Modern society suffers from irritability and aggression, all this is routine life in a hurry and without respite. Quite a large number of people live in a state of aggression, irritability, depression and don’t even know what to do about it if they’re tired of everything. Any episodes of manifestation of these states can be attributed to the world around us; after all, it may be a matter of the person’s lifestyle itself. Sometimes even small trifles irritate and enrage, nothing brings joy, people and everything around irritate. People in a state where everything infuriates them and they are fed up, incur huge psychological problems, which often only a psychotherapist can help them cope with.
What to do if you're fed up and tired of everything?
Sometimes people ask this question every day; a person may be aware of the specific reason for his condition, or the reason for his hatred of others may be unconscious. Often, a person’s fatigue from worries and daily inventing life goals leads precisely to a state of annoyance and irritation. In such an environment, you can get angry at absolutely everything: people, public transport schedules, store assortment, weather, government, even your own behavior. A person with such a rhythm of life spoils his relationship with the people around him, even with his loved ones, the most important ones, conflicts at work, everyone gets tired of him, and even the subject himself.
The state of being fed up with everything and tired of everything is accompanied by the lowest emotional emotion – irritability. Thus, anger, anger or surges of aggression tend to break out, a person experiences these emotions and gets rid of them in a timely manner. Irritability is an emotion that tends to stretch out, lasts a long period of time, it is like charcoal - it will smolder for a very long time. The reasons for the occurrence of a state where everything is fed up and tired are often increased stress on the individual’s psyche, the consequences: family troubles, problems with friends, at work, all this reboots and drains our nervous system.
Violation of the adequate functioning of the human nervous system leads to disturbances in the mental state and the occurrence of increased irritability of the individual. Immediately at this moment, everything infuriates and bothers you, even the rustling outside the window or behind your back. A fundamental role in the period when everything is fed up and infuriating can be played by emotional overstrain, fatigue at work, lack of sleep, dreams that have already come true, lack of rest, sexual dissatisfaction, and hormonal disorders. The manifestations of such a state occur in each individual in their own way: someone, actively gesticulating, expresses their state by changing their vocal tone (sharp transitions from a high tone to a low one), someone flares up like a match at absolutely the slightest provocation, someone restrains everything emotions in himself, tries to avoid others, always grumbles. The consequences of such a nervous disorder can be catastrophic for the individual.
When looking for a solution to problems with irritability, you should often contact a psychotherapist. The essence is the emergence of a state when everything is fed up and infuriates you, it can be hidden in dreams that have already come true, after the fulfillment of which, the meaning of life is supposedly lost. A person, dreaming about something, experiences an incredible feeling of satisfaction and a thirst for life, realizing that this dream will certainly come true. After experiencing success and the excitement of a forgotten dream, a period of emptiness sets in, as if something was stolen from a person’s life. The subject feels the need for a new goal, and begins to invent it; having achieved it, he again feels upset. This whole path to the implementation of the plan, of course, contributes to the improvement of the personality, its development, helps to become more successful, more purposeful, but it always leads the person to a dead end - when everything infuriates and gets boring. What should I do? You need to come up with a dream that you should strive to achieve throughout your life, and all the small goals that have been achieved along the way to the grandiose dream will be like steps to success. And a subject on the path to greatness will not perceive the satisfaction of these goals as a disappointment, but will perceive it as experience and another plus to success. It is important that this grandiose goal becomes the meaning of life for you, captivates you and pushes you to move forward.
A person, a creature for whom something is never enough, he always strives to achieve more and more. If you lack the desire and ability to achieve your goal, analyze what you have and love it. Many people around you don't even have a fraction of what you have. A person should learn to be happy that he has achieved something and that he has the opportunity to achieve even more. As the subject's capabilities increase, the number of needs also increases. Accordingly, it is easier to learn to enjoy life by limiting yourself to something not so important.
Method 2: Upgrade yourself
The second effective method that you should use when you are tired of everything is to change. The most obvious and simplest is an external change: get a new hairstyle, update your wardrobe, go to the gym, lose weight. But how can you overcome apathy if neither a new hairstyle nor a new dress can save you?
Change your system of values and thinking by introducing into life principles that will promote, rather than hinder, success and fulfillment. This is, however, much more difficult to do.
A great exercise for this purpose is to write down an improved version of yourself - who you could be if you maximized your talents and developed your abilities. And then ask yourself the question: how does such a person think and act? Write down these thoughts and build your actions in accordance with them.
What to do if everything quickly gets boring
With the help of irritability, our body often calls us to action; it hints that we need to listen to ourselves. People are often forced to change jobs frequently, have various novels, move places of residence, and change hobbies five times a week. Sometimes a person enthusiastically takes on a new business, giving it the status of the most desirable, and immediately switches to something else, in a completely different direction. Such people say that they quickly get bored with everything, and they chase impressions and run away from everyday routine. Why does everything get boring so quickly, is it worth resisting? After all, many scientists say that by changing your job or place of residence, you can get rid of the feeling of irritability and still love life. But isn’t it a mistake to make such frequent changes in life?
Often everything gets boring for people who have lived an uncertain life since childhood. For example, a baby is sitting, playing, laying out blocks, and then they tell him that he needs to go get ready because he needs to go for a walk. When a child shows his creation (drawing, plasticine figurine, construction set) to his parents, he expects praise, but instead of deserved attention, not allowing the child to enjoy success, parents switch the child’s attention to the creativity of others. Or they often say that they need to try to do better next time. Imperceptibly, the baby gets used to situations where his achievement, in principle, has practically no meaning; say, if he has achieved something, he already needs to strive for another action. Growing up, all this worsens even more, and already in adulthood a person ceases to appreciate what he has. Under any conditions, he sees a catch, a flaw and begins to find fault with little things, this quickly gets boring and the person strives to start something bigger.
There are many examples of such behavior during the period of raising a child; often he simply does not know his daily routine, what his responsibilities are and what awaits him as a result of the task completed. From this time on, the subject develops the ability to do everything very quickly, grab everything on the fly and run, because he is aware in the depths of his soul that he can be interrupted at any moment. Instantly during this period, a huge amount of adrenaline enters the blood due to increased energy consumption. In the presence of adrenaline in the blood, the subject acts at an accelerated pace, over time there is a decrease, the previous balance in the body is restored and, accordingly, the person loses all interest and gets bored with everything. Since the individual’s body requires a new surge of adrenaline, he changes his actions and looks for something else to do.
Such people have problems with their personal lives. A person falls in love very quickly, builds a perspective for the future, and just as quickly becomes disappointed in his partner, as a result the couple quickly separates. According to the famous psychoanalyst Jean-David Nasio, a person does this unconsciously. This behavior is typical for individuals who were attached to one parent in childhood. When such an individual grows up, he unconsciously denies the feeling of love for a person who is able to take the place of his mother or father in his soul. Loneliness is the path of life to which such an individual condemns himself, without accepting an emotional attachment to the subject of his passion.
What to do if you're fed up and tired of everything? First, assess the current situation. Find out what exactly the problem is, if your friends, loved one, absolutely everything bother you, then maybe the root of the difficulties lies precisely in your actions. Determine the level of the problem, how much its consequences can be destructive or interfere with the lives of people around you. After this, you should decide whether you can cope on your own or whether you need to see a psychotherapist.
To solve the problem yourself, you need:
– learn to beware of anticipations and adventures;
– be able to, through awareness of the problem, continue to act contrary to one’s desires;
– whenever you want to start a new business, remember that it is human nature to idealize what you want; in fact, everything will end the same way;
– accustom yourself to set specific goals and not invest high hopes in them, realize from the beginning that the goals will be achieved, and you will need to create new tasks;
- noticing that everything around you is changing quickly, set an ultimatum, agree with yourself to stay at work for more than a year, finish the job you started and take on the next one, do not run away from a love relationship.
It is useless to be angry at the world and people around you or at yourself. After all, human life is interesting precisely because it has ups and downs, mistakes, failures and disappointments. Due to the strong expenditure of energy, the human nervous system is rapidly depleted, therefore, you need to learn to control your behavior. Psychologists recommend spending some period of your life playing, forgetting about time, defusing the situation, having a blast, like in childhood, looking at life from a different perspective. After this, reconsider your life position and goals. They will need to be adjusted and live without trying to please anyone.
Method 3. Dismantle the rubble and do a thorough cleaning of the house
Another effective method that is worth listing when answering the question “How to overcome laziness and apathy?” – do a thorough cleaning. From time to time, trash and debris accumulate in our space, which over time interferes with the free flow of energy. If you have the means, someone can do the deep cleaning for you.
But even if you can afford a housekeeper, cleaning yourself may be more effective as the ignition system for your internal engine. Here are some additional ideas for clearing your space:
- Sort out old papers and throw away everything unnecessary;
- Give away clothes and shoes that you have not worn in the last 2 years;
- Wash the windows;
- Polish kitchen utensils;
- Disassemble the bathroom and throw out all the jars where there is still something left “at the bottom” and which has long been replaced with a new one.
Go on a trip.
If a person is fed up with everything here, it’s worth trying to regain interest in life somewhere there! Other countries and continents, unusual mentality and traditions - all this can lift even an inveterate whiner out of depression. If you don’t have the money or opportunities for long trips, you can travel around the expanses of your homeland. After all, even around the corner of the house there may be something unknown, to say nothing of other cities.
How to pull yourself together if people are getting fed up with you? You can go hiking in the nearest forest or mountains, because traveling does not only mean visiting the islands of civilization. You can also get to know the surrounding nature.
Method 9. Do something extremely unusual for yourself
Are you still tired of everything? If you are still seriously thinking about how to get out of apathy, then don’t just get out of your comfort zone, but do the exact opposite. Are you naturally shy? Challenge your principles and talk to a stranger.
For a modest girl, meeting a man on her own is a risky step. If you are usually proactive and outgoing, practice meditation and deep introspection. Find something that will turn you 180 degrees and show you one of the unknown or untapped facets of your own personality.
Method 4: Clean your computer
It will be very difficult for you to cope with apathy if you do not tidy up your computer. The computer, just like our space, does not like garbage. Not only will it hang due to an excessive number of files, but it will also simply interfere with productivity, constantly distracting you with unnecessary documents, photos, etc.
I recently accidentally erased all the photos on my MacBook that I had taken over the past 2 years (70 gigs!). At first I gasped and was wildly upset, but then I felt some kind of lightness and liberation from the past. Now in front of me is a white canvas (and an empty iPhone application) on which I am going to draw my new life.
Method 5: Go for a walk
Better yet, make walking a sort of daily ritual - walk (if the weather permits, in the fresh air) every day for 30-60 minutes. This may be perceived as yet another trivial recommendation.
But a simple walk gives a lot - a surge of energy for the body, improved blood circulation, and as a result - additional nutrition for brain cells and a surge of inspiration, thus activating the potential of our intentions. Daily walks will help you overcome laziness and apathy in yourself, and will also recharge you with energy.
“The attack of pain lasted four hours”
I asked a lot why they drink. Someone says: “I feel happy when I get drunk,” “I become brave, I can meet women.” That is, in alcohol, people find, as it seems to them, the easiest way to become happy.
Living on the street, a homeless person works 3–4 days a month and drinks the rest of the time. But in our community, it’s rather the opposite. But although drunkenness and idleness are prohibited in our country, we cannot force anyone to stop drinking if our wards do not want it themselves.
As terrible as it may sound, alcohol is a part of their life that they do not want to give up. This is their passion. Like someone has a passion for gluttony, a passion for money, a lustful passion. We are all prisoners of our passions.
I’m not an alcoholic or a drug addict, but I understand them perfectly. I also can’t resist doing what I can’t do. One day we were given several tons of Seven-Up. And I liked it so much that I bought myself a special refrigerator for it - I had to break the doorways to get it in! - and turned off the Seven-Up in liters. They told me: this is harmful. “Seven-Up” can’t be harmful, it’s delicious!” - I answered. And then I had a terrible attack. My stomach hurt, but I refused to understand that my unhealthy passion for soda was to blame. And after waiting for the pain to go away, he drank his favorite potion again. The new attack lasted four hours - even the ambulance did not help. Only after these torments did I stop drinking Seven-Up. Although I still didn’t have enough for a long time.
That's how it is with homeless people with alcohol. You want the forbidden fruit so much that you don't care. But some are saved—in the literal sense of the word—by disability. After all, if they continue to drink, another limb will be amputated or another stroke will occur. The sense of self-preservation kicks in—it sounds crazy, but it’s effective.
Method 10. Draw
Let it be crooked, askew and at the level of a 5-year-old child. It is not the result that is important to us, but the process. Drawing activates the creative part of the brain. To break the cycle of boredom, you need to excite your creativity.
Having let go of the “goal”, to draw something “beautifully” and allowing ourselves to create simply for the sake of self-expression, we find ourselves in a parallel reality, where all that is required of us is to turn off the mind and not interfere with nature to be realized through us.
Here are my 10 recommendations, but these are only the main ones among many effective ways to start your inner motor and fill your life with new experiences.
