Gender psychology: how men differ from women

Men are from Mars, women are from Venus - this expression, which was originally the title of a book, has long become popular. It perfectly characterizes the essence of one of the branches of psychology that studies the differences between men and women, which is called gender psychology. The spectrum of her study includes life perception, thinking, emotions and conflict resolution related to the psychological aspects of different genders. What are the main differences between male and female psychology?

Abilities, or who is smarter

Nobody. It is impossible to compare a man and a woman in terms of intelligence, since each sex is excellent in its own sphere and, accordingly, is superior to the opposite:

• Women have more developed abilities in reading, writing, languages, aesthetics, that is, humanitarian abilities.
• Men have more developed technical abilities in the field of exact sciences.

It is impossible to say what causes this pattern: natural influence or the result of stereotypical upbringing (boys are bought cars and literally forced to tinker with the equipment). But another fact definitely does not depend on upbringing: among men, geniuses and mentally retarded people are more common.

Love

When you first meet, a guy is unlikely to think about serious connections. Otherwise, they are not a priority. Therefore, the stronger sex is quite happy with meetings that do not imply obligations. You can seize male territory smoothly and without harsh statements. Since your demonstration of rights to his heart can act as a stop signal for a gentleman.

Boasting

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Men's psychology in relationships with women is often determined by “spreading dust.” A source of pride is a new car, a successful career, the number of books read. The admiration of young ladies gives strength to the stronger sex, “inspires” and motivates them to new exploits. A simple guy feels like a superhero who has the ability to solve every problem.

This happens on a subconscious level, because everyone tries to surprise their companion and be the best in her eyes. In this sense, he is like a child. Therefore, you should not cut off your sense of greatness, but believe in its possibilities.

Straightforwardness

Women strive to get pleasure from communication, while guys want the necessary information. They take what they hear literally, but hints and veiled phrases are not for them.

Masking emotions

The psychology of male behavior is built on restraining feelings. A real man should not take out his feelings on his loved ones. Difficulties at work or other obstacles will make him withdrawn.

Women at this moment act according to two scenarios. They may become self-absorbed, imagining worst-case scenarios. As a result, the chosen one has a new problem. The second option is that the girl arranges an interrogation, trying in every way to find out what the matter is. I advise you to wait out the storm that has washed over your husband and not allow the behavior described above.

Feelings are important to a girl. She needs to understand that she is the one and only for her lover. A woman is guided by her feelings and heart when choosing a partner. She gives all of herself and devotes her life to a man. One might say, to some extent, he becomes completely attached to the person.

But men have a slightly different perception. They, as they say, “love with their eyes.” For them, a woman’s appearance and her certain qualities play a huge role. Feelings tend to be relegated to the background. If a girl in a relationship considers herself obligated and busy, then men often do not feel any such responsibility. And this becomes a huge problem that destroys even the most true love.

The work of the hemispheres

Not only are the right and left hemispheres of all people not equally developed, but there is an additional difference between men and women: women use two hemispheres at once, men use only one. This is why it is more difficult for men to combine analysis and emotions. This also makes women talk faster and more emotionally. But men are better at spatial orientation.

All behavior of men and women depends on the characteristics of the hemispheres:

• Men need time to switch from feelings to rationality and vice versa.
• Women constantly balance between emotions and reason, while men are guided by one or the other.

Differences based on psychophysiological characteristics

The main difference between the different sexes is the composition of hormones. The predominance of the sex hormone determines a person’s gender. Features of the hormonal system affect the following functions:

1. General condition of the body. The normal functioning of the hormonal system determines the level of physical and mental activity.
2. Behavior and character. Hormonal imbalance causes lethargy, apathy, and a tendency to hypochondria.
3. Sexual activity. High testosterone levels promote greater sexual activity.

Hormonal imbalance leads to depression, psychophysical abnormalities, and sexual dysfunction.

Adaptation

The ability to adapt is directly related to the characteristics of the nervous system. It is known that all people differ in temperament (type of nervous system), but it is also known that women have a more flexible and less stable psyche (transitions from one emotional state to another occur in a matter of seconds) than men. It is this fact that allows us to talk about better adaptation abilities in women.

A little about betrayal

Another point is everyday life

The stronger sex also loves the attention of others. Living together forces spouses to get used to it, interest slowly fades away

And a pinch of admiration from a stranger can rip off your companion’s head.

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There is a category of young people who love risk. It is he who forces them to cheat, since this is accompanied by a feeling of danger and adrenaline. Moreover, intrigue with a large number of ladies increases self-confidence. There is also the psychology of male hunters, for whom a woman is prey, she must behave like an unsolved mystery and maintain the interest of her chosen one.

Perception

Of all types of perception, men have the best developed visual. Women perceive better by ear. Yes, yes, men really love with their eyes, and women love with their ears.

As for color perception, it develops earlier in women. In addition, women can see more shades. Women's perceptions are generally more flexible than men's.

Career versus family

In ancient times, a man was a breadwinner - his function was to protect and provide food for his family, and women were engaged in giving birth and raising children. Since then, times have changed, and in modern society, representatives of the fair sex can choose any profession, build a career and earn money, but manifestations of inner instincts often become a serious problem.

Example : the husband goes to a meeting instead of a children's party. This does not mean that he is not interested in his own children, their affairs and successes; simply, in the hierarchy of his values, professional growth comes first. Men’s greatest fears are usually associated with their career – they perceive unfulfilled ambitions as their own failure in life, so they are ready to do a lot for their sake.

Assessment and self-esteem

Women are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem and dissatisfaction with themselves. When it comes to evaluating other people, women evaluate men more adequately than women. This is quite understandable. After all, every woman is a potential rival. If a conflict arises between two women, then the battle will be life and death. It has long been proven that in wrestling women are much more cynical, tougher, more aggressive and calculating than men.

Men are more tolerant and forgiving of women's shortcomings, perhaps because they always consider themselves a little better and stronger. Women in general are more prone to judgment, discussion and condemnation.

Two more patterns are also interesting:

• Men rate women's business qualities lower than they expect. Women rate physical strength lower than men expect.
• But in terms of appearance, women are more lenient towards men, which cannot be said about men’s perception of women’s appearance.

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Each person is unique and inimitable. There are no two identical stones in the world, much less people. But with all human diversity, there are differences that immediately catch the eye - the differences between men and women. And they are not only in the external distinctive signs of gender. It turns out that the internal organs of the same name act somewhat differently in men and women; they have different metabolic rates, breathing and heart rates, blood composition, etc.

To substantiate and clarify the statement in the title, we present comparative data from numerous studies concerning differences between men and women. These will be features of perception, logic and intuition, temperament, nervous system, observation, adaptability, relationships with others, interests, assessments, physical parameters, organization of thinking, activity, energy of work and entrepreneurship and much more, in which men and women differ significantly.

Essential Disclaimer

Let’s make a reservation right away that we are talking about some “average” “typical” man and woman. The diversity of both is such that there are women who have more masculine traits than another man. There will also be men who have greater “feminine” qualities than a certain woman. But these are exceptions, which, as they say, only confirm the existence of the rule. Therefore, throughout the following, by the word “man” or “woman” we will understand a certain “typical” representative of one’s gender.

This chapter is devoted to listing typical differences.

More developed:

Let us emphasize once again that we are talking about the “average” man and woman.

Peculiarities of perception

In a man’s perception, the main place is occupied by what he sees. For a woman, most of the impressions are related to the perception of speech. It is no coincidence that the statement that “a man loves with his eyes, and a woman with her ears.”

In terms of speed of perception and mental mobility, a woman is noticeably superior to a man. Women, for example, read faster than men and present what they read better and with greater detail. They usually count faster than men and remember better.

Intuition

A man grasps and evaluates the situation as a whole, a woman, rather, fixes her attention on the little things.

It is interesting to observe how, for example, men and women decide on purchasing a book. Men (mostly) will definitely look at the table of contents. Women, as a rule, will open a few pages and see what’s there. The impression from these pages will determine her choice - to buy or not.

Due to her interest in little things, a woman is much more observant than a man, and this is the source of the famous female intuition. The argument “I feel like this is so” is from the female arsenal.

In most cases, this instinct does not fail a woman. If she says “I feel like he has someone” (meaning a rival) - in 90% of cases she is right, although she cannot give any arguments to prove this unfortunate circumstance. Also R. Kiimeng o.

Women's increased attention to details and little things sometimes leads to the fact that, being carried away by the little things, she does not notice the main thing.

- Where were you today, Pussy?

- The Queen of England.

- What did you see at court?

— I saw a mouse on the carpet.

However, testing shows that the percentage of women hitting the bull's-eye is no less than the percentage of men in a scrupulous logical analysis. But the gain in time and effort is obvious.

Observation

Great observation is characteristic of a woman in an ordinary situation. In a situation of stress and danger, a woman is more likely to “lose her head,” and with it her powers of observation.

In men, in a situation of danger, observation becomes more acute.

Women can quickly and easily understand a person by facial expressions, gestures, and glances, which is the secret of their subtle intuition. As a result, it is very difficult for a man to deceive a woman. A woman will deceive a man more easily. We want to disappoint representatives of the stronger sex who believe that they manage to deceive their “half”: from the fact that she does not talk about her suspicions, it does not follow that she does not have them. Very often a woman remains silent because she is afraid of the aggravation of the relationship.

Temperament

Observations by psychologists indicate that men are more likely to have a predominance of choleric temperamental traits. They are characterized by a clear manifestation of volitional reactions, assertiveness, energy, and impatience. A man is usually characterized by greater external aggressiveness, greater perseverance, and the ability to withstand rough pressure. Therefore, the choleric temperament can be considered as a “male temperament.”

Sanguine and melancholic temperaments are more consistent with female nature. Women are characterized by mobility, violent expression of feelings, and rapid mood changes. A woman is usually aggressive only if she is unhappy.

Male determination and a penchant for risk are well complemented by female caution, male harshness - by female softness, male neglect of everyday details - by a woman’s increased aesthetic requirements.

Men love it when they manage to show will, endurance, strength and other “strength qualities” or purely intellectual abilities, while women gravitate towards the humanitarian sphere, to what concerns a person and his inner world.

Emotionality

Women are usually much more emotional than men. It is customary for men to restrain their emotions; demanding this from a woman is pointless. Women's mood swings are enormous. “A loving woman is an angel on earth,” says one of the proverbs, “Before an evil wife, Satan is an immaculate child! "- says another.

Women react more sharply to rewards and punishments, and react more painfully to conflicts and troubles at work and at home. A woman laughs when she can and cries when she wants.

Women have a more personal attitude to events.

Due to all this, women have a fairly highly developed imagination and fantasy, as a result of which sometimes such plans arise that a man will only grab his head when he hears another speculation.

But women's fantasies help them a lot in advertising, where the presence of fantasy helps them find original solutions.

Women change their facial expressions more often and can reflect several dozen different feelings, while in men, as a rule, only two can be recognized: disgust and indifference. In women, folds in the corners of the lips show particular mobility.

Nervous system and adaptability

The nervous system of women is less stable. Therefore, a woman quickly moves from one emotional state to another.

Her ability for instant psychic transformation surpasses that of a man.

The combination of all these features ultimately leads to the fact that women are better able to adapt to changing circumstances.

Attitude towards love

Both women and men love themselves in each other: she - because he loves her, he - because she gives him pleasure in sex.

Before spending the night with a man, a woman wants to understand whether she loves him. And a man can understand whether he loves a woman after spending the night with her.

And all this because for a woman, the goal is love, and sex is a means. For a man it’s the other way around: the goal is sex, and love is the means.

A woman wants a lot, but from one man. A man wants one thing, but from many women.

It is easier for a woman to fall in love than to confess her love. And it’s easier for a man to confess than to fall in love.

“Men usually love those women whom they respect; women respect only the men they love” (V. O. Klochevsky).

Male power

Height indicators for men fluctuate significantly more relative to the average male height than for women relative to the average female height: women gravitate more toward the “golden mean.”

The muscles of girls are developed (on average) 25% less than those of boys, physical performance does not exceed 75% of men.

Male strength in women's sports, or the issue of hermaphrodites

Hermaphrodite in ancient Greek mythology is the son of Hermes and Aphrodite, united by the gods with the nymph Salmacidas so that their bodies formed one but bisexual creature. Nowadays, people with male and female gender characteristics are called hermaphrodites.

Typically, hermaphrodites are physically stronger than women, and this circumstance was used by unscrupulous sports organizers and coaches to win victories for their hermaphrodites in women's sports.

At the end of the 50s, at one of the USSR championships in athletics, an unprecedented incident occurred at that time: Olympic champion in shot put Galina Zybina refused to climb to the second step of the podium at the end of the competition, accusing the other two winners of being... male.

The topic of hermaphrodites in sports is perhaps one of the most sensitive. History knows examples when they were brutally dealt with and made public. So, Hitler, having heard that the strongest German high jumper Dora Rathjen had no more relation to a woman than himself, took it as a disgrace to the nation and sent the athlete... to the front!

In the USSR, hermaphrodites created glory for Soviet women's sports: the same “wonder women” ran, jumped, threw the javelin and put the shot. And everything is at the level of world records!

The Olympic champion of Innsbruck in the ski relay, Alevtina Kolchina, once threw a scandal at sports officials, demanding that her main rival be removed from the team. “I work my ass off in training,” the skier was indignant, “and a man comes and everything goes to him.”

After a series of high-profile scandals, starting in 1966, all female athletes are allowed to participate in major international competitions only after being tested for their so-called gender. The procedure for this sex control is quite simple - a swab is taken from the cheek and sent to the laboratory, where doctors study it for the presence of male chromosomes in the body.

The introduction of the “cleanliness of the floor” test cost Soviet sports dearly. “Wonder Women” did not dare to appear at the competition (in particular, the offenders Zybina and Kolchina). As a result, the USSR Olympic teams, having exposed themselves, miserably failed both the 1968 Winter and Summer Games.

At the Atlanta Games, advocates for stricter sex control raised the issue again. If according to statistics, they say, for every 20 thousand inhabitants of the planet there is one hermaphrodite, then in sports the “accuracy” is much higher - one per 500 people.

Other physical parameters

Women are superior to men in dexterity, speed of perception, reaction, speed of speech, sensitivity of touch, and coordination of movements. Men are superior to women in coordination of movements and spatial orientation.

Women get sick about half as often as men, although they worry about their health and complain about it much more. The life expectancy of women is 7-15 years longer than that of men (the reasons for this are discussed in detail in the last chapter of the book).

Women have fewer deformities and infantilism is less common. There are 3-4 times fewer women suicides than men who commit suicide.

Women tolerate pain better than men, as well as monotonous, monotonous, uninteresting activities.

Men usually have a better developed vestibular system. Because of this, women usually do not like to ride backwards on public transport and therefore try to take a seat facing the direction of travel.

Interests

One of the most extensive studies of sex differences in personality traits was conducted in America by Theremin and Miles. This study consisted of seven parts: association experiment, inkblots (Rorschach), awareness, emotional and ethical attitudes, interests, opinions and introverted reactions.

According to this study, which was carried out on people of different ages and different positions, there were pronounced differences between men and women. Thus, men are more interested in exploits and adventures, activities related to physical activity, technology, exact sciences, and invention. Women are more interested in household chores, aesthetics, and professions in which they need to help the weak (children, the sick). Men are more self-confident, aggressive, stubborn and courageous, more harsh in manners, speech and feelings. Women are more sensitive, responsive and shy, more emotional.

Let's add to this that men are more interested in politics.

Relationships with others

Women perceive human relationships more subtly and react more sensitively to their nuances than men. If men have a stronger need to achieve goals and success, then for women relationships with others come first.

Attention to others is one of the most attractive features of true femininity. A man may not notice someone's teary eyes, trembling lips, poor appetite or unusual silence. This cannot be hidden from a woman.

Women “read” faces much better, subtly grasp the mood of the interlocutor, and are much more sensitive.

Men are more aggressive, women are more conflict-ridden.

Due to the great importance for a woman of relationships with others, her speech is more complete and complicated compared to men’s. In general, women are stronger in grammar and languages. The reason is the more developed left hemisphere of the brain, which, in particular, “manages” speech.

Relationships in the team

It is much easier for men to coexist in men's groups than for women in women's groups. Father-in-law and son-in-law find a common language much more often than mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

If we talk about teams, the least conflicting are mixed ones, where men and women are represented in approximately equal proportions. In this case, both of them try to keep themselves “within limits” both in actions and in words, and the opposites of the male and female approach are balanced.

If the team consists primarily of workers of one gender, then the moral climate will be better if the leader is of the other gender. It is no coincidence that in women's groups they prefer to have a man as their leader.

Men feel especially awkward when they receive negative feedback in the presence of women.

Naturalness

For the most part, men (with the possible exception of professional intelligence officers) are easily recognizable. The properties of their character are written out in their facial features, in their clothes, the way they speak and listen, in the way they walk, sit down, stand up, straighten their tie, say hello, say goodbye, know how to laugh (or, conversely, do not know how), wait, catch up etc. Most men simply do not pay attention to these details and behave as they are used to, as it seems natural to them in a given situation.

A woman never gives herself away. Or at least tries not to give himself away. She knows (hopes) that they are always looking at her, so everything in a woman is prepared for such viewing, she also strives to be natural, but in a female performance this means being better than she actually is. This means being better than even your own reputation. Better as much as possible... Perhaps this shows some secrecy and cunning of women? In any case, a woman does not want to give away her secrets for next to nothing. Although she doesn't keep other people's secrets well.

“A man keeps someone else’s secret more faithfully than his own; women keep their own better than someone else’s” (J. La Bruyère).

Ratings

Women's self-esteem is often underestimated, and men's is overestimated. Men are more often satisfied with themselves.

Women are more objective towards men than towards women. “No matter how badly men think of women, every woman thinks even worse of them” (Chamfort). “Women do not love each other and the reason for this dislike is a man” (J. La Bruyère).

Many men rate women's business qualities lower than they expect. Women tend to rate their physical attractiveness lower than men think. Fortunately, women are more tolerant of a man's appearance. There is even a popular saying among women that “a man can only be a little more beautiful than a monkey.” The difference between men and women also concerns how strictly they judge each other’s shortcomings. According to Kant, men judge leniently, sometimes jokingly, as Kozma Prutkov wrote about this, but in any case, always with an awareness of their own priority.

This, it seems to us, is the basis of their leniency. For only the strong (or those who consider themselves such) can afford leniency towards the weak. This represents the element of masculinity. A woman judges strictly, sometimes very strictly. Moreover, she not only judges, she condemns. And this is an element of her natural destiny - to judge, condemn, award in order to gain priority in the competition with her rival friends. And if necessary, pull a member of the stronger sex.

A man prefers a male court. However, a woman, knowing the inflexibility of female judgment, is also more inclined to male judgment. At the very least, it is the male court that gives her the opportunity to hope for forgiveness and acquittal, even in cases in which another court would immediately issue an indictment. In addition, a women's court by its nature cannot be based on law. Its basis is affection, mercy, passion. A male court can convict “out of principle,” while a female court can acquit “out of sympathy.”

Touchiness

A man forgives and forgets, a woman forgives but does not forget. This quality makes women similar to cats.

Many owners know that cats can hardly tolerate men; they treat women better. And the point here is not so much that a woman’s voice has a higher pitch and sounds much closer to a cat’s than a man’s.

The main reason is that the cat never forgets the pain caused. It is enough for a boy to pull her tail or a veterinarian to give her an injection (and almost all veterinarians are men), and the entire strong half of humanity becomes her blood enemies. That's why cats often run away as soon as they hear a man's steps.

And one more interesting point. Predators from the order of cats - tigers, jaguars, pumas and especially lions - attack men much more often (12: 1) than women. This is explained by the peculiarities of their genetic memory. So it is easier for women to tame tigers than for men.

Compassion

“Women are sympathetic, kind-hearted, compassionate,” Kant wrote. Indeed, women are more compassionate than men. Several observations have been made in different countries. An accident with serious consequences was staged on the road. Of the 100 men passing, 40 drove past, almost without slowing down, about 40 drove past, significantly reducing the speed and then quickly picking it up, about 20 stopped out of curiosity, 4 of them reported to the nearest police post and to the ambulance, and out of 5 women passing at that time, 4 stopped. It is difficult to imagine that a woman who could help would drive past.

"Feelers" and "Doers"

People can be divided into feeling and acting. For the former, what is most important is his relationship with the people around him. Inner experiences and emotions are what is most important for them in communication, including in marital relationships. What happens in the soul, in their soul and the soul of a loved one, is much more important for them than practical matters.

“Feelers” are often suspicious, anxious, and prone to doubt. They take failures seriously and may even get sick due to grief.

Because of this penchant for play, the ability to rejoice, and emotionality, “people of action” are often considered immature. The “actors” themselves are occupied primarily with external, practical life. They live in a world of actions, in a world of responsibility, paying little attention to the experiences - their own or those of others. They lack flexibility.

“People of action” are more thorough; they tend to stick to the established course of things. For them, the main thing is the goal, the result of their actions, “what and why to do,” while for “feeling” people it is more important, “with whom and how to do it.”

Do not think that “feeling” people work less than “doing” people. In no case! An energetic, active woman, coping with a heap of stress, in essence may well be a “feeling” woman.

How to distinguish a “feeler” from a “doer”? Just imagine: a child hurt himself and cried. One of the parents immediately asks: “Where does it hurt?”, and the other: “What happened? “Of course, the first of the parents is “feeling”, the second is “acting”.

Of course, “people of action” are most often men, and “people of feeling” are women. Men create laws, women create morals. Why is it so important for “actors” to understand female character? Yes, because the look, word, phrase of the “acting” person, which we would not pay any attention to or would consider completely “normal”, can bring the “feeling” into a state of joy or spoil the mood for the whole day. It’s not for nothing that they say: “A woman attaches more importance not to what she says, but to what she hears.”

Many women expect men to be more energetic and efficient than themselves, and if this is not the case, they try to “educate” them in this spirit. This often serves as a source of conflict.

Left and right

There is no symmetry in the arrangement of human internal organs, and even the two halves of the brain control different areas: our speech and ability to speak languages, the ability to use words, numbers and symbols depend on the left, while hearing, musical abilities, emotions and intuition depend on the right. Doctors have noticed that patients with impaired function of the right side of the brain often lack a sense of humor and the ability to understand double meanings.

Both hemispheres of the brain develop differently in men and women. For women, as a rule, both halves take part in solving all problems, for men - more often than not, only one. Therefore, on average, women speak faster than men and pronounce words more correctly, use their fingers more skillfully, and count well in their heads. Men are better at building abstract mathematical models and finding their way around a foreign city.

For many peoples, the left was associated with a gentle feminine principle, and the right with a strong masculine principle. In ancient times, it was generally believed that girls are born from the left egg, boys from the right. Be that as it may, in the Catholic Church, women still bend their left knee, men - their right.

Thinking

The philosophical mindset, for example, has always been considered masculine. Among the well-known names - Democritus, Plato, Aristotle, Spinoza, Kant, Hegel and many others - there is not a single woman.

Brain researchers have found that a woman's brain is wired differently than a man's brain.

If a man has clearly differentiated functions of the cerebral hemispheres, that is, the left is responsible for logical thinking, and the right is responsible for abstract thinking, then in a woman both the left and the right are not much different from each other. To solve some abstract problem, a man intensively works only the right hemisphere, a woman - both. For example, when a man reads, he uses only a small part of the left hemisphere of the brain, while women use larger parts of both hemispheres. And another observation: on average, men speak slower than women, but they work faster on the telegraph key.

Large areas of the brain are activated in women when they are immersed in memories, especially sad ones, and in men when they need to show their intelligence. But reading, working on a key, conversation, and intelligence are all functions of the brain, which means our brains are structured differently.

This is confirmed by indirect medical observations. With hemorrhage in the left hemisphere of the brain, women recover faster.

The average man and the average woman have approximately equal IQ. But if women gravitate towards the “golden mean” - IQ = 100, then among men there is a large proportion of both ultra-high intelligence and mental retardation. Seven out of eight people in the top 1% of people on Earth are men, but seven out of eight people with mental disabilities are also men.

"I do not understand you…"

The different structure of the brain of a man and a woman leads to the fact that from the same premises he and she often come to different conclusions, therefore they do not understand each other well. This is reflected in many statements of famous men, famous for their insight and sharp mind:

“Women have always been a picturesque protest of common sense. They noticed its danger from the very beginning (O. Wilde).

- The mind of most women serves not so much to strengthen their prudence, but to justify their recklessness (F. La Rochefoucauld).

- Women! women! who will understand them? Their smiles contradict their looks, their words promise and beckon, but the sound of their voice repels. Either they comprehend and guess our most secret thought in a minute, or they do not understand the clearest hints (M.Yu. Lermontov).

And for dessert - a completely gloomy statement:

- If he and she finally see eye to eye, it means they have decided to separate.

— Time spent with a woman cannot be considered lost. The male mind needs communication with the female (A. Maurois).

Abilities and preferences

Recent research provides further evidence of the noticeable difference in the spiritual and mental organization of men and women. Scientists from the University of Chicago Aarri Hedges and Amy Nowell, analyzing six large-scale surveys of boys and girls in the United States, confirmed the trend that they had previously observed.

Its essence is that girls are more capable than boys in reading and writing, in languages, and aesthetics, while boys are more successful in the exact sciences and mathematics, which has a serious impact on their entire subsequent lives.

Another important difference is that when tested, girls show less variation in results than boys. The male sex outperformed the female sex at the very top of the grades. However, in the lower group there were also more men than

women. Reducing this to a simplified formula, we can say that there are more very gifted boys than very gifted girls. However, there are clearly fewer dumb girls than dumb boys.

.The inability to master reading skills affects men three times more often, stuttering three times more often, and mental retardation one and a half times more often.

Women's Thinking is more characterized by beauty and harmony, subtlety of analysis, deep intuition and spontaneity. At the same time, male thinking is more abstract, often paradoxical and daring, it is distinguished by greater flights of imagination.

About seven times as many boys as girls scored excellent grades in science, and twice as many boys as girls scored in the top 5 percent in math. This was even more striking in everything related to computer science, computers, mechanics, electronics, and cars. On the other hand, boys were clearly lagging behind when it came to reading, memory, and perceptual speed. Young men are weaker in everything that concerns linguistic abilities and skills.

Girls distinguish colors, shades, and smells earlier than boys and more accurately; they master work skills more firmly and study more smoothly.

Energy

Male energy is precise. Points in space do not interfere with each other's existence. Independence is inherent in men and it does not interfere with coexistence.

Feminine energy is space. When women interact, they have to give up some space. At the same time, they are intuitively afraid of losing themselves, of dissolving in interaction.

When two friends “chirp”, they are not afraid of losing themselves, since their conversation is superficial and does not take up space from each other. This “energetic” approach explains why it is easier for a man to find a common language: the points do not interfere with each other.

The Japanese have proven that men have an innate need to hit, pound, hammer (nails), shoot. That is, the energy is explosive. Therefore, men (unlike women) do not tolerate long, monotonous, monotonous work.

A woman by nature is much more stable and conservative than a man, for she is the guardian and continuer of the human race. Therefore, it is more “fluid”, spatial. (Female energy is the image of water.) Therefore, it adapts more easily to the changed situation. The result is a woman who is more tenacious, as we have already talked about.

The energy of men also determines their greater activity compared to women.

Abstract and concrete

Women prefer the concrete to the abstract. Men feel more confident when they have savings (in a bank, in a “box”). Women prefer to get specific benefits from this money, that is, to buy something without putting it off for later. (At the same time, each believes that no one can spend money better than she.)

The following parable also demonstrates the different approaches of a man and a woman.

He and she wander through the desert. Suddenly they see a chest lying on the sand.

Him: Where is he here from?

She: Look what's in it!

Women's practicality combined with increased emotionality can give a hellish mixture:

Two friends:

- Yesterday I was walking down the street, suddenly a Zhigu stopped next to me, an unfamiliar man opened the door and invited me for a ride! Can you imagine how impudent!!!

- Why so impudent?

- God! You should have seen his apartment!!!

Perception of work

Traditionally, for a man, work is a means to realize and express himself; for a woman, it is a place where she can feel respect and communicate.

Sociological studies conducted in 1985 and repeated in 1992 showed: for women, good relationships in a team and the personal qualities of a leader are the most significant motives when choosing and evaluating a place of work. Men place the profession, its content, job functions and wages at the forefront. For women, all this is also important, but is not a priority. Materials from American sociological research indicate the same thing, which means that such data are objective and express an attitude towards the collective of women as such.

The productivity of women's labor directly depends on mutual understanding in the team. If contradictions, inevitable everywhere and always, do not take protracted, conflicting forms, women’s work efficiency increases by 20 - 30%.

This is indirectly confirmed by such an indicator as activity in the “man-machine” system. It is known that a woman works on a computer much worse than a man - in this work there is no “person-to-person” relationship, which is so important for her.

Much in a woman’s life is compensated by relationships in the team. 80% of women surveyed say: “At work I am a person, an individual”, “During the working day I feel that I am understood, that I am valued, that I bring benefit to society”, “Work allows me to survive family troubles and my husband’s cruelty , alienation of a child." Maybe that's why women love to drink tea at work. This is not so much a distraction as it unites them, brings peace of mind, satisfies the need for communication,

So, the work collective is of great spiritual and personal value for a woman. The notorious accusations against women of high levels of conflict at work require serious study and confirmation by scientific data.

But conflicts in women's groups, of course, do happen. As a rule, they are not caused by industrial relations (unlike men - they quarrel over low wages, downtime, due to possible layoffs). Industrial conflicts between men usually affect the climate in the family. For women, the opposite is true - the lack of mutual understanding at home affects their relationships in the team and causes inadequate reactions to the behavior of colleagues. This is understandable: what we value most is what touches us the most.

Division of labor

Women are more adapted than men to delicate, but monotonous, monotonous work associated, for example, with the movement of a conveyor belt. Men tend to work with an element of risk, a loose program of action, coverage of the phenomenon as a whole, etc. Therefore, there is a kind of division of labor by gender: assemblers of watches or electronic circuits on the assembly line are always women, and repairmen are predominantly men.

In the leadership chair

For a male leader, his subordinates are the cogs on which the functioning and success of the enterprise depends. A woman chef thinks differently: the better the relationships in her team, the more satisfaction the accountant or storekeeper will receive from work, the better they will perform their duties.

Entrepreneurship

There are fewer women in business than men, because... entrepreneurship is associated with decision making, leadership, responsibility, and risk. These are not win-win moments for women.

In addition, women have weaker career goals and worse starting conditions (they are less likely to have leadership experience).

Women's income in business is significantly less than that of men.

A woman is more inclined to family business. Business activity of unmarried women is higher. And for those who plunge headlong into business, their families most often fall apart.

Common mistakes women make in entrepreneurship:

• willingness to ask, complain, cry in order to get your way (in business, men and women are equal);
• timidity in decision making;
• the desire (and at home) to do everything yourself;

the attitude that “work is all life.” In fact, women who are happy in their families achieve more success.

Communication

Men pay attention to arguments. In communication, they are laconic and unemotional. Women tend to be distracted from the essence of the conversation, using emotions or intonation instead of arguments.

Men are prone to discussions and consideration of different positions. They do not perceive any difference of opinion as a quarrel. For women it’s the opposite. Because of this and the psychological tendency of men to weakly recognize intonations, women’s grievances often arise.

Logic2

Surely you have heard about the mysterious female logic. And partly this myth really works. Let's try to objectively analyze the situation using examples.

Women are more prone to invention and fantasy. Judge for yourself, at the first meeting with a potential suitor, most girls begin to try to look into the future, to draw up some kind of action plan for later. Their imagination draws on the chosen one sometimes pros and cons that do not correspond to reality.

He just said that as a child there was a cat in his apartment, and she was already in awe of his touching love for animals. But this guy developed an allergy, or after that “childish” cat he stopped perceiving animals as an acceptable norm.

Did you say I love children? He'll be a great dad. The woman’s imagination has already “gave birth” to three small children. One of them kicks a soccer ball with his dad, the second one is taken to tennis lessons by his caring father. Well, what about your beloved daughter, who will definitely appear in the future? She and her dad are already playing the piano with four hands.

Men don't think like that. It is much easier and more interesting for them to analyze and try to be objective. He, of course, can try to imagine this or that partner as the mother of his children. But he’s unlikely to start picturing potential offspring in pink dresses in his imagination.

Men are more about business. Women are about thoughts. Hence the huge number of clashes due to misunderstandings. Most girls tend to mistakenly believe that a man will definitely understand everything from her hints. She tries this way and that to direct him to make some kind of decision with their help. But the guy doesn’t understand everything. Why?

Men's logic is built on an objective chain of cause-and-effect relationships. He draws conclusions with his mind, not his heart. If you tell him you don't want to talk to him anymore, he'll likely take it straight and stop coming over and talking to him, at least for a while.

What does a girl want at such a moment? Well, she said: “Don’t come near me” with a certain intonation. How did he not understand that he was required, on the contrary, to turn on all his assertiveness and charm in order to win the heart of the princess?

A man really often does not understand the undertones, colors and changes in female impulses. You can say that over time your husband began to adequately understand hints. But this is just a training effect. He made the comparison that at such and such a moment such and such actions were expected of him.

In their circle, guys very often laugh at their significant other. For example, a reason for humor is a sudden expressive departure from a partner. Like, run after me and beg for forgiveness. One of the men turns around and walks off into the sunset. He just knows that the woman's sudden outburst of emotions will soon end.

The other one will decide that he does not want to develop the conflict. He will silently catch up with his partner, fulfilling the ending she had planned.

Thanks to women's logic, many interesting things have come to light. On the other hand, among men there are quite a few celebrities who were characterized by unconventional thinking, strange actions and a certain amount of hysteria.

Multitasking

It is impossible to judge this clearly. So, on the one hand, men cannot combine two different things if one requires emotional costs and the other analytical. But on the other hand, the ability to multitask is a mandatory requirement for a modern specialist.

However, psychology notes that women find it easier to multitask. Another question is that it is unlikely that it will be possible to study them equally qualitatively and in depth. And more often we are talking about everyday affairs, which, as a rule, are brought to the point of automation. Women are not so much prone to multitasking as they often have to combine several activities and areas, for example, family and work.

In conclusion, I want to make a reservation that the article was about the average man and woman. Of course, there may be unique exceptions that prove the rules.

Physical strength

In our country there is a restrictive list of professions for which women are not willing to be hired. For example, a builder. It would seem that a woman can fully understand and understand the complex construction process. The girls work as engineers in production and technical departments. Their responsibilities include creating drawings, conducting examinations, and monitoring all stages of construction.

If she understands all the nuances, then why can’t she become an auxiliary worker? By and large, this cannot be prohibited. On the other hand, no employer will hire a lady for such a position. Let's assume that she is quite developed physically. All the same, the path to the construction site is closed.

Male construction workers perform hard physical work every day. It requires not only knowledge of design and installation of materials, but also enormous strength. Girls objectively cannot cope with such work. Let’s say that when reconstructing railway tracks, it is necessary to lift heavy sleepers and rails.

Men do this in twos or threes. In principle, girls do not want to be burdened so much. If we assume that we need to recruit a team of representatives of the stronger sex, they will need to work five of them to do the same as the guys. For employers, these are unnecessary costs and ineffective distribution of labor.

But, as has been proven and tested by thousands of enterprises, women cope better with monotonous paperwork. Men more often look at document flow and execution of official papers as additional functions in the profession. They tend to forget “papers,” lose them, or fill them out with errors.

Women treat every document with greater responsibility and reverence. They more often understand the importance of little things than the stronger sex. This may be why there are significantly more girls than boys among accountants and office workers.

By the way, if we turn to the topic of painstaking monotonous work, women are ahead of men here too. The fact is that ladies are more attentive, notice insignificant things, and know how to find a mistake.

How to read the psychology of men

Their main goal is self-affirmation. In an effort to achieve this, they can push even their relationship with their beloved into the background. Difficulties on the way to the top of a career, problems at work can provoke a partner’s withdrawal. During this period, the lady's rational behavior will be an excellent motivation for achieving success.

Some tips on how to understand a guy's psyche:

• Do not interrogate or meddle in your companion’s affairs unless asked to do so.
• Do not criticize his actions, since a kind word is perceived positively, unlike reproaches.
• Provide support in difficult situations.
• You shouldn't show your superiority.

What should the fair sex do?

Don't be selfish. Every person needs attention and care. And the partner, in turn, wants to be the best for his companion. Therefore, you should not suppress these aspirations, reproach and criticize your spouse. Support, a kind word or pleasant memories can often accomplish the impossible.

How a man chooses his beloved

Guys take their choice of life partner seriously. Popular signs are:

• attractiveness;
• well-groomed and radiant appearance;
• character averse to scandals;
• the ability to create home comfort and surround your beloved with care.

These are quite feminine traits that are appreciated by most gentlemen. Therefore, girls with the above characteristics will always enjoy the attention of others.