History and mythology know many women who are capable of attracting the attention of gentlemen to themselves and maintaining it for a long time. Cleopatra, Marilyn Monroe, mythical sirens - they all mastered this art to perfection. Yes, of course, they were good-looking, but beauty is not the main thing in this matter. The trump card in a girl’s hand is knowledge of male psychology and the ability to apply methods that respond to the need for how to seduce and lure a man. I will talk about these techniques in this article.
What is the difference between seduction and seduction
To seduce means to use a special method of persuasion based on male weaknesses: pride, love of flattery. Thus, the young lady is trying to get from her chosen one those actions that he would hardly have performed under other conditions.
Imagine the situation: a lady liked a gentleman who loves football. He is so involved in his hobby that he does not notice the woman. And then she will have to use all her charm and feminine cunning to get her lover and attract his attention.
In the case of seduction, things are more complicated. The girl is faced with the task of convincing her companion that she can even contrast with his life views. The most typical situation: falling in love with a confirmed bachelor. And how can we force him to change his principles?
Why can a guy ignore your actions and how to understand that the reason is in him?
It seems that the right moment has already arrived, you are hinting in every possible way to your loved one about sex, but on his part you are met only with coldness and indifference? It may not be just your mistakes. There are several common reasons why even the most skillful hints may not excite a guy .
- A man simply doesn’t want sex, or rather, he’s even ready to resist
If a person does not respond to your hints, this does not mean that he does not notice them. Perhaps some principles are preventing him now, or maybe he is simply not in the mood. If a person is deeply immersed in his experiences that are far from sex, then sometimes the chance of making love with him is zero.
- Shyness
Perhaps the person is shy by nature. Often, negative sexual experiences in the past cause some constraint when making new contact, and even if the guy wants you now, his actions may not be very active.
- Your lover is a virgin
Yes, that happens too. Moreover, there are inexperienced partners at very different ages. In such a situation, the main thing is to be careful and make it clear to your loved one that he can trust you with his true face without encountering criticism and all sorts of ridicule.
Love your men and take a closer look at their characteristics and preferences, knowing how to light them up at one time or another. And remember that the key to a man's heart and other parts of the body lies through care and trust. A lover who is in deep intimacy with you will never deprive you of attention, be it emotional or physical.
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How to seduce a man for life
Female representatives are unlikely to want to waste time and energy. That's why I've prepared tips for attracting guys for a long-term relationship:
- Appearance. It has long been known that gentlemen love with their eyes. But many girls forget about this when entering into a serious relationship. Meeting their companion in old home clothes and with dirty hair, they make a big mistake. It is necessary to adhere to the rules of personal hygiene daily, update your hairstyle and apply light makeup. This will not only strengthen your connection with your chosen one, but will also raise your self-esteem and even your mood.
- Find your own scent. Perfume is important for a woman, because the right scent attracts attention and becomes a useful assistant in seduction. Try to choose a perfume that is not too sweet or bitter. Before a meeting, it is recommended to apply it to the wrists, temples and area near the neck.
- Wardrobe. To get rid of the possibility of meeting a man in just anything, you need to carefully sort through the outfits in your closet. Get rid of those that don't fit you well or look unattractive.
- Self-confidence. On a subconscious level, gentlemen feel when a young lady treats herself with disdain. And over time they begin to show the same feelings towards her. Being well-groomed gives confidence to any young lady. In addition, you should not deify your partner. An important rule on how to seduce a man is to love yourself.
- Demonstration of detachment. So, your appearance is in order, and your self-esteem is increased. Now you need to take the next step. We show interest in the gentleman, and after he begins to reciprocate, we abruptly change the strategy and begin to act coldly. At first this will cause surprise and even bewilderment, but at the same time interest will only increase.
The temptation of a man requires from the fair sex representatives knowledge of male psychology, well-groomed appearance and a pleasant aroma. Combined with optimism and flirting, this will become a powerful weapon for winning over your chosen one.
Preludes
As foreplay, geishas use a relaxing erotic massage. The main thing to remember is that there is no need to rush anywhere and you need to admire your partner’s body. First, prepare your partner for the main massage. Using circular movements, massage your temples and the back of your head. Massage his feet and hands with the scented oil. Next, pay attention to your neck and shoulders. Gently move your hands along the inner thighs and chest.
Now he is ready for the main massage. Run the edges of your palms along the spine, then massage the muscles located between the vertebrae, under the shoulder blades. Use your elbows and palms and be creative. Do the massage until you feel that the tension has left your partner's body.
You can diversify the act of foreplay with the help of dance. Geisha are famous for their ability to arouse desire with enchanting movements. Turn on soft, calm music with oriental motifs, raise your arms and sway your hips to the beat of the melody, turn your back. When undressing, remember to do it in a playful and enticing manner. Let go of one strap of your T-shirt, pretend to be embarrassed, smile. Dance until you decide that the man is sufficiently relaxed and excited. The Japanese consider kissing an important component of love, kisses should be sensual, surrender to the power of passion.
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In a female company, attention is drawn to a person who feels confident. The gentleman will notice her gestures, laughter, and facial expressions. This does not mean that you should think about how to sit more beautifully or how to more effectively walk past the gentleman you like. All this will look unnatural. You need to relax and be yourself.
But if you don’t just exchange glances with a potential partner, but already begin to communicate, overcome your anxiety. Enjoy the conversation, ask your interlocutor about his hobbies and work. If after this meeting the young man wants to see the girl again, then she did everything right.
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Is it worth arousing a guy or is he already aroused?
There are many ways to check whether your lover currently wants sexual contact. As you know, an erection is the most striking sign of male arousal, but, of course, it is not always possible to check this. Therefore, it is worth knowing about a few other, less noticeable details that will reveal your partner's secret desires.
- Physiological signs
During arousal, small changes begin to occur in the functioning of the male body - the pulse quickens, sweating increases, and a slight trembling of the hands and voice is possible. The latter, by the way, often becomes low and slightly hoarse, acquiring some velvety and playful notes.
- Sight
If a guy is lusting after you, he will literally eat your body with his eyes. In general, the state of male arousal is similar to a slight trance, which will not be difficult to catch in his eyes.
- Posture and gestures
A man burning with sexual desire will always keep his body turned towards you. Often, guys take a confident macho pose, folding their hands on their belts and slightly leaning their body forward, as if demonstrating their dignity. Although this does not always work - it all depends on the character of the person and his self-esteem. Pay attention to the position of the shoes - if a guy wants you, the toes of his shoes will definitely be directed in your direction.
A guy who wants to make love will always strive for physical contact - this will be expressed in the touch of hands, gentle hugs, especially in the area of the hips or chest.
- Talk
If a man's thoughts are occupied with your body, long pauses may occur in conversations. This means that your lover is so absorbed in fantasies about sex that he simply loses the opportunity to think about anything else.
How to fall in love with a man
During my consultation, I try to find an individual approach to each woman. I will help you make a great impression on your chosen one and tell you how to lure a guy into your network.
I have identified a few general rules:
- Tender look. Make him feel like a hero to you. During the conversation, look into his eyes. After all, studies have proven the fact that during a dialogue, lovers look at their companion 80% of the time.
- Flirting. Refined gestures and a mysterious smile are another girl’s weapon. For most representatives of the fair sex, coquetry is part of nature. But even if this is not the case, the art of seduction can be learned.
- Politeness. Stop trying to show your partner your independence mixed with majesty. This does not mean that you need to forget about dignity or your own principles. But arrogance and rudeness are unnecessary.
How the stronger sex perceives girls
I have identified several groups into which guys subconsciously classify all representatives of the fairer sex:
- She will become a wonderful wife. This conclusion is reached after observing the ability to cook food and the desire to have children.
- Girlfriend. Ideal for spending time together and having frank conversations.
- Mistress. This thought often arises when looking at a person who attracts everyone's attention.
- For communication. This is the case when the lady is not attractive in appearance, but will do as a backup option.
- Doesn't fit at all. In this situation, you should not expect interest from your chosen one.
Psychology: lessons in seducing men
If we are dealing with a real gentleman, and not an infantile young man who loves when people themselves pursue him, then accuracy is important. You need to act secretly so that he does not guess your intentions. After all, the psychological type of “hunter” does not like it when the “prey” runs to him.
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Comments:
- 18.10.2017
Kate:
A very useful article that reveals many aspects that a woman needs to do. Personally, in order to please my man, I can first bring him almost to hysterics until he starts banging his fists on the wall, and then I play the role of sweet and caring. Then he gave me such passion... I like this method very much, because I first get moral pleasure when I achieve it, and then physical pleasure. And he doesn't complain.
- 19.10.2017
Olesya:
There were certain problems with this, but I managed to solve them with your help. Thank you so much, I finally started to enjoy myself and my man is happy.
- 23.10.2017
Mila:
I also really liked it, everything was written correctly and in a rather funny way. And when I read about borscht in bed, I thought I would burst with laughter when I imagined this picture. And I would add that even if a lady has experience in bed, she should not show it in its full beauty right away. Since a young man may think that before him you had more than a dozen partners.
- 25.10.2017
Lisa:
I remember being so nervous before the first time with my husband, since it was my first time. I read a bunch of “what and why” articles, stressed myself out, and in the end I couldn’t relax. I really regret that then I didn’t come across the same article, which was pleasant to read and there was something to learn for myself here. Thank you.
- 06.11.2017
Rita:
I can say one thing, so as not to scare off the guy, you shouldn’t go to bed with him right away and you shouldn’t be an eternally unapproachable maiden either. Well, if you do end up together, you shouldn’t control him during caresses, you need to slightly push and guide him, otherwise he might think that you have experience with a carriage and a small cart. Well, yes, you definitely shouldn’t scratch your back, otherwise you won’t want to do it a second time))).
06.11.2017
Yuri:
It may be slightly scratched. Some men (I won’t modestly point fingers at myself) like this.
- 02.12.2017
Irina:
I agree with you, you will immediately lie down and think that you are flighty. You need to go quietly and not show all the little things in bed at once. Then he himself will want to guide you, because he is a man. And you can scratch your back a little and meow, this really turns them on.
Elena Frolova:
There are simply a billion ways to please a man in bed, but not every method suits everyone, since it is in such situations that an individual approach is very important, and therefore there is no universal way to please a man in bed. I believe that you need to explore all the options, carefully analyze and try your best, and if you fail, don’t stop there, but continue to fight for your happiness.
Olga:
Personally, I perceive sex as a special intimacy with a loved one. It is at this time that he is ready to show maximum affection and tenderness. Why not accept them? The most that men dream of during sex is to please their partner and give her pleasure. If you really enjoy being in the same bed with him, why not show him that? Moaning, caresses, hugs and everything else, what is enough for your imagination?
Sveta:
My man, for example, really doesn’t like it when he scratches with his nails) So it’s not clear why many women think that this is a turn-on. The most important thing is to relax and feel confident and relaxed. At this moment there should be no thoughts in your head. And you shouldn’t be afraid to try new things, of course, if this is not a one-night stand, but your chosen one for life.
- 08.01.2018
Alyona:
It’s rightly noted about thoughts, you get a little distracted by something and then it’s difficult to enter the process again.
Nika:
To impress a man in bed, you need to be yourself. A man is a male, he himself begins active actions and through body language (arching your back, guiding his hand, biting lightly) let him know what you like. And when the girl is “turned on”, then there is no need to pretend, everything will go like clockwork. Well, mark those most sensitive points to which your partner actively reacts.
Anna:
Men are driven crazy by beautiful lingerie, so this issue needs to be addressed first. The assortment is now incredibly large, so there shouldn’t be any problems with choosing. I don’t agree that you don’t need to ask your boyfriend anything, maybe he has some desires or preferences, but it’s better to do this after the first intimacy.
Svetlana:
You are absolutely right about beautiful lingerie. I lived with my husband for three years and only now found out that he would really like to see me in stockings. Therefore, without hesitation, I bought myself the sexiest set of underwear with stockings. The effect was simply super.
Elena:
In bed you need to be natural and relaxed, not ashamed of your body, even if it has flaws.
Elena:
Loving a guy. Love sex. It's simple!) Moreover, the first point is mandatory, since it is your loved one who wants to give pleasure, and not just receive it herself.
How to interest a stranger
The art of seduction and the secrets of seducing men is a complex mechanism, but psychological techniques will help to attract a gentleman from the first meeting. It is important to learn how to use little tricks correctly, otherwise there is a risk of appearing funny in front of a stranger.
Don't persistently look at the guy. Give a fleeting signal with your eyes: “I like you,” so that he comes over to meet you.
If a conversation starts, watch your own speech. Avoid swear words and speech errors. This will only worsen the first impression.
What kind of women do the stronger sex like?
A powerful weapon in the hands of a person is sexuality. There is a certain type of lady, when they appear, men turn around and instantly come to life. And you don’t have to be divinely beautiful for this.
Remember: gentlemen love well-groomed young ladies. But here it is necessary to make a reservation: grooming is not a ton of cosmetics on the face, it is a neat appearance, hair and nails, not too revealing clothes, light makeup that emphasizes advantages and hides flaws.
Also, don't underestimate the power of self-confidence. A woman can be quite attractive, but being reserved is hardly seductive, and guys will most likely pass her by.
Woman's behavior: how to make him attracted to you
Gentlemen appreciate the feeling of comfort that comes from being with their beloved. But this does not mean that you need to constantly show care. There is a fine line between tenderness and bitchiness. And when you realize that your partner’s interest has begun to fade, pull back a little to capture his attention again.
Flattery is another way to keep a guy. But you should not use lies, otherwise the words will seem rude. It’s better not to miss the opportunity to give your gentleman a compliment. And then he will also want to please you.
Trust your chosen one. After all, surveillance and suspicion will not lead to anything good. Give him more freedom, and if he really loves and appreciates you, he won't go anywhere anyway.
What kind of women men don't like?
Researchers have identified several feminine qualities that repel the stronger sex:
- Wants his partner to make decisions. Many gentlemen believe that problems in relationships should be solved together.
- Excessive control. Some ladies track every step of their lovers, which does not suit the latter. Every person needs personal space, otherwise the relationship will quickly come to an end.
- Turns into a slave of the family. Wives like to forbid their husbands from seeing their friends or engaging in their favorite hobbies. They believe that after marriage the spouse should devote all his time to the family circle. This opinion is also wrong.
Seven ways of seduction
The secrets of flirting and the technique of seducing men is a rather multifaceted matter. But there are several fail-safe methods:
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- Well maintained view. Bright makeup and a huge amount of cosmetics scare off gentlemen, as does too rich perfume. Nevertheless, a girl should take care of herself, not on weekends and holidays, but every day.
- High level of intelligence. The stronger sex appreciates smart beauties. Such persons know how to support any topic of conversation and can give good advice. But at the same time they will not show their superiority, but will remain at the level of the chosen one.
- Dignity. Pride and self-confidence will help you avoid the humiliating sight of seducing a guy.
- Touching. This is quite a powerful tool that breaks down inhibitions and strengthens relationships.
- "Mirroring". An effective method to seduce a gentleman is to adopt his manners and favorite “phrases.” But it is important to do this unnoticed.
- Frankness. Challenge your partner to have an open conversation about his memories, past actions, or experiences. Feeling the empathy coming from you, your partner will feel gratitude and become even closer to you.
- Gestures. While talking, twirl your hair or play with your shoe on the tips of your toes. Non-verbal language will be a sign of interest to the interlocutor.
Words and caresses
If your loved one is in no hurry to get into bed, then you should try to arouse him with words. You can have a rich vocabulary and know your partner’s preferences, but still experience some discomfort when whispering various phrases in his ear.
The point here is not only timidity, but also within certain limits. But the main thing in sex is the absence of restrictions, you need to turn on your imagination and resort to its help.
Words and phrases are selected individually, much depends on the gentleman’s receptivity. But to achieve the best result, you need to supplement your words with affection.
Caresses are a broad concept that can include touching with hands, feet, kisses and other elements of love play. Oral contact is also classified as caresses, as is intimate massage.
If a decision has been made to have a comprehensive impact on your lover, then you can combine caresses, kisses, stroking with words. This will allow a man to reach the peak of arousal faster.
If all of the above methods do not work, then you should think about using a pathogen. Aphrodisiacs, lubricants, tablets and creams act as such means. But it is better to coordinate their use with your partner - this will help avoid awkward situations.
How to seduce your ex-lover
You can return to your old relationship unobtrusively and quite quickly. I advise inviting your partner to visit under the pretext of asking for help: fixing a faucet or screwing in a light bulb. And before his arrival, carefully prepare for the date: set the table, get a bottle of wine and dress up.
But you shouldn't pay too much attention to a man. After he begins to show reciprocal interest, distance yourself from him. But moderation is also important here, since excessive coldness can ruin the whole thing.
Is it dangerous to use all sorts of vulgarities for your own purpose? And if it’s dangerous, then in what way?
Here everything, again, depends on the person himself. An adult and self-confident man will not be scared off by vulgar hints, but for a young and inexperienced guy such signs can only cause bad impressions about you and your morality.
Therefore, before showing your desire for sexual contact, you should take a closer look at your partner as a person. Also understand that various kinds of vulgarity and provocations are unlikely to be appropriate at the early stage of your relationship.
