Their actions match their words
They don't advise people to do anything they wouldn't do themselves. Sincere people do not consider themselves better than others, so they are not characterized by hypocrisy.
Such behavior is typical for a person if she knows how to be objective. Therefore, the way she behaves is a reflection of who she really is. If a person has a thought in his head, he will convey it to others in the same way, without resorting to manipulation. If a person knows how to be objective, she can be called sincere. In fact, everything is simple: sincere people are as you see them. They do not hide their true self. It’s a shame that in the modern world this positive trait is becoming less and less common. And the problem is not only that it is not easy to see it in others, but that it becomes increasingly difficult for us ourselves to be sincere.
What does "sincerely" mean? Meaning of the word
If we take the definition of the word “sincerely”, it means “truthfully” and “frankly”. You can sincerely love, hate, respect, etc. Sincerity can manifest itself in words, deeds, and actions. To do something sincerely means to do it from the heart, with pure intentions, without secret thoughts. If a person does something sincerely, the meaning of this action characterizes his true attitude. After all, unfortunately, it often happens that people think one thing, say another, and do something else. In this case, it is difficult to figure out what a person really feels.
In order for people to treat you sincerely, you need to be honest yourself, and above all to yourself.
People often engage in self-deception and come up with excuses for their actions. But if others feel false in your words or deeds, you should not count on a sincere attitude towards yourself.
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Why is sincerity needed?
Sincerity is a Divine spark. She is pure like morning dew. In fact, this spark is present in every person, it’s just difficult to see it behind the “trash” that accumulates in our souls.
In reality, a sincere person will always attract others. With his truthfulness and purity, he will always touch the strings that everyone has. Just as there are few people who can offend a child, there are just as few who can harm a pure and sincere person. When communicating with a person who remains honest under any circumstances, you can relax, knowing that this person will never “hold a stone in his bosom.” It is the feeling of anxiety and tension that is the scourge of modern society. The more sincere people there are, the easier it will be for us to live in this world.
When is honesty important?
Truth, concealment or lies are difficult choices. The modern world is an egocentric universe. What kind of creature is this incomprehensible? An egocentric is a person who depends on the opinions of others. He builds a pattern of behavior in order to appear significant in the eyes of other people. This is an actor. He puts on his face the mask of a happy family man, a person satisfied with life, a respectable citizen. The main rule: control. An egocentric person monitors words and actions and carefully measures the details of the image. He controls the smooth course of a fictional story, whether it is made up or embellished. There are more than 70% of such people in the world. Those who did not learn the rules of the game in childhood learn from their own mistakes in adolescence. This model is generally accepted, fixed and approved for the convenience of all. But is she really that good?
Honesty in love
Sincere first love remains a painful memory in the past. After a series of trial and errors, a person chooses a partner. He does everything to please, attract attention, show his best side - he plays a role, dooming the relationship to failure. And why? No sincerity. Maintaining a mask during close contact will not work for long. It will subside at the first difficulties. A common situation: she married one person and divorced another person.
Concealment causes quarrels. Egocentric fear prevents you from talking about personal and secret things, from admitting a problem, and leads to unexpected conflicts. A man, forced to play the role of a strong shoulder and a stone wall, is unlikely to admit that he dreams of feminine, almost maternal affection and tenderness. A young girl also never admits to complexes that interfere with relationships. But sometimes it’s enough to talk, talk about desires or problems in order to avoid quarrels and misunderstandings.
Imagine Masha, who since childhood has been embarrassed by her contrived fatness. Her husband is pleased with his wife’s figure, but she stubbornly wears baggy clothes, behind which she hides imaginary folds. She closes herself off during lovemaking and goes on diets. Masha is hurt when her husband looks around at the stylish, beautiful women, wanting to pull off his wife’s next robe. Instead of talking, young spouses live alone with their desires and experiences, accumulating fears and dissatisfaction. The marriage is approaching breakdown.
Sincerity and family ties
Deception begins from childhood. Parents love to lie, justifiably or not. Children seem small and stupid, but they copy the behavior of adults. From them the child learns what a lie is and carries it into life. Immediate impulses: joy, laughter, fun, tears are interrupted by adult instructions about the inappropriateness of emotions. Having realized that the behavior is unpleasant for adults, children change tactics. They strive to be liked, to receive the love and approval of adults, and from childhood they lose sincerity and forget about honesty.
The usual family drama. Little Vitalik has felt since childhood that his mother is unhappy with him. Whatever he does, he receives lectures and scolding in response. Vitalik knows one thing: his mother likes it when he recites poetry in public. Realizing this, he begins to use knowledge to achieve the love of his neighbor. He doesn't like poetry, and he doesn't like his mother's friends. When Vitalik grows up, poetry will be replaced by A's in mathematics, and then by the physics department at a state university. The boy dreamed of becoming an artist, but all his life he would hide his “I” and lie to others for the sake of approving smiles.
Honesty and business connections
The choice of profession determines how honest a person can be. In this area of life, sincerity is clearly regulated and driven into boundaries and norms.
The higher a person rises, the less openness he allows himself. Business relationships create distance and limit the range of issues discussed.
Imagine honest Vasya, who at a meeting decided to tell the investor that his company’s project is a scam and not worth the money. Openly, boldly, decisively. And so the unemployed daredevil moves to live with his mother. The career has been sealed.
It’s hard for honest people in the world of sales and advertising. Openness is the enemy of managers. Doctors, teachers, investigators, accountants - society sets limits for everyone.
Honesty and sincerity are positive in dosed form. Openness is the gift of close relationships. But it is achieved only by being honest with yourself. Is it worth fighting against egocentrism and lies? Yes! But extremes in this matter do not lead to good.
In Vasmer Max's dictionary
sincere other Russian spark “close”, spark, old glory. spark πλησίον, spark “neighbor”, Bulgarian. Iskren, Serbohorv. spark, Slovenian. ískǝr “nearby”, iskrè – the same, ískrnji “close”. Wed. education senior glory sparkle (see sparkle). Probably from from- and stem, related to the word root. Others allow a connection -kr with edge (Mi. EW 137; Mladenov 224). Bernecker (1, 434) compares -kr with ltsh. krija “tree bark”, lit. krijà, skrìjos “sieve walls woven from bast” (see Trans. I, 275), which is unconvincing. Wed. dial krey, kri "beside"; see Lvov, RYANSH, 1958, I, p. 82. - T.
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If you are observant enough, you can recognize the hypocrite instantly, almost immediately. The main thing is to be able to look and not show that you are interested in the person. You can also scan yourself for this “disease” of our time. It is important to understand that hypocrisy almost does not depend on character. This is often the result of improper upbringing or lack thereof. National characteristics are not important here - you can and should always remain human.
Difference one: interest in gossip
We will NOT prevaricate and admit that each of us at least once in our lives. But he was interested in gossip. It doesn't matter whether it's true or not. Gossip is information about a person conveyed to you by another person. Everyone has their own enemies or ill-wishers about whom they want to hear something bad, so they rejoice at negative news heard from someone else. These are modern costs, so they can be omitted.
A truly hypocritical person starts gossip himself and, most importantly, Contributes to their further spread. There is such a hypocrite in all of us, but in some people he is big and nasty, because he likes to say nasty things behind his back, and in others he is small, because he just likes to hear these bad words about someone. If you hear a person who only talks about other people's shortcomings, you are a hypocrite. It is better to avoid communicating with him or her, because they will then say something not very good about you in the third person.
Normal people say everything sincerely and simply express their opinion about another person - here no one is forbidden to express themselves in any way. You can say what you like and what you don’t, as long as you say it to the person’s face or don’t touch on any facts or distort them.
Difference two: search for benefits
Very often, many people sin by coming to the aid of others only when there is or will be their own benefit. Hypocrites never do anything selflessly. This is one of the most striking examples of how a person can show his true nature. Hypocrites are petty and distance themselves completely from any manifestation of altruism. A true hypocrite will never help you for nothing.
Real sincere people help others always or sometimes, but do not demand anything in return. As the famous saying goes: “Time is money,” but you shouldn’t take this as a truth absolutely always. Spend your time on people sometimes for no reason. Before you come to your senses, goodness will return to you.
Difference three: self-praise
Hypocrites flaunt their victories, placing themselves above others. This also applies to love victories, when people openly show their relationships on social networks. Sincere people will never show their personal lives to everyone, so as not to offend those who are not so lucky. Of course, if victory at a competition is earned with great effort, sometimes you want to write to everyone on the social network “got it, right?”, but this is unnecessary. Hypocrites will not miss the opportunity to show everyone their advantage.
Difference four: thirst for attention
Hypocrites and insincere people always try to be the center of attention. Sincere people are always modest and prefer to remain in the shadows. Of course, there may be exceptions here, but for the most part, such behavior helps to accurately identify a person who, at a minimum, should not be trusted.
Difference five: empty promises
Hypocrites love to feed people with promises. This is one of the main features of such individuals. They tell you something, but these words are devoid of truth. A truly sincere person always warns that he may not complete some task, so as not to disappoint the person later. That is why some people can and should be trusted, while trusting others is strictly contraindicated, because you will inevitably be disappointed.
The reason for all these actions is to impress other people. Sincere people also worry about how others may look at them, but they do not set themselves the goal of being liked by everyone. If there is such a goal, then it is achieved by honest actions, and not by empty chatter and throwing dust in the eyes.
Difference six: criticism
Hypocrites make fun of other people, criticize them in every possible way and try to appear smarter due to this, try to manipulate others. In fact, most likely, they themselves cannot show the best results in something. Of course, this is not always the case, but often criticism of a hypocritical person is devoid of all common sense. It looks more like something negative and incoherent.
Sincere people try to talk about the shortcomings of other people diplomatically and at the right moment, or remain silent altogether. Normal people are more likely to admire someone rather than belittle others' abilities.
Difference seven: respect for the strong
Try to follow those who seem to you to be hypocrites. These people respect and grovel before those who are stronger and more powerful than them. In this regard, they are similar to faithful servants, but their loyalty is very vague, because it disappears when another person, even stronger, appears on the horizon.
A normal person always respects everyone, or at least tries to do so. He doesn't show his respect to anyone if no one deserves it, but normal people have minimal respect for everyone.
Real hypocrites have only seven distinctive signs, and they are often so clearly expressed that you don’t need to look closely at the person for a long time. Sometimes everything is clear almost at first glance. However, you don’t need to immediately label someone if you suspect a person of such behavior. Perhaps he had reasons for this. Don't think in stereotypes and don't think that people can't change. Mistakes are common to all of us.
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06.03.2018 02:59
Sincere person. The meaning of this expression
Who is a sincere person? How to define this concept? To put it in a nutshell, a sincere person is not someone who tries not to pretend or lie to others. This is the one who cannot act differently. On the contrary, it is much more difficult for him to play a role and be disingenuous. Most likely, he will not succeed. It is very easy to deceive such people, because they measure everyone by their standards and are accustomed to trusting this world. If someone ever deceives them, they will simply consider it an annoying misunderstanding and will not lose trust in everyone else.
A sincere person is like a child who has grown in mind, but has not grown in soul.
In fact, there are not so many such people. Unfortunately, what generally happens is that children, who are sincere by nature, grow up and lose this quality. They begin to distrust this world and play some roles in order to achieve their desired goals.
Myths
Honesty and sincerity cause indescribable dissonance in people's minds. On the one hand, there is a reinforced concrete morality that glorifies the strength, significance and beauty of these qualities. On the other hand, there is pressure from the desire for a well-fed life, which contradicts honesty. From contradictions come extremes, and from extremes come myths.
Sincere = naive
Naivety is an almost despised quality among people. It is considered a sign of youth, inexperience, immaturity. A naive person is pure; he has not yet had time to plunge into the abyss of injustice and cruelty. He is open, he doesn’t need lies “for the good” yet. Such characters appear often. But among sincere people there are those who came to this consciously, refusing self-deception. The world's lies begin with lying to oneself. It brings the inner world into dissonance. Establishing an honest dialogue with your inner self is the first step towards openness to the world. To do this, it is not necessary to turn a blind eye to injustice, deception, human vices, or forget human sins and insidious nature. Awareness of this does not go away with the advent of harmony. It is the attitude that changes, not the vision.
Honesty is the quality of fools
There is no benefit to telling the truth. The world pays for lying. 80% of money is concentrated in the hands of 20% of skilled liars. The more honest a person is, the less likely he is to take an advantageous position in society. According to popular belief, such a person is a fool. But the chosen lifestyle does not depend on mental abilities, intelligence, or education. Are Buddhist lamas, Indian hermit sages and other ascetics stupid?
Honesty is always virtuous
The truth is used by people for gain. An honest story about a competitor is nothing more than a trick and an attempt to hide one’s own sins. Sometimes the truth is harsh and destructive. A fundamentally honest person does not calculate the gravity of the words spoken, bringing down a waterfall of troubles on the head of the listener. He doesn't care what consequences the truth will lead to. He doesn't care about other people's feelings. He is honest because this is the basis of morality and ethics, hammered into his head with the iron staples of upbringing. In this case, there is no question of virtue.
