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The standards of a woman's external beauty in the modern world are changing at the same speed as fashion designers release new clothing collections. Even the slightest discrepancy with fashion trends provokes the emergence of complexes that prevent you from accepting yourself and enjoying a full social life. One of the most common is the small breast complex.
Where does the complex come from?
The complex of small breast size is literally a sore spot for almost every second woman. This pain has transformed into a psychological problem, due to which self-esteem and self-acceptance as a woman suffers. Hence the problems in relationships with men.
1. Problem from puberty.
Complexes about small breasts could develop during puberty. The psyche of a teenage girl is quite unstable. Therefore, she takes bullying from her peers to heart. Self-esteem can also be shaken when a girl looks at the increasing bulges of the bodies of her female peers. Her body is visually very different. Girlfriends begin to wear a bra, therefore, all the enviable “suitors” begin to follow them.
It is shameful to change clothes during physical education lessons. Then the teenage girl begins to persuade her mother to buy a bra. Most often there is a reaction of bewilderment and the answer: “Why? It is too early!"
2. Justification.
The very small breast complex can also appear in adulthood. In this case, the woman justifies the lack of success and attention from men by her small breast size.
3. Imposed stereotypes.
The accepted norms for an ideal figure are 90-60-90. Many people want to have such alluring and sexy parameters; girls exhaust themselves with diets and cultivate complexes.
The question arises: why should a woman strive for exactly the same parameters that are shown on the covers of magazines? Will she be happier because of this?
4. Unsuccessful relationships.
Often tactless young people hint or openly say that they like large breasts. And the thought of breast enlargement gradually creeps in... But such a vulnerable girl’s self-esteem immediately drops.
Psychologists have proven that men who constantly tell their girlfriend about her alleged shortcomings thus raise their level of self-esteem. It turns out that against your background the young man rises and solves his internal problems. Is such a guy worthy of you? Hardly.
Sasha Luss
At 23 years old, this model is one of the most sought after on world catwalks. Pret-a-porter, Haute Couture shows, photos on the covers of leading glossies and the enviable title of muse of the unrivaled Karl Lagerfeld.
With a chest volume of 83 cm, this diva was able to win the hearts of millions of ordinary viewers and leading masters of the fashion industry. How does Sasha Luss look on the red carpet? The chic translucent dresses and tight-fitting outfits that she loves to wear do not hide the modest size of her bust, but the overall picture looks more than attractive. And Sasha’s lack of complexes on this matter only encourages envious people.
What do men think?
Every year, hundreds of sociological surveys are conducted on the topic of female breast size, since there are millions of women around the world for whom this issue is relevant.
According to a study, more than 50% of men find small breasts attractive. But still, some girls believe that the only salvation from a far-fetched “flaw” is plastic surgery to enlarge the bust.
Let's summarize the attitude of men towards miniature breasts.
- The attractiveness of a small bust lies in the neatness of its shape. With large breasts, the body does not always look proportional. In particular, this applies to owners of bust size 3+.
- Men really like to “stare” at the impressive size of the breasts, but next to them they prefer to see a girl who will attract attention with her intelligence, the beauty of other parts of the body, and not just the size of her bust.
If you don’t love yourself, no one will love you - this is what every girl should remember. If a woman accepts herself and loves her figure, she will give off a charming self-confidence that attracts the attention of men.
Believe me, next to such a girl, a man will not care what size her breasts are.
Emma Watson
For this gifted actress, size 1 breasts have never been an obstacle to fame. Emma says that quite a long time ago she accepted herself for who she is and is not at all embarrassed by her modest forms.
She considers her body ideal and has no complexes at all. One day, a very piquant situation occurred that completely confirmed this belief: during one of the premieres, she came under the attention of camera lenses and at that moment the outfit exposed her breasts, on which there was a sticker representing a strapless bra.
Without a hint of embarrassment, the actress straightened her dress and turned back to the photographers.
How to overcome the small breast complex and why is it important?
Any complex gives rise to self-doubt. Therefore, if a woman is insecure, she is unhappy, downtrodden and boring. Her quality of life has decreased significantly.
A woman with a small breast complex is constantly afraid that someone will see the inserted push-up. You don’t even look at open dresses in the store, for fear of looking sexy enough.
Breasts are not you. This is just a part of the body, you don’t need to focus on it.
The small breast complex is gradually transforming into a serious psychological problem - self-doubt. First you will be unhappy with the size of your breasts, then with their shape. Afterwards you will completely understand that the nose is of the wrong shape, the little toe on the right foot could be prettier. If you are 100% sure that implants will make you much happier, then most likely this is not the case.
The beauty standards imposed by society are constantly changing. Today the trend is eyelash extensions, silicone breasts, a huge butt, and tomorrow – health and natural beauty. Besides, “tomorrow” is already relevant!
Rosie Huntington-Whiteley
She has small breasts and is also a Victoria's Secret angel. In her interviews, Rosie talks about how, as a child, a modest bust was a real punishment for her. She was constantly in the shadow of her classmates, whom nature had endowed with more curvaceous figures, and was not particularly popular with the guys.
However, despite everything, Rosie Huntington-Whiteley was able to become incredibly successful in the modeling world and most often she has to advertise lingerie. In the finished pictures we can see that the model has a rather full bust, but as Rosie herself says, these are just a few sets of special pads.
How to get rid of the small breast complex?
In order to overcome this complex once and for all, you must follow certain rules. So, psychologists recommend remembering:
- Women's breasts are always beautiful, and size does not matter.
- Love yourself for who you are. Self-confidence attracts much more than breast size (if we are talking about a serious relationship).
- Start your morning by complimenting yourself. You are unique and inimitable by nature. There is no other like it in the whole world.
- Stop thinking about others. They will think about themselves. Are the opinions of strangers important to you? You are not a million dollars and everyone wants you. And this is the norm.
- Have you ever thought that women with large breasts suffer from complexes no less than you?
- Don't project your thoughts onto another person. This is your subjective opinion that when a person first looks at you, he thinks: “What small breasts.” But such a thought never even occurred to him.
- Many girls are proud of having small, compact breasts. Are you worse than them?
- If a guy cultivates a small breast complex in you, then know that such a young man will not bring you anything good, except for a couple more new complexes.
Read books that will help you find inner harmony:
- This Book Will Make You Confident by Jessamy Hibberd, Joe Asmar.
- "The Beauty Myth" by Naomi Wolf.
- “How to become self-confident. Training book" Pierre Frank.
After reading these books, you will look at yourself with completely different eyes. And if the literature does not help, then consult a psychologist. There's no shame in this.
Research the question
Men tend to overestimate the size of average normal penises and underestimate the size of their own. Scientists made this conclusion. And they recommended Treatment of men complaining of short penis. complainants, in moments of particularly painful thoughts, “treat themselves” by measuring their penis with a tape measure and comparing the obtained indicators with standard ones.
By the way, about standards:
- The average length of a non-erect penis is from 8 to 10 cm. However, the healthy range is much wider - from 5 to 15.5 cm.
- The average length of the erect penis is 15.1 cm, the range is from 11.4 to 19 cm.
In more complex cases, if a man’s experiences are so strong that they reach the level of a mental disorder (symptoms are listed above), more serious measures may be required:
- Cognitive behavioral therapy. A therapist can help you figure out why a man is so obsessed with his penis size and suggest ways to reduce his anxiety.
- Taking certain medications. For example, antidepressants from the group of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors help cope with severe anxiety and neurosis.
- Physical procedures that help to enlarge the penis (massages, the use of vacuum devices and rings - penis extenders). Let's say right away: their effect is extremely small. Thus, the only study on the topic of jelqing (a popular self-massage) reports: after three months of daily exercise, the average increase in penis length was only about 3 mm. And for some men, no results were observed at all. However, these procedures often have a good psychological effect: they reduce anxiety levels.
- Surgical operations. The most controversial point. They really help to enlarge the penis (though, as a rule, by no more than 1–2 cm), but they have a fairly high risk of complications, as a result of which the length of the penis may ultimately even decrease Penile size and the 'small penis syndrome'. Therefore, you should resort to them only in extreme cases.
Benefits of small breasts
How to deal with the small breast complex? Let's talk about the benefits of being small.
- Many men like a small bust. They believe that breasts should fit in the palm of your hand. If a guy broke up with you because of his small bust size, breathe out. What a score. You have a chance to meet a person who will truly love you, not your breast size. “You can’t drink water from her,” just like from a man’s external beauty.
- You don't have to wear a bra.
- Small breasts look aristocratic and neat.
- You don't have back pain because of a heavy bust.
- With small breasts, you will always look several years younger.
- You can wear any clothes, including those with a deep neckline. At the same time, you will not seem like a girl of easy virtue.
- Your breasts will not sag with age and will not look sad.
- You can easily sleep on your stomach.
There are a lot of advantages, you just need to look at them.
Kate Moss
The famous model Kate Moss is proud of her physique and is not at all embarrassed by the modest size of her bust. Moreover, it is he who is considered her calling card. The model admits that when she was a teenager, she experienced a certain complex, and Cindy Crawford and her outstanding volumes were the envy of Kate. But over the years, she realized that small breasts are not a hindrance in gaining fame and recognition.
Today Kate Moss is in demand in the fashion world, she enters into multimillion-dollar contracts and happily wears revealing outfits that do not hide her somewhat boyish physique.
Taking proper care of your breasts
Correctly selected underwear will help you overcome the complex of small breasts. Moreover, a girl with a small size can afford light and lace underwear. Pay attention to push-up bras. This trick will make your breasts appear a little larger if size is still an issue for you.
The complex of small breasts with a size of 70 E is groundless. Underbust girth from 68 to 70 cm corresponds to sizes S and XS. For example, 65 cm is the first breast size, but 70 is the second. It is unlikely that a girl with such a bust size should have a complex.
But young ladies with decent volumes should be more careful when choosing a bra, since it should be practical and support the bust well.
Mia Wasikowska
This actress is quite in demand in cinema today. Her acting career includes serious roles that would be the envy of many more experienced actresses.
Vasikowska’s breast volume is only 81.5 cm, but this feature did not in any way affect the beauty’s self-esteem. Moreover, Mia continues to act and her modest bust size does not bother her or the directors at all.
Top 3 celebrities with small breasts: success does not depend on size
If you think that large breast size is a ticket to a happy and rich life, then you are mistaken. Let's remember together world celebrities who are famous for their achievements, and not for their breast size.
- Emma Watson is an actress whose fame came after films such as Harry Potter and Beauty and the Beast.
Emma is active in social activities. In 2015, she launched a campaign for gender equality and created a feminist book club. - Keira Knightley is a two-time Oscar nominee.
Kira is the face of Amnesty International, which actively fights for human rights around the world. - Milla Jovovich became famous thanks to the film “Resident Evil”.
The actress is sure that her appearance and breasts are not the decisive factors for success. And only hard work brings fame and success.
These famous girls are recognized as the most beautiful by many men all over the world. And note, breast size has nothing to do with this.
Kristen Stewart
The actress does not hide the fact that at a young age she was somewhat worried about the small size of her breasts. But soon the complexes were thrown aside. Today, Kristen Stewart wears open dresses without embarrassment that do not hide her small breasts. In everyday life, she often wears T-shirts simply over her naked body and does not even try to add additional volume to her bust.
Penis size measurement
Shocking news: the average organ length decreased when scientists stopped relying on honest answers from men and took rulers themselves. David Weil and his team at King's College London looked at the results of 15,511 men who were measured by urologists following a standard protocol. Although the Weil test has some disadvantages, it will help establish a consistent method for measuring the penis:
- do what you need to do to raise the “mast” as high as possible;
- apply a clear plastic ruler to the dorsal side of the penis (that is, to its tip);
- press its base against the pubic bone;
- squeeze as deep as possible without causing pain;
- Regardless of whether the penis is circumcised or not, ignore the foreskin.
Pressing down on the ruler is important because it ensures your pubic fat level does not affect the measurement. The more fat a person accumulates, the more his dignity is “hidden” and optically shortened.
