“Why am I so unlucky with men?”

For many, the desire to be needed and build good relationships turns into the question, why are you unlucky in love? This is especially true for formally prosperous and attractive individuals. If a person has many problems, he is socially disadvantaged, then questions about the problems of his personal life are not surprising, but when beautiful and promising, smart and erudite people cannot create something strong and harmonious over and over again, then it is worth finding the reasons for such misunderstandings.

Usually, all the problems in the sphere of relationships are not in the external environment, events or partners, but in the personal characteristics and psychological traumas of the unlucky person, and possibly in the lack of examples of successful interaction. Some do not know how to set priorities or have impairments in social and personal interaction. There are differences for those who fail to have a first romance and who get divorced for the fourth time, so the reasons may differ depending on gender, but still the main problem will be in personality traits or established habits.

Possible reasons

Infantility. An adult does not know how to behave with a member of the opposite sex. He is essentially stuck in childhood. There is a problem of education. It is important that parents, when raising their offspring, do not resort to prohibitions too often and, even more so, do not prohibit communication with peers of the opposite sex. Otherwise, it will lead to great disappointment in the future. In such a situation, psychologists advise putting aside childhood inhibitions, feeling like an adult, visiting crowded places more often, starting a conversation with any member of the opposite sex, be it a salesperson in a store or a doctor, hiding your inexperience, and being natural.
Dislike for one's own person. There are people who underestimate themselves. This is often due to the lack of parental love, success in school, and attention from members of the opposite sex. A person who doesn’t love himself doesn’t even look at his own reflection in the mirror, doesn’t pamper himself with gifts, doesn’t put on beautiful clothes, and doesn’t strive to succeed in his career. There is a belief that “I don’t deserve to be happy.” And in such a situation, you need to understand that there is no point in waiting for love from the outside if you don’t love yourself. Remember that every person longs to find a partner who will improve his life and delight his existence. If you don’t love yourself, you are depleted in energy terms. Relationships with a person who is always dissatisfied with himself are filled with negative energy. And it’s unlikely that anyone will voluntarily want to stew in this. In order to love yourself, first of all, you need to increase your self-esteem. Visit a beauty salon, go to the gym, decide on a hobby, improve your intellectual level, develop yourself comprehensively, start, for example, by learning a foreign language, go on a trip.
Fear of meeting new people. A person must understand that if he was unlucky once, this does not mean that a similar scenario will be repeated again and again. In this situation, it is extremely important to analyze the current experience, take away the most valuable things from it, understand what mistakes were made in order to prevent them from happening in the future.
Programming for failure. There are people who are so convinced that they will be alone that any attempt to create a relationship always ends in failure. In such a situation, one cannot do without the long-term work of a psychologist.

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Elena Dugarova

The other day I heard from a client that he was on the way to “give up everything or give up these women.” He’s young, handsome, quite a typical man, doesn’t smoke, drinks occasionally for company, has his own apartment, stable income, vacations in warm countries 2 times a year, and on top of that, he’s single. And yes, there are more than enough romances! In general, a golden set, a women's dream! Why did he end up at a psychologist’s appointment with the question “I’m unlucky in love”?

Using the example of working with my client, I would like to highlight the most common reasons for male “bad luck” in his personal life, and consider possible options for correcting these situations. So. The client, let’s call him Vladimir, asks: “What’s wrong with me? Why don't I have a woman? I want a family and children, but I have a feeling that I will never find the one. There are only bitches around who only want money.” And here STOP!

Reason #1. “All women only need money, all women lie, cheat, etc.”

As a representative of “women,” I always felt sad if a man I liked began to express such ideas out loud. However, being a psychologist, I will explain the following. Of course, experience, the son of difficult mistakes, is the first thing that underlies this misconception. Once upon a time, when Volodya was still young and lived with his mother, he tried to study well, earn money on the sly and save for something, because he believed that only he had all the responsibility. And then the sexually mature and hormone-producing Vovochka met his first girl, who made everything around him spin. Perhaps she was older. It’s more interesting with older girls, because they are more experienced, and they look more like women. And all the salary flowed there. Flowers, sweets, gifts, cinema. What girl cannot resist such persistent courtship? Soon Vova remains “grateful” on all sides and for a moment happy in love, but bad luck! She didn't appreciate the feelings. She said that he is good, but she is bored with him and is not ready for a serious relationship. The offended, wounded Vova came home, complained to his mother, and she, calming her son, said: “Son, don’t pay attention to these..., first study, find a job, and then everything will appear on its own.” And mom was right. Volodya graduated from college, got a job, began to develop a business with a friend at the same time, and yes, money began to appear more and more easily. And then there are these guys again, who only need one thing. No love or romance. They only ask for rings and fur coats. This is how a certain idea was formed, which became permanent. Over time, Vladimir himself turned into a cynical and insensitive man who, somewhere in his soul, still dreams of big and bright love and family. But, having met potential love, he automatically does not believe a single word she says, since experience turns out to be more influential. So what should I do? First, allow yourself to understand that people have the right to be different. And those who are looking for mercantile relationships, and those who strive for true feelings, and those who are ready to live in a hut, and those who would like a hut in the Maldives. The question is what do you want and what do you believe. If a certain idea about women lives firmly and tightly in your head, then a similar response will come from the world in your direction. And here it’s worth thinking about, perhaps this is beneficial for you yourself, and then you shouldn’t talk about deep feelings. Just enjoy the pleasant benefits that actually suit everyone.

Reason #2. To be with a woman, I first need to earn a million.

Of course, the amount is approximate. The metaphor is that today there are indeed many men who do not dare to build relationships without earning a certain amount or status. They are sure that in order to have a serious relationship and start a family, they must be successful in order to make their woman happy. They are not ready to have children until they have a house, apartment, car, and this crisis. It would seem that they are great guys for caring and thinking so much about their woman. But the question is, are they really thinking about the woman at these moments? As long as there is love, perhaps the woman agrees to these conditions, but time passes, and feelings go somewhere. I know cases when girls got tired of this type of relationship “dear, it’s all later, you see, now is not the time, I can’t give you anything” and they left. Only after a while did the man come to his senses and comprehend the loss, because in these races for material achievements he did not even notice it. The question “What did I do wrong?” baffles everyone. If you recognize some of yourself in these lines, I think it will be useful to see a woman's point of view on this. “I need support. And, first of all, it lies in the fact that when I come home, there is someone who I can just lay my head on my shoulder and who will say that everything will be fine, because he is nearby.” A woman needs a feeling of security, being needed and honesty. This is the most common answer found among women who want to build relationships and are ready to give love, give birth to children and go all the way from beginning to end, side by side with their man. For better or for worse, as they say. And success, in this case, is a gainful thing. It’s up to you, men, to decide whether these are just another excuse that was invented in order not to take responsibility for the relationship. After all, she is a woman, she needs you, she is ready to walk beside you and support you in everything. What makes you think, if she doesn't openly talk about it, that she needs something else? Why should you immediately give something material in return? After all, the path to success is often long. Don't you risk, by the end of your journey, remaining in the role of the successful Koshchei the Immortal, with his wealth, but so lonely and angry?

Reason #3. I am unsure of myself as a man and think that I am not worthy of such a woman.

The same Volodya, a quiet, modest boy who was not particularly popular with girls, once secretly fell in love with a classmate. But besides him, half a class of boys loved her, and the girls, too, to be honest, were staring at her. On quiet winter evenings, he dreamed of how one day he would invite her to the cinema or to his birthday, to which she would definitely come, and then she would see what he really was like, this Vova. Reliable, faithful and, most importantly, how he knows how to love sensually. But the script did not turn out to be his director’s version and Vova failed, and even received ridicule, God forbid. Children can be cruel to other people's feelings. So the poor wounded boy lived with this pain for the rest of his days. Although his suppressed potential always burst out and he liked not simple girls, but very difficult ones. I had to live in splendid isolation. Each time he felt like that ridiculed teenager whose feelings were not appreciated. He was angry and perhaps even hated the very first one. And now, it turns out, we have to live with it? Of course not! Often, over the years, little gray girls undergo miracles of transformation. Suddenly they blossom and become hyper-attractive to men. The same may be true for men. However, the inner truth, to which poor Vova is so accustomed, does not allow positive scenarios to live in his head. And fear binds because of the reluctance to hurt yourself again. The question is, are you willing, as a grown man, to try not to be a wounded little pimple? Statistics play into your hands! There are more and more single women, perhaps they are waiting for someone just like you! An adult who is ready to ride through fear like a tank and show his woman what “Vova” really is. A woman doesn’t fall in love with words, she can’t read minds and doesn’t always know exactly how much she likes you. A woman falls in love with the way she treats herself. At the same time that was so often imagined on quiet winter evenings. In addition to the main three reasons, the following topics were voiced behind the scenes:

"no brains",

"not outstanding size of manhood"

“the search for identical views and values, or rather the frequent absence of such”,

“I’m not like that, I’m not worthy, work, money, mom said”

“I had no luck with women, that’s why I’m gay,” etc.

Men, you naturally hold the reins of power and are a step higher on the hierarchy ladder. To say that “women are to blame for making men more inactive” is like arguing about a chicken and an egg. Responsibility and choice lie on both sides. If you don't start thinking about it now, what next? The category of children raised without fathers is growing; the fashion for homosexual relations, metrosexuality and gigoloism is strengthening; women are increasingly angry about frivolous attitudes towards relationships; trust becomes more difficult and everything goes in a vicious circle. Be your authentic self, what does that mean to you?

Reasons for failure in your personal life Why you have no luck in relationships with guys and men

“Why is this happening to me?” is the first question on the path to a healthy and happy relationship. There can be several reasons for unluckiness in love.

I want to help him, I want to save him

You put on a halo of holiness and devote your whole life to saving alcoholics, drug addicts, losers and just scoundrels...

You are trying to rehabilitate a womanizer, a thief and a liar...

Naturally, you succeed in little or nothing, but you do not give up this hopeless occupation and fight with windmills, periodically changing them from one to another.

You are the Savior, you want to make men better, more honest, kinder, more successful, more beautiful...

But do you know why you are doing this?

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The truth will shock you - in fact, you are saving others, because... in your soul you subconsciously hope very strongly that someone will come and save you. You save so that someone can save you.

But your Savior is in no hurry to save you - you have total bad luck with men, and it’s no longer realistic to live like this...

Quit this pointless activity and start ignoring whiners, alcoholics and losers - you deserve a good, kind, smart, sober, faithful man. Change your thinking. Start saving yourself, become a Savior for yourself at least.

Repeating past mistakes

Don’t you think you’ve already stepped on this same rake? A relationship with a married man, unhappy unrequited love, a guy who is a womanizer and a liar—you’ve already had it all.

Unwillingness to take responsibility4

Most often it sounds like this: “Before I start with a girl, I have to earn a million, and also buy a car, a house, apartments for my future children...”. On the one hand, it seems that this is a concern for the future. But in fact, this is not why many men are in no hurry to build a serious relationship. They are simply afraid of responsibility.

If a good girl appears nearby, ready to go through any crisis with her beloved and generally live with her sweetheart in a hut, the guy begins to push her away. “Let’s wait,” “It’s not time yet,” “Don’t rush things,” etc. – these are just another excuse from a boy who is afraid of serious intentions. The partner feels this and leaves. And then it seems that the guy just has no luck with girls.

Low self-esteem

There are often cases when girls have too low self-esteem. It would seem that low self-esteem often equals modesty, and this cannot be the reason that you are unlucky in love. However, it's not that simple. Owners of this type of character perceive any attention from a man as something special and incredible. In other words, they firmly believe that any compliment is an accident, that a miracle cannot happen to them, since they are unworthy of strong mutual relationships.

Friendly subspecies - bar panther

I really want to argue with the author, but even more I want to discuss the real existing fact that he aptly noticed: these predators behind the bar really exist, and if you look more closely, you will always notice and identify them. If not because of their provocative clothes (although there will definitely be heels), then because of the same strategy of behavior: they are always at the bar or near the toilet, if alone, then with a phone in their hands, as if they were waiting for someone (and they really are waiting! ), if with a girlfriend, then over long cocktails and conversations about nothing, which do not interfere with concentrating on reviewing the available “catch”. They are open to acquaintances from the first, even the stupidest, phrase, they are happy to have cocktails and invitations to a table, dancing and talking about life, and they don’t want to leave the bar after one in the morning with an unknown bomber in a taxi. Alone.

What brings these girls behind the bar to drink watered-down Mojitos with cheap soda and inhale tobacco smoke, when at the same time you can sit comfortably under a blanket with donuts and watch a comedy at home? I would like to come up with a more intelligent definition of this coincidence of circumstances, but it doesn’t work out: bad luck, in a word, and that’s all. In the subway, in the gym, in cafes, in the cinema, in stores - only women, at work - no one pays attention, old friends - married, new ones - turn up their noses indifferently. At some point, the world suddenly turns its unattractive side towards the lady, and she begins to act in a seemingly proven way.

Oh, I’m so smelly, sultry, fucking awesome that I’m ready to throw myself on your neck!

Let's look at four more female subtypes, which for some reason always remain on the margins of the marriage market:

Why are women unlucky in love? How can I change everything?

According to statistics, beautiful and successful girls are more often unlucky in love. The reason for bad luck mainly lies in behavior and excessive demands on a partner.

After all, a loved one must be:

rich;
smart;
handsome;
have a sense of humor;
play sports, etc.

The woman begins to wait for the prince, not allowing herself to see the merits of a partner with whom she could be happy.

Expectations of a rich groom

Parents often instill in girls that their husband must be rich. And if in adolescence the daughter begins to date a poor person, the meetings are stopped.

As a result, money comes first in relationships. Commercialism makes it impossible to consider a person’s merits, and having found a rich man, women are sincerely surprised why the relationship does not work out. Left alone, they resume their search for a rich companion.

Bad luck with money can be associated with saying certain phrases

Money is a strong energy substance, which, if mishandled or unsightly phrases spoken in relation to it, can cause a person to be offended. Before voicing out loud words such as, for example: “I won’t hunch over these pennies” or “Damn this money.” Such benefits of modernity can easily be removed from a person if he does not address them with respect or expresses them incompetently.

Finance loves trepidation and care. Even a small sum is better than empty pockets. Whatever a person’s earnings, it is worth being grateful to them. There are magical ways to attract funds. But even this method will not give the long-awaited result. The most important thing is that if you have problems with money, reconsider your attitude towards them. Otherwise, all possible finances will bypass the person in every possible way.

Why are you unlucky in your personal life with men and what to do?

The answer is on the surface - trust fate, do not limit yourself to communicating with people exclusively from your circle. Open up to the world and it will open up to you.

Acknowledge the fact that there is a problem. Allow yourself to be weak and accept outside help... You need to make a choice, leave one comfort zone in order to enter another...

Start taking care of yourself. Learn to listen and hear your body - start pampering yourself with all kinds of salons. Visiting the fitness center should become an integral part of your life. A well-groomed woman cannot help but attract the attention of men!

Going to the theater, restaurant or visiting an exhibition once a week is not a luxury. But rather, it is a necessity for you. Love yourself, value yourself and soon you will feel how your life is changing.

What can I tell you, in modern realities there are quite a lot of well-groomed, beautiful, attractive, earning, but VERY LONELY women. Who cry into their pillow at night and turn to me for help.

It’s not all about the external, whatever one may say. The most important thing is what is inside a person. I am now talking about the spiritual component, the spiritual component. Nowadays consumption has become the norm. And many, without noticing, in relationships only demand, demand and demand. But with the sensual line, with truly feminine energies, there is a problem.

Tell me honestly, do you know women around who are “ugly”, plump, seemingly unsightly, but they have a family, a full cup in the house and comfort?

Unfortunately, now they don’t teach us to be gentle, they don’t teach us to be open. And this is precisely what a modern woman lacks. I believe that when there are problems in your personal life, you need to work on yourself, start with yourself.

How can you scare off girls?

Some girls, after the first meeting with a guy, constantly avoid further dates, fearing ridicule from an overly arrogant young man. You must convince your chosen one of your own authority and not show her your arrogant side. There are men who consider themselves confident and successful, but do not take responsibility for their words, which many girls do not like.

Important: if a guy on a date starts a conversation by discussing other people's mistakes in order to show his best side, then he likes to gossip.

By taking pleasure in making someone's life unhappy, the gossiper can entertain her date. Unfortunately, over time, such treatment from men begins to tire women and offend them. As a result, they no longer go on dates.

Arrogance

No girl would like a guy who takes it upon himself to lend money to others. If he is confident in himself, does not forget about his rights, protects himself and his loved ones in difficult situations. An arrogant egoist cares only about himself, knowing that he can get lucky in the process of manipulating a woman.

An arrogant man can always be recognized at a glance. Only a confident man can look a woman in the face when talking to her. He will not look into a crowd of people he knows to approach her.

A woman knows how to appreciate modesty in the character of a man who does not remind her of his achievements every time. An arrogant person makes others think that he is picky and self-confident. This rush is because he is ashamed to admit his incompetence in the face of the problem.

Fact! An arrogant man talking to a girl makes her feel uncomfortable, which makes her doubt his experience and knowledge.

Arrogant guys' mannerisms reveal their arrogance and they are so confident in their presentation that they have complete confidence. An overly arrogant interlocutor can be recognized by a condescending tone of voice, constant interruption of someone else's speech and the inability to correct it.

With serious intentions

Often a man is rejected by single women who do not like the fact that their chosen one is starting a serious relationship with them. He does this to guide someone's love life. Girls don't like it when their partner declares his serious intentions, implying that he is constantly monitoring their actions.

Important! A man who demands information from his partner every hour about her affairs stops attracting women to him.

A man's serious intentions can also be related to the bride's financial situation. As the owner of a house or apartment, she cannot imagine herself as someone else’s thing or girl for her partner. If the guy realizes this in a timely manner, there may be no problems in the relationship.

Hard worker

If you really want to find love, then stop making excuses like “I don't have time to meet new people” or “I have too much work.”

But is it your job's fault that you can't find time to have coffee with the man you just met?

Chances are, your hectic life is an excuse to avoid any potential intimate relationships. So take the time to meet people and don't use your job as an excuse out of fear of meeting someone.

What problems do invisible women have?

Men don’t notice them, don’t give them gifts, because of this they are forced to date not the one they want, but the one who comes across. Invisible women feel unhappy, undervalued, dissatisfied, envy their friends, or simply believe that loneliness is their lot. These women often focus on their careers or motherhood and leave no resources for relationships. Some have already accepted their fate, while others are still trying to find their happiness. If you haven't lost hope yet, then this article is for you.

Reason: sacrifice, low self-esteem

One of the good reasons for breaking up a relationship, if one suddenly appears, is excessive sacrifice! “I am everything to him... and he?...” Or “What was he missing? I left my friends for him, and...” - sound familiar? Have you already heard it somewhere?

Or maybe it wasn’t worth sacrificing yourself on the sacrificial altar of love at all? Maybe you shouldn’t “do everything for him) and nothing for yourself?

One of the reasons that “there is no change on the personal front” is that as soon as people begin to develop more or less normal relationships and everything gets better for them, one of the partners will definitely begin to try on the mask of a sacrificial doe. For what??? You are loved for who you are! And this happiness must be cherished like the apple of your eye. Remember - low self-esteem is the enemy of a happy personal life.

Loneliness, lack of personal life, depression, feeling trapped - all these are links in the same chain. Agree, it is unlikely that if a person has a full personal life, he will feel lonely. Often depression is a consequence of a breakup.

Low self-esteem5

Appearance problems, speech impediments, unfulfilled dreams and much more can lead to an inferiority complex. The guy feels insecure in the company of girls, and if he does achieve one of them, he begins to behave, roughly speaking, like a doormat. If he has low self-esteem, he believes that he is not worthy of a good girl. Allows her absolutely everything, is afraid to express her opinion, refuses to take the position of a leader or at least an equal in the relationship.

This has a negative effect on women - they do not want to bear all the responsibility on themselves.

As a result, conflicts arise due to complexities. If a guy thinks that he is a loser who no one needs, then situations will happen that only confirm this. Therefore, it is important to develop self-love. You can sign up for a sports section. The first successes in this industry will add confidence. Reading literature on the topic, attending social events, and expanding your circle of acquaintances are suitable.

Problems with the fair sex should not always be blamed on the girls themselves. Sometimes the reasons why a guy has no luck with girls lies in his own mistakes.

How it works?

A man can drive his luxury car, and you can just go to the bakery from the next door. And he will see you, so enjoying, smiling, light, bright, walking along the sidewalk for a loaf of bread. And he just wants to continue this happiness, simply because he wants and can. Invisible women believe that it is the man who should fill them with love, give them happiness, love them for their dad and mom, and only then she will give him her love. Happy men look for happy women to increase their happiness.

Trying to change a person 4

Some girls try to create Frankenstein's monster. They have an idea of the ideal betrothed. Therefore, they will do everything to turn the guy into “that prince.”

Such actions have a negative impact on the partner’s psyche. The guy starts to get irritated and angry. He doesn’t like that they are trying to change him, to adjust him to suit themselves. He is, first of all, a person, and not someone’s object for experimentation.

Men are not used to changing for someone. Their character is formed over many years. It is hardened and rarely modified. Of course, a responsible lover will give up a number of bad habits for the sake of a girl. But this should not be abused. It is much easier to find another person who will meet the “mental criteria”.

Tips on how to become loved

A woman needs to feel needed, and this is the main thing for which she lives. And she feels needed only when a loved one appears in her life.

As a rule, the one who loves and appreciates herself becomes happy. This is what makes it unique and special. She is not looking for a relationship just so as not to be left alone. She knows her own worth, does not try to change people to suit her interests, but perceives them as they really are.

Such a woman knows that any man will be happy next to her. And she has her own point of view on relationships with the opposite sex: will she be happy with her chosen one, will he not suppress her personality, will she still have the opportunity for personal growth.

She has her own interests and passions in life. She knows what she wants and will be able to fight for her happiness. If a relationship with a man causes only negative emotions, she will break off this relationship without an ounce of doubt.

She understands that strong, stable relationships can only exist between people who have similar views on life, goals, aspirations and life values. She is sure that she will definitely be lucky in love.

Where to start improving your life? Methods that work!

So, how will we fix everything:

We get rid of what is not beautiful or necessary. Garbage, unloved things and unnecessary trash. You need to clear your space, it helps to restore order in your head as well.
After spring cleaning, we surround ourselves with beauty. We make a list, everyone will have their own. Clothes that make you feel your best. And at home too! Decorative elements, even the smallest ones, that make your heart feel warm and good. Photos of loved ones. Delicious and desirable food on chic tableware. At home, at work, on the street. Every day!
Create your own colorful world full of pleasures!
Visualize your desires. Imagine what you want in the smallest detail, and everything will definitely come true.

Don’t put it in reserve, don’t put it on the mezzanine. Use everything that can bring smiles and pleasure TODAY. After all, today is no less unique than a birthday or December 31st.

Reasons for bad luck

Low self-esteem. If a girl underestimates her self-esteem, then she chooses a mate that is far from the best options;
Inflated self-esteem will also not lead to anything good. In this case, the chances of having a strong relationship are minimal;
Fear of loneliness. Many people, after breaking up one unsuccessful relationship, immediately try to create new ones and again make the same mistakes. New relationships also turn out to be unsuccessful. There is no need to rush to make new acquaintances just because you are afraid of being lonely. Take a break from your relationship and enjoy your solitude. You will have time to think about which half you need;
Wrong choice of partner. You can't change an adult. And if you like a certain type of personality, but the relationship with him is not going well, then you need to think and change your preferences. It's time to stop stepping on the same rake, i.e. meet a person whose relationship will lead to another separation;
Wrong behavior in relationships. Quarrels occur when both people do not know how to behave correctly. Men act like women or weaklings, and women act like bitches. Until the couple stops sorting things out and proving which of them should dominate, nothing good will come of it.

Wrong environment

If a guy often goes to nightclubs and meets girls there, the likelihood of meeting the love of his life is reduced to zero. Sociologists from the SuperJob Research Center conducted a survey among 5,000 married men. They were asked where they met their soulmate. Not a single respondent named the option “in a nightclub”!

What is this connected with? In circles where people lead a fairly wild lifestyle, go out at night and drink, there are decent girls, but among them there are rarely those who are aimed at serious, stable relationships. If she goes with her friends a couple of times a month just to dance, that’s a completely different matter.

The guy can be advised to look for a girl elsewhere. For example, at a festival of interests, during a walk in the park, in a quiet and cozy establishment.

Psychologist's advice

So that you can calmly build your personal life correctly, psychologists advise following the following recommendations. By following them, you and your partner can feel comfortable:

People should not be limited in their freedom. There is no need to constantly call, write, or try to control their every step and thought. This exhausts not only your partner, but also yourself. Subsequently, this will lead to separation. Learn to trust.
Don't be stingy in thanking your loved one. Every man is pleased to do something when he hears words of gratitude for his efforts. Even if you don’t like something, don’t tell the person about it directly. You risk making him stop trying for you. Let's say a guy tried to make you breakfast in bed. The food is slightly burnt, you can feel it. It’s better to tell him that he did a great job and made you very happy. Offer to make breakfast with him next time. In this way, you will teach him to cook well, and he will continue to desire to please you with such attention. But by making a remark about a burnt breakfast, you will deprive yourself of pleasant attention from a man. He will no longer take the initiative to bring coffee to bed and will not want to cook anything for you at all.
Avoid monotony. Always change your image, your date places. Whatever you can change, change it. This is necessary so that neither you nor your partner gets bored.

What is most important in a relationship: 10 fundamental qualities

How to get rid of bad luck and failures with the help of a Slavic conspiracy

You can get rid of failures using other methods. This ritual is recommended to be performed only on Saturday evening. Try to make sure that no one distracts you during it. Go to the shower and, standing under the ice-cold water, say: “Forget me.” Then make the water a little warmer and again, standing in the shower, say: “Away with me!” The next time, increasing the temperature, say: “Keep me out of here!” And the last time, under the hottest water possible, you need to say: “Keep away from me, get out of here!” Wash away from my life with water!” Without drying yourself with a towel, immediately go to the mirror, throw an unnecessary rag on the floor and, standing on it, say:

“As water flows and drips from me, so do adversity leave me. I admire myself in the reflection and utter magic words. May there be happiness and good luck in my life. I’m leaving all the idle rumors behind me, opening a new life.”

Once dry, hide it in a bag, and late at night take it as far from the house as possible or hide it in the ground.