heels and easily seduce any man under a hundred years old. But society systematically imposes its values on her: to be sedate and wise, to have a family and children. And she wanders dejectedly to the women's training for the best wives in the world, with the goal of learning to cook... She'll be lucky if she still runs away along the road.
- But a completely different woman is the owner of the anal vector. Her natural values are family and children. She is the most faithful wife and the best housewife. But following the standards of glossy magazines, she is trying to fashion herself into a kind of “fatal temptress” at women’s psychological training. Her natural shame protests, but happiness requires sacrifice, doesn’t it? She'll be lucky if she herself doesn't become a victim of online women's training and doesn't break her legs trying to dance tango in stiletto heels.
- Another option off the top of my head: before us is the owner of a sound vector. From an early age she was passionate about searching for the meaning of life. She is looking for a man with whom she has something to talk about, with whom she can share her spiritual search. And during strength training, women are taught to twirl their hips, bat their eyes, and cook jellied fish at the same time. However, this girl “not of this world” is not in danger - she will vomit in the first minutes of such training, and she will run away on her own.
- What if nature has decreed that you are the bearer of all of the above life scenarios and values? Not a single women's training can cope with such a mental “colossus”.
The psyche of a modern woman is complex and multifaceted. If by nature we are carriers of 3-4 vectors at the same time, then each of them gives a woman different desires and character traits. Figuring out whether you are truly following your goal or a false and imposed one can be difficult.
If with your inner instinct you intuitively guess your female psychotype and do not allow anyone to impose false values on you, you are fabulously lucky. But the next trap awaits us in the area of relationships. Who doesn't want to be loved and happy?
What does it mean to be a woman in a man's understanding?
If we take the full list of requirements of the strong half of humanity, we can be convinced that appearance does not play a major role. It is listed as one of the qualities, but it is not given as much attention as ladies are accustomed to think. They greet you based on their clothes, but they see you off based on your mind. Those who forget this will have to be content with only short-term relationships. Mutual attraction is formed not only at the physiological level, it is necessarily complemented by other components, including respect. The list of what a real woman should be able to do and how to behave, the male half includes:
- femininity in appearance and behavior;
- ardent passion for a partner;
- small talk skills;
- wisdom and prudence in any life situations;
- a clear awareness of the boundary separating light coquetry from cheekiness;
- self-respect and dignity;
- personal hobbies and desire to expand horizons;
- creating a cozy atmosphere;
- cheerfulness.
The list can be continued for a long time; over time it can be expanded. It is worth considering that every gentleman has his own personal set of rules that he would like to see applied to his chosen one. Nevertheless, the general requirements remain and it is these signs of behavior and the outlines of the character traits of a real woman on the list that men recognize as the main ones. The skills of representatives of the fair half of humanity are also quite regulated. They have remained virtually unchanged for centuries.
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The most important skills include choosing clothes for all family members, preparing delicious food, understanding education issues, being able to pause in a conversation, and finding a compromise in difficult situations. This is very similar to the job responsibilities of a mid-level manager or even a large branch office.
Femininity.
Of course, this quality comes first in this case. The very sound of this word reminds a woman of her belonging to the fair “weaker” sex. It is femininity that is the main tool of ladies in the art of attracting male attention. And we are not necessarily talking about the conformity of the figure and appearance with the prevailing fashion standards. Femininity is the complete opposite of masculinity, forcing men to remember their best and strongest qualities and strive for their maximum manifestation. The concept of femininity is a unique combination of tenderness, fragility and defenselessness, which evokes in a man the desire to protect and become a reliable support. The presence of femininity is ninety percent of success on the path to the goal of becoming happy in personal relationships.
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How a lady behaves and looks
Correct behavior is the result of a clear calculation of the situation and is equated to a strategy that brings the desired result. Knownly losing options:
- chat incessantly, especially if you have no idea about the subject of the conversation or the goal is not to prolong time without giving out vital information;
- ignore the general conversation, which will inevitably lead to isolation from part of society;
- use profanity and common expressions in conversation;
- raise the tone, demonstrate violent displeasure, start shouting and swearing.
The main virtues are restraint, friendliness, the ability to listen to your interlocutor, and skillfully maintain a dialogue.
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Who is considered a modern woman, characteristics
Progress has stepped far forward and removed most of the household chores from the lady. Now they do laundry, wash dishes and dust the machinery. But no one can replace warmth in communication with children and husband, will not set an example of worthy behavior and will not give a sweet little thing to a loved one with or without reason. To these important matters were added other requirements that young ladies did not know until the 20th century.
Now society obliges us to build a successful career, keep abreast of the latest news, understand technical innovations and at the same time remain the most charming and attractive. Do not take ridiculous fashion trends as an example to imitate, but rely on your own sense of style when creating a personal image. She must be an excellent housewife, an ardent lover in the bedroom and a reliable companion for her beloved.
External attractiveness.
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Even if God did not reward a woman with the features of Marilyn Monroe or another idol of female beauty, nothing prevents her from looking attractive and well-groomed. The rule of a real woman is to look impeccable in any situation, no matter what stripe - black or white - now prevails in her life. And being limited in funds for visiting expensive salons and gyms, such a woman will always find 15 minutes for daily exercise and will not allow herself to go out - much less to meet her beloved man - sloppily dressed or with unwashed hair.
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How to become a real woman who attracts men
Nature has endowed the female sex with amazing abilities. A girl is born with enormous potential, which gradually reveals her individuality, like a unique flower. Only in accordance with her inner world can she become the one, the only one for whose sake he will be ready for feats. To gain this power, you should listen to the advice that psychology gives, revealing the secrets of attractiveness.
- The wardrobe should correspond to the image of the ideal lady. Be stylish, in different color shades and reveal a little less than you would like, leaving room for imagination and fueling the excitement of the explorer.
- Behavior includes the art of seduction with a look, gesture, voice, without crossing the boundaries of decency, so as not to seem vulgar. This is one of the main points on the list of what good qualities a real woman should have,
- A true lady is whole. She is not late for anything, lives at her own rhythm, determining the gradation of importance of a matter only on the basis of her own opinion.
- She enjoys life, guided by the principle that everything happens for the better. She does not allow herself to lament and complain, she maintains her posture and dignity even in critical situations, admiring her with her wisdom and fortitude.
- A true lady determines her own needs in life. This applies to starting a family, having children and choosing a job. She is not guided by the opinion of the majority, preferring to have her own.
- The main quality a woman should have is self-love at any age.
- She perceives loneliness as a gift, reaching another level of communication only out of internal need.
- She subtly feels her inner energy and attractiveness, controlling it at will. Forms a social circle in accordance with interests and choosing a life partner based on the spiritual comfort next to him.
Compliance with these rules requires serious work on yourself, but it gives an undeniable advantage. Then the representatives of the stronger half of humanity will think about how to become a real man for this woman.
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Self-awareness
The main thing for a woman is not how others perceive her. Much more important is how she feels about herself. Any girl should love herself and develop healthy self-esteem. Only then will people treat her with dignity and respect.
The fair sex needs to learn to accept their weaknesses and strengths and be guided, first of all, by personal interests. This doesn't mean being selfish. If necessary, you can always compromise and adapt.
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Self love
If you constantly scold yourself, blame yourself, take your health and appearance lightly, you need to love yourself. Then you will become a real girl, first of all for yourself.
Start with pleasures: take care of your body, health, and your state of mind. Focus on the positive aspects of life to fill yourself with energy and attract good people into your life. To love yourself, accept your own weaknesses and start working on them, or make them your highlight.
There is nothing perfect in nature; you have the right to be weak. This is what makes you unique.
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Inner peace
A hot temper, conflict, resentment and jealousy - all this makes us dissatisfied with life. Such traits need to be fought and character traits adjusted to ensure inner peace.
This means that you can benefit from any stressful situation and calm down on your own.
Spiritual practices, meditation, affirmations, as well as sports and time alone with oneself help with this. If it's a hard day, a real woman will take at least an hour to pamper herself with a warm bath or a delicious dinner. Thanks to this, her good mood and strength will return again.
Laws of the ideal lady
A true lady always maintains her composure. She does not allow herself to panic, controls the situation and is ready for a lightning-fast reaction to changing circumstances. She acts wisely if:
- does not complain about fate;
- carefully monitors his appearance;
- indulges him in moderation with his attention;
- does not interfere in other people's affairs;
- uses tears only in exceptional cases;
- keeps his admirers in tense anticipation;
- demonstrates virtues in practice, refraining from self-promotion;
- boldly meets changes, finding positive aspects in them
Psychology for a real woman is a powerful weapon, and she does not expose the qualities that a girl should have in the opinion of men to public view, using them to achieve her goal. Unobtrusively and with a sweet smile on her lips, she will not only achieve her goal, but will also leave those around her with the feeling that they did everything of their own free will.
Why is it better to be a girl?
The advantages are not striking, but they are undeniable. Only a lady is able to give new life, trust her intuition and, as a result, benefit from it. Beauty really has a powerful effect, especially on the stronger sex. An entire industry works to maintain female attractiveness. The weaker half of humanity is more open to communication, intuitively sensing the emotions of the interlocutor.
It is unlikely that a self-sufficient young lady will agree to change places with a man, despite all the benefits of his position.
The Lady is the master of her destiny. For her, the glass is always half full, she loves herself and those around her, finding beauty and joy in every day.
Individuality.
“Highlight” is the name given to the special charm inherent in any representative of the fair sex. There are often cases when a woman who is not endowed with special external characteristics literally attracts people and men around her, forcing them to only guess what secret is hidden in this extraordinary lady. For some, the “zest” is given by nature itself, endowing a person with an amazing inner charm almost from birth, while others are quite capable of “inventing” and “making it work” on their own, setting out with the desire to attract men to themselves and arouse their sincere affection. Of course, only a real woman is capable of this!
