After cheating: 12 steps to learn to trust each other again

• October 18, 2019
• Psychology of relationships
• Fedorova Victoria

Losing trust is not at all difficult, but regaining it requires enormous effort. Many women, faced with a similar problem, ask a psychologist: after my husband’s betrayal, I can’t trust him. After all, when your heart is broken, it is especially difficult to restore faith in it. What is the right thing for a woman to do? She should understand and accept the fact that the family cannot be preserved in its previous form. The connection between husband and wife goes to another level, which is normal.

Is it possible to regain trust after betrayal?

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Trust is a simple but very meaningful word. It is trust that is the basis of any relationship, since trust, this invisible substance

, like powerful cement holds together that without which normal relationships are impossible.

If there is trust in your relationship, then you will sleep peacefully at night, feeling peace and tranquility. And it is trust that makes every phone call, every text message from your partner so welcome and enjoyable.

. And only thanks to trust can any relationship be preserved even when the partners remain for a long period of time at an arc distance from each other.

Scandal, excuses and other means that will not help restore trusting relationships

The following methods are strictly not suitable for reconciliation:

• an attempt to justify yourself, which will show your partner that you have not repented of what you did;
• screams and hysterics. Even if your loved one behaves aggressively, do not respond in the same manner. After all, he is the injured party, and you are to some extent a “criminal”;

  Screaming is the wrong way to convey information to an offended person

• seeking help in resolving the conflict from third parties. Such behavior will only aggravate the situation and increase the intensity of passions.

Set the record straight

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When betrayal occurs, this event is perceived as a disaster - nothing less. Emotions run high, a stream of mutual accusations begins, which develops into some kind of long-term military conflict

. However, nothing in this world happens for nothing. Everything needs a reason. And to clarify, we need to dig deeper.

Did something happen between both you and your partner that should have been addressed sooner, but was ignored?

Talk to your partner. Try to figure out what happened and why. You may be bursting with anger, no doubt, but if you really want reconciliation

, you MUST learn to listen to each other. The answers that are heard in such a dialogue often allow you to get to the bottom of that very first wormhole that appeared in your relationship long before the betrayal.

Cheating itself is just a symptom (and not the only one), but not the main problem.

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It is very important that both sides show a desire to start this dialogue - open, honest, although very painful. In other words, both sides

must be sincerely interested in:

• clarify what happened;
• be ready to re-concentrate the efforts that are necessary to rebuild the relationship again.

If this does not happen, then your relationship will surely die, agonizing in a flood of pain, regret and resentment.

How to start trusting men again

Here are some tips to help you with this.

1. Achieve inner harmony. Without agreement with yourself, you will continue to choose “inharmonious” men, relationships with whom will not bring happiness. Once you realize that you are worthy of being with a loved and loving man, you will begin to attract just such people
2. Meet your person halfway. Remember that what usually washes up on the banks of the river is what floats with the current, and to catch a goldfish, you need to go to the seething streams.
3. Visualize your happy future. After you imagine future happiness, think through the main steps that will help you achieve it. Try to understand what was the reason for the destruction of your previous relationship, analyze the factors that contributed to this.
4. Carry out “work on mistakes”. Mistakes made in relationships will become invaluable experience for you. Step by step you will learn to trust again and build harmonious relationships. Start small - trust a man to walk the dog in the morning, water houseplants, buy tickets to a resort... Over time, you will begin to trust more and more, and as a result you will be able to fully rely on your loved one without fear of falling. When learning to trust a man again, do not forget to cultivate and nourish your self-esteem, because only strong and open people are able to live in harmony with the world around them and trust it.

Imagine a fast current that you are trying to overcome to cross a river. If you succeed, the next time you find yourself alone with the elements, you will subconsciously try to follow the previously learned route - the one that once brought you to land.

Often past relationships resemble the very river that you managed to ford. It may seem to you that the beaten path of relationships is the surest, and next time you will subconsciously follow the past, already known scenario. But if you made mistakes in it, then in the future you continue to “walk” along a cyclical, obviously wrong path. Your goal is to break the vicious circle and reach a new level of harmonious relationships. Perhaps your path to happiness will not be easy and short, but it will definitely lead you to your cherished goal - life with a beloved and loving man.

Identify motives

People do certain things for certain reasons. Usually these actions are rational and important to the one who performs them. And such an act as treason is no exception. People who committed treason

, may feel hurt, lonely or unappreciated. Most often, they try to find on the side what they do not get from their partner.

Take a standard situation: one of the partners in a relationship receives less attention from the other. For what reason he is not given this attention is another question. Perhaps one of the partners is too busy with their career

, devotes a lot of time to friends or there were other reasons. And a person who suffers from a lack of this attention quite reasonably looks for it on the side.

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If on the path of such a person he meets someone who is ready to pay maximum attention, who is ready to spend all his time on communication and courtship

, it will not be difficult for him or her to reach the heart of a person deprived of this same attention.

It is also possible (and this is not uncommon) when the partner who was cheated on blames himself for what happened. There are also difficult situations when you did everything right, giving to your partner

the maximum that people in a relationship can usually give each other. But your partner still cheated on you for reasons that have nothing to do with you.

Motivation also plays an important role in maintaining or repairing relationships. And then it’s no longer so important what exactly led to the betrayal

– dissatisfaction with your sex life, some small old grievances, lack of the same attention.

When not to save a marriage

Maintaining a relationship will not always have a positive effect on a marriage. There are situations when it is better for people to separate and go their separate ways. It is better for spouses to separate if:

• the husband does not consider his betrayal a bad act;
• a man justifies his infidelity by his polygamous nature, saying that he can cheat on you, but you cannot cheat on him;
• you have already repeatedly caught your spouse red-handed, he promised to improve, but the betrayals were repeated;
• a person physically cannot walk past a skirt; no stick can knock the womanizer nature out of him;
• your spouse accuses you of cheating, completely denying his guilt.

No matter how painful it is, no matter how many years you spend on marriage, it is better to end this painful relationship and allow yourself to be happy, even if in splendid isolation.

Trust is a complicated thing. To begin to trust a person who once deceived you will require a lot of vitality and wisdom. If love for your husband is higher than insults, disappointments and life's troubles, you will definitely restore the relationship. The main thing is that you both want it. Otherwise, this relationship will bring you nothing but frustration.

Get serious about rebuilding your relationship.

How valuable was the relationship that ended in cheating to you? If the first passions

After you find out about the betrayal and have settled down, ask yourself the following three questions:

• Am I ready/willing to interact with her/him despite what happened?
• Do I still love her/him?
• Am I ready/willing to do whatever it takes to overcome this crisis in the relationship?

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These are complex questions that cannot be answered immediately, offhand. warm feelings and respect left in you

, which could become the basis for restoring relations. Ask yourself, for example, are you able to have fun together and share each other's company most of the time?

If you answered “yes” to all of the above questions, then, despite the long and difficult path left behind, it makes sense to make an effort to move forward together

. If you are willing to dedicate your lives to each other, if you are sincerely willing to work together to figure out the situation together, then the chances remain that will allow you to overcome these difficulties together.

If you accept this, then you need to move on. There should be no indecisiveness. Now you have a simple choice - all or nothing

. If you hesitate, then you are not ready to restore the relationship.

Find out the relationship

How to learn to trust your husband? Before you start building a relationship again, you need to understand that you will never be able to completely forget betrayal. But why remember it every day? She is in the past, and nothing can be changed. You need to continue to live on, without upsetting your life with bad events.

Many women are interested in learning how to learn to trust their husband again. You need to answer this question for yourself: will it be possible to live next to a spouse who has already cheated once. Otherwise, further married life will turn into a nightmare. You also need to fully clarify your relationship with your husband. You can even scream and break dishes. Emotions must be completely released. Resentment should not be suppressed and accumulate day after day.

Contact a family psychologist

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A civil engineer has an excellent understanding of construction; surgeon - in how the human body functions; and the psychologist deals with the complexities of human relationships. And if this were not so, such a specialty simply would not exist

. Almost always, rebuilding trust and wanting to rebuild a relationship is a difficult choice that requires courage. Sometimes with a lot of courage.

And since you have taken this step, but are experiencing difficulties on your chosen path, then why not take another one - turn to a family psychologist? People who are professionals

in matters of relationships and psychology in general, they know what to pay attention to first of all in such cases.

You and your partner may be quite smart and experienced, but you don't have to know, for example, how to operate on appendicitis. And don’t be embarrassed by the fact that you don’t know how to proceed after cheating.

. Third-party help, if it comes from a real professional, cannot be overestimated in this situation.

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A psychologist for those who have decided to cope with betrayal, forgive it and rebuild a relationship with the same partner, this is akin to a pilot who will guide your ship through stormy waters, avoiding rocks and reefs

. This is exactly what is needed not only by the person who was cheated on, but also by the one who committed the betrayal.

Why does betrayal occur in a family?

In all situations, it is not recommended to resolve the issue rashly. A woman needs to be quiet for some time. And also find out what is the reason for the betrayal.

Sometimes the wife herself is guilty of betraying her husband. However, she has no idea about it. When he declares that after his husband’s betrayal he cannot trust him, then you need to find out the reasons for this situation.

The main reasons for cheating include:

1. When a woman gets married, she stops taking care of her appearance. Nobody demands an ideal figure, but more than 100 kg is too much.
2. A woman stops taking care of her clothes and hairstyle. It is much more pleasant to live with a well-groomed and beautiful wife. To do this, it is not necessary to visit beauty salons. It is important not to walk around the house in a torn robe and with disheveled curls.
3. It is worth evaluating your behavior. If quarrels and scandals constantly occur in the family, then even love will not save you from betrayal.
4. Jealousy is a dangerous feeling. If you interrogate your husband about women every day, this can also push him to cheat. After all, then the scandals will be justified.

To strengthen family relationships, it is important for a woman to show her love and fidelity. But this should not be done too intrusively.

Why do husbands cheat? In this situation, the woman needs to calm down and let her husband talk if he wants to explain. You shouldn't decide everything for him. All quarrels between partners are the mistakes of both. This also applies to betrayal. A woman needs to listen to all her husband’s arguments, and only then make a decision.

Forgiveness

You were fighting for your relationship. You worked tirelessly to overcome what happened. Your relationship is still quite fragile

, but at least you continue to work together to preserve and strengthen them.

Sometimes, despite the fact that you have not separated and hope to overcome the crisis

, feelings of resentment and even indignation persist. This only says one thing - the betrayal was not forgiven.

And then the victim of betrayal begins to use the situation in such a way as to extract various advantages from it. Phrases such as “it’s not for you to talk about this after what you did/did”

into your communication
every now and then . Treason begins to be used in disputes as a reproach; the person who has been cheated on constantly reminds the perpetrator that he has crossed a certain line.

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In other words, the victim of betrayal considers himself entitled to act as a kind of executioner (which, in fact, happens all the time). This means you haven't gotten over the betrayal yet.

– you, both partners. The cheater, perhaps, constantly feels guilty, giving in to disputes and conflicts.

This is a dead-end path that will not allow you to restore dilapidated relationships. Maintaining them for some time is possible. But build strong and trust-based

Only complete forgiveness will help the relationship rebuild. Complete forgiveness is when the victim of treason forgives the perpetrator of treason, and the perpetrator of treason forgives himself.

Do you dream of female happiness?

Then you should definitely find out about this

Whatever one may say, it is unlikely that you will be able to happily arrange your personal life without a good man. GOOD exactly in your opinion. Men to whom you could trust yourself and entrust your future.

But this is the problem - finding such a man is not easy. It seems that every man has some kind of “catch”. As a result, there are more and more women explaining their unsettled personal lives this way: I DON’T TRUST MEN .

What really prevents you from trusting men?

Fencing yourself off from men with an iron wall of mistrust and waiting for them to “jump over” it, proving their decency is the easiest way. It’s a shame that it doesn’t lead to a woman’s dream of happiness next to her beloved. Quite the contrary...

After all, the man who saw you for the first time and wanted to be with you will have to “pay for the sins of others.”

Because DISTRUST did not appear in you overnight. It all started after several unsuccessful novels, when your hopes were not met. And even earlier, from childhood fears, “no one will love me” and “they won’t take me with them.” Then there were unjustified expectations: “he owes me,” “he has no right to refuse me,” and “he must love me.” And of course, doubts “my mother told me,” “maybe I should have chosen Gosha.” You agreed with someone too quickly, rejected someone just as quickly, but the result was the same - you are disappointed.

This is how distrust of all men in the world appeared at once. Even strangers, even the best of them. You are sure that they only know how to deceive and betray, hurt and abandon.

And where is there even a word about women's happiness?

Think for yourself where happiness comes from if there is no love, no sympathy and no TRUST. If when you come on a date, you fence yourself off from men with a wall of wariness. If from the first minutes of meeting you expect trouble from him and are looking for confirmation of your fears.

You should try to find out more information about the man on your date to see if he is right for you. But instead, you maintain a “all-round defense”, frightening him with your tension. You diligently look for shortcomings and discrepancies with your ideal.

The women were shocked - they trusted the wrong people!

American sociologists decided to check whether women's idea of ​​a man's reliability coincides with what a man really is. The result stunned everyone!

As it turned out, most women were ready to unquestioningly trust men who needed to be avoided. The majority of votes were given to manipulators, marriage swindlers and scammers. But truly worthy men suffered a crushing defeat in this “competition.”

The reasons are banal - the men were tense on the date, did not shower them with compliments, and did not say pleasant words to the women. And women expressed distrust in men and “added” non-existent shortcomings, following their fears and succumbing to emotions.

How not to make a mistake in choosing

The more unsuccessful novels a woman has, the greater her fear of making mistakes again. And it doesn’t matter at all how many times you personally made mistakes in choosing a man. How many times have you had to regret your excessive gullibility?

YOU REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY! And you hope with all your heart that this time you can make the right choice.

I, too, with all my heart wish you happiness and really want your choice to be the right one. That is why I am ready to share a secret with you - you should LEARN TO TRUST MEN AGAIN .

How much longer are you willing to scare away good men?

I foresee your question: is it really possible to learn to trust ? Can!

Behind the mistrust is fear and the inability to maintain one’s safety. This is felt especially acutely in the very first meetings. When a man and a woman do not yet know for sure whether they are suitable for each other. It is very scary for a woman to find herself defenseless and vulnerable in front of a man, in front of his pressure and his desire.

Knowing the important details that you should pay attention to when meeting a man, you will feel safe, confident and calm.

By being able to quickly identify your fears of men and change the negative scenario, you will protect yourself from groundless fears and new rounds of mistrust.

Knowing how to distinguish a slacker, a deceiver and a manipulator from a man who is ready for a serious relationship, you will be more attentive and easily avoid the “traps” that you could fall into.

By understanding the reasons for male and female jealousy, you will forever be protected from mistrust and misunderstanding in your relationship with your man.

Knowing the biggest fear of every man, you can show him from the very first moments of communication that it is with you that he can be confident in you.

By leaving your previous fears and negative experiences from previous relationships in the past and starting a relationship without prejudice, you will receive great gratitude from your man. You will awaken in him the desire to build a serious and long-term relationship with you, based on trust and love.

Only by returning a man to freedom from your own concerns and fears will you be able to see his true qualities. And evaluate how suitable you and him are for each other, whether you can build one common happiness for two.

Decide for yourself how much longer you are ready to scare away good men with your mistrust...

Why learn to TRUST men?

Surely you dream that you can finally relax and feel like yourself when you meet your man. You want to feel calm and confident around him. Talk about what

think and make plans for the future together. Enjoy something together and solve important life problems together.

Your happy life is unlikely to be happy without mutual understanding and willingness to compromise. That is why it is so important to TRUST each other, and to know that a reliable man is nearby.

Think how much simpler and easier it will be for the two of you to reach mutual understanding if you don’t have to waste energy on defense. How much love and tenderness you can give to each other.

How trusting men will make you happier

I agree that learning to trust men is impossible in an instant. But you can and should LEARN TO TRUST! At least in order to choose a really good man.

To be able to see it through your own fears and concerns. To help him reveal his best qualities next to you. To be sure, I made the right choice.

It is these questions that we will deal with at the workshop “ How to learn to trust men AGAIN, especially if you have already been betrayed ”

Give each other time

If someone has had an accident that results in a fracture, it will take a long time for the fracture to heal. But even then he will remind himself

, whine in bad weather, require special care and attention. Unfortunately, for many, betrayal turns out to be much more painful than a fracture.

A broken heart, even if you try to “glue it back together,” can take years to heal. Therefore, you should not be surprised that the situation does not let you go after a month, six months or even a year.

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According to psychologists, if couples manage to survive infidelity, it sometimes takes up to three years for the situation to be completely resolved

. Of course, a lot depends on the circumstances; much depends on the depth of feelings, on the sincerity of subsequent relationships.

However, if you are determined to restore your relationship, if you are ready to survive this difficult moment, give and earn forgiveness, you will need patience

. You must go through stages of anger, despondency, distrust, vulnerability and perhaps a feeling of shame. It is necessary to drink this bitter cup to the fullest.

Do not try to speed up this process - it is almost impossible. Take one small step towards each other

. Contact a psychologist when obstacles arise. Continue to move slowly in the chosen direction until the long-awaited healing finally comes!

For what reasons do they usually lose the trust of a husband or wife?

The most common reasons for losing the trust of a loved one include:

• treason and betrayal. Moreover, betrayal is not only physical. For example, if you publicly insult or ridicule your loved one, this can also be called cheating, and trust then begins to fade;

  Cheating is a common cause of loss of trust in a loved one, and much more often it is moral than physical.

• lie. Deception and trust are incompatible concepts. The more often you deceive your loved one, the less he will trust you;
• understatement. Hiding some facts sometimes hurts no less than lying.

Be extremely transparent

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Yes, be transparent, literally like glass! After cheating has occurred and attempts are being made to repair the relationship, transparency is required from both partners, not just from the perpetrator of the betrayal.

, although this is primarily expected from the guilty party. Full transparency is essential to rebuilding lost trust.

Don't give your partner a single chance to think that you are hiding anything from him again. Don't hide anything, don't keep secrets

, because secrecy and secrets in your situation can be detrimental to the process of restoring relationships.

For example, if the phone rings, it would be unforgivably stupid not to let your partner know who exactly called you and for what reason. On the way to building a new relationship with an old partner

it is necessary to forget about small personal secrets. The period during which you will restore lost trust is simply inevitable in your relationship.

Trying on a wedding dress

Your relationship with a man has just begun, but have you already planned to meet your parents, mentally named your future children and chosen a university for them?
This is another sign of mistrust. You might argue that this kind of rush has to do with real feeling. In fact, you are simply “in a hurry to catch up”, because you are afraid that your loved one may leave you at any moment. But with a stamp in your passport and three children, this is a little more difficult. You shouldn’t “run ahead of the locomotive” just because your husband once left you (the engagement broke off, you were left alone with a child in your arms). A similar turn is possible in new relationships, but the speed of their development will not affect the final result in any way.

Cut off old connections

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If you are the same person who, having committed infidelity, betrayed the trust of your partner, you need to cut off all ties with the person with whom you cheated.

. This means that it is necessary to exclude all phone calls, all messages, all email correspondence, not to mention any personal visits.

Once you and your partner have decided to go through this situation together, there should be no “last or goodbye” meetings with the one with whom you cheated. No contact at all!

If you've decided to leave this stage of your life behind, then that's where it belongs. Your partner who is trying to forgive you deserves it.

Perhaps you had reasons for doing what you did. However, you now have even more reasons to restore your broken relationship.

. And if you try to do this by maintaining contact with “that person,” then you will not succeed.

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Even if you have business ties with such a person, cut them off too. Otherwise, your partner simply will not have enough internal strength to restore his trust.

to you. Few people are ready to accept the fact that their partner maintains at least some connection with the person who almost destroyed their life together.

Why is it important to trust?

Trust is one of the internal states of a person, giving a feeling of calm and stability. It gives confidence in your other half and helps you approach business meetings with other women without jealousy. A wife who trusts her husband calmly lets him go fishing or go to the bathhouse with friends. She knows exactly where he is and will not control him with phone calls or a sudden visit. Trust is an important component of two loving hearts.

If it is destroyed, then the man has committed a serious offense. As a result, trust in the relationship is completely lost. At the same moment, confidence in the dearest and most beloved person disappears. The woman experiences pain and disappointment. It seems to her that she will never be able to trust her husband again. When there is no trust in the husband, then such a relationship cannot exist - all psychologists are sure of this. In order not to completely ruin her life and not lose the opportunity to love, a woman must understand how to live further.

Stop discussing what happened

Treason has taken place. Both partners decided to continue living together, strenuously fighting for lost trust, jointly building on the ruins of past relationships

new relationships. Relationships for the sake of a future life - happy, full of trust. In other words, you both decided to move forward together.

This means that once clarity has been established and the motive has been determined, it is necessary to stop discussing what happened. We need to stop discussing cheating

, return to it periodically in your conversations, adding salt to an unhealed wound.

There is no better analogy than this: imagine that you get seriously injured. You received stitches and a bandage. But you, instead of giving the wound time to heal

, periodically you tear off this same bandage in order to... look at your wound. This is reminiscent of the behavior of a masochist, isn't it?

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If you sincerely want to recreate a strong relationship with the same partner again, leave the past in the past. Live here and now. Learn from what happened, make the necessary conclusions and judgments

, and then move forward. Otherwise, the healing period may take much longer (if healing occurs at all).

How to forget your husband's cheating

When a woman complains that after her husband’s betrayal she cannot trust him, then she should learn to accept his apology. This will help her in the future. Apologies can be expressed in the form of regular help with housework, flowers, and walks around the city.

In some cases, the cheating husband feels much worse than the betrayed spouse. It gets much harder for him. After all, he practically destroyed the family.

After reconciliation, you should live in the present and not remember past mistakes. Forgiving your husband's infidelity is a wise decision that only a strong woman can make.

After all, such situations happen in many families. And not all women are able to forgive, but only some. Sometimes this makes the family stronger, and the husband begins to appreciate his wise wife.

Keep your promises

If you committed adultery and are given another chance, you have an incredible responsibility. It's clear that you should be completely transparent and not lie to your partner. But this is not enough.

Now you must also be careful about what you promise. And if they promised, then they must do everything to keep these promises.

Say only what you mean and don't give false hope. Your optionality for a long period of time

will be perceived as a lie. Even a small attempt to embellish something can cause a suspicious attitude towards you.

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Each of your misdeeds will respond with a new blow to the structure that we call restored relationships. And any of these blows could be the last, destructive

. Not only be honest with your partner, but show that you are consistent and dependable.

Useful tips if there is no trust in a relationship, how to create it in men

There are many reasons for mistrust besides infidelity. One of them is unjustified expectations. Stop “feeding” your beloved with false hopes, do not reassure with words. Love should be proven through actions, so keep your promises: write an action plan and follow it on the path to resolving the conflict.

Another enemy is excessive jealousy. It’s difficult to fight this, and it’s completely impossible to eradicate your companion’s doubts. The solution is to limit your communication with the opposite sex: colleagues, acquaintances, neighbors. Inform your husband of your location, company, and estimated time of return.

Do together what you both liked before cheating

After betrayal, even if you have declared your readiness to survive it together, it is quite easy to get bogged down in everyday trifles. It’s very difficult to immediately abstract

from what happened and move on with your life. However, answer the following question: what was your relationship based on before the betrayal?

Any relationship is initially characterized by pleasant moments that need to be returned to again. Have a confidential conversation with your partner. Remember the things you did together

, and which gave you a mutual feeling of happiness. Think about all the places you have visited before; remember where you felt comfortable and warm together.

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It's time to visit them again! It's time to make dates again in the same places, go to the same cinemas, visit the same entertainment venues, cafes and restaurants. Such behavior will psychologically return

you back to the good times. Take them as a basis. And then organize new pleasant moments.

Cheating always brings chaos into the life of a couple, tearing it apart, breaking it into multiple pieces. The sharp claws of betrayal leave deep wounds on the heart, which take a lot of time to heal. However, they can be cured.

Sometimes it is simply necessary to destroy something shaky in order to build something stronger in its original place. And sometimes, in order to move forward, it is useful to look far back.

Sometimes you need to be friends

How to behave after your husband cheats? Women often ask themselves this question. Psychologists advise, after a surge of emotions, to express to the spouses everything that specifically does not suit them. This is done in order to prevent repeated betrayals.

If a woman has decided to forgive a man and save her family, then at first it is best for them to be best friends. After betrayal, you should not blame your husband for all mortal sins. It should not be forgotten that a decision has been made to start the relationship again. It's best not to touch on the past.

Apologies

A person who keeps his remorse to himself is unlikely to be able to earn trust back. Be sincere.

To rebuild your relationship, you need to demonstrate to your partner that you are truly and sincerely sorry for what you did.

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This does not mean that you have to repent your whole life. But if you are not going to repent at all, live as if nothing had happened, and even in any conflict situation

make this clear, then you are hardly worthy of forgiveness. Express your sincere regrets and then move forward; restore what you destroyed with your own hands.

Is it necessary to forgive betrayal?

Women ask psychologists whether it is possible to forgive betrayal and how to continue to trust their husband. You can decide whether to forgive or not after a one-on-one conversation. Women should not seek outside advice. This will affect the situation negatively and will not give the correct answer. After all, it is easy to completely break off a family relationship, but the husband’s return to the family may not happen.

If a woman can calmly assess the current situation, she will try to listen to her husband. By doing this she will raise herself in his eyes. After reconciliation, partners can even take a short vacation together. This will help you understand your feelings more accurately. And a woman will be able to understand whether or not she has trust in her husband.