Kisses mean more to women than to men. This is not a subjective judgment, but a well-known practice. Through kissing on the lips, representatives of the fair sex receive certain emotions that lead to passion, tender feelings and love for their partner. But, unfortunately, not all representatives of the stronger sex support this activity. Confused women cannot understand why this is happening. Does a man not like to kiss in general, or does he not want to kiss a specific woman?
Extremely serious
Kissing is one of the oldest human activities. It is an expression of affection, sympathy or love for another person. But why don't men like to kiss? Psychologists believe that the reason why a man rejects a kiss is deep childhood trauma.
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Numerous studies prove that this is indeed the case. If from childhood a boy was taught that a man should carefully consider his actions, and not cut from the shoulder. He will grow up to be a serious person.
As a result, a cold, unemotional man will enter life, rarely showing tenderness to a woman. Of course, you will have to wait a long time for a kiss from this. A serious man is in no hurry with hugs and kisses, and when it comes to them, he kisses him dryly on the lips. Such restrained “tactics” speaks either of his indifference or of serious intentions towards the girl. Obviously, one thing is that he does not need non-binding flirting. It won't be easy to melt the heart of such a guy.
Advice! If a girl is sincere and gentle with him, then he will change. He will transform from an extremely serious guy into a strong, passionate lover who is a great kisser.
Emphasizing the lips
The main instrument of kissing is the lips. Make sure they always look attractive. During the hot season, do not let them dry out: drink water, use a special balm. And in cold weather, make masks with oils and use hygienic lipstick.
One thing to note: guys don't like lipstick or gloss on their lips. Therefore, before a date, apply colorless lipstick or avoid lip makeup altogether.
To make a guy want to kiss you, draw attention to your lips in every possible way:
- Touch. Look thoughtful and lightly touch your lips with your fingers.
- Lightly bite your lower lip. Do it casually and not often
- Lick your lips. Lightly run your tongue over them. This will definitely attract a guy
The main rule: don't overdo it. Excessive biting and licking may appear too vulgar. If you don’t want the guy to form a certain opinion about you, then try to make these gestures as innocent as possible.
Don't forget about his lips. During a conversation, move your gaze from his eyes to his lips. He will clearly notice your interest and will be the first to want to kiss you.
Too timid
Psychology considers an innate “social sense” to be the basis of a character trait. It's no secret that in our society women are mainly involved in raising boys. Mothers and nannies work with children up to three years old, in kindergartens there are female educators, in schools there are female teachers.
As a result, the boy’s character becomes “girlish”. Yes, he is, of course, gentle and obedient, but very timid. Lack of communication creates a feeling of dissatisfaction with life, and stupor from fear often leads to uncomfortable situations. For example, dating girls. A timid guy will not be able to decide on the first kiss for a long time, and the “young lady” will think that there is something wrong with her.
Advice! In such a situation, the girl should take the initiative and kiss him first. And in the future, if she wants to build a strong relationship, she needs to praise this guy. Tell him how loved, strong, courageous, and purposeful he is. Artificially create situations where he can prove himself a daredevil. And in the end she will have a gentle, loving, attentive guy who kisses sensually.
If it's just friendship
No matter how offensive it may be for girls, some guys consider their relationship to be friendly. If you look at him more closely, you can see how his gaze often stops at other women and desire appears in his eyes. He just walks with you and kisses you goodbye on the cheek. He is happy to communicate with you as a friend and has not yet chosen a real partner. Will your relationship develop into a close one? In 70% of cases this does not happen and his chosen one becomes another. You can continue to meet with him, but don’t have any illusions. He will remain just a friend. It's better to pay attention to other men who passionately devour you with their eyes. It's worth taking a break and looking around.
Feelings have cooled down
Unfortunately, in the relationship between a guy and a girl, there are different stages. When a couple just starts dating, their feelings are on fire and their kisses are passionate. But time passes and life makes its own adjustments, a feeling of routine and unjustified expectations appears.
The girl is waiting for that passionate kiss that was before, and the guy is trying to avoid the situation. Why, after some time after meeting, men do not like to kiss, because their psychology is different from women’s, experts say. The main feature of the stronger sex is that they attach little importance to kisses. They prefer to convey their feelings through action.
Recommendation : if a girl wants to further build a relationship, then psychologists recommend refreshing her feelings. For example, play the role of a defenseless princess and let the guy be superman. After all, for a real man it is important to be a hero and win. And then hot kisses will return to your life.
The guy is very serious
Some males treat the girl they like as a goddess. They are afraid to offend her by any unsuccessful action or by their rude behavior. Suddenly the girl gets offended and stops dating.
If you have been alone many times and there has not been a single real kiss, then his intentions are perhaps much more serious than you think. The guy not only decided to have fun once again, but has serious feelings. For some “right” men, a real kiss is the beginning of an intimate relationship, which should be immediately followed by a stormy romantic night in bed. His restraint is explained by the fact that he does not want to accidentally spoil the general opinion of his person and seem intrusive in such an important matter. It is possible that you are lucky in this case and the guy will reveal all his feelings to you a little later. There will be more tender kisses, passion and bed. Perhaps it will even come to a wedding and a bunch of little children.
I don't like the smell
The sense of smell plays a huge role in everyone's life. It is associated with our emotions, impressions, protective functions, and sometimes unpredictable reactions of the body. Sometimes one single scent can bring dramatic changes to our lives, filling it with both positive and negative emotions. Research by scientists has shown that if a man avoids kissing, it means that he does not like the smell of his partner. The reason is inappropriate perfume smell, stale body odor or bad breath.
Note! The reason for refusing a kiss can be not only the girl’s irritating smell, but also the guy’s complexes. Maybe he thinks he has bad breath. In such a situation, you may be advised to monitor your diet more closely and, if possible, avoid alcohol, spices, and herbs. And also monitor the functioning of the gastrointestinal tract.
The guy didn't kiss me on the first date
Every girl, coming home after the first date, immediately asks questions about how it all went. A frequent question is why he didn’t kiss me, what to expect next and whether it’s worth continuing communication.
The first date should never be limited. The reason why you didn't kiss could be various factors.
Guys, just like girls, have their own principles. Perhaps for him a kiss at the first meeting is too hasty a step, and he decided not to rush. Chat a little more, go on a second, third date, let the person get to know you well.
A common reason for being ignored in terms of a kiss is the fact that you simply are not interested in him. Your further communication will help you understand this. If you begin to notice that it is gradually fading away, you just need to let go. You won’t be nice by force, and it’s impossible to please everyone. Don't get hung up and move on!
Showing weakness
The girls believe that all men are brave warriors who fearlessly enter into a duel with a wild beast, lead a ship in a force nine storm, and stand in defense of the world and humanity. But this is not true, they can also be weak. For example: a young man is nervous before a first date, he is afraid of doing something wrong.
And when it comes to kissing, he gives up. Psychologists explain this behavior as follows: in unusual situations a person is not predictable. Brave by nature, he can get confused at a crucial moment.
Advice! In the life of any man there are ups and downs, it is important to lend him a helping hand in difficult times. Don’t be nervous, but talk calmly about the situation. And then the young man will see that in front of him is not only a sexual partner, but also an understanding friend. Next time his kiss will be tender and sensual.
Talk about it
If while watching a movie you happen to see a kissing scene, then focus your attention on it. Ask him about his first kiss, about the most unusual story that was associated with it. If he hasn't kissed before, then ask him directly if he would like to experience it.
A guy can understand why you started talking about kissing and immediately move on to action. But if he himself did not dare to kiss, but his desire to do so is noticeable, then do not lose the chance and do it first.
Restraint
Who is a reserved person? This is someone who knows how to manage his thoughts and feelings, he is able to maintain harmony and harmony in relationships with people. This is a wonderful character trait, but at some points in life it can play a cruel joke.
There are situations when a woman craves kisses right in a public place, and a man avoids them. This does not mean that he has any deviations, just that the person is not used to showing his feelings in public. But when they are alone, the girl will receive everything in full.
When caught in the web of love, men and women behave differently. A loving partner does not immediately understand that in front of him is the one with whom he wants to spend his life. He needs time to think, because by nature a man does not do anything spontaneously. Very rarely does he take an important step under the influence of feelings; usually he calculates all his actions. Therefore, it will take him time to put his thoughts in order. Dear girls, do not be upset if the young man does not immediately respond to your kiss, he is simply a reserved person by nature.
Types of kisses
The kiss will tell about its performer. Tightly compressed lips indicate reluctance to participate in sexual play. They opened the door and let you in - accept the invitation. The partner’s tongue is persistent, moving towards you - evidence of awakened passion. The manner of kissing unmistakably characterizes the stronger sex:
- Intense, exciting . The partner's lips and tongue are tense. The manner of kissing is characterized as hysterical. But the confidence of such a man is apparent. He rarely takes the initiative into his own hands. Entertain a woman - yes. But becoming a support, taking responsibility – no. Such a partner moves through life easily and flirts with every beauty.
- Hard, firm, rhythmic and monotonous . A decisive, “master’s” hug. There will be no romance. But a relaxed life and reliability are guaranteed (if a permanent partner is included in the plans). Such men are thorough, calm, and always lead their beloved girl down the aisle.
- Gently, carefully, practically without tongue . Such a man surrounds his beloved girl with care and affection. If you carefully set the direction for him and support him, then you will not find a more devoted partner. He is not a self-confident fighter and conqueror.
- Sensitive, varied . The partner easily moves from one method to another, adapts to the desires of the partner, and catches the mood. Women like this kind of man. In relationships, he seeks mutual understanding, prefers expressive and self-confident companions. His beloved must be perfect.
How do you understand if your partner refuses affection? From the first day we met or after some time... Today you can often hear from a girl: my boyfriend doesn’t kiss me. Moreover, in other areas of intimate life everything is fine.
Compatibility
Nine out of ten respondents of different genders said that they would not go on a second date if their partner is a bad kisser. They believe that a kiss can indicate sexual and emotional compatibility. But that's not true.
A couple will be comfortable with each other if they have the same life principles, similar levels of upbringing, education, and spirituality. Of course, sexual compatibility also plays a big role. But a positive partnership is not defined by a kiss. But if this happens, and the guy doesn’t want to kiss, then try to find the reason for his refusal and work through it together. And then your union will be perfect.
Removing the tension
It is very important at the beginning of a relationship to remove the “barrier” between you. Excessive modesty and suspiciousness interfere with relationships. In order to get rid of them, laugh at his jokes, give compliments and flirt slightly. It is these actions that will make the guy understand that you have certain feelings for him.
Just don't get too carried away with flirting and compliments. If you overdo it (especially on the first date), you can create an erroneous opinion about yourself and, on the contrary, alienate your chosen one.
When the psychological tension subsides, you can use more active actions. You can establish tactile contact. Pretend that you “accidentally” touched his hand, stroke his shoulder. Don't wait, do it first.
But if the guy touched you earlier, then show that you like it. For example, take his hand in yours. After such actions, the guy will most likely want to kiss you.
Don't use your tongue right away
Tongue movements make kissing very sexy, but they are usually the ones with the most problems. The guy either seems to be trying to lick your tonsils, or drools like a French bulldog. Add incorrect hand movements and the wrong tempo and you get a complete disaster. If your partner likes to stick his tongue in your mouth at the first kiss, advise him not to rush. Start with a more innocent option. Feel each other, learn to read signals and adapt to each other. After this, you can move into a full French kiss.
How to understand that a guy wants to kiss you
Every girl would like the initiative to come from her partner and not have to analyze signals and hints. But the reality is that sometimes you have to work hard. I'll tell you about some signs that indicate that a guy wants to move to the next level in a relationship, but for some reason he doesn't dare.
- He is embarrassed by accidental close contact or touching.
- He is unsure of himself, it is difficult for him to formulate thoughts, he is timid and blushes when communicating, he stutters or, conversely, chats incessantly on abstract topics, not allowing you to get a word in edgewise.
- During correspondence or telephone conversations, he behaves more decisively, hinting at the development of relationships at a new level. But when meeting in person, he becomes timid and takes a step back.
- When parting, the guy looks after you for a long time, as if he wanted to say something, but didn’t dare.
How to learn to kiss your husband again, a few simple tips
If you still love each other, but due to lack of time and worries about your family, you begin to move away from each other, and, as a result, kiss less often, you just need to change the situation. It is not at all necessary to buy expensive trips or go on vacation for this, although if you have such an opportunity, be sure to take advantage of it. Even a joint walk in the evening park, going to the cinema or to the nearest cafe will be beneficial. Touch your loved one more often, smile at him and look him straight in the eyes, don’t be shy to once again flirt with him or intrigue him with something.
To refresh a relationship, you can't do without kissing. They should become more frequent and longer lasting. To restore their former passion:
- Make your kisses delicious. Food, cocktails, aromatic drinks - anything - will help stimulate the receptors. The main thing is that you both like it - coffee or milkshake, strawberries or lemon, champagne or cake.
- Update your kisses. A simple “smack” on the lips is not exactly what will help rekindle the flame of love between you. Gentle French with the tongue, passionately or a kiss-pinch - it doesn’t matter how, as long as it’s not by inertia.
- Be relaxed and calm - this will help you unwind and feel the butterflies fluttering in your stomach again, just like you did at the beginning of your love story.
There remains one more way, if all these do not work - the woman needs to make the man a little jealous. But you can’t overdo it here, otherwise, instead of the expected result, you can get a huge scandal and aggravate an already difficult relationship. Perhaps your husband has stopped appreciating your beauty and femininity over the years. And if he sees that other men are paying attention to you, he will immediately want to prove that you are only his and no one else. And here it can turn into not only a hot kiss, but also passionate hot sex. Cherish your relationships, don’t let things take their course! Kiss as often as possible and don’t let anything interfere with your happiness!
