Indifference in relationships. Never take steps towards intimacy in response to indifference.

A man and a woman are connected by mutual attraction, common interests, and interest in each other. A woman by nature is called to surround the one she loves with care and attention. Where does a woman’s indifference in a relationship come from and why does a loving, caring, attentive girl become indifferent?

Nothing destroys a relationship more than an indifferent, indifferent attitude towards a partner. It is wrong to think that men are “thick-skinned” creatures and therefore do not suffer from female indifference.

Indifference in relationships. Never take steps towards intimacy in response to indifference.

I’ll leave the tamers of the obstinate with their house-building for a while and ask the women.
Women, do you want to know the simple secret to building successful relationships? It is in vain that some people think that there is no such secret, that there are no universal and simple recipes. In some places it doesn’t happen, but here it does. And it has been known since ancient times. The secret couldn’t be simpler: never take steps towards intimacy in response to a man’s indifference or aggression. Women, do you want to know the simple secret to building successful relationships?

It is also good to always encourage any right thing a man does. But the main thing is the first. Never, under any circumstances, break this rule from the very beginning. From the very beginning of a relationship, this is very important, because if you never follow this rule and suddenly start abruptly, the effect may be the opposite. I'll tell you which one later. But if from the very beginning you consistently and clearly build a field of relationships in which it will be possible to receive love and intimacy from you only by giving you the same love and intimacy, and nothing else, in which every step back of your partner will lead to a decrease in your interest, It will be almost impossible to get you into a relationship with an imbalance. There will always be a person with you who values you, and everyone who does not value you will not have access to you. It seems that this rule is not only logical, but also simple. Why take a step towards intimacy with someone who is indifferent or aggressive? Isn't this the healthiest reaction - to pull your hand away from the cold or fire? Isn’t it mutual warmth and mutual pleasure that pushes people closer together? Unfortunately, this is only true for holistic and mature people. Immature people are so fragmented and contradictory from within that they require unimaginable strength to comply with this rule. And in order to understand where to apply it, a round table.

Pierre Janet was the first to write about the internal fragmentation of the psyche and personality. This is a brilliant psychologist who worked before Freud and even before Breuer, the author of the concept of “Interiorization”, on which the entire theory of unconscious processes and almost the entire psychology of the 20th century is built. Pierre Janet is less known than those who made full use of his discoveries, since he stepped far forward and wrote a lot of paradoxical things. In his books, he described various mental phenomena and his “Energy System”, in fact, quite accurately explains many phenomena that are still considered mysteries. Janet studied women somnambulists and hysterics to understand the mechanism of mental automatism. Janet’s main conclusion: a healthy psyche is distinguished by great plasticity and at the same time integrity, the processes in it are coordinated and at the same time have great flexibility, so a person with such a psyche is practically not suggestible.

An unhealthy psyche, “Weak” as Janet called it, is inconsistent, fragmented, each part acts on its own, but in order to maintain at least some constancy, plasticity is impaired, ideas are fixed, many become obsessive. In addition to cases of obvious pathology, when the fragmentation and fixity of the psyche is great, there are also possible cases of normal underdevelopment, which occurs at a young age, and therefore young people are contradictory, suggestible, prone to go to extremes and become infected with affect.

All I am trying to talk about is that with a lack of personality development, a person behaves childishly, but, being deprived of youthful advantages, he suffers more. It also causes suffering to loved ones.

For a person to feel normal, she needs at least a minimum of personal support, which she can feel as her own and independently support. An unformed personality needs a minimum of external resources and supports that to feel its existence and security, a formed personality for a long time can make do only with internal ones. An unformed personality quickly collapses under extreme conditions, is easily influenced, quickly becomes infected with ideas, and immediately surrenders “Itself.”

A formed personality can resist and survive for quite a long time without any external support. Its reserves are limited, but they can last for a very long time, depending on the strength of personality integration and the power of the inner core. But this is a lyrical digression. The point is that if a personality is not fully formed, and even deprived of external supports, it turns into what Janet wrote about: a fragmented, contradictory, disorganized being, incapable of self-control. Only if no one takes control of such a person does she remain in the chaos of feelings, ideas, and emotions. She is sometimes bored, sometimes anxious, sometimes carried away somewhere, she submits to almost any external movement, and it is difficult for her to resist, since her personality is fragmented and no part of it outweighs.

Either the department responsible for the sense of duty is turned on, then the department responsible for pleasure, then the department involved in planning, then the department that protects from stress. Therefore, such a person sometimes doesn’t care about everything, sometimes something worries him very much, sometimes he wants to break away and fly, sometimes, on the contrary, he behaves strictly according to the rules, sometimes he likes to be promiscuous, sometimes such hints are disgusting. It would not be an exaggeration to say that such a person is looking for a “Master”. Of course, she is not constantly searching, this would mean the unity of her goals, but her goals change, but in fact there are no goals at all. But in moments of fatigue from one’s toil, anxiety, the chaotic nature of the world or boredom and monotony, in a word, in moments of realizing one’s inability to cope with managing one’s life, such a person really wants to find someone to whom one could entrust oneself.

After such an extensive digression, it should be clear why a woman, especially a young woman or who has just emerged from a symbiosis (parental or marital) or who simply failed to grow up or is experiencing a personal crisis and internal breakdown, cannot build relationships consistently. A simple recipe is too complicated for her, she wants one thing, then another, and most importantly, she cannot restrain any emotions, and a variety of emotions arise in her. In response to rudeness, a passionate desire for intimacy may arise in order to relieve stress right away, and in response to affection, boredom and an unbearable need to be sarcastic may suddenly begin. Guilt replaces aggression and vice versa.

She literally “cannot control herself”, behaves stupidly and destructively, instead of being reasonable, confident, correct, and thereby attractive to equally reasonable, confident and correct people. No. She is scattered, disheveled, torn in the energetic and emotional sense. It ignites, then cools, fills with energy and is de-energized at the same time. The number of holes in her psychic field is incalculable, and as soon as one closes, a new one appears.

Sometimes this is noticeable externally, but almost always in behavior and speech. That is why reasonable, confident and correct people avoid her. Those who feel her weakness and chaos inside stick to her. She is like a flower that exudes nectar that is too sweet or even too poisonous for people who are looking for healthy relationships and mutual love. But people who have the same chaos inside are drawn to it because they see their own in it or they have a certain core, but a very specific one, more like the trunk of a bumblebee, and they fly to this flower to collect honey. However, this is not honey, and the flying ones are not bumblebees, and the poor thing is not a flower. Therefore, the little vampire’s paws stick, he becomes furious, and tears it off along with the petals.

And sometimes he finds a way to drink nectar without getting stuck, but since it is more likely poison or alcohol, he quickly goes into a drunken frenzy. Or another scenario: a predatory flower slams its petals and begins to eat the brain of such an insect. In general, there are many stories, they are fascinating and all about passionate and painful relationships that beautifully or uglyly destroy both. It’s true that most bitches (albeit not all) are secretly or openly looking for a “Tamer”, so they unleash all their chaos on any man they like, hoping that he will somehow organize it or go to hell. Unfortunately, they are often dragged to hell too. There are two most popular interpretations of the phenomenon of “Bitchiness”, conventionally male and conventionally female. Male: a selfish woman spoiled by her parents, who is easier to abandon than to correct, but if everything is not very bad, such a woman will be cured by love and respect for a man, she will give up her selfishness and become a good wife. Female: bitch - a woman disappointed in men, forced to behave this way for self-defense or out of revenge, is treated with love, tenderness and tact of a loving man. As we can see, the two interpretations offer opposite models of behavior for the bitch's partner. The masculine urges to set conditions harshly and if the conditions are not met, to leave, because “That means he doesn’t love you.” The female one calls, on the contrary, to long and persistently gain the trust of the bitch, enduring all her quirks and shocks in order to gradually “Melt the Icy Heart.” In fact, both models work poorly. And both are good under certain conditions. The first model works when a man’s conditions are not strict, but clear, but very fair, he is consistent, he is decent himself, he is interesting to a woman, he does not obey her, but does not offend her either. In order to organize a more chaotic and contradictory partner and build the right field of relationships, it is very, that is, extremely important not to offend him or deceive him. You need to take care of yourself and be very tactful, not to be fooled by provocations. In response to his rudeness, it is better to politely say goodbye, thereby allowing him to realize his behavior and feel guilty. Only if a person himself constantly violates boundaries, attacks and behaves tactlessly, is it impossible to figure out where he is to blame and where the other is, which means it is impossible to build a field. In this case, the more chaotic partner will easily drag the second into chaos, and the second will be amazed at his own madness. To have a normal relationship, it is better to communicate with a more organized (as a person) person, more stable and mature than yourself. And if your partner is less organized, you need to watch yourself very carefully and be doubly stable. Such a fair, but firm and consistent position really has a chance to charm the bitch and force her to recognize in the man the one to whom she wants to entrust leadership: a reliable, fair, strong man. But is it really good to give leadership over yourself to someone, even the kindest one? Of course not. However, this may be better than driving yourself and those around you crazy by ruining your life. The latter, in general, is the same subordination, only not to one, but to everyone in a row, chaotically and unsystematically, whoever turns up. It is best to take your personality into your own hands, at least gradually. And sometimes a partner can help with this if he does not use the leadership given to him over himself, but gradually returns it to where it should be. But more on this important point later. For now, let’s focus on the fact that such a model can work and create something like a harmonious couple. But for this, the man must show himself to be a very worthy person (who can be completely trusted), and the woman must turn out to be not so much a bitch, but rather an unbalanced, contradictory, emotionally unstable person who is trying to get rid of it. A real bitch learned to live in her chaos and somehow coexist with her own demons by giving them shares. That’s why she won’t come under human power so easily. But more on that later. The female model of taming a bitch (this is “Love, Endure, Win Trust”) is very criticized by men and considered a trap. No one wants to love, endure, conquer, and end up being used, and even humiliated. From such a picture, any man would be better off becoming a monk if all women turn into bitches, but for now just look for flexible women. Men don't see the logic in showing women their weakness when they expect them to be strong. However, under certain conditions, the female model also works. And it increases masculine strength in a woman’s eyes. If a man manages to maintain a sense of self-worth, not to humiliate himself and show only one weakness - love, and in everything else - strength, he can well afford to “Conquer a Woman”. At a certain moment, having shown his love enough, he can make it clear that his hopes have been exhausted, relationships without reciprocity no longer interest him, and most “Bitches” will not be able to let such a man go and will run after him, willing to get rid of his bitchy behavior. In principle, these are all descriptions of the same thing as in the male model, just from the other side. If you use the models straightforwardly, they do not work at all. “Hardly bending” a bitch means being sent away immediately or accepted and vindictively humiliated a little later. “Winning Trust” by humiliating yourself means losing not only her respect, but also your own. In a word, any models are nonsense, only internal harmony and your own core matter. The main thing to pay attention to is that effective behavior in both models is, in fact, the behavior of a very mature and internally stable person. Immature and unstable, both models will be overused and cause problems. His emotions will always drown out and blind him, because the bitch has an amazing ability to explode his brain. In any model, the partner will behave exactly as an extremely hysterical and unstable girl behaves: tell her to go to hell, then ask for forgiveness, then disappear, then demand something, then change her plans again. This is the best way to resist a partner who has a desire for a normal relationship. But a partner with the same chaos inside may like it. Another question is where these souls will end up together.

Incredibly, a mature person is able to pull an insufficiently mature partner into a relationship that will help him mature. Women, do you want to know the simple secret to building successful relationships? These are relationships with a high degree of trust, but also with the preservation of boundaries, with great warmth, but a balance of contributions, with shared responsibility for the common space, but with personal obligations, with saturation with the energy of the outside world, without symbiotic stuffiness, but also without the coldness of distanced relationships. A person who does not want to develop will not be able to endure such relationships and will fly out of them at an early stage, but a person who strives for development and is ready for it will find such relationships beneficial. For those rejected into chaos, there are a huge number of people like them, ready to dance with them around witches’ fires, drink each other’s tears and blood and practice love magic. Marina Komissarova.

The problem of people's indifference is arguments. Recommendations.

Go the distance. But the trick here is to withstand it. Artificially show lack of interest. Do not write, do not call, do not follow your betrothed. Those who can withstand at least a couple of days are already able to achieve success.
Distance yourself.
The problem of human indifference, the arguments are very extensive. The main thing is not to show emotions.
Observe but do nothing.
Use the epistolary genre to describe your own state. Subsequently, it is worth sending your emotions to him, the only one to whom they were intended. If there is no reaction, then you need to forget the man of your dreams.
Master various sexual techniques, including wumbling, and actively apply this in practice.
Develop your femininity. Read an article on this topic at the link ''Woman's femininity. “A man seeks his pleasure in a woman” (I.M. Sechenov). Protecting men." https://chudo-udo.com/poleznye-sovety/item/2832-zhenstvennost-zhenshchiny-muzhchina-ishchet-v-zhenshchine-svojo-naslazhdenie-im-sechenov-zashchita-muzhchin
Lose weight to the extent that you personally feel your inner self-confidence. A few extra pounds are not good for anyone. An enlarged face shape does not give us women self-confidence.
Get active in fitness.
Walk only in heels. They help you feel confident. And any confidence will be reflected in your inner state.
Always be in great shape. Take active care of yourself.
Think positively.
Tell jokes. Be witty and cheerful, not stressful, easy.
Don't accumulate resentment. Don't remember. Live ''here and now''.
Pamper yourself.
Don't worry, but worry.
The woman who acts with affection always wins, against indifference and indifference .
Try to liberate yourself enough to be the person he dreams of.
Achieve certain results in your own career growth. To ensure that you are proud of yourself, and he is proud of you automatically.
Look at him furtively.
Change your behavior tactics.
Constantly be different from a quiet sheep, to funny or bitchy.
Improve your appearance with the help of beauty salons.
Dress stylishly.
Cook delicious dishes.
Don't strain.
Try to cope with difficulties on your own, without involving him again or teasing him.
Give the opportunity to rest.
Master massage techniques.
Organize a joint trip to another country.
Change the situation.
Come unexpectedly when he is not expecting. You can show up for work and be disarmed by your appearance.
Tempt.
Have a child from him. After all, the best gift that a woman can give to a man is his heir.
Seek harmony in nature. Be creative. Create. Dream. Comprehend the basics of the universe.

Try to understand your true feelings for this man. What's this? Love? Addiction? Fear of loneliness? Hysterics? Or do you have a special need for this particular person? Understand the course of your thoughts and desires.

How to become indifferent to a man. Psychology of relationships

To become indifferent means to extinguish all feelings for him.
If you just wait for the feelings to go away on their own, you will have to wait a long time. If this is your man and he offended you - one thing, if unrequited feelings for a man - another, but in principle.

You need to pull yourself together, make an effort and decide that your decision to end things with this man is final and irrevocable.

Because if there are doubts about whether to cool down on him or not, little will happen.

Then we remember all the nasty and unfair words towards you, his bad deeds, lack of understanding of you.

I think that there should be enough points on such a list, because no one is perfect.

When you draw his negative psychological portrait, then ask yourself the question: do I need such a person? What will communication with such a person give me?

If this is your man who offended you, then imagine that he will accompany you in life with his negativity.

If a man does not respond to your feelings or does not know about them, then you can try and get his attention. And don’t give up right away. But this is the case if the man is single and lonely. If he is married or has a girlfriend, then you need to understand that you are simply wasting your time with him and missing out on a new meeting.

It all depends on your willpower and determination.

Why does a woman become indifferent?

Lately, you’ve been saying the same phrase more and more often: “I don’t care.” You answer a question with a question, withdraw into yourself, and don’t want to listen to his explanations anymore. What effect does your apathy have on your beloved man, and will he save you from this state?

And what is hidden under the mask of your indifference: a cry from the heart, an unwillingness to adapt, a work trick or ordinary female manipulation?

Cry from the heart

You are trying in every way to reach him, explain, prove and resolve the conflict. But, alas, the beloved does not want to give in. Therefore, exhausted from your useless quarrels, you put on an imaginary mask of indifference.

Result. The man is wary, but does not understand why you have become distant and cold towards him. He tries to ask for forgiveness, to look for a way out of the situation, but you constantly tell him that you don’t care. A man decides that you have stopped loving him, or that he has a rival. Your mask of indifference was not received as expected.

Solution. Explain to your partner that you want to be heard. After all, your apathy is a call for help, and not a fading of feelings for him. This is an intuitive defense, with the help of which you manage to calm down for a while, and at the same time give him time to analyze the situation, to which neither of you is actually indifferent.

Frank conversation can lead to “healthy” results.

Device

You are used to intensifying apathy during “debriefing”. And he, in turn, is satisfied with your condition. After all, instead of violent outbursts of anger and reproaches, the corners of your mouth familiarly droop, and you again huddle in the cocoon of your friend-apathy.

Result. By adapting to what makes you protest, you endanger not only your physical but also your psychological health.

Do you know that hidden grievances that are “nurtured” for a long time in your indifference can transform into dangerous diseases? For example, stomach ulcers often arise due to the accumulation of grievances, and frigidity - from prohibitions to free one’s aggressive nature.

Solution. “Cry and you will feel better,” says popular wisdom. Indeed, it is better to openly throw out your grievances, free yourself from the invisible burden of anger and let go of apathy with a pure heart. After all, it is much safer to actively defend your point of view than to simply adapt to the indifferent flow of life.

Manipulation

Are you tired of sorting things out, making trouble and proving your point of view? Having tried all the temperamental “Italian” methods, you still haven’t achieved the desired mutual understanding? Well, it’s easier to go underground, choose a contrasting and simplest approach that doesn’t require much effort - pretend to be indifferent to everything that’s happening! And quietly observe what comes of it...

Result. Of course, a man who is used to seeing an emotional woman next to him, who gets turned on with a half-turn, will be surprised by your sudden indifference. He will try to find out the reasons for your new look.

And he will give in until he is convinced that your apathy is just another manipulation to achieve a goal. In the future, he will stop paying attention to your indifference, having learned that apathy is a temporary female state.

It does not require intervention and passes like a sudden light storm that leaves no visible consequences.

Solution. The image of indifference is not the best way to be heard and achieve mutual understanding, because it is somewhat selfish. How to deal with male egoism, if it is inherent in you to no less extent?

Try to hear your lover during a conversation, even if it happens in a raised voice. Don’t listen to your own dissatisfaction, but rather throw it out during a quarrel. Don't manipulate your partner, but openly ask to be listened to. And then you don’t need to resort to the well-known feminine trick in the form of manipulation.

“Work” apathy

This type of apathy successfully coexists in the image of a careerist. After all, an obvious attack is considered an impermissible and too blatant method of achieving goals. Apathy is absolutely safe.

You may not respond to the words of employees who ask you to turn your phone on vibrate or ignore your boss’s comments.

In reality, you are so irritated by the behavior of your colleagues with their eternal demands that you remain indifferent to their wishes and requests.

Result. By such behavior you can cause a collective protest. After all, obvious indifference is worse than any remark and is perceived by others as an offensive attitude. Soon they may resist such an attitude, ceasing to pay attention to you, answering your questions through gritted teeth and in every possible way setting you up in the eyes of management.

Solution. Do your colleagues irritate you, and only by putting on a mask of apathy do you hold back negative emotions towards them? Find a new job or at least take a vacation!

And best of all, understand yourself! Perhaps what irritates you in other people, you don’t want to see in yourself? Don't hide in your apathy, it will not become your indispensable assistant.

You shouldn’t joke with your imaginary indifference; it’s better to tell the truth about what you think and feel. After all, the peculiarity of female apathy is that it very quickly develops into depression. Therefore, it is better to understand its causes rather than treat the consequences.

Source: //lady.tut.by/news/relationship/415169.html

Indifference in relationships

A man and a woman are polarities, between which there is a constant spark, so indifference in the psychology of a man’s relationship with a woman is essentially impossible. Yin and Yang, active and passive, obvious and hidden, logic and intuition, restraint and passion - between these opposite poles there is always tension, an energetic current. It can be different in appearance - a man next to a woman can feel a surge of energy and strength, or vice versa, the relationship drains both.

It all depends on the goal. If a woman intends to use a man for physical and material pleasures, his potential will quickly dry up without receiving anything in return. If she strives to fill her chosen one with care, attention and love, a man is unlikely to leave such a cozy space, of course, if he has not completely sunk and does not care about anything other than satisfying animal instincts.

Indifference in the psychology of relationships is common. Both women and men can be indifferent. Although, in truth, the stronger sex is more guilty of this. Why? A man is a player by nature, a passionate nature. Therefore, his interest should be constantly warmed up. For a man’s attention there should always be a point of application - and this “point” is in a woman - something that awakens in him excitement and a desire to get to know you further!

The man shows indifference. Causes

Perhaps his thoughts are occupied with another girl. Even a passing crush can cause a man to focus on a new object of affection. In this case, he may lose interest in his former girlfriend.
Sometimes girls show excessive dependence on their lover. This is mistake. In this case, the man ceases to perceive the girl as his “prey” and loses interest in conquering her. In addition, excessive affection always causes a repulsive effect.
Indifference may appear as a result of too serious intentions on the part of the girl. Men are more inert regarding creating a family and lasting relationships; they take such decisions longer than girls. Too certain family prospects can be intimidating from the very beginning.
Many men are put off by girls' excessive emotionality, tendency to aggression, conflicts and hysterics. If your chosen one is not ready for such a temperamental, exhausting relationship, perhaps indifference will appear as a defensive reaction from unpleasant experiences.
Indifference can appear as a result of long-term monotonous relationships. The daily routine, lack of creativity and play in life contribute to the fact that feelings become dull and over time can completely cool down.
A state of lack of interest in girls can appear after a negative past experience. Even unsuccessful relationships twice in succession can lead a man to the conclusion that relationships are not for him at all. He may begin to act as if girls are not interested in him at all.
A man may be absorbed in other matters; serious matters or problems may temporarily push the girl into the background. As a rule, in everyday worries there is always a moment for the girl you love, but if things are truly urgent, this can temporarily occupy all the man’s attention.

Women's indifference to a man as a test

It's no secret that women's logic, if it exists, of course, is something supernatural. Sometimes, a woman herself cannot explain to herself the purpose of a particular action or intention. The fact is that their subconscious can play a cruel joke on both men and women.

This can be explained as follows - if we can very confidently control our consciousness and sort all our beliefs according to certain principles, then this will not work with the subconscious. It periodically reminds itself of itself through the manifestation of certain unconscious actions.

This fact is directly related to relationships with men. It happens that a woman feels mutual attraction to a male representative, notices mutual interest, but here a number of obstacles arise on guard, expressed in doubts:

It would seem, why is this psychological analysis needed and what does it give if the relationship does not promise to be long-lasting?! The fact is that every person is naturally programmed to create a couple.

To continue procreation, as paradoxical as it may sound, a woman needs a self-confident male who is capable of making responsible decisions and caring for his loved ones. Based on this, a woman resorts to this kind of trick in order to make sure that her choice is correct.

If a woman is indifferent to a man

A complete collection of materials on the topic: if a woman is indifferent to a man from specialists in their field.

In relationships between a woman and a man, it happens that a woman is indifferent to a man, but she does not notice this, considering it a temporary phenomenon. Nevertheless, the situation does not change and at some point the relationship is simply interrupted on the initiative of the man.

Why does this happen and how to identify a young man’s indifference towards himself in the early stages of relationship development? Let's figure it out.

Exciting SWEET MEET coffee will help you attract a man to you! Inexpensive and effective!

So, let's start with the fact that every man needs sexual release, which is why he tries to find a suitable partner for himself. Moreover, he does this initially from animal motives, so to speak, and only then, if the woman is good in this regard, he begins to take a closer look at her and look for other important features.

However, it also happens differently. For example, a young man, looking for a partner suitable to all his standards, does not find one, but the sexual energy of dissatisfaction still seeks its outlet.

Then the man becomes close to the woman who does not meet his standards, but is more or less suitable for temporary pleasures. And he actively uses this, but sometimes the woman doesn’t even know about it.

It goes something like this. A woman, trying to please her boyfriend, indulges him in every possible way, giving him gifts, smiles and affection. He behaves neutrally, modest thanks and nothing in response. Having met and received what he needed, he again disappears without a trace, does not call, is not interested and does not show any attempts to develop further prospects in the relationship.

Naturally, on the one hand, such an attitude upsets a woman, and she, being in love with a young man, herself finds thousands of excuses for him as to why this is happening. But the situation does not change over time and everything is repeated again and again, although it seems that there are all the prerequisites for creating a normal family and the woman has all the necessary qualities of a good wife.

The whole reason is that no matter how good this woman is, she does not have what this guy needs, something that he is looking for in his future ideal wife. Moreover, this can be anything, from bust and height, to lifestyle and individual principles.

It must be said right away that there is no need to remake and forcibly marry such guys, nothing good will come of this except disappointment and final divorce. Therefore, pay attention to all the little things at once.

More articles: Husband is a tyrant, advice from a psychologist

Namely:

-If a person does not call you, citing being busy, this means that he has plenty of time for other things, and you do not fit into his plans.

-If you give a man gifts, and he perceives them coldly and without enthusiasm, then he doesn’t need either you or your gifts, stop spending money on him, he won’t appreciate it anyway, and you will be terribly offended.

-If he allows you to discuss his past love affairs with friends in front of you, then this also does not speak in your favor, he does not love or respect you, he uses you.

-If he refuses to be alone with you, without bed games, then he only needs this, and not everything that you want.

-If he avoids meeting his relatives or switches the topic to another, it means that his plans do not include the continuation of your relationship and it is temporary.

-If a young man does not react to any of your grievances and continues to repeat them, then he is indifferent to you.

-If he flirts and makes advances with other girls or women in front of you, it means that he is not averse to exchanging you for them.

-If he doesn’t share his experiences, fears, and actions with you, it means there is no proper psychological intimacy between you.

-If a man openly refers to you as a friend, then for him you are just a friend, nothing more.

-If he doesn’t respond to your complaints, saying that everything is nonsense, and tries to blame everything on you. He is ready to put the responsibility for your relationship on you, and when it is convenient for him, he will break it off, blaming you again.

1. His hands want you For every man, the female body is an object of admiration. And if a man wants you, then first of all he will experience an irresistible desire to touch you. It is very easy to distinguish simple, friendly touches from those that carry sexual overtones.

It is also worth knowing the places to which men's hands are drawn. This place is slightly below the waist (a well-mannered man is unlikely to grab your buttocks, although he will certainly have such a desire), hair and neck, face, wrists, hips, knees, legs.

More articles: To prevent your husband from cheating?

Also, men are always very aroused by the smell of women. Therefore, you will be able to notice that a man is trying to smell you - say something in your ear, while inhaling the smell of your hair, kiss you, inhale the aroma of perfume.

2. He looks in a special way If a man looks at your lips, neck, chest, legs during a conversation, it is obvious that he wants you. Moreover, such views are most often not intentional.

And this is especially noticeable if you are on the sidelines. When in general company, step aside and try to observe. While he is busy with some of his own affairs or, for example, talking with someone, he will periodically glance in your direction.

3. Look at his gestures As a rule, during a conversation, a man’s hands are at the level of his stomach or chest. And when he talks to a woman he really wants, all his gestures will be concentrated in the pelvic area (if he is sitting). This is psychosomatics, and you can’t argue with it: gestures reveal inner desires and thoughts.

A man can also make involuntary movements with his hips or knees, this happens very naturally and is almost imperceptible to him. And it is the surest sign that in his mind he is already making passionate love with you.

4. He makes you stand out from the rest Pay close attention to how he communicates with other representatives of your sex - his intonation, speech, expressions, his gestures, where his eyes look.

Therefore, compare these signs with the same ones, but in relation to you. If they are clearly different, you can draw conclusions.

5. Signs of obvious attention A man will begin to show signs of attention, because he doesn’t just want a woman - he certainly thinks about how to get her. And to achieve this, you need to persistently look after her, give nice gifts and flowers, say beautiful compliments, and so on.

The presence of sexual lust will make him choose special gifts and say special words. This will be different from romantic youthful impulses, and will certainly have subtle sexual overtones. This way you can reliably and accurately understand what’s on your gentleman’s mind.

6. He has changed in appearance. He puts on fresh shirts, he always starts to smell nice, and you can no longer remember when he was unshaven.

Appearance will give you a direct answer - if he always looks neat and fresh when going to meet you, it is likely that he is attracted and hopes to get you.

More articles: How to get out of alcoholic depression?

7. He wants to stand out from other men. If you are with the man you have chosen in a common company, and there are other representatives of his sex, then he will clearly try to be better than the rest.

Men by nature are leaders, conquerors, it is very important for them to be first. So he will try with all his might to be much better than others in order to achieve your favor. #psychology@alhimiacenter

Every woman has a secret age when men become indifferent to her.

Every woman has a secret age when men become indifferent to her. Both in a sexual sense and in general. For some, this happens closer to retirement, for others around menopause, and still others decide to do it by the time they are thirty.

A woman who has given up on men is identified for once.

The main sign is that she is an aunt! With bad hair, tired eyes and deposits in unnecessary places. Boring, grumpy, and with clipped wings. What happened to her? She reached an age when men are not needed, and she gave in under the weight of resentment and disappointment.

Why is the age secret? Because the woman doesn’t tell anyone about him, except perhaps the most stubborn feminists. You have never seen a woman who would gather everyone in a circle and announce her disappointment in men. This is simply indecent. Although something tells me that there are such things.

How can we understand what happened? The woman seems to cover her heart with iron. The strength of her pain is such that she decides not to let anyone else near him.

She stops trusting men, looking for men, and doesn’t even want to imagine that there is a man who is ready to fall in love with her. The price to pay for the calmness of an icy heart is very great. Do you remember Mymru from the office romance? Here it is.

- What does the heart have to do with it? - someone will ask. Men are basically about a different organ. You can safely use them without experiencing any mental anguish. I might agree. But a woman’s heart always has something to do with it, right?

A couple of years ago, Cleopatra’s baths came into fashion. Allegedly, Cleopatra used the sperm of young slaves to maintain her youth. The girls tried it, they said it was a lie. Does not help. Doesn't remove wrinkles and doesn't brighten your eyes.

More articles: A married man confessed his love to a married woman

The sperm whale sperm is also disappointing. Why? Because everything here is past the heart. A woman is rejuvenated and made more beautiful only by injections into the very heart. There is no place for simple sexual mechanics here, although they are very important.

Have you ever noticed that a woman in love is good even from a distance? Even when she doesn’t see her lover, but communicates with him by calls and SMS. Sex is in her head, but does it look prettier in reality? How so?

And all because love and passion are really ready to work miracles with us. Rejuvenate, make beautiful. But this only happens to those who believe in love. The rest will have to live out their lives as aunts. And it’s not even a matter of wrinkles, but the age-old dust of disappointment in the eyes.

So if they ask me until what age do women need men, I will say until their last breath. I know that it hurts, that sometimes it’s terribly hard, and you feel emptiness and disappointment, and you’re ready to cover your heart with ice, if only this wouldn’t happen... But it’s impossible. It’s not like dying as an aunt.

Do you think there is an age when women can no longer think about men and forget about themselves as a sex object?

Unfortunately, situations often happen in life when a man meets a woman, but does not feel any feelings for her. Even if you sleep in the same bed with him, this does not mean that he sincerely loves you. How to figure out whether he has feelings or not? This article will help you understand how he feels about you.

Reasons for husband's indifference. What to do?

We will try to find the answer to this together. Indifference in the psychology of a man’s relationship with a woman can be corrected. To begin with, accept that you yourself may be the reason for the indifference towards you. Blaming other people for your troubles is stupid and pointless. Now ask yourself:

When did you notice the first signs of your husband's indifference?
What happened before this moment?
What did you do to make him lose attention to you? Or didn't they?..

Try these questions in different order, and write down everything that comes to mind without thinking.

How do you benefit from an indifferent relationship?
And why do you need this particular man who is next to you now?

Of course, the reasons for indifference can be discussed together, but only if you calmly accept any mutual answers. A good option is to seek psychological advice, especially if your biography includes the loss of a loved one and the pain of separation. It’s not easy to remove emotional layers, so trust a professional. Often, under the indifference of relationships lie very strong feelings, it would be enough to have the patience and desire to find them...

I can hear a reproach, like, why should a woman be attractive and charming, but a man, as always, won’t lift a finger?! Firstly, you are again looking for the reason not in yourself. And secondly... for God's sake, stay ordinary, it's your choice. Life is about choice. The same Roksolana studied the Turkish language and the laws of government in order to be attractive to the Sultan, Cleopatra learned alchemy and the secrets of magic. What are you interested in, first of all, to yourself?..

When indifference appeared

Photo by Iamngakan eka: Pexels
It is believed that the antonym of love is not hatred at all, but indifference. Relationships in which partners are indifferent to each other are almost impossible to restore. But not everything is as bad as it might seem. Before you give up on a relationship with an indifferent man, you need to understand the nature of his indifference.

First of all, we need to answer the question: when did indifference appear? When did he start treating you coldly? Typically there are three possible answers:

the man was initially quite cold in the relationship;

a man is either cold or emotionally involved in a relationship;
the man was emotionally involved for a long time, and then suddenly became indifferent.

Understanding the nature of indifference fundamentally depends on what the answer is.

Signs of a woman's indifference. What are the signs to determine the behavior of a woman in love?

The girl constantly secretly watches the guy who arouses her sympathy, and immediately looks away when her eyes meet his. At the same time, she can cover herself with paint like a schoolgirl, and this gives her away completely.
She is constantly friendly with the young man, laughs at his jokes, responds to requests, willingly makes contact and tries to attract attention to herself.
She prefers to communicate with her friends by talking with the object of her sympathy; in a word, she behaves in a way that was previously unusual for her.
When communicating with a young man who is not indifferent to her, the girl unconsciously shows physical signs - straightening her hair in a gesture that men consider very sexy, gesticulating, showing her wrists, trying to violate personal space, trying to touch the guy’s hand or face. A young man with at least a little understanding of psychology will understand that tactile contact means sympathy.
If a woman has a sincere feeling for a man, when talking to him, she constantly turns her head in his direction, unconsciously repeats his poses - “mirrors”.
If you carefully observe a girl in love, you can easily notice that when talking to the guy she likes, her pupils dilate. This occurs due to the fact that a large amount of adrenaline enters the body.
If a girl does not see a young man to whom she is not indifferent for a long time, she begins to show interest in him, asking mutual friends about what he is currently doing. Pages on social networks are now also under the close attention of the person in love.
Gifts for no reason are a reason to think about the nature of the relationship. Most likely, the girl wants to win the sympathy of the young man and show how important he is to her. If, moreover, the present is made with your own hands, this indicates that the person spent a lot of time making it, hoping to please you.

The man suddenly became constantly indifferent

This is the most difficult situation. Initially, everything was fine, the period of falling in love was bright and emotional. But time passed, and his attitude seemed to fade away. He has become cold and indifferent to you, he is not interested in what is happening between you. Perhaps he was consumed by everyday problems, perhaps there were too many conflicts between you, and he stopped spending his energy on resolving them. Perhaps his feelings had simply faded away.

Photo by Alex Green: Pexels

What to do in such a situation

Firstly, it is necessary, in a calm, confidential atmosphere, when you both have time when you are not tired, to sit down and talk about what is happening between you. Where is your relationship going? Why don't they develop? Is there still any relationship between you or is it just a habit? Perhaps there is some fundamental, total problem in your relationship that is destroying it? What conclusion you come to will determine what to do next.

Secondly, if specific problems have been resolved, but feelings have simply faded away, you need to fall in love with each other again. There are many ways to do this in psychology.

Thus, indifference in relationships is a complex phenomenon that requires in-depth analysis. It doesn't always lead to a breakup. You need to understand the reasons for indifference and act based on this. Then there is always a chance to return the old feelings.