There are women around whom there are round dances, and there are those who, no matter what love, always have drama. Why is that? Neither appearance nor intelligence are of key importance in this matter. Then what determines whether you should be a “just-in-time” girl or the one who is loved? Numerous studies of male psychology reveal a number of special traits that almost all representatives of the stronger sex value in women. What is special about girls who drive men crazy?
They radiate happiness
Men do not like hysterical, unhappy and problematic women. But most of the ladies are sure that a potential partner is not a person, but a function through which women’s problems are solved. Men, of course, quickly read all this and try to stay away.
Girls, more enthusiasm, spontaneity, love for yourself and the world around you! Don’t burden a young man with your problems already on the first date - he wants to get a buzz from life and being around a woman.
If you are filled with harmony, radiate positivity and happiness, guys will circle around you, fly to you like butterflies to the light. And if you are an overweight, dull, heavy person, you need to do something about it.
“Humor is much more attractive than beauty”
Men prefer cheerful and open girls. No young man will say that he likes boring, withdrawn women. Representatives of the fair sex always prefer men who can cheer them up. This fact is confirmed by numerous studies and surveys. As for men, it is important for them that the chosen one understands his jokes, and if a girl can respond in kind, then this is generally a bonus plus! That's why positive girls always have much more fans than spectacular but gloomy coquettes. Sincere, joyful laughter can melt anyone, even the hardest and most courageous heart.
It is important to understand the difference between humor and sarcasm. Snarky and sarcastic remarks will turn off any guy. Having a sense of humor is a sign of good intellectual shape. If a girl does not have the ability to generate witty jokes on the fly, this does not mean that she is not destined to build a happy relationship. Humor is varied and broad. There will definitely be a man who will understand what exactly the girl wanted to say with this or that joke.
Don't allow yourself to flirt with other men
Many girls, in an attempt to refresh their feelings, often acting even with the best intentions, allow themselves the opportunity to flirt with other men. They hope to make their partner jealous and thereby increase their importance. Subconsciously, girls understand that their demand for love from other people adds points to them.
Yes, people are social and competition exists. And the more there is a round dance around a woman, the more she seems like a prize! However, your relevance and your initiative to flirt are two different things, especially if you have a regular partner or even a spouse.
Every time you smile flirtatiously at someone and respond to flirting, or even initiate it yourself, know that this is a small and often hidden betrayal! And only a weak man or one who doesn’t care about you is willing to endure this. And a normal man (mature personality) with good self-esteem, who respects himself, will quickly find a replacement for you.
You can be beautiful, sexy, you can attract the eyes of everyone around, but at the same time you must remain inaccessible.
For the information of all lovers of tickling the nerves of their partners, I tell you that the word “flirting” means “love game” or “flirting.” The concept is thought to derive from the Old French fl eurette ("flower") and alludes to the Romantic Age tradition of exchanging flowers as tokens of affection. The gentleman could give a flower to the lady, and the lady could throw the flower to the gentleman from the balcony. This meant that they marked each other as desired lovers. Thus, flirting with another is not cheating, but it is a declaration of desire to cheat.
Therefore, it is completely normal that your partner expects you to have a very reserved and even cold attitude towards any man who simply makes a polite compliment. If you have a husband, don’t be vague in response to compliments from strangers as if you were starved of beautiful words.
You may not initiate the advances yourself, but if you respond to them and do not stop them, you encourage flirting and seem to agree to move the topic of communication into a sexual direction or to sharply reduce the distance.
Attitude to nutrition
An amazing fact: girls who strive so hard to look perfect and are constantly on exhausting diets risk being left without a serious relationship forever. It turns out that when asked what kind of women men like, many answered that their chosen one should have a good appetite and have an understanding of the proper use of cutlery. Girls who are mannered, ashamed, or who consider it indecent to eat with pleasure and to their heart’s content, in their opinion, are incapable of sincerity in their actions, and want to make a tragedy out of everything in life.
By the way, the ability to enjoy food while observing ethical standards is one of the most important tests that wealthy grooms give their chosen ones. Knowing this, girls should reconsider their attitude towards nutrition and learn not to make a whole theatrical performance out of a simple physiological need.
Don't focus on love
Many men call the main negative feature of women a tendency to, figuratively speaking, blow their minds. Accordingly, the ideal woman is the one who never, under any circumstances, blows her mind!
But what to do, you ask me, if your partner does not live up to your expectations: he forgets to call, comes home from work late, drinks, forgets about something important to you, or even flirts with other women?
If one of the listed scenarios or some similar ones occur in your relationship, this means only one thing: they don’t value you very much. And if, with your low importance, you also begin to take out your brain, it will only get worse.
But more often there is another problem. Men are less likely to be involved in relationships with the same intensity as girls. The life of representatives of the stronger sex consists not only of love; in their system of priorities, love is most often not in first place.
A man generally realizes himself through success. And this is important for us, women, for whom personal and family life is above all to understand. We lose our minds because we cannot reduce our attention to love and do something else. Love is the main sphere of our life, the main source of nutrition for self-esteem.
That’s why I constantly say that you need to develop other resources: don’t forget about your profession, for example, or at least your hobby! It is important to find areas to nourish your self-esteem that have nothing to do with love. That is, shift some of your attention from your partner to work, sports or school - but not to other men.
Thus, you will never upset the balance in the couple, giving your other half as much attention as he gives you. And you will have peace. And the man will be sure that he is lucky to have you!
What attracts men most in a woman - Top 4 qualities
1) Correct internal state
Fact! A woman's attractiveness in a man's eyes will depend on the emotions he experiences when he is around her.
If a woman gives a man the emotions he needs, then he will become addicted to her like a drug addict. But how to evoke the right feelings in a man? The key lies in the inner state. To make the opposite sex go crazy over you, you need to know and use one law of communication.
Law of Communication - Emotions are transmitted
The feelings and emotions that you experience when you are next to a man are read by his subconscious and he begins to feel exactly the same as you, and you just like him. And if your synchronization of emotions brings both of you a thrill, then mutual sympathy arises.
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Remember your situation in life. You go on a date and are greeted by a gloomy and pessimistic guy. If you did not immediately go home, but continued the dialogue with him, then over time his gloomy mood will be transmitted to you. It is completely uncomfortable to be around him, because he feels awkward and transmits this state to you.
Now let's look at another example. You go on a date, and a cool, optimistic and happy man is waiting for you. Life energy is seething inside him. And even if your mood before meeting him was not very good, then in the process of communication he infected you with his optimism and energy. His positive emotions were transferred to you and therefore such a man is a charm in your eyes. We also call such people charismatics. And all because we feel cool next to them.
Remember: If inside you feel a buzz from life and positivity, then the people around you will consider you attractive!
Positive thinking and attitude towards life is the key to successful interaction with a man. I will say from my own experience that there are very few positive girls. The majority are depressed people with a lot of problems in life. And such people are not attractive in the eyes of the opposite sex. And only those women who look at the world through the prism of optimism and go through life with a smile catch the admiring glances of the best men.
Very often before a date I use the following trick: I imagine how great I will have today, how in the near future my dreams and goals will come true and fill my thoughts with positivity. My inner state becomes correct and almost any girl who meets me at this moment finds me charming. And all simply because my positive attitude was passed on to her.
Use this trick and never go on a date with a sad face.
2) Appearance
It's no secret that appearance plays a big role in a person's attractiveness. Now we will talk about the importance of being bright and impressive. Bright appearance, clothing, behavior - this is very attractive from an evolutionary point of view. (Read more about evolutionary biology here: The ideal figure of a girl according to men - Evolutionary biology).
The fact is that a bright style and shocking behavior are a demonstration of excess energy. Those. a man’s subconscious thinks that if a woman looks and presents herself so impressively, it means she has a lot of energy.
And excess energy is an indirect sign of a good immune system, and good immunity = healthy children. All these are games of perception of our animal brain, not logic. Therefore, a man will not carry out such complex biological analysis in his head. He will simply pay attention to a bright girl and want her. Instincts decide everything for him.
Therefore, under no circumstances should you be shy about dressing in bright colors. Men will start paying attention to you more often, and you will achieve success.
Second tip - stand out If everyone is wearing gray down jackets, then you should wear a bright red coat. If everyone around you is wearing a red dress, wear a black one. Standing out in the crowd is one of the tricks that will allow you to attract additional attention. The method is very simple but effective.
Seducers are well aware of evolutionary biology and the importance of standing out. The founder of the pickup truck and the pioneer in this topic, Eric Von Markovic, was well versed in human psychology and looked shocking at any event. (Below you can see Eric's image)
Painted my nails when it wasn't mainstream
People with this type of behavior are also called “White Crow” because such a person is not like the others. But oddly enough, many representatives of the fair sex are beginning to be interested in precisely such non-standard personalities. The explanation is as follows: if this guy is not like everyone else, and at the same time he managed to survive, then he has strong genes.
The pickup guru liked to paint his nails black to differentiate himself from all the guys in the establishment. Very often the girls were the first to start a conversation with him to ask about his black nails. Thanks to this trick, the seduction process was easier and faster.
I also recommend reading: Why do men love bitches? - in simple words
3) Homogamy and social equality
Scientists studied happy couples who have been living together for more than 5 years and found the following: partners in stable couples are usually very similar to each other. They are of the same social level, they have similar thinking, values and views of the world. Even outwardly, many of them are very similar. And they called this social phenomenon a beautiful word - homogamy.
Homogamy is the tendency to choose a love or marriage partner who is similar to oneself.
It turns out that if you and your man are similar in many ways (in interests, views, values), then you have a higher chance of creating a stable couple.
But why does this happen? The fact is that people find attractive those who share their views and worldview. Such a person automatically seems like one of our own, and we begin to like him more. But people who do not share our point of view, and even worse, argue with us, seem unattractive to us.
Therefore, if you want to truly hook a man, find commonalities between you. Perhaps you like the same music or have the same views on life situations. All this is a huge plus for your communication.
Men also find girls attractive who are on the same social level as them. Not only women, but also men pay attention to the social status of their partner. And if the man is an oligarch, and the girl works in a five-star team, then they will not be able to build a full-fledged relationship. Of course, an oligarch can fall in love, but he will always pull the blanket over himself and perceive her lower.
Therefore, it is very important to choose a partner from approximately the same social circle. And if you want to happily marry a billionaire, then you yourself need to earn at least a million. Otherwise, your value in the relationship will be lower.
4) Vibes and smell
Fact! People find the natural scent of the person they are biologically best suited to reproduce attractive.
We are subconsciously able to determine the immune system and our genetic compatibility with a partner by smell. Of course, these processes are not realized by logic, you are not intentionally sniffing anyone, but your instinctive mechanisms cope with this task perfectly. It is smell that is the most important criterion in assessing the attractiveness of a partner.
By the way, you can influence the attractiveness of your scent. If you exercise, eat right, and lead a healthy lifestyle, men's olfactory receptors will perceive your scent as more attractive. Therefore, it is important to exercise not only to maintain your figure, but also to radiate fluids.
You can watch the video below to learn more about how we choose a partner based on smell.
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Radiate femininity
Femininity has recently been turned into something perverted. Anyone who adheres to the idea that a woman must definitely wear a skirt, have long hair, and long nails understands nothing at all about femininity.
Femininity is not in skirts. And it’s a pity for those women who are able to find their femininity only by putting on some kind of symbolic outfit.
Femininity is not what you look like, but what you bring to the world and what you can offer your man. If you offer your wardrobe with skirts, then most likely you will remain a one-time woman.
Femininity is not a demonstration of weakness. It is a big misconception that someone actually needs a weak woman. You cannot interest anyone in weakness or need. No one will love you for your defenselessness and immaturity. After all, you are not a child or a fluffy kitten!
So what is femininity? First of all, it is kindness, tenderness, care, and perhaps the ability to yield. This is all that nature has put into a woman along with maternal instinct.
Femininity is the ability to be soft and warm. The ability to create comfort and an atmosphere of complete relaxation, to which a man will be drawn again and again.
“When she lifted her eyelids, it seemed as if she was taking off her clothes...”
Sexy women are like a magnet for men. With just one glance, they can turn your head and deprive you of the ability to reason sensibly.
A woman’s sexuality does not manifest itself in provocative outfits and vulgar statements. A lady can be dressed in a formal suit and look much more seductive than a girl in a miniskirt and a deep neckline.
Sexy women are confident, self-sufficient individuals. They love their body, skillfully highlighting its strengths and hiding its flaws. Men intuitively feel that such a lady will not make you bored in bed. Sexy girls behave relaxed and are not afraid of experiments.
All people are different, but we are all united by one desire - to love and be loved. First of all, you need to start with self-love. Take care of your body, health and soul. Fight your complexes and work on your shortcomings. Self-love is a natural, wonderful feeling. As soon as a woman internally accepts herself, she will become open and liberated. She will begin to feel like she is in charge of her life, radiating confidence and friendliness. And this state attracts men like a magnet!
Always a little "in short supply"
A woman who drives you crazy is always slightly in short supply. Both in correspondence and in meetings! And that’s why a man is drawn to her, he wants more and more, because she doesn’t overfeed herself, doesn’t suffocate, doesn’t hang over her. But she doesn’t do this on purpose, she herself doesn’t mind seeing a man - but she’s against imagining him for hours and dreaming about him in vain, because she always has better things to do anyway.
She has her own friends and plans, which, by the way, she will never change from a sudden call. Therefore, men know that with such a woman they need to plan everything in advance, and do not force her to expect specific steps, proposals, calls and meetings.
Remember: unrequited love does not exist for those whose lives are filled with meaning. But unrequited love will always find that person in whose life there is emptiness!
Good manners
Absolutely all men are always attracted to women with good manners
For most of them, it is extremely important that a woman knows how to behave and is not ashamed to introduce her to her friends. If, while in a company, a woman constantly interrupts her interlocutors, is rude or rude to them, speaks out of place or discusses topics that she does not understand, laughs loudly or tells vulgar jokes, does not know her “limit” of alcohol and generally does not behave comme il faut, all her charm will quickly fade in the eyes of a man
In addition, he will feel embarrassed and ashamed for his girlfriend in front of his friends, so he is unlikely to continue communicating with such a woman. It is no coincidence that Goethe said:
Don't cling to a man
Probably, self-esteem is even the first thing to start with on the list of qualities. If you look more closely at all the girls who are lucky in love, you will notice that they never cling, never ask for anything, which is why men themselves give them plenty of everything - love, attention or more material things.
Such women are easily able to break away even from their beloved man, as soon as they begin to love them less. They don’t create illusions, don’t cling, just leave!
You look at her and you understand that no one owes her anything, she is lightness itself with no complaints about a man. And this makes him want to lay the moon at her feet! But if you beg and pull everything, a man wants to give less and less. That's the whole difference.
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“Makeup is an invisible burqa”
When meeting someone, the first thing we pay attention to is appearance. It’s a little easier for girls; they have a huge trump card in their hands - cosmetics. Thanks to special means, ladies can significantly correct their appearance. Red lips, winged wings, thick eyelashes - they look very impressive and intriguing. Girls with such bright data will definitely not be left without attention, but there is a second side to everything.
After the makeup is removed, men may be left with a slight feeling of deception. Where did the luxurious woman go? Where have the expressive eyes, neat nose and seductive lips gone? When applying makeup, it is important not to go too far and create the most natural look possible. Ideally, a man should not see a significant difference. He wants to go to bed and wake up with the same beautiful woman.
Self-sufficient and independent
Develop professionally! Ideally, try to be financially independent, find a business that you love. And by the way, this is one of the factors that will add shine to your eyes.
Never put yourself in a situation where you begin to depend on a man; leave yourself the opportunity to safely slam the door if something bothers you.
Support yourself, from within. You have problems with a man, he left you or something else - it doesn’t matter! If this makes you feel bad, then you need to work on your self-esteem! Your self-esteem should not depend on others. Don’t start urgently changing and reshaping yourself in order to get someone back.
Remember that women who are loved are never guided by the love of other people!
“The greedy soul is the beginning of all evil deeds...”
Even the most generous and selfless man will be outraged by women's selfishness and greed. Most young men love to pamper and surprise their girlfriends. No matter how successful a man is, he still needs the praise of his beloved woman. This makes him feel needed and desired. At the same time, it is important that the chosen one does not go too far and does not turn a man’s courtship into a mandatory duty. No one owes nothing to nobody. A man likes to please a woman, but not to indulge her whims and caprices.
Ladies who dream of finding a male sponsor is a completely separate issue. This type of relationship has nothing to do with feelings and love. This is more like market, business relationships, when a woman is paid for a certain range of services. Of course, there are times when a girl cannot do without financial support. There is nothing bad or shameful if a young man offers his help. It is important that a woman appreciates a man’s efforts and does not skimp on praise. Men love grateful, selfless women who sincerely enjoy gifts and value feelings, not a tight wallet.
Difference in Preferences
The list of female qualities that attract a man can include a lot of items:
- tact;
- compliance;
- self confidence;
- femininity;
- good sense of humour;
- softness;
- sexuality;
- modesty;
- tenderness;
- responsibility;
- loyalty;
- kindness.
However, some of them are completely opposite to each other. And that's because every man's preferences are different.
For example, someone who was once cheated on will say that the most important thing for him is fidelity. Another, who often experiences financial difficulties, will say that understanding and support come first for him
For a wealthy businessman, the key may be obedience and home comfort. But for an erudite person, it is very important that the lady knows how to carry on a conversation.
There are so many guys, so many opinions, but then how can you find out what is most important for a man in a woman? Of course, first of all, you should look at the representative of the strong half of humanity and his worldview. The situation is more complicated if there is no specific character in mind, the girl is just looking for a partner and already wants to be ideal for him.
